Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals. With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship...
Mar 11, 2025•57 min
Initiating sex, dry spells, and mismatched libidos: the Hotline Calls are open, and your sex questions are answered! Today’s sexual concerns are especially relatable: I’m willing to bet you’ve experienced one of these yourself. Let’s start with orgasms. When you can only get off in one very specific position, how can you retrain your body and mind? I give you tips on switching up your technique. Next: coming out of a sexual dry spell, how do you learn to initiate again? I help you collaborate wi...
Mar 07, 2025•34 min
When you’re not turned on by your partner, should you open the relationship? What does it mean when they don’t finish during sex? In today’s Hotline Calls episode, I’m taking all your pressing sex questions. First, when you want to bring sex toys and lube into the bedroom, but your partner is firmly opposed…what now? I offer communication tips to help bring down defenses. Next, when you’re loving sex with your partner but they never orgasm, is that a cause for concern? I talk about delayed ejacu...
Mar 04, 2025•30 min
We all experience performance anxiety in bed from time to time. We get in our heads, we worry we’re not hot / good / skilled enough, and sometimes we try to be people we’re not during sex. That’s why today’s episode is about identifying different types of performance anxiety, so that we can show up more confident and relaxed for sex. First I talk through O-blockers: common reasons your orgasm and overall pleasure hit a limit. Next I bring up popular “personas” people adopt in bed, like the cool ...
Feb 28, 2025•38 min
How do you take a classic sex position and make it kinky? On today’s show, I’m telling you exactly how. Inspired by the positions chapter in Smart Sex, I’m talking through two specific positions that bring the kink – and another classic that you can spice up with a little power play. First, I’m looking at Cowgirl/Cowboy and talking through its pros, cons, and evolutions to introduce kinky dynamics. Next, I’m talking Doggy Style (or as I like to call it: Rear Entry) and breaking down its inherent...
Feb 25, 2025•34 min
I’m joined by sexologist, relationships expert, body image specialist, and author of Playing Without a Partner Dr. Megan Stubbs. We dive into how to embrace every aspect of singlehood (hello, masturbation!) and why being single doesn’t have to be a layover, it can be your destination. We give tips for loving your body, ways to elevate your orgasm, and how to alleviate skin hunger when you aren’t in a relationship. Plus, we’re sharing tips for sending nudes, ways to create an optimal pre-date rit...
Feb 21, 2025•42 min
There’s no such thing as an “easy life” which is why it’s SO important to develop the right tools to help you handle everyday chaos. Today, I’m talking with Tal Rabinowitz who’s helping people around the world learn to find calm in their daily commotion with her company The DEN Meditation. She gives tips for beginners who’ve never tried calming their minds and shares how meditation can totally change your outlook on your relationship. We also talk about judgment, specifically how you can stop la...
Feb 18, 2025•50 min
How do you kickstart sexual arousal? Would you believe me if I told you that sometimes, the best ways to get turned on have nothing to do with sex itself? When you take the focus off the bedroom, and turn your focus toward adventure – the kind that gets your heart-pumping, your adrenaline going, and your anticipation building – a cool thing happens in your brain. You’re excited, and that excitement spills over from the activity into…sex. Pretty nifty, right? So on today’s show, we’re going to tr...
Feb 14, 2025•51 min
Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship. We discuss how ‘dealbreakers’ may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get ou...
Feb 11, 2025•53 min
Better sex starts in your gut—who knew? Microbiologist Kiran Krishnan joins me to break down the gut-sex connection, from how digestion impacts libido and orgasms to why stress and diet could be killing your pleasure. We’ll get into what “leaky gut” actually is, how it messes with your hormones, and the simple, science-backed habits that will boost your energy, balance your body, and supercharge your sex life. In this episode, you’ll learn: How your gut health affects your sex life—from libido t...
Feb 07, 2025•48 min
Ever wonder what happens behind the scenes of your favorite porn? Today I’m joined by adult film director Jacky St. James and performer Ana Foxxx. We discuss their hottest scenes, what it’s like being on set, what constitutes ‘ethical porn’ and whether porn actors fake their orgasms. Plus, Jacky walks me through her approach to creating an adult film and how porn industry has evolved over time. Ana shares what it’s like dating as a porn star, details from her dirty 30 birthday party and how porn...
Feb 04, 2025•51 min
Valentine’s Day is here, and we’re making it hot. Whether you’re single, partnered, or just here for the pleasure tips, I’m joined by Dr. Scott Lyons to talk all things intimacy, gift ideas that actually turn up the heat, and how to keep things exciting beyond February 14th. We’re covering the best sexy gifts (hello, remote-control vibes), why curiosity is the key to lasting passion, and how to avoid becoming that couple scrolling at dinner. Plus, our wildest V-Day stories—think surprise proposa...
Jan 31, 2025•43 min
Fact: Your STI doesn’t make you ANY less sexy! In today's episode, I’m joined by the author of Strange Bedfellows and medical consultant, Dr. Ina Park who has made it her life's work to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sexually transmitted infections, AKA, STIs. Ina shares everything you need to know if you or someone you’re sleeping with is infected, how to reduce your risk of transmission, and when to disclose your status to a partner. We also discuss Ina’s #1 tip for STI prevention...
Jan 28, 2025•54 min
Tired of repeating the same relationship mistakes? Relationship coach Jillian Turecki joins me to break down the nine hard truths about love that will change your life. From healing heartbreak to understanding why you keep attracting the wrong people, Jillian shares how true love starts with you. We’re talking about breakups, dating struggles, and why lust isn’t love (even though it feels amazing). Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode will help you build healthier connections...
