The ONE Sexual Practice Every Man Should Do Daily (Embodiment)

It has been my full-time job for over six years now to help men overcome things like premenstrual ejaculation, rectal dysfunction, sexual anxiety, so they can have the sex life that they want. In that time, I've noticed some patterns. Most guys who are trying to improve their sexual performance, they're doing a lot of the right things. They're learning about Kegels and reverse Kegels, and breath modulation, and different visualization techniques, but most guys are missing one really crucial, important thing that without it, all these other techniques aren't so effective. So if you're a guy who's tried a bunch of different Things to improve your sexual stamina, or your erection quality, or improve your sexual confidence; and you're still not really satisfied with the results, this video is for you. I'm gonna share with you a mindset shift and then a practice you can do every day for the next week or the next two weeks to help this new mode of actually land in your system. So, all these other techniques can be effective, so you can have the kind of sex that you want. So here's the thing: most guys try to do sex mentally, try to do sex because it works in so many other areas of life. Right? Like, we do business, we do work, we do the creation of, we do the cleaning of the. house we do the taking care of our car, but you can't do sex in the same way because sex requires good sex where you're able to have sex for as long as you want, and you're able to have full body pleasure, and you're able to have a strong erection that lasts. That kind of good sex is dependent on your ability to be present with yourself in your body and not distracted by all the things that are going on in your head, not worrying about whether or not your partner likes it, not worrying about whether or not you're gonna come too soon, but you're actually just in the experience, connected with your breath and your body and your being. And it's super important to talk about because this is what makes the between an adequate or maybe not even acceptable, like an okay lover, and an incredible lover is the degree to which a man is able to be embodied while also doing all the other sexual techniques that help with these things. Embodiment is a state of being where you're connected with your breath, you're connected with your body, you're connected with your sensation, you're moving with intention. It's almost as if your center of transitions from up here in the head down to more the chest and the belly range. And it's different from working out. Most working out is about Doing it's about achievement, it's about building the, it's about getting the reps in, it's about moving on to the next thing so you can have a healthy body. That's awesome; that's crucially important. But you can go through a whole workout without being embodied. And if it's true that everything we do in life is practice for every other part of our life, and what we do in the rest of our life impacts our abilities to have good sex, then we need to start bringing in more intentional embodiment to all these other things that we're already doing, like working out, like going for a. So let me give you an example: I could do some squats and While I'm doing these squats, I could be thinking about the meal I'm gonna cook later in the day. I could be thinking about the next exercise I'm gonna do, or I could be listening to a podcast and really engaged in really thought-provoking things that are inspiring me. And I'm still doing the motions, and I'm going up and down. That's one option. I would call that not embodied. Still good for the body, but it's not what we're going for here. The other option would be for me to maybe listen to music or be in silence and be really intentional and present with my movements and my form, and feel every aspect of myself going up and down. Again, as if my center of gravity was more located and my center of consciousness was more located in my body itself. Fundamentally, different way to approach that. Same with running; I could run listening to a thinking about all kinds of other stuff, or I could run really connected with my stomping my feet on the ground, feeling my hips and the power of my legs moving and just being in my animal self. Two fundamentally different ways to have that experience. Both arguably very healthy, but one will be way more helpful, in my opinion, in cultivating the state of mind that we need to be able to have good sex. Because some of the main what We call dysfunctions premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, and sexual anxiety. They come from tension. Tension in the mind, tension in the Premature ejaculation is a sympathetic nervous system response. Tension builds, pressure builds, and then boom, you ejaculate. Erectile dysfunction, for most men, is the result of some form of performance anxiety or some sort of thought that creates a stress response in the body that creates tension that kills the erection. Performance anxiety, similarly, comes from some sort of thought or belief that creates stress or tension. All of those things can be dramatically impacted. by whether or not you are up in your head thinking about it, or your consciousness and your center of gravity are more located down in your body. So, as we talk about this, do an experiment with me. Take a deep breath right now through the nose to the belly. And exhale with an audible sigh, if you can, where you are. Ah! And just pause for a moment and feel yourself. If we were to do that 10 more times, we would be having a very different experience. Let's do one