This week revisit a Best Of epsiode from the vault. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But when the husband goes to retrieve the toy it often is in another place. His wife says she isn’t moving it. What’s going on? A husband wants to use a toy for prostate play. They tried it once and now the wife is unwilling to try it again. On the Xtended Version ... A wife is bored in her sex life, even though her husband is very caring ...
Nov 27, 2024•28 min
This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between s...
Nov 20, 2024•30 min
In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates. We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together. We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marria...
Nov 13, 2024•29 min
Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional connection in relationships. Plus our discussion highlights practical strategies for couples to cult...
Nov 06, 2024•35 min
In this milestone 700th episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we reflect on the journey of the podcast, celebrating its impact on relationships and personal growth. Join us as we share listener voicemails and highlight key takeaways from our years of experience on the show. Plus, we explore the act of the hug from behind. Is it ever non-sexual? Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR...
Oct 30, 2024•39 min
In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy o...
Oct 23, 2024•37 min
In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership. Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotion...
Oct 16, 2024•49 min
In this episode, we get a little personal and discuss the challenges and dynamics of maintaining a strong marriage amidst life's transitions and pressures. Things like moving homes, managing family responsibilities, and the emotional weight that comes with it. We emphasize the importance of connection, communication, and understanding each other's needs to navigate these challenges effectively. Plus offer practical strategies for you to stay engaged and connected, highlighting the significance o...
Oct 09, 2024•35 min
In this call-in show, I address the challenges faced by Julie - who has been married for over 30 years but have lost intimacy in the relationship. We discuss the complexities of rekindling their sexual life, the dynamics of desire, and the impact of erection issues on their intimacy. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding each other's needs, and embracing the awkwardness that comes with trying to reconnect. Ultimately, intimacy is not solely defined by sexual ...
Oct 02, 2024•26 min
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr. Corey and Pam discuss the dynamics of power in marriage, exploring how couples navigate desires and tensions. Our conversation highlights the complexity of perception in relationships, particularly in high meaning situations, and the impact of family dynamics. We stress the importance of making effective moves in conversations and understanding each partner's actions. The conversation concludes with insights on the nature of alliances in marriage and h...
Sep 25, 2024•28 min
Today we dive into two listener emails and explore the complexities of intimacy and communication in marriage. We discuss the balance between the pressures of wants in preferences when it comes to sex and then on sexual performance, and the importance of understanding each partner's background and expectations. Our conversation emphasizes the need for self-validation and the idea that learning and growing together can enhance intimacy. Takeaways Marriage is sacred and should be treated with comm...
Sep 18, 2024•31 min
Today we revisit one of the best of a recent episode of SMR. In it, I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talked through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest research with couples, what surprised them most? What do married couples need to know about how things actually play out in marriage? And what should married couples do about our differences and similarities? Learn more about them and their work here - https://secretsofsexandmarriage.com/ E...
Sep 11, 2024•52 min
Today we dive into two listener emails on the topic of oral sex within a marriage and the dynamics of power that can be associated with it. Everyone has different preferences and aspects of sex that they enjoy more than others - so we look at the issue through the lens of power and how it can be a way for people to feel sexy and in control. Our conversation also addresses a listener's frustration with their spouse's reluctance to engage in oral sex and the power dynamics at play in their relatio...
Sep 04, 2024•35 min
This week, Dr. Corey and Irene Fehr discuss the concept of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how it relates to sexual desire in long-term relationships. We explore the different types of sexual desire models, with most women being highly responsive. And we also delve into the characteristics of HSPs, including sensory sensitivity, emotional sensitivity, energetic sensitivity, and introspection. Irene explains the importance of acknowledging and managing overstimulation for HSPs, as well as the ...
Aug 28, 2024•29 min
Today we dive into two listener emails, one about the lack of intentionality in a husband and its impact on the marriage, specifically the attraction level of the wife towards the husband due to this issue. And the other email about the effects of past sexual trauma on a couple's sex life. He claims her past trauma is an issue - she doesn't. Now what do both these couples do? Takeaways Recognize that others are facing similar challenges in their marriages Address the lack of intentionality in a ...
