In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end. 2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)? 3) I’m a recently divorced man (42) and have been seeing a woman for two months. All is going well but she came over one night after seeing he...
Mar 01, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide? 2) My partner is 46 and has started to avoid sex. I suspect because he is having erection problems. The last few times we did attempt sex, he could...
Feb 22, 2022•17 min•Season 2Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing? 2) You’re always talking about how much better sex is when you use lube. But which lube should I be using? And what about things like Vaseline and baby oil? ...
Feb 15, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) We’re stuck in a rut when it comes to sex positions and only do it doggy style or from behind. Any suggestions for how to shake things up a bit without going into Kama Sutra like contortions? 2) I noticed that whenever I wake up during the night, my partner has an erection. I asked him one morning if he’d had a sex dream and he looked embarrassed and said yes. I didn’t ask him what it was about but guessed by his reaction that i...
Feb 08, 2022•28 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband has just left me and I honestly don’t know where to go from here. We were married for 19 years but the last seven or so have been hell, after I discovered him cheating, time and time again. He’s now found someone he says he’s in love with and has left me for her. We have two children together but they’re both not living at home anymore. Do you have any advice on what I should do next? 2) How do I incorporate using a v...
Feb 01, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I am single but please don’t tell me to go online to meet someone because I have absolutely no luck that way. Where should I go in person to meet men? Where are they all hiding? 2) My husband is obsessed with the size of his penis. He thinks it’s too small and despite years of reassurance, he’s still really paranoid (He measured it and it’s 4.5 inches/11.5cm when erect.) Every time we have intercourse, he says, ‘I know that won’...
Jan 25, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been married for 15 years and have sex once a week. My husband tells me this isn’t enough and that other couples do it much more than we do. Is he right? He’s starting to make me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to do it more often. 2) I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years, since I was 18. It’s been a wonderful relationship and I love him dearly but I think I’ve always known it was more friends...
Jan 18, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have a dilemma. I have lots of women friends in my drama class. They are all very pleasant and I enjoy being in their company. One of the unattached ones has fallen for me. I am attached (and believe it or not do love my partner) and will never leave her, and my friend knows it. But there is a sexual attraction between us, and genuine caring between us. It’s been going on for a few years. We have never kissed, except on the cheek...
Jan 11, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 15. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner of 12 years wants me to ‘peg’ him. I didn’t even know what it was and had to google it. Now I’m worried. Not only don’t I want to do it, I’m worried it secretly means he’s gay. I found out my husband had sex with a hooker on his bachelor’s night just before we got married. What should I do now? That was five years and two kids ago. He deeply regrets it and ...
Jan 04, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 38
Back by popular demand, this week we're re-releasing episode 19. In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My friends talk about their partners always hassling them for sex but I have the opposite problem. My husband is the one who doesn’t want it. Is he having an affair? Does it mean he doesn’t find me attractive anymore? I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends. My partner of five months wants to know how many lovers I’ve had. Let’s say I have reinvented myself just a l...
Dec 28, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and still don’t know where I stand. It’s all about her and always has been. She is a very good-looking, sexy woman and I think she secretly thinks she can do better than me. (I’m OK looking but nothing special.) I love her and give her all the attention in the world, but she treats me badly and doesn’t seem to care about anyone but herself. I try to talk to her about my needs but she b...
Dec 21, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m a woman in my mid-20s and I have just met a man I think is the love of my life. He feels the same. The problem is, neither of us had any intention of settling down for at least 10 years. I’ve just finished a degree and started a job that requires long hours. Same for him. I wish I could put him in the deep freeze and thaw him out again when I’m ready. What should I do? How do I know if I’m peeing when I climax or ejaculating? T...
Dec 15, 2021•22 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: A friend of mine (25 years old) has been seeing a married man in his forties who has a child. This has been going on for four years. They've been through some serious things and their 'relationship' is very clearly becoming even more toxic. We’ve all tried to tell her SO many times to stop what she's doing as it's not right and things will never pan out. He's been promising to end things with his wife since they started seeing each...
Dec 07, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 34
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m a 28-year-old woman and I’ve been with my partner for six years. I love him desperately but I’m not that interested in having sex with him anymore. I know that it’s normal for interest in sex to fall over time but I’m young and six years isn’t that long. Is this a sign I’ve chosen the wrong person? Or will this eventually happen with anyone I’m with long term? I’ve been married for 20 years and am struggling to stay sexual with...
Nov 30, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 33
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My husband and I are having massive fights over a long-time friend of mine who I used to date in college. We’d see each other twice a year for dinner and my husband didn’t seem to mind. But now my friend is having problems in his marriage and suddenly my husband is threatened. My friend is attractive and, yes, we have history. But that doesn’t mean I’m about to run off with him. How do I handle this? Just when I think I’ve got it a...
Nov 23, 2021•18 min•Season 1Ep. 32
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner of 9 years cheated on me recently with a same-sex partner but doesn’t consider that “cheating.” I disagree. He went for an STI check and a blood test confirms he has HSV1 (herpes simplex type 1). I’m terrified I’m going to get it. Should I risk it for him? He’s broken and desperate to make it up to me. I’m hoping you can help. I’m only 25 and I love my boyfriend of 4 years however I don’t enjoy our sex and I never get “w...
