In this episode, recorded live from the 2025 Sex Marriage Radio Getaway, I quiz Pam and the audience on what they know about various aspects of sex. Follow along, or get a piece of paper and see how you score. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … A portion of the live Q&A session from the 2025 Getaway. Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Sex Quiz – Live from the Getaway #734 first appeared on Sexy Marriage Radio ....
Jun 25, 2025•26 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we address the complexities of navigating new relationships after experiencing loss. We discuss the challenges faced by a young widow who is trying to reconcile her past relationship with her new partner, emphasizing the importance of establishing boundaries, open communication, and allowing space for grief. Our conversation highlights the necessity of collaboration in relationships and the need for self-confrontation to foster personal growth and healing....
Jun 18, 2025•26 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we explore the Love Languages from Gary Chapman. Specifically we dive into how there are some problems with them that can actually be harmful to relationships. How exactly can something so widely known, and even loved, be possible? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! On the Xtended version … An email from an Academy member wants to know about action steps to move beyond the "Nice Guy" - that's what we go through today. Sponsors … Paired App: Practice love e...
Jun 11, 2025•29 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage? Is it harmful to one, or both spouses? To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/ Enjoy the show! Sponsors … Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper. https://smr.fm/academy The post Best of SMR: Obligation Sex | Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #731 first appeare...
Jun 04, 2025•46 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into an email from a listener wanting help with the complexities of desire and connection in marriage. A husband is feeling used in a relationship where sexual interest seems limited to ovulation periods. Our conversation dives into the dynamics of sexual desire, the impact of past trauma, and the importance of communication in navigating these challenges. We explore the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships, highlighting...
May 28, 2025•28 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common mistakes that couples make in their sexual relationships. They categorize these mistakes into those typically made by men and women, discussing issues such as communication, self-care, and understanding each other's desires. The conversation emphasizes the importance of connection and intimacy over mere physical encounters, encouraging couples to engage in open dialogue and prioritize their emotional and physical well-being. Enjoy the sho...
May 21, 2025•28 min
We go back into the archives to one of the Best of SMR episodes. An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband. What’s the difference between sexual thoughts and lust? A husband wanting to know what to do when he’s tried to live in a way that ignites his wife’s passion (according to an old post I wrote – https://smr.fm/heads-up-husbands-5-ways-to-ignite-your-wifes-passions/) and yet his wife had an affair. Enjoy the ...
May 14, 2025•29 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning. We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's emotional state to improve relationship dynamics. Takeaways Understanding regressions can empower individuals in relatio...
May 07, 2025•32 min
In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness. The discussion highlights the significance of collaboration, meaningful experiences, and the transformative power of change in relationships. Learn more about Ma...
Apr 30, 2025•29 min
In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire. What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection? Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play in their relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner. Takeaways Wanting to be wanted is a fundamental...
Apr 23, 2025•33 min
In this call-in episode, Anne discusses her experiences with her husband's lack of interest in her pleasure, she's guessing it is stemming from his background with pornography. Our conversation explores the dynamics of intimacy, expectations, and communication in their marriage, highlighting the challenges and growth they face together. We emphasize the importance of mutual pleasure, understanding each other's needs, and the steps in a journey towards a more fulfilling sexual relationship. Takea...
Apr 16, 2025•42 min
In this conversation, J. Parker joins me as we talk through the dynamics of desire within relationships, particularly focusing on the experiences of higher desire wives. We discuss the societal perceptions of sexual desire, the complexities of male sexuality, and the various factors that can influence sexual interest in relationships. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster better communication and intimacy between partners. We also explore the comple...
Apr 09, 2025•28 min
In this call-in conversation, Ashley from North Carolina discusses her experiences with desire dynamics in her marriage, particularly as a higher desire wife. We explore the complexities of emotional and physical intimacy, the importance of communication, and the challenges of navigating life changes such as parenthood. Our conversation emphasizes the need for vulnerability, self-discovery, and confidence in expressing desires within the relationship. Takeaways The couple's intimacy has been aff...
Apr 02, 2025•32 min
In this conversation from the Archives, we revisit an episode with Dr Jennifer Finylason-Fife. TWe dive into the complexities of desire dynamics within marriage, particularly focusing on the roles of higher and lower desire spouses. The discussion highlights the impact of predictability on desire, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for authenticity in relationships. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe shares insights on how societal and cultural expectations shape women's experiences of desi...