more breath. Ah! So, let's bring in a basketball analogy because I love basketball. You would never expect a professional basketball player to just get on the court after not practicing. and perform at a really high level, right? That's not how it It's really the same with If you want to be having really good sex, you can't expect to just go throughout your life without practicing. Get into sex and have great sex. For some reason, our minds think that's how it should work, but it doesn't work like that. It doesn't work like that. So, going back to basketball, you think about it: a professional basketball player, he's gonna do drills. He's gonna learn all kinds of over the many years that he's been playing, right? All kinds of stuff he's gonna be practicing. But in the game, he's not intellectually thinking about these different practices while he's doing it. He's not thinking, oh, I'm gonna drive up the court and cross over that guy, da da da da da da. He's in the moment, in his body, connected to the flow of everything, in the moment and acting and reacting based on intuition. And yes, perhaps sometimes thoughts, but if he has the thought, it's quick and it's in service to his embodiment and his practice of dribbling and passing or shooting, right? This is not something he's not ruminating about things. He's not worrying about things. He's in the game. And so similarly, with sex, you can practice a lot of things beforehand to the point where they actually get embodied. And in the sexual experience, you can do those techniques, but you're not ruminating about them, and you're not thinking about them and worrying about them. They can become part of the game. And sex isn't really a game, but it's the best analogy that I wanted to use right here. Sex is a beautiful opportunity for you to experience pleasure and connection with another person. And one of the best ways to do that is to be in your body, to stop trying to do sex and start trying to be sex. So if you remember one thing from this video, that's it. Stop trying to do sex, start trying to be sex. And so let's make that bridge from practice to sex. If you're familiar with my work at all, you know that I have guys do intentional masturbation practice multiple times a week to practice all kinds of different techniques: breathwork techniques, squeezing techniques, visualization techniques for the sake of increasing pleasure capacity, and all this stuff, right? And that's great. It's super important. What I've been noticing over these past six years is that it's not enough. It's not enough to just have that, specifically in terms of the embodiment piece. It's not enough to just have those sessions be the only embodiment practice a man does in a if he wants to be a truly sexually. Vital man. And this is why, at every retreat I lead and every workshop I lead for men, I involve some sort of intentional movement practice because it's fun. Because doing this is what opens the doorway to having really incredible sex and an incredible, open, embodied life. So here's my challenge for you: I created a 17-minute sexual embodiment practice. It's a mix of Qigong, yoga, mobility training, somatic awareness exercises, and Taoist sexual practices as well. It's free. You can get it at the link in the. My challenge is for you to do it every day for the next seven days. Even stretch it out to two weeks and see how it starts to impact. your sexual experience. Through practice outside of the sexual experience, we're tuning our body, our nervous system, and our mindset and our consciousness to be more able to enter these realms of embodiment where we can be confident, and we can be present with our breath and sensation and actually hold more in the moment. And if you combine this practice with everything that's in my free ejaculation control guide too, which I'll also link to in the description, you'll be worlds ahead of any other guy who's trying to build his sexual performance. So, to circle back around, even if you don't do this practice, you can bring embodiment into your life in a variety of different ways. You can do it working out. You can do it. You can do it going for a. The keys are that you are in connection with your breath. You are not thinking about other things. You're moving with intentionality. Your center of consciousness gravity starts to come more down into this part of your body. And you're just connected with this more animalistic part of yourself, acting and reacting without ruminating or worrying about things or strategizing in your head. Just give yourself time to really be a. Even if you're doing a bench press, just like do it slow, really feel it. Really feel. your animal self doing this. The more you do that, the more you're going to attune your entire being to the reality that is an embodied experience. So every day I wake up and I do an embodiment practice for 15 minutes immediately, and I try to bring embodiment practice into many areas of my life too. Like one of my favorite things recently is I've started doing more primal movement stuff. So like hands and feet on the ground, moving like an It's fun to wrestle around with my dog that way, and it's fun to just be a creature, right? I feel more alive when I'm doing it, and I've noticed that it actually helps me feel more alive in sex too. So to close I just want to say that embodiment is so crucially important. Yes, for sex and also for the rest of life. It's the thing that makes the change from doing life to living and experiencing life and having joy in life. In my So get the free practice, try it for two weeks. Let me know how it goes, and I'll see you next time.