How good are your flirting skills? Are you a Femme Fatale or Casanova? You will be after this episode! Dr Alison Ash gives us the ins + outs of seduction, what contributes to the outcome of being "friend zoned" + how we can recover after a flirting fail. In this episode you'll hear: - Key tips in your success of flirting - How body language + non-verbal cues are keys to seduction - The mental traps that contribute to flirting failure + how to recover - Tips on preventing the habit of the "friend...
Dec 23, 2020•54 min•Season 3Ep. 90
We all dream about having fire hot sexual chemistry with someone + yet is this the sign of a healthy relationship forming? Or might it be us attracting the exact match of our childhood wounds + traumas? In this episode we dive into the topic of trauma bonding in relationships + what signs you can look out for in your own relating. In this episode you will hear: - Why fire, hot sexual chemistry + craving may not be a good sign for healthy, sustaining love - What is trauma bonding + how does it re...
Dec 10, 2020•46 min•Season 3Ep. 89
Whoever said foreplay is not necessary either didn’t have a vulva or was influenced by someone who didn’t. In this episode I talk to you about my version of what “foreplay” means and how you can amplify the experience for more satisfying and sustainable sex with your boo. In this episode I share: - A rewrite to the old script about what “foreplay” means - How being able to tune into the progression of arousal for your partner is critical for sexual satisfaction - The benefits of slowing it all d...
Nov 26, 2020•33 min•Season 3Ep. 88
To circumcise or not to circumcise? That is the question. And a polarizing topic at that! In this episode we talk with human rights advocate Georganne Chapin about what circumcision actually entails, why it’s become such a common practice in America, + how it impacts the sexual functioning + pleasure of our men + their partners. **Warning: Graphic content** In this episode you’ll hear: The history behind the practice of circumcision + how it’s become a common practice for American boys What circ...
Nov 11, 2020•59 min•Season 3Ep. 87
Why do people keep getting married when fifty percent of them break up? In this episode we talk with documentary film maker Roger Nygard about his recent film, The Truth About Marriage, in which he interviewed experts from all walks of life to better understand the complexities of love + sex that are unique to our modern way of living. We dive in to explore what strategies could benefit relationships in the long term, as well as, talk about the various types of relationships that exist. In this ...
Oct 28, 2020•59 min•Season 3Ep. 86
Relationships are a container for our evolution. Which can also mean lots of feelings, lots of lessons, lots of repeating patterns, chasing, avoiding, triggering, clinging, + maybe even some childhood wounds in there. All until we figure it out only to find ourselves IN the question of--do I stay + deepen or is it time to let go? And HOW? Adam Roa is back + we drop into deep conversation around the process of relationships, our own personal insights, + the skill of discernment it takes in identi...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 85
With recent shows like “Dating on the Spectrum”, the talk of disability, dating, + sex has been getting more spotlight + conversation--but not nearly enough. Sex + disability advocates Ela Wojtowicz + Ajani Murray share their personal experiences, challenges, + unique strategies for navigating the world of dating + sex with Cerebral Palsy. In this episode you’ll hear: -The unique struggles of dating + sex as a person with disability -Myths + stigmas busted surrounding sex + disability -How Ela +...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Season 3Ep. 84
Have you ever been in the situation where you are stuck in the question of “do I stay in this relationship or do breakup” only to stay frozen in this place avoiding any decision until circumstances choose for you? Yep. Been there. Not fun. In this episode, Traver Boehm gives us a candid conversation about how relationship ambiguity is the death of intimacy + how to make the shift to lean in + transform yourself + future relationship patterns. In this episode you will hear: How relationship ambig...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Season 3Ep. 83
Can a girl have a boner? Well we know from Cardi B we can have a WAP! Due to the poor education + mass misinformation around how our sexuality works, we may not be experiencing our most optimal sexual pleasure. August Mclaughlin, author of Girl Boner, is here to shed some light on topics that are often left out in the sex education conversation. She gets real, sharing her personal stories of how her relationship with eating disorders impacted her sexuality in youth, discovered masturbation at th...
Sep 02, 2020•53 min•Season 3Ep. 82
What do you think of when you hear the terms sex work or stripping? In this episode we talk with author + sex worker Lana Shay about expanding the concept of sex work to be seen as a potential for sacredness, a gift, + an expression of personal agency + power. In this episode you’ll hear: What it’s like behind the scenes working at a gentleman’s club How sex work can be empowering for the performer The light + shadow side of the sex work industry How can stripping be a sacred sexual practice? Ti...
