Four years ago I made a video about using less harmful language, avoiding words that were exclusionary, offensive, or inaccurate. Soon after this Seththinksthoughts, a vlog-style YouTube channel posted a video adding the list of harmful words and suggesting alternatives. I loved it and reached out to Seth. Over these years we've kept in touch and tried to encourage intellectual growth in each other. So when it came time to revisit the Sexplanations episode about less harmful language, I knew exa...
Oct 15, 2018•59 min
Why are some people heterosexual? What informs this identity? What was it like to come out to your family? Have you ever been treated differently because of your attraction to men, as a woman? Have you ever seen Hysterical Literature? How do you imagine attraction to a woman to be? What narratives and representation do you have in media? How did attraction develop for you? Why do I like kissing this person? Silvia and I investigate a lot of the questions surrounding sexual orientation. SEXtra Cr...
Oct 05, 2018•53 min
Logan is a gregarious, handsome, young hipster with a lot of ambition. He just finished building out a high-end touring van with the ability to play concerts out the back and he's traversing the country now to learn from others about life. I know him in a few ways but mostly that he's a well-connected friendly face. So I asked him to talk with me about coincidences and fate and whether or not the world is oriented more sexually for some of us more so than others. We tried some off-the-top-of-our...
Sep 28, 2018•50 min
Stella and I first met on the set of Sexplanations How to Touch a Boob episode. As a model and a burlesque dancer she was comfortable working with me to demonstrate breast healthcare and pleasure. What I didn't know is that she's made a career out of removing pubic hair for people and this brings up many opportunities to help clients embrace their own unique genitals. Stella and I talked about her experiences in the salon and revisited some of the questions I've been asked about oral sex (not th...
Sep 19, 2018•50 min
Sexplanations Podcast is not intended to titillate but it may lead to physiological changes. I would prepare yourself on this one. Jonathan and I hooked up when I when we were 20 and now, over a decade later, we're checking in on what that was like. We discuss oral sex, simultaneous orgasms, height differences, power dynamics, communication, raking dicks with teeth, sexual finesse workshops, Costa Rica, tightness, and then talk for about 15 minutes at the end about the controversy of circumcisio...
Sep 10, 2018•55 min
Anal sex video link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sp9MT1di9as&t Before this conversation I hadn't talked with Sam about anal sex. I invited her to be on the Sexplanations Podcast and gave her the topic but we didn't say anything else. When we sat down to record it was really fun to hear how much she had to share about her own experiences, her interest in anal porn, and her feelings on negotiating anal in future relationships. We also talked about vibrators, masturbation, healthy lifestyle...
Aug 30, 2018•49 min
Jessi runs an animal rescue and care center in Montana. She also has an educational YouTube channel called AnimalWondersMontana. Who better to talk about anal prep then someone who works daily with many many species including the care of their anuses? We discuss prolapsed rectums (aka trunk butt), lube, irritable bowel syndrome, taking temperature anally, how beavers mate, anal sex in sheep, inter-species relations, and from 26:30 to 27:40 rape. Jessi is full of great tips on anal preparation! M...
Aug 16, 2018•51 min
Troy or Kujmous as you may know him from social media is what I like to call the 12th man of the Internet. He cheers on creators like the fans of a football team and on regular basis positively impacts my emotional health. This is why I asked him to talk with me about cognitive dissonance, a psychological conflict brought on when one's behaviors are different than one's beliefs. This happens a lot in my life: killing animals is unethical/eat meat; abstinence is the only 100% effective method/use...
Aug 10, 2018•40 min
Reese has entertained me for years. He has a great stage presence and a hilarious bit about the ridiculousness of the phrase 'gold star gays.' I appreciate how comfortable he is talking about sexuality to new audiences and that there is a component of education built into the laughs. In this episode of the Sexplanations Podcast, it's no different. Reese has me laughing and learning as usual. SEXtra Credit: learn more about asexuality (asexuality.org), tell someone you are aesthetically attracted...
Aug 04, 2018•47 min
I went on a date with Amy in 2017. She tells the story of how we met and how it went. Then I do. I basically didn't know how to flirt with her beyond the scientifically prescribed steps and she points out that yeah, she didn't know I was trying to make advances. Is it because I'm heterosexual? Am I baby gay? How much of it is fear? What can I do to signal that I want to be hit on by women? Why don't I hit on women? SEXtra Credit: The next time you're out with friends, ask a friend to choose a pe...
