Episode description

Social media has permeated many aspects of our lives, including our intimate lives. In today’s show, we’re going to discuss the good, bad, and ugly of how social media has changed dating. Some of the topics we explore include how social media can stoke relationship insecurity and undermine authentic connection, as well as why social media is increasingly a terrible place to learn about relationships. We’ll also consider tips for using social media in healthier ways.

I am joined once again by Dr. Nicole McNichols an Associate Teaching Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington. Nicole is the co-author of the textbook “Human Sexuality In A Diverse Society” and author of the forthcoming book “You Could Be Having Better Sex.”

Some of the specific topics we discuss in this episode include:

• How can social media increase uncertainty about whether someone is really interested in you?
• How is the fact that people are constantly posting private details of their lives changing the way we’re approaching dating?
• When do social media interactions cross the line into cheating?
• Are there any ways that social media can be good for relationships?
• How can we use social media in a more mindful way?

You can learn more about Nicole’s work on her website, and be sure to check out her videos on TikTok as well.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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