Jan 24, 2025•1 hr 6 min
I’ve heard from a lot of my listeners that they struggle with talking dirty in the bedroom. Today I’m joined by porn star, author, exotic dancer, and dirty talk expert Joanna Angel to break down what to say, how to start if you’ve never tried it and how to crank your dirty talk up from dusty to undeniably filthy. In this episode, you’ll learn: Dirty talk made easy with simple tips to start and spice it up without feeling awkward Sexting secrets to tease, turn on, and build anticipation like a pr...
Jan 21, 2025•42 min
On today’s show, I’m answering more of your questions from the Sex with Emily hotline. Topics include: how to tell your partner you want more oral sex, what to do if you can’t get over the sex you had with your toxic ex, how to explore your bisexuality without unnecessary drama, the best ways to avoid negative thought patterns while dating and how to explore mutual masturbation and edging with a partner. Have a question of your own? You can call me anytime and leave a voicemail: 559-TALK-SEX (55...
Jan 17, 2025•55 min
Today I’m joined by meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to share how we can better practice mindfulness in and outside of the bedroom. We discuss how meditation can transform relationships, reduce stress, and allow you to be more present during all areas of your life—including sex. Plus, we’re sharing easy hacks to curate a meditation routine, how you can cultivate happiness and fulfillment, and why training your brain is important to your overall well-being. Light also shares ...
Jan 14, 2025•57 min
Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks? Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Bi...
Jan 10, 2025•53 min
I’m joined by the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sophia and Sistine Stallone. Find out what really happens on the dating apps, how to spot red flags and why a bad first kiss doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. I encourage them to make time for masturbation and we discuss if watching porn is considered cheating. I also take your calls and answer a bunch of your questions. I cover prostate play, adult virginity, partner toys and what to do when your partner takes too long to orgasm. In this episode,...
Jan 07, 2025•48 min
The best sex of your life doesn’t happen by chance. If it did, we’d all be having it. In this episode, I share my own sex and dating intentions for the year and help you plan your own. I guide you through our Pleasure Planner, and we explore how prioritizing your sex life will benefit your overall life. I also answer questions about confidence in the bedroom, STIs and condoms, and if it’s possible to repair a relationship after someone cheats. If you need some inspiration to create your own sex ...
Jan 03, 2025•42 min
Here’s the secret formula to better sex: prioritize it! In this episode, we’re talking all about sex success stories and how taking just one step can take your sex life from static to ecstatic. From finding closure with an ex to trying out swinging and finding it works, and looking for sex after a life after not having any, each of these people have taken a big step towards changing their lives. Get inspired to create your own sex-cess story. I also answer questions about what to do if your boyf...
Dec 31, 2024•57 min
Confidence is everything. It affects the way we perceive ourselves, how we interact with others, and definitely shapes our sex life. On today’s show, I am joined by Serena Kerrigan, the ‘Queen of Confidence.’ Serena talks about what she has learned from going on over 50 online dates with men, how to make the “whoring twenties” fun, and her passion for masturbation. Plus, we answer your questions like how to feel confident after hooking up for the first time and how to feel sexy no matter what. I...
Dec 27, 2024•43 min
In this episode I take calls from our Sex With Emily Hotline and we get into it! Your questions include: What to do if you masturbate but can’t orgasm during sex, the best ways to meet people and date when newly sober, and what happens when your partner’s sexual fantasy creates issues in your relationship. Plus, I review how to start having sex again after a dry spell and when it might be time to break up if you’re sexually incompatible. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to embrace fantasies li...
Dec 24, 2024•57 min
Do you want a little more kink in your life, but aren’t sure how to get started? If so...you’ll definitely want to tune into my interview with professional dominatrix & kink expert, Mistress Justine Cross. We discuss the myths and basics of BDSM starting with what the hell it even means (bondage, discipline, domination, submission and masochism). We show you how to begin exploring your kinks even if you are brand new to the game and we discuss some of the most common fantasies. We also answe...
Dec 20, 2024•45 min
Let’s 69! It’s one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full-on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you’re having sex, you’re going to come across the famous, the controversial, 69 sex position. Why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot, and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver, and strategi...
Dec 17, 2024•36 min
Ever wonder if your penis/vulva/genitalia are normal? In this episode, I’m joined by urologist Dr. Maria Uloko who’s revolutionizing sexual healthcare. We get into why vulva-owners need testosterone, what happens when penis-owners masturbate too aggressively, how shame can interfere with getting the care you need, and how common it is to experience sexual dysfunction. I also answer your questions including when it’s time to date again after a toxic relationship, what to do when your partner’s po...
Dec 13, 2024•40 min
On today’s show, it’s all about finding answers to your trickiest questions and unleashing your full pleasure potential. How do you orgasm when you don’t know how? Or have sex for the first time, when you’re a virgin? How do you ease into an open relationship or threesome? How do you find balance in your masturbation routine? Whether you’re too dry (and it’s puzzling your partner), or too wet (and it’s puzzling both of you) I help you figure out solutions to overcome your biggest sexual challeng...
Dec 10, 2024•43 min
When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when...
Dec 06, 2024•45 min
It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful. So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What ...
Dec 03, 2024•52 min
I am joined by Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and creator of the wildly popular Instagram account @DaddyIssues_. Over the last couple of years, Violet has become well known for her irreverent relationship and dating advice. In this interview, Violet reveals why she has stopped dating (for now), what exactly a “pick me girl” is and how attraction is not always dependent on good looks. And because this is a sex show after all, Violet shared some tips for avoiding potentially em...
Nov 29, 2024•49 min