Aug 19, 2020•47 min•Season 3Ep. 81
Starting a new love? Or maybe you’re just running into the same barriers to intimacy? This episode I share with you some of the common patterns of relating that may have helped you survive your young years, but doesn’t help when it comes to finding + keeping love now. In this episode you’ll hear: What are the concepts of authenticity + self love + why can they be a challenge to practice? Defense mechanisms + a reframe to intimacy Becoming an expert of your own + your partner’s vulnerabilities ar...
Aug 05, 2020•41 min•Season 3Ep. 80
What makes a good dominant? How does one even start on the path of exploring BDSM? Professional + lifestyle dominatrix, Mistress Justine Cross takes us on a little walk through the fun + exciting exploration of the different personas that exist as parts of you. She shares with us about different styles of domination, as well as, practical tools to help you lean into the edge + try it on. In this episode you’ll hear: Different types of domination styles + how to begin your exploration into what t...
Jul 22, 2020•44 min•Season 2Ep. 79
For many men + women who have experienced trauma in the past, the thought of having pain free, stress free, or maybe even enjoyable sexual experience may feel out of our reach. It may feel like our body + brain are not working on the same team, causing us to feel overwhelmed + at times hopeless. Luckily, I’ve got some strategies to help you along your journey of reclamation. In this episode you’ll hear: How trauma impacts our body, brain, + our ability to connect in sex Strategies in challenging...
Jul 08, 2020•39 min•Ep. 78
Do you identify yourself as a sexual person? In what ways do you act in order to keep yourself from expanding even more? Alexandra Roxo is here to take our hands through the path of sexual liberation, rewriting the narratives of what we’ve known ourselves to be in order to create space for our highest sexual expression. In this episode you’ll hear: Practices to heal our wounds that block us from our fullest expression The power of vulnerability + embracing all the parts of ourselves for greater ...
Jun 17, 2020•56 min•Ep. 77
What’s your relationship like with your breasts? In this episode we are going to second base with Raea Campbell here to teach us why it’s important to titillate our titties to orgasm, how self care can be super sexy, + the how to reestablish a relationship with your breasts after trauma, cancer, or surgery. In this episode you’ll hear: The poor relationships we have with our breasts due to social conditioning What is breast worship + how can we practice solo + with a partner? Healing our relatio...
Jun 03, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 76
Have you ever started dating someone only to realize that you’re repeating a pattern of dating the same type you did before? We tell ourselves, I’m never going to date someone like that ever again...and then we do. Only in a different package. A smokin’ hot, babe of a different package...but same none-the-less. In this episode we get into some of the more complex layers of attachment theory so you can better understand how you’re repeating the cycle, and how you can best support your partner. In...
May 13, 2020•57 min•Ep. 75
What if kindness was cool + we took effort + interest towards compassion of others? What if we gave ourselves more self love + permission to be where we are at? What if we turn obstacles into opportunities to learn more about who we are as relational beings? Well that’s what Dr. Jeremy Goldberg of Long Distance Love Bombs talks about it with me in this week’s episode. Whether you’ve got too much time on your hands, or you’ve found yourself in the busy hamster wheel of over-productivity, we’ve go...
Apr 29, 2020•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 74
Is this quarantine bringing to the surface how boring and disconnected your sex is? Perhaps you’re both speaking different sexual languages, assuming the other should be speaking the same. Or maybe you’re single, homebound, + horny! Not to worry, Ian Ferguson, master trainer of the Erotic Blueprint Methodology is here to save your sexy ass from falling to the perils of boring sex. In this episode you’ll hear: How we can expand intimacy during this challenging time Tips on how we can connect in s...
Apr 10, 2020•55 min•Ep. 73
Have you ever been curious about non-monogamy or opening your relationship? In this episode I muse about my own experiences, common misperceptions, challenges, and strategies to help you start the conversation + considerations for navigation. As the concept of ‘relationship’ evolves, let’s make sure we are making decisions based on what is true for us so we can better co-create love the way that works for us. In this episode you’ll here: The difference between non-monogamy, swingers, polyamory, ...
Mar 25, 2020•52 min
In seven seconds, your first presentation makes a lasting impression and judgement from those you meet. Scary thought, huh? Holistic stylist and fashion guru Kim Apadoca shares with us the psychology behind the fashion we choose to wear and how it’s impacting our confidence and potential in dating success. Kim takes us through her tips and tricks to keeping your closet the perfect expression of you and how you want to be in the world. In this episode you’ll here: Kim’s professional process of he...
