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Dec 02, 2020•46 min
I'm talking adoption with my fellow adoptive mom (and adoptee herself) Jillian Lauren. We've been friends for a long time and both adopted internationally and also from foster care. We get a little misty reading parts of our memoirs about bringing our boys home, and talk through what we've learned about love (and about ourselves) from the experience. In this episode we talked about: Everything You Ever Wanted: A Memoir Keto-BEAM for Keto Electrolytes Hydralyte All-Natural Electrolyte Hydration P...
Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 14 min
We talk about some of the ways we still get tripped-up by people-pleasing, and BJ gives us a meditation and some wisdom on how to deal with the collective trauma of this pandemic and election cycle. In this episode we talked about: * The Cusp At-Home Hormone Test * Boost Oxygen * ColorCoral * Stila All Day Liquid Lipstick (Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez wears it in Beso) Orgain has all kinds of organic products to fit your active lifestyle –nutrition shakes, protein powders, meal powders, bars, and eve...
Nov 11, 2020•57 min
The whole nation is living in a limbo of uncertainty right now about a close election with very high stakes. We are talking about how we are coping with the ambiguity, and strategies for “waiting well.” BJ gives us some wisdom on the importance of spirituality, and how to cultivate and create space for your spirituality. In this episode we also talked about: * Flying Embers Watermelon Chili Hard Seltzer (sweet and heat collection) * The Queen's Gambit on Netflix * Your Hormone Balance * Fluffy-A...
Nov 04, 2020•46 min
Grace Sandra talks about her journey as a biracial woman growing up with a white mom and siblings, the importance of all-black spaces, and the impact of intergeneration trauma on the black community. You can find Grace's book Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood here. In this episode we also talked about: * Well Told Home Town Maps Insulated Hydration Bottle * 23 Vitals Immune Support * SureSwatch Temporary Paint Swatches * Garment Rack * Roo's Favorite Comforter Having your ...
Oct 28, 2020•1 hr 24 min
Eugene Cho is talking about how to have a civil dialogue about politics, the polarization of political parties, and the problem with Christians aligning with a party over their moral convictions. Thou Shalt Not Be a Jerk: A Christian's Guide to Engaging Politics, Kristen and Eugene’s trip to Iraq and Lebanon Air Queen N95 Substantial Equivalent Masks The Happy Labs Chill Pills TheBalm Stainiac Ninja Coffee Maker Today’s show is brought to you by EBY, a seamless underwear membership.Eby’s are sea...
Oct 21, 2020•1 hr 2 min
We are talking with University of San Diego Journalism professor David Dozier about how to avoid falling for fake news, and what to do when people you love do. David Dozier holds a doctorate in communication research from Stanford University and is an internationally recognized expert and speaker on mass communications. BJ also gives us advice on finding mindful practices in the mundane. In this episode we also talked about: * The California Killing Field * Skin MD Natural Face & Body Cream ...
Oct 14, 2020•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 148
Anyone else finding the current news cycle to be frustrating and fatiguing? Kristen and Roo are taking the week off from guests to talk/vent about the current political climate and the President's response to his Covid infection. In this episode we also talk about: * made by Fressko Tea Infusion Glass * TheraBox Self-Care Subscription Box * elf Hydrating Concealer * A Whole New World, a Twisted Tale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 07, 2020•1 hr 15 min
Drew Hart, author and anti-racism leader is helping us understand how to engage further in anti-racism. BJ is helping us figure out how to navigate election season with family and friends whose view differ. Kristen shares her emotions around making hard school decisions for her kids and Roo shares about her upcoming eye surgery. You can find Drew's book Trouble I've Seen: Changing the Way the Church Views Racism here and you can find his book Who Will Be a Witness: Igniting Activism for God's Ju...
Sep 30, 2020•1 hr 12 min
We’re talking politics . . . specifically HOW to talk poltiics with people you disagree with. Our guest is Sarah Stewart Holland, cohost of the Pantsuit Politics podcast and author of I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations. BJ Hickman talks about what it menas to abandon yourself, and how to nurture and protect the inner child with specific attention to our listeners in the LGBTQ+ community. In this episode we talked about: Humblemaker's Vitamin...
Sep 23, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 145
Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius Collective is helping us learn to opt out of things that drain our energy, figure out how to work smarter not harder, and find the decisions we can make today to make life easier tomorrow. BJ is talking about why self-care can make us feel guilty, and sharing strategies for essential workers. In this episode we also talked about: The Lazy Genius Way: Embrace What Matters, Ditch What Doesn't, and Get Stuff Done Rollbahn Notebook Butter London Little Londoner eyesh...
