The pandemic is affecting everyone, but what about dual-household families? And what do you do when each parent has a different outlook on CDC recommendations? In this episode, we interview Erin Levine from Hello Divorce to discuss how shelter-in-place orders are affecting everyone with custody schedules. Claire talks about how to deal with dry hands when we’re all washing our hands obsessively, and BJ gives us advice on how unresolved grief and trauma can effect our current collective grief and...
Apr 15, 2020•1 hr 25 min
The global pandemic requires that we stay home and pause from all the usuals — and the isolation is affecting even the most introverted of us (Kristen!). But social distancing is really about physical distancing, and we're all finding ways to remain social. In this episode, Kristen and Roo discuss staying connected and whether or not six-feet-apart-driveway-hangouts are ok (they both say no — you'll hear why). BJ answers a listener question about living in a marriage when the sex life has died. ...
Apr 08, 2020•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 123
The stress of the current pandemic has affected sleep for many of us. We are talking about strategies and routines for making sure we are sleeping well. BJ talks about how to avoid living in a state of anticipated grief, and ow to get out of the cycle of trying to control things we can't. And we give a check-in on our quarantine self-care efforts, including Roo's still-missing COVID-19 test results. In this episode we also talked about: $130 Chromebook Paww SilkSound Wireless Headphones Clip-On ...
Apr 01, 2020•1 hr 10 min
In this episode, we can’t not discuss COVID-19. We chat about our current struggles — guidelines for COVID and asthma being contradictory and how that affects Kristen; Roo still waiting for her COVID results — as well as laughing so we don’t cry. (For example, Kristen attempts explaining reality TV show plotlines to an incredulous Roo.) BJ also responds to the anxiety many of us have been having around COVID and leads us through a soothing meditation. Our Selfie Podcast Community on Facebook has...
Mar 25, 2020•1 hr 26 min
In this episode, we move from our usual format to take a deeper dive into what’s happening with COVID-19 and how it’s affecting every aspect of our lives. If you’re worried, well, you’re not alone. We have an open and honest conversation about our fears of the future, one of us getting tested for COVID, and — for the sake of a moment of levity — apocalyptic grooming and the things that are keeping us sane. Some stuff we currently can’t live without: Suddenly Homeschooling?: * Masterclass (my kid...
Mar 18, 2020•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 120
We are talking about the growing fears around the COVID-19 virus and how we are finding the balance between being prepared and not panicking. BJ talks about social anxiety vs. introversion and Claire discusses the temptation to tan before a vacation. In this episode we talked about: Trophy Skin RejuvadermMD at Home Handheld Microdermabrasion Machine SNOOZ White Noise Machine Glossier Boy Brow Glossier Lipstick Glossier Super Bounce Glossier FutureDew Dr. Bronner’s hand spray KeepCup Coronavirus ...
Mar 11, 2020•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 119
Roo and Kristen are both dealing with PTSD and talk about how it has affected their lives. BJ addresses the number one mental health topic in our community: anxiety. And Claire offers her best recommendations for moisturizing body oil. In this episode we also talked about: Fab Slabs Anti Bacterial Cutting Boards CLEARstem VITAMINscrub Daily Exfoliation TikTok App Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin Honest Company Body Oil All Good Organic Coconut Oil Skin Food w/Lavender Essential Oil Earth Lov...
Mar 04, 2020•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 118
Roo is sharing the secret project she's been working on for several months, that has blown the lid off of internet safety issues for young teens, and how it has affected her own life. Claire gives advice on who to seek help from for skincare issues, and BJ helps us make sense of our morose teenager's behavior. In this episode we also discussed: * Bark Safety Monitoring for Kids I’m a 37-Year-Old Mom & I Spent Seven Days Online as an 11-Year-Old Girl. Here’s What I Learned. * Sloane Ryan Unma...
Feb 25, 2020•1 hr 6 min
We are talking about community care as an aspect of self-care, and how to create community when you don’t have it. We also talk about hangover cures, sweatpants, and stomach ailments. Claire gives advice on peeling nails and BJ answers a listener question about women as family breadwinners. We also talked about: * Tummy Drops * Territory Foods (use this link for $50 off across your first two orders) * Amazon Sweatpants Cheers Restore * GinGins * Community care vs. self-care Shouting "self-care" ...
Feb 19, 2020•1 hr
We’re talking emergency self-care and coping skills for those moments when you are so overwhelmed that your brain is misfiring. BJ answers a listener question about how to help a partner who is struggling with addiction, and Claire gives us her best advice on dipping our toes into the world of retinol. In this episode we also talked about: Nuuly Clothing Rental from Anthropologie Graydon “The Putty” Plant-Based Moisturizer Ellia Pay Attention Essential Oil Blend Weighted Hula Hoop You Feel Like ...
