The Power of E.Q.: Social Intelligence, Reading People, and How to Navigate Any Situation By: Patrick King Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3OJ4V72 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3CC2RM3 Your success in life will depend on how good you are with people. Sorry, that's the harsh truth. But the good news is that this is a trainable skill - and this book is an amazing start. Make a smashing first impression and make people crave your presence. The Power of E.Q. is as practical as a book can be. You will ...
Dec 01, 2023•45 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:26 Anatomy of a Good Question 00:04:10 A Good Quality Question Is Open-Ended. 00:06:11 High-Quality Questions Actively Follow Up. 00:08:23 High-Quality Questions Use Paraphrasing. 00:09:37 High-Quality Questions Are Balanced With Self-Revelation. 00:10:37 Questions You Should Never Ask 00:17:53 Chapter Summary Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • High-quality questions are targeted, focus...
Nov 28, 2023•20 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:08:57 How to Build Curiosity 00:13:49 Assume Nothing 00:16:40 Person, Not Story 00:19:15 You Go First Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Maintain reciprocal curiosity and the mindset that you can always learn something new from others. Be fully present, open-minded, and receptive rather than approaching with bias, judgment, or distraction. Instead of trying to convince others how f...
Nov 21, 2023•26 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:02:31 How to Paint the Picture 00:02:59 To get a hang of using imagery in conversation, you need to master the use of three tools: 1. Concreteness 2. Simile 3. Metaphor Concreteness is about being embedded in the world, about being real. 00:08:02 Rhythm and How to Go with the Flow 00:09:28 Parallelism 00:11:42 Repetition 00:12:39 Think about Winston...
Nov 14, 2023•30 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:26 The Emotions Wheel and Learning to Label 00:04:47 Different versions of the Emotion Wheel 00:07:39 1. Anger 00:08:46 6. Disgust 00:09:53 7. Fear 00:10:53 8. Happy 00:12:26 9. Sadness 00:13:37 10. Surprise 00:14:45 11. Bad 00:21:36 Step 1: Put a name to the emotion (the Emotion Wheel can help). 00:29:31 What Invalidation Looks Like Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • Becoming more emot...
Nov 07, 2023•34 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:54 Bestselling author and self-help guru Tim Ferriss 00:04:20 Be Very Aware of Personal Space 00:06:42 Stay Present 00:09:07 In a now famous 1977 interview Barbara Walters did with Dolly Parton Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • To create a reality distortion field, you will need to increase eye contact, be aware of your personal space, and stay present and open-minded in conver...
Oct 31, 2023•18 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:03:51 Get Comfortable with Pausing 00:09:20 The Dangers of “Hedging Language” 00:14:35 Upspeak and the Mystery of Tone 00:19:37 The Five Types of Communication Tone 00:20:55 Type 1: Informative 00:21:20 Type 2: Humorous 00:21:40 Type 3: Respectful 00:22:08 Type 4: Formal 00:22:28 Type 5: Informal 00:31:36 Transitioning to a New Point 00:32:34 Provid...
Oct 24, 2023•45 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:24 Similarly, so called Barnum statements, named after famed showman and Hoaxbuster P t. 00:05:56 Avoid Emotional Disconnectors and Word Trash 00:13:47 Elizabeth Stoke is a professor of social interaction at Lowborough University 00:16:13 Researchers at Amsterdam's Vu University 00:16:24 Lead researcher Camille Buickenboom 00:18:41 Jacob Hirsch and Jordan Peterson from the University ...
Oct 17, 2023•34 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:00:35 The Friendship Formula is a simple framework for building and maintaining strong friendships. 00:07:04 The Friendship Formula 00:09:13 Dr. Jack Schaefer, former FBI agent and author of The Like Switch, has a theory that might have the answer. 00:19:04 How to Use Schaefer's formula to Your Benefit Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Dr. Jack Schafer’s “friendship formula” is as...
Oct 10, 2023•27 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:10 In 1974, business professor Chris Argyris created a handy tool 00:06:22 How to Use the Ladder in Your Own Life 00:16:02 Consider the following speech made by Barack Obama at the 2004 Democratic National Convention 00:18:23 George Lakoff is an author and professor of cognitive science and linguistics. Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Poor communication arises as a result of ...
