In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’m a huge believer in soulmates and “The One’ and the idea that there’s one person out there for me. But some of my friends say this harms my prospects in the long run. Are they right? I want to send my partner a nude photo of myself but every time I take one, it’s unflattering. Do you have any tips? We're also quite interested in filming ourselves having sex but not if it's going to crush our egos watching it back! Can you discus...
Aug 03, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 16
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner of 12 years wants me to ‘peg’ him. I didn’t even know what it was and had to google it. Now I’m worried. Not only don’t I want to do it, I’m worried it secretly means he’s gay. I found out my husband had sex with a hooker on his bachelor’s night just before we got married. What should I do now? That was five years and two kids ago. He deeply regrets it and swears he’s never cheated before or since and that his friends pu...
Jul 27, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 15
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My husband of 13 years is suddenly wanting to try lots of new things in bed. Even more suspicious, he’s quite good at things I know he’s never done with me. I accused him of having an affair and he says he isn’t but what else could it be? He says he just wants to have more adventurous sex. But why now after all these years of quite boring sex? I’m really good at oral sex – it’s the thing I do best that really works on guys. So I wa...
Jul 20, 2021•23 min•Season 1Ep. 14
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My long-term girlfriend wants me to talk dirty in bed but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I feel incredibly self-conscious and have no idea what to say. Can you give me some ideas and please don’t make me sound I’m in an awful porn video. I met a guy online and we’re about to meet in person. I found it really easy chatting and flirting with him online or on Zoom but in person I’m not half as confident. I worry when he sees the ...
Jul 13, 2021•28 min
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I find sex at best uncomfortable, at worst outright painful. How do I make it more enjoyable? I have seen my doctor and he doesn’t seem to think there’s anything obviously wrong. We used to kiss all the time but just two years in, it’s all gone. I really miss it. How do I get it back again? We don’t even kiss during sex anymore. Do other long-term couples still kiss using their tongues? My partner takes Viagra ‘just for fun’. He do...
Jul 06, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: My partner and I want to try anal sex for the first time. Can you give us some tips on how to go about it? I don’t want it to hurt. Are there things you can do to make it hurt less? I’ve been seeing a new man for about a month and he still hasn’t made a move. I’m used to men hitting on me on the first date. What’s going on? Does this mean he doesn’t find me sexually attractive? I was raised in the Catholic Church and their viewpoin...
Jun 29, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 11
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I’ve just started my first relationship with a woman - my others have all been with men. I wonder if you could give me some tips on giving another woman oral sex. I feel like I should know how to do it, because I’ve got what she’s got. But it’s not as easy as I thought. I feel like I’m terrible at it. Sometimes I would do anything to have sex and other times, I couldn’t think of anything worse. My partner gets really annoyed with m...
Jun 22, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I have met a new man and really like him but the sex is OK at best. Is this a bad sign? Doesn’t everyone have great sex at the start? Should you leave if the sex is no good? The husband of a close friend of mine keeps coming onto me. It’s making things very awkward. I am a close friend of both of them and currently single. I’ve been spending a lot of time with them and he’s always saying how he can’t understand why no one is snappi...
Jun 15, 2021•20 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: I am 42, have been single for three years, and am starting to think I am never going to meet anyone. Even worse, I know so many other women in the same boat. Why are there so many attractive, accomplished, together single women and no men that fit that description? Where have all the good men gone? I am interested in being polyamorous and dating more than one person at once. When is the right time to tell a new partner that you are...
Jun 08, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1. How can I get my partner to get more kinky? I've tried suggesting things, I've changed positions and he always reverts back to missionary style. I’d love to do it on the table, against the wall. Nothing works for him except in bed, the same way. This is boring! I even told him I have sex toys – he’s not even interested in that. I have a very old-fashioned guy. 2. I can’t stop thinking about the sex my partner had with his ex. I ...
Jun 01, 2021•27 min•Season 1Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions: 1. I’m married and having an affair with a man who is also married. I know it’s wrong but I’m addicted to the sex. Is it so wrong to continue? Who are we hurting if no one finds out? 2. Ever since I had a baby, sex is painful for me. It’s making me dread sex. I don’t want to talk to my doctor because I’m too embarrassed. 3. I think I’m asexual, and I don’t want to be. I wish that I wanted to have sex as much as my friends do. Am I ...
May 25, 2021•26 min•Season 1Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey answers these three questions and offers a signature sex tip: 1. I used to love sex but I’m finding, as I’m getting older, that my confidence is falling. I haven’t felt sexy since I had children and put on weight. I’ve also got lots of stretch marks. My husband tells me I look great but I think he’s just saying that to be nice. What can I do to get my confidence back? 2. I have most of my orgasms with my vibrator on my own. Sometimes I worry that this is ruining me for se...
May 18, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey answers these three questions and offers a signature sex tip: I’ve just split from my partner and back out there dating again. (Just when I thought I’d never have to stare at a stranger’s ceiling again, here I am!) I’m up to speed on online dating but what’s the etiquette with pubic hair now? Do I have to take it all off? I’ve always found the completely hairless thing a bit creepy (not to mention hard to maintain). How often should I be having sex? Is once a week enough?...
May 11, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey answers these three questions and offers a signature sex tip: My partner is very close to a woman at his work. Pre lockdown, they’d joke that they’re each other’s ‘work husband and wife’. I don’t think anything is going on, but he does talk about her a lot and they used to have lunch together. Am I right to feel threatened now he’s soon back to work in the office? He admits he’s really looking forward to seeing her. She’s also married. I don’t orgasm during sex. What’s wr...
May 04, 2021•24 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Tracey tackles these 3 topics: 1. Do date nights actually work - and do I really have to have one? 2. I told my friends his sex secret - and now he's found out! 3. Should you be honest about your partner's "size" - what to say? TIP: It's OK to say no to sex. It's OK not to want sex all the time. If you say no now and then, your partner knows that when you do say yes, you mean it! To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex . Want a copy of Tracey’s ...
Apr 27, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 2
International sex expert Tracey Cox chats with Zibby who asks her these three anonymous questions: 1. Your husband would rather watch porn than have sex with you. Why? 2. You had a sex dream about your doorman. Problem? 3. Do men really enjoy giving women oral sex? Should women worry? Plus Tracey's weekly sex tip! To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously on zibbyowens.com/sex . Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks...
Apr 15, 2021•21 min•Season 1Ep. 1