Feb 12, 2020•1 hr 7 min
We are talking about differentiation with Kathleen Smith, author of Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. Claire answers your botox questions, and BJ offers support to a listener struggling with trauma after a sexual assault (a trigger warning is given before this segment.) We also talked about: * Migrastil Essential Oil Aromatherapy Roll=On Migraine Stick * Veestro Plant-Based Meal Delivery Service * Pilot G2s * Bare Republic Sunscr...
Feb 05, 2020•1 hr 1 min
Why are women so tired? How can we make modern marriage work? Roo and Kristen discuss the mental load that tends to fall on women, and how to push back on the societal norms that tell us that, despite our efforts at equality, women are still in charge of more domestic and familial tasks. We also chat with Jennifer Petriglieri, the author of Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work, and our resident therapist BJ shares some advice for readers struggling to know when ...
Jan 29, 2020•1 hr 3 min
Kristen is chatting with our new cohost Roo Powell about the difficulty of being present, and interviews Philip Shephard about the concept of embodiment and radical wholeness. We also introduce BJ Hickman, our new resident therapist who will be taking your questions (ask them here!) In this episode we talked about: * Radical Wholeness: The Embodied Present and the Ordinary Grace of Being * New Self, New World: Recovering Our Senses in the Twenty-First Century * TEPP * The Strava App * GoFiltr Al...
Jan 24, 2020•1 hr 8 min
Sarah explains her decision to step back as host, and Kristen introduces the new show format and a new co-host. We chat with Sherianna Boyle about the importance of creating space to feel our feelings. In this episode we talked about: * Emotional Detox: 7 Steps to Release Toxicity and Energize Joy * Emotional Detox for Anxiety: 7 Steps to Release Anxiety and Energize Joy * The Chalet Wrap from Mer-Sea * Mantra Mask Hemp CBD Coconut Eye Gels * Sarah’s Top Clean Beauty Picks of 2019 * Aleavia Body...
Jan 15, 2020•1 hr 3 min
We’re talking about how shame affects our sex lives with Matthis Roberts, author of the new book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms.. In this episode we also talked about: * Nalgene Water Bottles * Kristen’s Giant Water Jug * The Berkey Water Filter * Skylar Clean Perfume * 365 Makeup Remover * Drunk Elephant Cleansing Bar * Adoratherapy Mood Boost * MyChelle Refining Sugar Cleanser The Ordinary Vitamin C Serum * Lavender Epsom Salts Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash Le...
Jan 08, 2020•1 hr 4 min
It’s our annual holiday gift guide! We’ve got all kinds of self-care gift ideas for the people you love. In this episode we talked about: * Everlane Cashmere Crewneck Sweater * Herbivore Botanicals Self Love Kit * I Want To Sleep Well Gift Set * Corala Premium Weighted Blanket Set * Extract Labs Extra Strength Raspberry CBD Tincture * Library Fragrance Discovery Set * Beautycounter Hand Cream Trio * Botanical Republic Double Cleansing Kit * Birch Light Moisturizer * orangeheat Kids Apparel * Dec...
Dec 11, 2019•49 min
It’s YOUR thumbs up! We are sharing some of our listener’s best recommendations for products, books, movies, and practices that are life-giving right now. In this episode we (you) talked about: * Ole Henrikson Truth Serum * Elf Eyebrow Pencil * Christmas tree lights * The Highwomen * The Creaky Floors Christmas album (Kristen’s band!) * Smitten Kitchen Pancakes * Maybe You Should Talk to Someone * Educated by Tara Westover * DIM Supplement 200mg - DIM Diindolylmethane Plus BioPerine Schitts Cree...
Dec 04, 2019•38 min
What’s the difference between annoying friends and family, and people who are toxic? And how can we be around them over the holidays and maintain boundaries? We chat with author James Sweigert about detaching with love. In this episode we talked about: * If You Say So: My Story and How I Changed It To Save My Life * The Gratitude Jar * Dogwood Botanicals Calendula Rose Face and Body Cream * Obvi Cereal-Flavored Collagen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 27, 2019•47 min
Kristen interviews her daughter about their family gratitude practices, Sarah commiserates about how she can’t remember anything, and both share some big feelings about aging skin. Also, find out how India really feels about Claire (spoiler alert . . . there are tears.) In this episode we talked about: * Beautycounter Hand Cream Trio * Big Berkey Water Filter Bundle * NALA Personalized Deodorants * MY ALCHEMY Rose Hydrosol Toner * I Will Always Write Back * Teami Green Tea Mud Mask Canvas People...
Nov 20, 2019•49 min
Self-care can be a challenge for busy women, and Adita Lang literally wrote the book on it. We chat with her about: How women can prioritize their own needs Why cleaning out your pantry is a great way to start for any new season Why you should add coconut oil to your coffee Ways sugar can place your immune system on snooze Why salt isn't a terrible thing The plethora of benefits from making tea time a daily priority What you need to know about the four pillars of health: nutrition, exercise, sle...