Jul 29, 2018•55 min
If you want your brain rocked this is the episode for you. Soft science whimsical sexologist Dr. Doe talks with hard science genius-type Henry Reich. How are relationships and sexuality going to look as technology progresses? Will human beings have precocial young that are born able to care for themselves? How will internet interacting come into the real world? Can artificial intelligence mimic human touch? What is going to happen to match-making in the future? What is going to happen to our mea...
Jul 23, 2018•1 hr 7 min
Neil and I were classmates in our human sexuality doctoral program and we've been supporting each other professionally since then. In this conversation we discuss our careers, the similarities and differences. He's a sex therapist. I'm a sexologist. He teaches in a classroom. I teach online. We're both really passionate about serving others and love welcoming newcomers to the field. Join us for a chat on facing challenges, fulfilling dreams, and starting a sex school. SEXtra Credit: Catch the im...
Jul 13, 2018•32 min
Roe and I know each other in a lot of different capacities. That's the nature of Missoula, Montana where we live. Roe's been a friend, a colleague, and most recently the director for the outdoor leadership camp my kids have attended. Roe is impressive and in this episode you'll hear that. We talk about one of the smartest approaches to healthy relationship education and how to make moon bags. We plot our own programs and ask questions about some of our curiosities. Ancora imparo; I'm still learn...
Jul 07, 2018•45 min
The brain is trained to find shortcuts in sex and theater and education. They're called heuristics and we use then in all aspects our lives to make things easier. Unfortunately because they aren't the whole story they end up messing things up for us a lot. Brit Garner prides herself on failing (as do I). We both see it as a measure of our efforts to live and learn a lot from the experience. This episode is about some of those fails, the psychology behind them, and what our take-aways are. SEXtra...
Jun 21, 2018•49 min
What it's like to have mom who is a sexologist? Can an ace have a sex blog? How would you describe sexual attraction? Should I feel bad if my partner doesn't come? Tips for long distance relationships? Advice? Talk. SEXtra Credit: Get involved in your community by volunteering at Planned Parenthood or another sexual organization. And if you can't do that go and pick up trash along the river or highway. Do the best you can to improve the community in some way. Go hand out condoms. Be safe, kids! ...
Jun 11, 2018•39 min
When we first started Sexplanations YouTube channel Nick Jenkins and I were putting out two videos a week. Two videos?! I think back on those days when I was also teaching at the university, seeing clients, raising kids, and three dogs. It's mind-blowing to me that we made twice as many videos in a year then, as we've made podcasts in just this last year. It explains why the topic of today's podcast is about a Valentine's Day villain, Anthony Comstock. To give a quick summary: Comstock convinced...
Jun 06, 2018•34 min
Mija (pronouns they/them/their) and I have worked as sex educators together for a long time. They're one of the most sex positive people I know, very conscientious about prevention and consent; they're incredibly experienced and care a lot about the sexualities of others. It was difficult determining which topic to discuss with them because I knew that a really powerful conversation would ensue. I chose condoms because it's such a strong part of Mija's identity -- they use condoms consistently a...
May 30, 2018•55 min
Turns out Chase is a penis expert, or an expert on what he calls peens. This month we were lucky enough to have him here in Missoula and I sat down with him in the recording studio to learn what he does with his knowledge. Hopefully after just one minute of listening you'll enjoy Chase's spirited banter the way I do and find through the hour how much this carefree YouTuber is doing for sexual health. SEXtra Credit: Look up genital prosthetics; go to Chase's website and channel and watch some of ...
May 22, 2018•53 min
In the early days of Sexplanations I traveled to Iceland, visited their phallological museum, and recorded my experiences there. To revisit this topic I invited warehouse manager, Caenaan to talk about penises and organizing things, seems like curating. Our conversation becomes a when-has-Caenaan-dick episode (which I'm pleased with) and a tangential adventure into opening our own sex museum, the value of positive body image, shipping sex dolls, and his wonderful definition of good sex. SEXtra C...
May 14, 2018•41 min
Four years ago the original videographer and director of Sexplanations YouTube channel made a video for the channel on identity. Other creators picked it up and soon it was a phenomenon. Ashley is a creator who makes a lot of content on identity so I asked Ashley to unpack it all with me. We talk about whether or not we can have identities, change them, and what to do with them. SEXtra Credit: Have a conversation with someone from the LGBT+ community who experienced "queer" as a slur. To support...
