What happens when we say yes to sex we don't actually want? In this deeply insightful exploration of "duty sex," I sit down with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fyfe to unpack the profound psychological impact of consenting to unwanted sexual experiences in long-term relationships. My research has uncovered troubling patterns: when partners (particularly women in this study) consistently consent to sex they don't desire, it creates harmful dynamics that damage both individuals and their relationship. Far...
Jul 17, 2025•53 min
What if the problem isn't that you don't want sex, but that the sex you're having isn't worth wanting? This revolutionary perspective from Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent framework, challenges everything we've been taught about sexual desire. In this illuminating conversation, Betty explains why many women find themselves caught in a pattern of consenting to unwanted sex, leading to resentment and even trauma symptoms over time. She reveals how cultural conditioning teaches wom...
Jul 03, 2025•50 min
What happens when women repeatedly consent to sex they don't want? Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy and author of "Sex, God and the Conservative Church," joins us to explore this question with unexpected depth and historical context. This conversation takes a fascinating turn as Dr. Tina traces how patriarchy, politics, and religious messaging converged to create a profound disconnect between women and their sexual agency. She reveals how the rise of the ...
Jun 19, 2025•1 hr 10 min
Research on consenting to unwanted sex reveals surprising trauma symptoms and resentment even without coercion, creating an internal "accountability conflict with yourself" when betraying your own boundaries. • Shadeen Francis explains resentment as information revealing unmet needs or crossed boundaries. Shadeen Francis is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist and a board-certified sex therapist. Her expertise spans the domains of mental health, emotional intelligence, and the intersec...
Jun 05, 2025•55 min
We dive into the complex world of "consenting to unwanted sex" with Al Vernacchio, a comprehensive sex educator who brings unique insights from his position at a Quaker school. Our conversation explores why many women agree to sex they don't desire and the cultural influences that create these situations. Al Vernacchio, MSEd teaches at Friends' Central School in Wynnewood, PA. He is the Coordinator of Gender, Sexuality, and Consent Education, a Senior Staff member in the department of Institutio...
May 22, 2025•51 min
What happens when women repeatedly say "yes" to sex they don't actually want? The answer might surprise—and disturb—you. Dr. Cami Hurst pulls back the curtain on her groundbreaking PhD research examining the hidden consequences of "duty sex" in long-term relationships. Drawing from over 1,300 women's experiences, she reveals striking findings that challenge our understanding of consent and sexual health. Most disturbingly, 53% of women who consented to unwanted sex with their partners developed ...
May 15, 2025•19 min•Season 4Ep. 1
In this episode Dr. Cami Hurst discusses all things male sexual dysfunction including the male arousal cycle, Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and Premature Ejaculation (PE). You'll learn what's actually normal, what you can do on your own to help and when to seek professional help.
Apr 02, 2025•45 min
How much sex should I be having? Does watching gay porn make me gay? How can I help my partner see the benefits of masturbation? Cami Hurst, PhD, LMFT,CST, (she, her) and Braxton Dutson, LCSW, CST, (he, him) carefully answer and deconstruct these anonymous questions submitted by listeners. Even if you haven't asked these specific questions, Cami and Braxton offer a wealth of education and resources as they relate these questions to larger sexual health topics. If you would like to submit an anon...
Aug 02, 2023•58 min
Cami Hurst, PhD, LMFT,CST, (she, her) goes in depth about postpartum health. Cami discusses mental health, interpersonal relationship health, and sexual health, as well as the many strategies and treatment options available to new parents. To access the Monday 9am (MDT) live stream: https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcast https://camihurst.com/
Jul 19, 2023•51 min
Braxton Dutson, LCSW, CST, (he, him) and Cami Hurst, PhD, LMFT,CST, (she, her) provide a guide for holistically understanding and exploring your sexual self. This episode is full of questions to facilitate self-reflection. You can find the Monday 9am (MDT) livestream at: https://camihurst.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcast
Jul 19, 2023•57 min
Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson review Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Stephen Snyder. Tune in to hear two AASECT certified sex therapists review this book about cultivating a rewarding and healthy sex life within a committed, long-term relationship. This episode was recorded as part of a live stream hosted by Cami and Braxton on Monday mornings at 9am MDT on YouTube and Facebook. You can find them at https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcas...
Jun 28, 2023•51 min
What if I am self-conscious about my weight? I'm worried my partner is only engaging in sex with me out of marital duty? Is my husband gay if he doesn't want to have sex with me? Tune in to hear Braxton Dutson, LCSW, CST, (he, him) and Cami Hurst, PhD, LMFT,CST, (she, her) answer commonly asked questions about sex and relationships. https://camihurst.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcast
Jun 14, 2023•54 min
Dr. Cami Hurst and Braxtion Dutson candidly share the best strategies for understanding and healing from sexual assault. This episode is for everyone: those who have experienced sexual assault and those who may be partners to those who have experienced sexual assault. https://camihurst.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcast
Jun 07, 2023•49 min
Tune in live each Monday morning 9am (MDT): https://www.youtube.com/@sexplorerspodcast Join Dr. Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson for a recording of Sexplorers, a live-stream show often including visuals and audience Q and A. In this episode, Cami and Braxton have a dynamic conversation about Cami's education module, "Six Principles of Sexual Health".
