Episode description

Interest in non-monogamy is on the rise, with nationally representative US surveys now finding that approximately one-third of American adults say their ideal relationship would be sexually open. But if you want to give this a try, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we’ll explore the questions to ask yourself before opening up, as well as common issues that arise in multi-partner relationships and how to deal with them.

My guest is Shamyra Howard, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She founded On The Green Couch, where she helps people manage sexual issues, create their best relationships, and have amazing sex. She is the resident Sex and Relationship Expert on the Peacock series Couple to Throuple.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

• Whether you’re currently single or in a relationship, what do you need to know before you start exploring non-monogamy?
• How do you set boundaries in multi-partner relationships?
• What can you do if jealousy pops up?
• If you’re practicing polyamory, how do you know when you’ve reached your saturation point?
• What is “new relationship energy,” and how do you prevent it from becoming an issue?
• What are some common red flags in poly and open relationships?

Make sure to check out Shamyra’s website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials @sexologistshamyra.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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