Mar 26, 2025•33 min
In this conversation, Francie Winslow shares her transformative journey from the constraints of purity culture to embracing a vibrant and fulfilling sexual life within marriage. She discusses the importance of understanding sexuality as a divine gift, the need for education and growth in sexual intimacy, and the detrimental effects of silence and shame surrounding women's sexuality. We also talk about the historical context that has shaped women's views on their bodies and sexuality, advocating ...
Mar 19, 2025•35 min
In this conversation, Dr Joel Salinas and Bob Bordone join me as we explore the often misunderstood nature of conflict in relationships. They discuss the importance of engaging with conflict rather than avoiding it, emphasizing that conflict can be a sign of love and authenticity. We also dive into the neuroscience behind conflict, the personal thresholds individuals have for conflict tolerance, and the role of identity in how we approach disagreements. We end with practical strategies for build...
Mar 12, 2025•32 min
In this call in show, Kyla and Adam discuss the challenges they face in their marriage regarding intimacy and sexual desire. They explore how their relationship dynamics have shifted over the years, particularly after having children, leading to mismatched desires and feelings of rejection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of emotional intimacy, communication, and understanding each other's needs to foster a more fulfilling sexual relationship. The post Sex Every Day #718 first appeared ...
Mar 05, 2025•48 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I explore the complexities of sexual intimacy within marriage, emphasizing the importance of meaningful connections over mere technique. Particularly when it come to oral sex. We discuss the concept of differentiation, the impact of trauma on sexual experiences, and the dynamics of self-confidence in sexual relationships. Our conversation encourages listeners to engage deeply with their own feelings and reactions, fostering a willingness to change ...
Feb 26, 2025•35 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Julian Johnsrud, a coach and expert in intentional living and mini retirements, shares her journey of discovering the concept of mini retirements and how it has transformed her life and the lives of others. She explains that mini retirements are not just extended vacations, but intentional breaks that allow individuals and couples to rest, explore their passions, and deepen their relationships. Julian emphasizes the importance of identifying one's intentio...
Feb 19, 2025•33 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I dive into the complex topic of masturbation within marriage. Our conversation explores initial reactions, societal misinformation, the benefits of self-discovery, as well as a biblical perspectives on the subject. Dr. Corey emphasizes the importance of open communication and understanding the dynamics of relationships when discussing masturbation, highlighting that it can be both permissible and beneficial, but also potentially harmful if kept se...
Feb 12, 2025•34 min
The 2025 Sexy Marriage Married Getaway is June 19-21, 2025. Register now. On the Regular version … In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage. We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and differentiation in understanding one's desires and needs in a sexual rel...
Feb 05, 2025•29 min
In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise. We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the mental wellness aspect of creating space in our lives and the ripple effect personal growth can have on those around us. To learn more about Dean chec...
Jan 29, 2025•39 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex. What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him? How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma? Our conversation highlights the need for both spouses to be attuned to each other's bodies and desires, fostering a deeper connection and understanding in their sexual relationship. Takeawa...
Jan 22, 2025•29 min
In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise. We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships. Le...
Jan 15, 2025•45 min
This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy. We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire. Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to embrace your unique sexual journeys. On the Xtended Version ... We continue the theme of the show by ...
Jan 08, 2025•33 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma. A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for personal growth and healing through intimacy. Ultimately - we all need to face our issues head-on in...
Jan 01, 2025•32 min
In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift. We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction. Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their relationships, emphasizing that the best gift one can give to their marriage is to work on themselve...
Dec 25, 2024•12 min
In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration. We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics. Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage. On the ...
Dec 18, 2024•32 min
In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of sexual desires within marriage, particularly focusing on the impact of pornography. We explore the nuances of attraction, the importance of communication in relationships, and the need for maturity in handling desires. Our conversation emphasizes the significance of honoring one's character and the choices made in the context of marriage, while also addressing the challenges posed by societal norms and personal desires. On the Xtended Version...
Dec 11, 2024•32 min
In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame. We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to s...
Dec 04, 2024•47 min