Nov 16, 2021•18 min•Season 1Ep. 31
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I am really hoping you can advise me on this because I honestly don’t know what else to do. A very good friend of mine is about to get married. They seem very happy but I recently saw her fiancé having dinner with another woman. They were having a very intense conversation and, at one point, he held her hand across the table. (I was in the same restaurant but hidden from his view.) I don’t know whether to mention this to my friend ...
Nov 09, 2021•23 min•Season 1Ep. 30
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: Is it true that a red rash appears on the chest if she’s had a real orgasm? Or is this old-school thinking? I remember hearing that a lot when I was a young boy growing up but I haven’t heard anyone talking about it for a while. Another sex myth? Is there any way you can tell for sure? I getting paranoid my new girlfriend is faking it. My partner wants sex all the time to the point where I worry it’s now an addiction. We have sex t...
Nov 02, 2021•23 min•Season 1Ep. 29
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My husband of 30 years recently bought a pair of VR goggles for work. The other night I found him in bed wearing the goggles and he was fully aroused and touching himself. He didn’t know I was in the room at that time. When I asked him what he was watching he told me it was virtual porn and that I should try it. I was repulsed and would not. Am I out of touch? Is it wrong to think that he's cheating on me with a virtual person? Is ...
Oct 26, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 28
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I know women can have multiple orgasms but that never happens for me. Once I have one, any further stimulation feels too intense. How many women are actually are having multiple orgasms regularly? Is it a myth? I've been with my wife for 14 years and we enjoyed a healthy sex life. Over the past 18 months or so (during the various lockdowns) my wife has put on weight which has affected how attracted I am to her sexually i.e. I no lo...
Oct 19, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 27
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have been married for eight years and am worried my partner has fallen out of love with me. Our sex life is alright – we don’t do it as much as we did, but I know that’s normal. But we used to sit on the sofa together and now I’ve noticed he settles himself into an armchair. When I asked him why he said it’s better for his back. (He’s only 42 but he does have back problems so might be telling the truth?) We don’t hold hands anymo...
Oct 12, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 26
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My best male friend has – out of the blue – confessed that he loves me. I have never thought of him that way. I love him as a friend but I'm not sure I can move him from the ‘friend basket’ into the ‘boyfriend basket’? Is it really possible for that to happen? We’ve been close friends for over four years. Should we take it slowly or dive right in there with sex? What if the sex is awful and I only want him as a friend. What then? M...
Oct 05, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 25
We’ve had so many questions in response to a cheating question we did, we thought we would do a special and answer questions that center around the three most asked themes: THEME: SHOULD YOU ASK FOR DETAILS? My wife had an affair with an ex of hers who was always sniffing around. She stopped it after I found out (I found text messages). I do believe her when she says it’s stopped but I can’t stop wondering what they did together. I want to know the sordid details but also don’t want to know. Doe...
Sep 28, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 24
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My wife of 35 years has just reached her 60th birthday and she has come through the menopause in style. She has just had her first tattoo and wants to be more 'wild' in all aspects of life, including sex. She wants to do fun things, be a bit rebellious and take more risks. I sense this is also, in part, a reaction to the pandemic (we both caught Covid but were okay). While I am excited, I am a bit worried, too. I asked her what thi...
Sep 21, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 23
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m 20 years old and have been sexually active about 2 years, with the same partner. The sex in itself is amazing, but it gets to a point when air gets into my vagina and makes a weird noise. This makes me feel really uncomfortable (he says he doesn’t mind it at all). Is my vagina too loose? And if so, can I do something about it? But also, isn’t it weird to have this problem at my age? Or maybe is it about the girth of my partner’...
Sep 14, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 22
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I just recently started finding interest in porn. But I’m not really finding anything female friendly. It’s very male driven and just gross and angry - not to mention, way too unrealistic. I’ve tried watching a couple of videos but they just make me want to shower afterwards because they are just awful. Do you have any suggestions for female-friendly porn sites that won’t make me feel dirty after I watch them? My previous girlfrien...
Sep 07, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 21
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I am a middle aged man, married, in good health. My question is, how can I last longer during intercourse? A typical session lasts only a matter of three of four minutes. Are there any exercises or techniques that I can use to gain more self control? I've tried things such as masturbating in advance to lessen the desire, extending masturbation to longer durations to better understand my response and ways to manage it, as well as do...
Aug 31, 2021•28 min
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My friends talk about their partners always hassling them for sex but I have the opposite problem. My husband is the one who doesn’t want it. Is he having an affair? Does it mean he doesn’t find me attractive anymore? I’m too embarrassed to talk to my friends. My partner of five months wants to know how many lovers I’ve had. Let’s say I have reinvented myself just a little and that number might be a lot higher than he’s expecting. ...
Aug 24, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 19
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner and I have been together for 6 years and haven't tried anything new in a while. You say things like ‘spice things up a bit’ - by doing what though? Can you spell out exactly what you mean by that and give some practical examples? My husband’s penis is on the large side...not so much length as girth. Sex is only comfortable in a couple of positions. Despite using lashings of lube anything other than side by side or missio...
Aug 17, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 18
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: Is it normal for couples to have sex in the same position every single time? We only ever have sex in two positions: me on top and him on top. He has no problem having orgasms that way, but I do. He always gives me an orgasm through oral sex but I would like to at least try for one during intercourse. Any suggestions on which positions are best? I’m dating a much younger man. I’m 52 and he’s 41 and the sex is fantastic. I’m newly d...
Aug 10, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 17