Oct 03, 2023•29 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:54 Author Nick Morgan describes in his book Power Cues 00:08:34 How to Master Nonverbal Communication 00:12:08 Body Language Basics 00:14:37 Look for Clusters of Behavior 00:15:26 Don’t Be Afraid to Trust Your Instincts 00:16:16 What to Look At 00:18:50 The Art of Cold Reading 00:19:50 Four Important Cold Reading Principles 00:21:36 Redirection 00:22:32 Collaboration 00:23:19 Conversa...
Sep 26, 2023•30 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:03:54 Use a Journal and Be Your Own Therapist 00:06:50 How to Use Affirmations Hear it Here - adbl.co/3To6NDu • A journal is a powerful self-help tool that slows your thoughts, keeps track of your progress, and helps you uncover patterns as well as develop your values and goals. Use writing prompts to guide self-exploration without judgment. • Recurrent themes will emerge over time, and ...
Sep 19, 2023•20 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • Empathy is the ability to share someone else’s feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person’s situation, and being able to occupy their perceptual position/perspective. In NLP’s “perceptual positions” exercise, first position is your own point of view, second position is another person’s, and third position concerns the vie...
Sep 12, 2023•46 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:32 You’ll Know That Codependency Is Part Of Your Need To People-Please If: 00:05:00 Make Yourself Your New Rescue Project 00:08:42 Gradually Separate Yourself. 00:09:23 Become Curious Where Your Bad Feelings Come From. 00:10:54 Stop Making Excuses. 00:12:30 Use A Journal to discover the roots of your behavior. Hear it Here - adbl.co/3To6NDu • People-pleasers can sometimes fall into co...
Sep 05, 2023•15 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:03:40 In Aristotle's time, Oration was an honored art and tradition 00:04:00 Ethos 00:06:26 Pathos 00:12:25 Cairos 00:20:29 Workplace Communication Etiquette 00:32:16 The Seven C's of Effective Workplace Communication 00:38:16 Summary Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/3GAwNag • Persuasion is about trying to change or influence someone’s mind, and it rests on knowing what that person’s values...
Aug 29, 2023•41 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:06:44 As Stephen Covey says, seek first to understand, then to be understood. 00:10:38 The Four Types of Empathic Responses 00:16:15 What Do You Do When Things Go Right? 00:28:54 Shift responses versus Support Responses Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • Emotional intelligence is also something we do rather than something we are. Thankfully, it can be learned. • Empathic listening is total...
Aug 22, 2023•46 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:42 Pleasing others becomes a transaction or a deal 00:02:44 Mindfulness Meditation for People-Pleasers 00:06:09 1. Sit somewhere comfortably, slow your breathing, and relax. 00:06:16 2. If worries, concerns, and anxious thoughts pop up, say hello to them but set them aside. 00:06:26 3. Focus calmly on your breathing 00:06:37 4. When distracting thoughts pop up again, set them aside ag...
Aug 15, 2023•15 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:29 The COIN Framework 00:03:59 In Carroll’s book, The Feedback Imperative: How to Give Feedback to Speed Up Your Team's Success 00:16:56 How to Say No 00:26:48 Technique 1: The Agreement Frame 00:37:41 Technique 2: VOMP 00:42:13 Technique 3: Nonviolent Communication 00:53:53 The Six-Step Apology Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/3GAwNag • The goal during conflict is to increase positive f...
Aug 08, 2023•1 hr 11 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:05:11 Step 1: Be Aware of What You Feel 00:09:47 Step 2: Normalize 00:11:52 Step 3: Tell the Truth Hear it Here - adbl.co/3To6NDu • When we engage in people-pleasing, we are trying to extract validation, approval, and liking from other people. However, self-validation is the ability to provide all these things for ourselves. • We create self-validation when we acknowledge and accept how ...
Jun 27, 2023•18 min
Easily listen to The Science of Self in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/ScienceOfSelfPodcast http://bit.ly/GeniusHollins • Lincoln’s genius traits included intellectual honesty, morality, non-conventionality, and soft skills such as empathy and communication. • Lincoln had little formal education and had an ordinary background, but was someone who possessed all the skills we associate with genius. He was most talented, perhaps, at working with the genius of others. • After he was el...