Sep 16, 2020•1 hr 26 min
Author Tiffany Reese and I talk about the ongoing journey of letting go of the need for validation from others, how we've worked to let go of perfectionism, and how we are trying to teach these concepts to our kids. Bj Hickman is talking about how to create sustainable relationships where everyone gets their needs met, and whether or not the idea of “Love Languages” is a good framework for that. In this episode we also talked about: Strong Women Rising: How to Step into Your Power, Boost Your Co...
Sep 09, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 143
Arielle Lorre from The Blonde Files is sharing her journey from addiction to wellness. BJ Hickman talks about why we resort to numbing our pain, and how to stop it. In this episode we also talked about: Mad Ritual CBD Relief Balms Relief Balm: Eucalyptus + Peppermint TP Kits The Blonde Files The Blonde Files Podcast Enola Holmes books by Nancy Springer Educated by Tara Westover CocoLove Cookies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Sep 02, 2020•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 142
I'm talking with fellow therapist Lisa Damour about raising preteens and teens, how to promote empathy and self-esteem while also promoting resilience, and what the pandemic is doing to an already stressed-out generation. Lisa is the author of the books Under Pressure and Untangled. BJ is talking on self-love and is having us ask ourselves: What is the story I’ve brought into adulthood about my worthiness, and where did it come from?” In this episode we also talk about: Hyland's Young Adult Sere...
Aug 26, 2020•1 hr 7 min
Today we are talking about all things sex with Dr. Emily Jamea of Revive Therapy, an LMFT with a PhD in sexology We will be touching on libido, what to do when partners have different sexual appetites, the brain/sex connection, and more. BJ is going to be answering listener questions about narcissists and emotionally manipulative people. In this episode we also talked about: Soon Skincare Strawberry Lip Masks With Collagen Love and Fit Activewear Stand-Up Kitchen Clipboard Mindfulness Cards: Sim...
Aug 21, 2020•1 hr 12 min
8/13/2020 We are talking with Kate Bowler, author of Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I've Loved, about the human impulse to put a bow on suffering, and how it can be harmful to try to make meaning of loss as a way to circumvent grief. BJ is talking about how to help kids thrive in the midst of so much uncertainty. We also talk about unfriend and unfollowing as self-care In this episode, we also talk about: * RED Low-Calorie Chocolate * PeachSkin Microfiber Bed Sheets * Dry-erase ...
Aug 12, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 139
We are talking with Jenny Ingram about parenting teens how to launch our kids into the world. BJ is going to be giving us advice on what to do when all of the anger in the world right now is making us angry. We also talk about introverting and the need for dithering/puttering, and how that’s a challenge in the middle of a pandemic. In this episode we also talked about: * Adulting for Christians * Vital You CBD Bath Bombs * Graydon Skincare Fullmoon Serum * The New Corner Office: How the Most Suc...
Aug 05, 2020•55 min
Issa Mas is helping us unpack homeschooling and the different ways of doing it, for anyone making difficult decisions about school in the fall. BJ talks about why uncertainty is so difficult to deal with, and how to stay sane in the midst of ambiguity. In this episode we also talked about: Aui Naturals SkincareOn The Go Brush On Foundation With Sunscreen VOLO Hero Quick Dry Towel Summer Brain Quest Bioderma Shower Oil Gua Sha This episode is brought to you by LetsGetChecked.com the leading provi...
Jul 29, 2020•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 137
Christine Koh is giving us advice on how to parent smarter, not harder. Parenting is often easier when we simplify, and that there are benefits to our kids when we let ourselves off the hook, too. Christine is the co-author of the book Minimalist Parenting and co-host of the podcast Edit Your Life. In this episode we also talk about: * Ecoslay Orange Marmalade Flaxseed and Aloe Curl Definer * Pure Synergy Super B Complex Supplements * Julep Multistick * Supergoop Defense Refresh Chronic stress i...
Jul 08, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 136
We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. BJ is talking about how to manage people in our lives who have done things that are really hurtful, and Claire is giving advice on how and when to use that hydrating mist. In this episode we also talked about: * On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself * Rage Against the Minivan * Love Beauty And Planet Shampoo...
Jul 01, 2020•1 hr 4 min
We are chatting with Elyse Snipes, licensed therapist, founder of Radical Wellness Collaborative, and co-host of Trailercast, a podcast about mental health. BJ talks to us about how we can improve our self-esteem and Claire talks about how to deal with hyperpigmentation and acne scarring. In this episode we also talk about: Evidence Skincare (ESK) Ben Platt Live from Radio City Music Hall | Netflix Elyse Snipes Collective NYX Jumbo Eyeliner Pencil Yoga ball Today’s episode is also sponsored by H...