May 05, 2018•57 min
Zack is a nice guy and a funny guy so I invited him to talk about masturbation. In this episode of Sexplanations Podcast he shares his personal experiences of overcoming sexual shame, his thoughts on dry-dogging, where to put the semen, third-person stories of his penis, and responses to this episode of the Sexplanations YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaHudJWwM8I&t. SEXtra Credit: Masturbate using coconut oil with and without porn (and tell us which fictional character or c...
May 02, 2018•55 min
In this episode we reflect on our memories of masturbation, how we like it best, and the many ways we want to keep learning how to do it. When did we first discover masturbation? What are our favorite techniques for getting off? How did we navigate society's anti-masturbation messaging? What's best to say to kids who masturbate? Sex Toys. Mutual masturbation. Anatomy. Clit lock. What do you masturbate to? SEXtra Credit: Masturbate in an upright position, standing, sitting, racing someone, while ...
Apr 23, 2018•48 min
Marcia teaches sex ed in the Midwest. She has been teaching in many capacities for decades, preschool to college, physical education and health courses. Now human sexuality at a university in a suburb of Chicago, Illinois. I sat down with her to ask the most common question I get -- how did you choose this career path and what advice would you give budding sex educators and sexologists? We compared journeys and suggestions, the adversity, and the rewards, and as the conversation went deeper I wo...
Apr 16, 2018•49 min
I've been so fortunate to work with incredibly talented and hilarious people on Sexplanations' projects. Maia is one of these magical people and so I sat down with her to talk about our days together, our show, how we get things done, and the many other interests we share or encourage each other to have. It is a precious conversation full of emotion and laughter. We visit about what it's been like working together and some of the ideas we have for future episodes. Trans history, brothels, travel...
Apr 07, 2018•52 min
Count Boogie and I met in the Los Angeles area when I visited his dungeon called Threshold. He gave me an interactive tour which we recorded for the Sexplanations YouTube channel and taught me about some of his kinks. Kinks aren't synonymous with paraphilias (non-traditional attractions) but there's a lot of crossover so I asked the count to talk with me about his world -- the paraphilias, specifically fetishes, consent, desire versus behavior, male Kegels, and communication. One thing I learned...
Apr 02, 2018•51 min
Teenage boys, mind-blowing consent, new bodies and old bodies, monogamy, and sexual therapy for reasons besides dysfunction -- it's a jam packed episode starring Elke, the founder of Mamalode (website and magazine), citizen extraordinaire, and my client. With her permission we discuss her first appointment almost eight years ago, what it was like seeing a clinical sexologist for the first time, and her answers to your questions about whether or not to see one yourself. Sextra Credit: Create a WA...
Mar 26, 2018•52 min
Among the many influential people and experiences in my life, my mother has been responsible for a great deal of the permission I've had to be exactly who I am. She instilled me a belief that it's okay to call out sexual abuse, to express my passion for sex, and to be sex curious. I asked her to recount with me my childhood and the memories I have of how my sexuality development during those formative years. We discussed sex education in school, sex before marriage, dating, sexual harassment, ca...
Mar 17, 2018•35 min
Last year I met charismatic wonder woman on the plane returning to Missoula named Princess. We both had similar fast-friends personalities and joie de vivre so a year into our friendship I asked her to be on the Sexplanations podcast and talk about mania with me. How do we as passion people navigate the ups and downs? Where do we find stability? How do hormones play a role in the destruction of love, or is it not that at all? What would we tell our past selves? Are we bigger fans of penetration ...
Mar 11, 2018•48 min
Dustin and I met on a rideshare and talked about love and relationships on that drive together. Then he spoke on a panel in my human sexuality class, photographed me for a calendar, and acted out 30 orgasmic sex positions in a green-suit for a Sexplanations episode. The two of us have a very playful connection and I wanted that for today's podcast on love. Going through an 18-question assessment of love styles, Dustin and I talk about passion, romance, dating, honesty, and intimacy. Sextra Credi...
Mar 04, 2018•46 min
Learn at least one new sex term for each letter of the alphabet, all about tucking technologies, the history of A. Mick, a co-founder of polyamorous programming in Montana, and now founder of an undergarment company goes through every letter of the alphabet from Z to A sexology-style. This episode of the podcast is based on this episode of the Sexplanations channel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9dAOeblsA0&t Sextra Credit: Journal about your relationship to gender and body hair. To suppor...
Feb 27, 2018•49 min