Aug 21, 2024•31 min
This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships. We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task. By cultivating a sense of awe and priori...
Aug 14, 2024•31 min
Dr. Elliot Justin joins me to discuss the importance of monitoring nocturnal erections as a marker for sexual and cardiovascular health. He explains that nocturnal erections are a leading indicator of a man's overall health and can predict the risk of heart attacks and strokes. Dr. Justin emphasizes the need for healthcare providers to address sexual health and educate patients about the impact of medications on sexual function. He also introduces the concept of using soft elastomer rings to enh...
Aug 07, 2024•43 min
Today we explore the importance of learning how to talk with your spouse about sex, highlighting the importance of naming your intention, remembering that you're on the same team, and using soft and tactful language. We also cover the need to go slow, listen more than you speak, and have an honest discussion about saying no. Our conversation concludes with a reminder to be compassionate with yourself and your spouse. Takeaways When discussing sensitive topics like sex with your spouse, name your...
Jul 31, 2024•32 min
This week is a Best Of SMR! Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage. Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch. The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them. Takeaways Ticklishness...
Jul 24, 2024•32 min
This week is a Best Of SMR! A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography. A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it. Takeaways Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication. Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding. It is importa...
Jul 17, 2024•32 min
On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR. Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage. We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it. Takeaways Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known. Deliberate with...
Jul 10, 2024•32 min
On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex. We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis. What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse. Takeaways Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life. Understanding ...
Jul 03, 2024•34 min
This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A. We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore. We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do? On the Xtended Version ... In the XTD content, a listen into the Q&A session of 2024 SMR Getaway. Enjoy ...
Jun 26, 2024•25 min
This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway. We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame. We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to l...
Jun 19, 2024•27 min
Dr. John Delony joins me as we talk through the concept of anxiety as a smoke signal, indicating that something is amiss in our lives. He encourages individuals to face their discomfort and choose the hard path of growth and change (sound familiar?). He also highlights the significance of belief in something bigger than ourselves and the need to drive our own lives instead of trying to control others. Lastly, we discuss the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for our own actio...
Jun 12, 2024
In this conversation, Dr Corey is joined by Tyler and Brannon Patrick, also known as The Therapy Brothers, as they discuss the topic of betrayal, trauma, addiction, and infidelity in marriages. They emphasize the importance of addressing the underlying issues and not just focusing on the specific behavior, such as pornography usage. There is a need for honesty, accountability, transparency, and living in alignment with personal values. Plus we also discuss the role of individual healing and grow...
Jun 05, 2024
In this conversation, Dr Jessica Higgins joins me as we discuss the topic of criticism in relationships. We explore how criticism can be damaging -- but we also offer strategies for addressing it. It is so, so important to slow the process down, get curious, and reveal the underlying needs and requests. Learn more from Dr Higgins - https://drjessicahiggins.com/ Empowered Relationship Podcast link: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Get the free guide here - https://drjessicahiggins.com/shift...
May 29, 2024
In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Dr Corey and Pam discuss the importance of flexibility in marriage and how it relates to facing and dealing with reality. We explore the concept of love languages and how they may not always lead to more desire or passion in a relationship. What is the difference between being a good companion and being a good lover? And what's the role of presence and initiation in igniting sexual attraction? Takeaways Flexibility is crucial in marriage as it allows coupl...
May 22, 2024
In this conversation, GS Youngblood joins me as we discuss his blueprint for masculinity in relationships, which focuses on three elements: respond versus react, provide structure, and create safety. He emphasizes the importance of simplicity, relationality, and applicability in his framework. We highlight the significance of emotional resonance, co-regulation, and curiosity in creating a safe and connected relationship. Learn more from GS Youngblood here - https://www.gsyoungblood.com/ Takeaway...
May 15, 2024•25 min
In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections. We explore the concept of normal sex and the importance of pleasure, authenticity, connection, and vulnerability in maintaining a strong sexual connection. We also dive into the impact of societal myths and expectations on sexual relationships and the need for open and honest communication about desires and boundaries. In our conversation, we discuss the imp...
May 08, 2024•47 min