Jun 24, 2020•1 hr 16 min
Kristen talks about staying nice in the midst of a book launch. We chat with R. Eric Thomas about the weird world of writing on the internet, and finding the balance between writing about humor and pop culture and also writing about social justice issues. This episode was recorded a few weeks ago, and as we discussed how we've tried to engage people on issues of racial justice, little did we know it would soon be a national conversation. BJ gives us advice on living in authenticity, and Claire t...
Jun 17, 2020•55 min
Kristen talks about launching her book, Roo braves the public wearing of her sports bra, Claire answers if the Clarisonic lives up to the hype, and BJ discusses attachment styles. We also chat with Jonathan Merritt about learning to overcome the drive to please and perform. In this episode we also talked about: Rage Against the Minivan Learning to Speak God from Scratch Cooks Innovations Non-Stick Oven Liner Cook Once, Eat All Week: 26 Weeks of Gluten-Free, Affordable Meal Prep Acupressure Thera...
Jun 10, 2020•51 min
Kristen and Roo are talking about the murder of George Floyd and learning to be better allies, and are sharing some of the black voices that have helped shape their views. We are also talking with Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining "perfect", and her new book Untamed. In this episode we talk about: * The Condemnation of Blackness: Race, Crime, and the Making of Modern Urban America, With a New Prefaceby Khalil Gibran Muhammad * How to Be an Antiracistby Ibram X. Kendi ...
Jun 03, 2020•1 hr 16 min
We talk with Brit Barron about learning to live with fear and uncertainty, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Kristen and Roo discuss the things they’ve let go of during quarantine, and how priorities have shifted. In this episode we also talk about: Worth It: Overcome Your Fears and Embrace the Life You Were Made For Swaddle Designs Face Masks (kid sizes and designs) Dead to Me Lauren Ostrowski Fenton’s It’s OK Meditation Beeswax candles (on Etsy) Beeswax candles (on Amazon) New sp...
May 27, 2020•35 min
We are discussing strategies for keeping the house clean, if that's important to you, including how to get kids to help. We talk with Jamie Wright about divorce after a long marriage. And BJ shares help for ongoing anxiety in the midst of a pandemic. In this episode we also talk about: * The Circle Home Internet Monitor * The Half of It on Netflix * Buy Nothing Group * R+Co Badlands Dry Shampoo Paste Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
May 20, 2020•1 hr 11 min
We are chatting with Latasha Morrison, author of Be the Bridge, about racial justice, and specifically about Ahmaud Arbery and how we can take our outrage and push towards action. BJ gives us advice for that Mother's Day hangover, Roo shares a new meditation habit, and Kristen discloses some of the new difficulties of coparenting in a pandemic. In this episode we also talk about: Drunk Elephant D Bronzi Anti Pollution Sunshine Drops Healist CBD Calm Chews Smash Live Hamilton coming to Disney+ Su...
May 13, 2020•59 min
We are chatting with Michelle Keinan, wellness coach and co-founder of City Wellness Collective, about how to deal with our own stress and trauma so we aren’t taking it out on others. BJ talks about how to make meaning of this season, and Claire gives advice on dealing with razor bumps. In this episode we also talk about: * Mrs. America * Heathmade Sandalwood and Vanilla Lotion Bar * Joggers * Towel wrap Photo by niklas_hamann on Unsplash Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch...
May 07, 2020•1 hr 4 min
We’re chatting with Jen Hatmaker about how women can break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing, and BJ reads a meditation over us, while Claire answers a listener question about crow’s feet. We also talked about: * Fierce, Free and Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker * Life Elements CBD Topical Cream * ChocZero's Dark Chocolate Almonds with Sea Salt Keto Bark * Costa Farms Clean Air House Plants * Ellia Wind Down Essential Oil * Honest Company Retinol * Satin Pillow Cases Learn more about your ad...
Apr 29, 2020•1 hr 1 min
We are all struggling with how to feed a family in quarantine. It’s so much meal prep, and groceries can be inconsistent. Stacie Billis, of the Didn't I Just Feed You?! podcast,, is here to offer advice. BJ talks about the importance of self-care, and Claire answers a reader question about what to do with wiry facial hair. In this episode we also talk about: Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner: 50 Winning Ways to Cook It Up! by Stacie Billis Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook from Scratc...
Apr 22, 2020•1 hr 17 min