Mar 12, 2020•54 min
How we define beauty influences the actions we take to achieve it. Unfortunately, some of those trending actions are also causing destruction to our bodies...and we don’t even know it. Here we’ve got my former co-host Diane Kazer back talking to use about toxic beauty regimens, the physical impact of botox + implants on our internal systems, + how we can make efforts in changing the social conversation about beauty. In this episode you’ll hear: Diane’s personal story about having her breast impl...
Feb 12, 2020•1 hr 2 min
How can we be both a man who is safe + a man women sexually crave? Destin Gerek talks to us about the complex changes in our social climate around what it means to be ‘masculine’ and how it’s impacting our sex + love lives. He shared with us his newly launched book around being an ‘evolved masculine’ and how one can master his sexuality while still maintaining strength in integrity, safety, and conscious relating. In this episode you’ll here: The concept of polarity in building sexual desire + m...
Jan 29, 2020•55 min
Can we be single on purpose? John Kim of The Angry Therapist suggests this is a key in co-creating the relationships we want without the repeating toxic patterns of former love. Tune in as we get SUPER real and raw about our own past dating patterns, the importance of being authentic, and how to mitigate the fears that arise around being seen as ‘creepy’ or ‘too much.’ In this episode you’ll hear: What it’s like to be an unconventional therapist and what it takes to break the mold of conformity ...
Jan 09, 2020•54 min
Have you ever been curious about what happens at a sex party? Or maybe you’ve had fantasies about going, but just don’t know how to go about it. In this episode I share with you my top tips on navigating with as much ease and pleasure as possible. From the time you get the invitation to the post decompression after, you’ll be sure to get the best advice and story shares from me. In this episode you’ll hear: What questions to ask before you go to ensure this is in alignment with what you’re wanti...
Nov 29, 2019•30 min
We grew up in the age of low-fat, fat-free, no-carb, sugar-free, Atkins diet culture. Telling us that juicing and detoxing is the way, and yet...we still aren’t feeling good. Enter Whitney Catalano to flip these concepts on their head and bring us back to the intelligence of our bodies. We talk about the challenges + misperceptions around emotional eating, breaking the binge cycle, and the impact eating disorders has on our love + sex lives. In this episode you’ll hear: Why you can't lose weight...
Oct 30, 2019•54 min
Is it a good idea to become friends with our exes? In this episode I muse about my thoughts about forming friendships after the partnership has ended. What are some of the considerations we need to make? I share with you the reasons why it would be a bad idea and then how it could be good. You’ll hear some of my own personal insights from relationships that did evolve into the best friendships while others withered in the wind. In this episode you’ll hear: How our attachment systems and strategi...
Oct 16, 2019•36 min
Can boudoir photography be an empowering experience or is it an objectification of the female body? I join my favorite boudoir photographer Kabir Cardenas as we dive into the transformative experience that this type of photography can ignite. He shares with us tips and tricks for photographers and women alike, as well as, his experience being a male in the industry and the importance of making women feel safe to let go and be themselves. In this episode you’ll hear: How boudoir photography can b...
Oct 02, 2019•59 min
Finding a good gynecologist with whom you resonate with can be a trick. Dr. Lisa Valle gives us great tips on interviewing and advocating to your doctor the best health for your vagina. She even shares with us some of the common and rare conditions she sees in her office and regular practices you can get into to support your sexuality. What you'll hear in this episode: Tips on finding a gynecologist who is a good fit for you How holistic approaches combined with western science can collaborate f...
Sep 18, 2019•52 min
Dating can be confusing and frustrating for everyone trying to decipher the cryptic messages of the other involved. I get it! In this episode, Dr. Ali Binazir shares with us his tips on dating for the badass, powerhouse woman from the perspective of a man and the Tao eastern philosophy. This is a great episode to help you reflect on your own patterns, internal dialogue, and misassumptions that may be blocking you from receiving the love you've been looking for. What you'll hear: Eastern wisdoms ...
Sep 05, 2019•1 hr 4 min
With so many events and change to our social climate, how is this impacting our men in the dating and relationship world? Robert Kandell is here to lay out a powerful image of what he’s seeing impacting men’s ability to connect with themselves, the powerful modern woman, and the true tactics to leading a love life more optimally. In this episode you’ll hear about: Social pressures and their impact on men in the dating world Affects of the #MeToo movement on dating and sex The ‘nice-guy’ syndrome...
Aug 21, 2019•50 min