Jun 22, 2023•24 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:12 Broadly speaking, there are three types of validation: 00:01:44 1. Emotional Validation 00:03:52 2. Behavioral Validation 00:05:49 3. Cognitive Validation 00:10:02 In Listening to Conflict, author Eric Van Slyke outlines six listening levels. 00:14:37 To be a good listener, try to remember H-U-R: •Hearing the Message •Understanding the message •Responding to the message Hear it Her...
Jun 20, 2023•31 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:55 Technique 1: Playing It Cool 00:07:02 Technique 2: Pulling A Columbo 00:07:29 The technique is pretty straightforward: 1. Get People Talking Freely And Carelessly 2. Slip In A Question When Their Guard Is Down 3. Show No Indication Of What’s Happened 00:11:20 •Avoid Confrontation 00:11:36 •Don’t Make A Big Show Of Listening. 00:11:53 •Play Dumb. 00:12:14 •If In Doubt, Ask People To...
Jun 13, 2023•39 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:05:12 Tip 1: Just Keep Quiet Really. 00:05:49 Tip 2: Show Your Compassion And Kindness ... Just In A Different Way 00:07:00 Tip 3: Train A Different Automatic Response 00:08:07 Tip 4: Change Apology Into Gratitude 00:09:12 Tip 5: Speak Plainly 00:10:45 Tip 6: Reframe Your Idea Of Politeness 00:12:27 Tip 7: Imperfect Is Not Wrong 00:13:34 Tip 8: Discern What Is In Your Zone Of Control Hea...
Jun 06, 2023•20 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:56 According to Psychology Today, emotional intelligence (EI) is “the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions as well as the emotions of others." 00:04:02 Cultivating Emotional Awareness 00:08:01 Harnessing Those Pesky Emotions 00:13:09 Emotional Management 00:16:15 Validation As Connection 00:17:47 What Validation ISN’T Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/3GAwNag • There is no co...
May 30, 2023•28 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:07:45 Technique One Shotgun Statements 00:09:09 Technique Two Barnum Statements 00:11:45 Technique Three ignoring the misses 00:14:38 Technique Four passing off failures as successes 00:17:11 Technique Five Keeping It Vague Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ExtractInfo • We can improve our information extraction skills by following some of the techniques used by fake psychics when they do “c...
May 23, 2023•36 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:08:38 Psychologist Craig Malkin's book Rethinking Narcissism 00:10:59 The Soft Startup 00:13:19 The Empathic Communication Toolkit for Handling Conflict 00:20:47 Use techniques like the Positive no or the Soft Startup https://adbl.co/3shIydQ • To be both assertive and empathic, use techniques like the “positive no” or the “soft startup” when setting a boundary. • When managing conflicts ...
May 16, 2023•23 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:34 Talk WITH people and not TO them. 00:03:07 Dr. Karl Albrecht in Psychology Today 00:15:53 Sustain Conversations with Conversational Threading and Useful Acronyms 00:22:50 Useful Conversational Acronyms The acronym HPM 00:25:17 Another useful acronym is EDR Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/3GAwNag • Having charm and charisma is not about you. It’s about the other person and making them...
May 09, 2023•31 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ExtractInfo 00:01:16 From Patrick King's book how to Extract Info, Secrets and Truth, let's take a look at the importance of eye contact and then spend some time discussing active listening. 00:03:34 Effects of Eye Contact and Social Status on the Perception of a Job Applicant in an Employment Interviewing Situation 00:03:56 Accurate Intelligence Assessments in...
May 02, 2023•33 min
Hear it Here - adbl.co/3To6NDu • People-pleasing behavior can stem from a harsh inner critic, who is the one telling us that we are not worth anything unless we serve others, or that we do not deserve to have our needs met or boundaries respected. • We can push against our inner critic by becoming aware of its voice and honestly answering some questions, such as: is the choice I’m making ultimately for me or for someone else? Is this voice in my head serving my interests or working against me? T...
Apr 25, 2023•15 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home https://adbl.co/3shIydQ 00:01:33 What to Say, What Not to Say 00:03:34 Avoid Diminishing 00:05:00 Avoid Dismissing 00:06:14 Avoid Leading Questions 00:07:11 Avoid Advice or Personal Anecdotes 00:09:31 Acknowledge Their Courage 00:09:56 Ask Empathic Questions 00:10:48 Compliment Their Character 00:11:55 Show You Care 00:12:34 An Empathic Statement Formula 00:18:18 Nonviolent Communication/NV...
Apr 18, 2023•41 min