May 31, 2023•1 hr 2 min
Join Dr. Cami Hurst and Jen from Mama Dragons in this cross-over episode from In The Den. Cami and Jen talk about how to educate children of all ages about consent, and how to talk to your kids about safe sex.
May 17, 2023•45 min
A crossover episode from The Natasha Helfer Podcast, this episode discusses Dr. Cami Hust's recent doctoral reseach about consenting to unwanted sex.
Apr 12, 2023•1 hr 11 min
Join Dr. Cami Hurst and Amanda Louder for this crossover episode about Cami's doctoral research! Cami has spent the last year completing her dissertation and researching the effects of consenting to unwanted sex. Tune in to hear more information about consent, Cami's findings, and Amanda's perspective as a Certified Life Coach. If you liked this episode, you may also like Amanda's podcast, Sex For Saints.
Apr 12, 2023•50 min
This week Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson are reviewing She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner. Cami and Braxton highly recommend this book to anyone looking to better understand the clitoris or cunnilingus. Written for a male audience, this book still has information that everyone will find useful. Researchers at Modern Sex Therapy Institutes are interested in understanding how certain behaviors and experiences may impact the individual woman and her relatio...
Apr 29, 2022•44 min
This week Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson are reviewing Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free by Linda Kay Klein. This book is highly recommended especially to those who have experiences with fundamentalist religions. Cami and Braxton share some of the highlights of this text as well as some of their own personal experiences.
Apr 06, 2022•59 min
Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson are reviewing Robie H. Harris's series entitled It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health. This book is a detailed, age-appropriate, empirically-based guide to bodies and sexual health for children. Tune in to hear Cami and Braxton's thoughts, questions, and critiques for this series and a few other children's resource books.
Mar 09, 2022•59 min
Join Cami and Dan to talk about some of the common questions they see in their practices. Tune in for strategies for better communication and emotional wellness.
Jan 14, 2022•54 min
Join Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson as they review For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health by Al Vernacchio. If you have ever raised a teen, worked with teens, or been a teen, this book is for you! This book offers research-based strategies for understanding and communicating with teenagers about sex. Cami and Braxton summarize some of the main points of this book and offer their experiences as therapists. To support Cami as she creates free episode...
Jul 05, 2021•51 min
Join Cami and David Pitcher in the final episode of the sex and spirituality series. In this episode David and Cami explain physical and mental wellness practices that you can start any time to create more emotional awareness, communication, and comfort during sex. Cami and David also suggest several intimacy practices that have nothing to do with sex, but are effective for building communication and closeness. You won't want to miss this final episode with David Pitcher! To support Cami as she ...
Jul 05, 2021•28 min
Cami and David discuss the historical origins of Christianity, Judaism, and Tantra to uncover how religious practices have incorporated healthy sexual relationship practices. This episode gives a quick overview of religious doctrine to demonstrate that there are aspects of gender equality, play, love, and compassion that can be learned through the lens of various religions. To support Cami as she provides free sexual education, you can subscribe to her patreon at https://www.patreon.com/sexthera...
Jul 05, 2021•33 min
Meet Utah-based sex therapist, David Pitcher. Dave and Cami dive into the topic of integrating healthy, communication-based sex practices with religious faith. This is a wonderful episode full of useful strategies that are applicable to anyone regardless of religious orientation. Support Cami's labor of love as she provides free sex education by subscribing to her Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101
Jun 08, 2021•23 min
Join Cami Hurst this week as she has a conversation with Amanda Louder from The Sex for Saints Podcast: The Christian Women's Guide to Great Sex. You won't want to miss this clear, factual, and compassionate conversation about the myth that great sex ends at menopause. Cami and Amanda discuss strategies for a life-time of intentional, healthy, great sex! As always, thank you for supporting Cami's efforts to create this show: https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101...
May 18, 2021•32 min
This week we are with Jenny Elledge to kick off season three of Sex Therapy 101. In this season, we will be busting sexual myths! Tune in to hear Cami and Jenny talk about the myth that scheduled sex isn't sexy. You can find Jenny Elledge at https://www.symmetrysols.com/jennyelledge You can support this show and all of Cami's amazing work at https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101...
May 05, 2021•20 min
Cami Hurst and Braxton Dutson are back with another book review. This month's book is Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life by Justin J. Lehmiller. This book contains some of the most extensive research on American sexuality to date. Tune into hear Cami and Braxton's take on this book about sexual fantasies. You can support this show and all of Cami's amazing work at https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101...
Apr 27, 2021•44 min
In our last episode with Jeff Lundgren, Cami and Jeff are discussing how you can discover, incorporate, and communicate about specific sexual preferences so that sex can feel like a conversation between partners. This episode will give partners communication skills so that both partners can feel like they are playing to each other's strengths. You can find Jeff Lundgren at https://wasatchfamilytherapy.com/archives/doctor/jeff-lundgren You can support this show and all of Cami's amazing work at h...
Apr 20, 2021•19 min
We are back with Jeff Lundgren for this very important episode about understanding sexual desire discrepancies. Jeff and Cami explain how you can focus on your own desires and make those a priority for yourself in order to create relationships in which everyone's needs are met and respected. You can find Jeff Lundgren at https://wasatchfamilytherapy.com/archives/doctor/jeff-lundgren You can support this show and all of Cami's amazing work by subscribing at https://www.patreon.com/sextherapy101...
Apr 20, 2021•18 min