Nov 06, 2019•55 min
Kristen and Sarah talk Halloween prep, blenders, and finding your glasses, and we interview Dr. Cynthia Li, a doctor who found an unexpected path after an autoimmune condition began consuming her body. Her book Brave New Medicine details the physical and existential crisis that forced her to question her own medical training. In this episode we also talked about: * NutriBullet Blender * Evolvh SmartStart Leave-In Conditioner * Eversmile Aligner Foam Cleaner and Whitener * Olive and M Face Oil * ...
Oct 23, 2019•57 min
Rebekah Lyons joins us to talk about finding rhythms of self-care, and overcoming the exhaustion of meeting the expectations of others. Kristen talks about her new question: WILL THIS BRING ME STRESS? And Claire gives an update on her new boundaries with a difficult family member. In this episode we talk about: * Rhythms of Renewal: Trading Stress and Anxiety for a Life of Peace and Purpose * RAEN Norie Glasses in Honey * Dr. Bronner's Bar Soap Peppermint * Dr. Bronner’s Castille Soap Eucalyptus...
Oct 16, 2019•1 hr 1 min
Deni Carise, Clinical Psychologist, is helping us make sense of the opioid crisis, and why so many adults are finding themselves addicted to prescription painkillers. Dr. Carise is the Chief Scientific Officer of Recovery Centers of America (RCA). RCA is dedicated to creating neighborhood-based treatment and recovery campuses that include detoxification, residential and outpatient services. Dr Carise is currently an Adjunct Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, Perelman School o...
Oct 02, 2019•53 min
It’s our 100th episode!! We are looking back at some of our favorite moments from the show. In this episode we talk about: * Charmking Compression Socks * Heating Pad for Neck and Shoulders * Family Gratitude Journal * TrophySkin JeNU Ultrasonic Infuser: * Laughter yoga in Episode 76 (see the photos here.) * The pubic hair convo in Episode 6 * Embarrassing hot doctor stories in Episode 30 * Vagifacials with Claire in Episode 23 Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories...
Sep 26, 2019•1 hr 1 min
Christine Koh joins us today to talk about how our health insurance, or lack thereof, can thwart our best efforts at self-care, and Kristen gives an update on her recent deviated septum repair and turbinate reduction with Cosmeticare in Newport Beach. In this episode we talked about: * Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More by Doing Less * Edit Your Life * Josh Rosebrook Serum Spray * Boxwalla’s October Box with African Botanics Le Masque Hydralift * BalanceMD Comprehensive Fungal a...
Sep 18, 2019•1 hr 6 min
Dr. Chad Larson, Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine, talks to us about leaky gut, the hidden symptoms of food sensitivities (like skin issues, brain fog, and anxiety) and how to determine if you have sensitivities to certain foods. Dr. Larson has a degree from Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine and a Doctor of Chiropractic degree from Southern California University of Health Sciences, and is on the clinical consulting team for Cyrex Laboratories. In this episode we talked about: Cyrex Aller...
Sep 11, 2019•1 hr 18 min
Kristen talks with author Heather Hansen about how she learned to stand up and advocate for herself. Heather is an advocacy consultant, author of The Elegant Warrior: How to Win Life's Trials Without Losing Yourself. She’s communicated her way to success as a lawyer, an advocate, and a mediator. Heather draws upon her personal experiences in the courtroom and in life, as well as her psychology degree, to help others learn to advocate for themselves. In this episode we talked about: Nespresso Ver...
Sep 04, 2019•50 min
Author Amy Orr shares her experience and research on thriving the midst of chronic pain, and Kristen and Claire talk about the tricky task of differentiating from our teenagers and their emotions. In this episode we also talked about: * Taming Chronic Pain: A Management Guide for a More Enjoyable Life * Untangled * Beauty Blender * Naked Foundation * Beautiac Makeup Brush Refill Subscription * TerraCycle’s Zero Waste Box Program * Wink Brow Perfecting Quad * Flash Eye Lift Serum Italic is a grea...
Aug 29, 2019•59 min
Kristen and Christine put on their therapist hats to talk about introversion and self-care. Christine Koh is a former music and brain neuroscientist turned author and blogger. She co-hosts the Edit Your Life Podcast and co-wrote the book Minimalist Parenting. In this episode we also talked about: * Humans Exhaust Me t-shirt* T25 with Shaun T* Plum Beauty Oil * Remake Jean Jacket from REMU apparel * CBD Essence Hemp Oil Capsules Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories...
Aug 07, 2019•1 hr 7 min
In this episode we talked about: * Coconu Organic Personal Lubricant – Oil-based* Coconu Organic Personal Lubricant – Water-based* ColorScience Brush-on Sunscreen* It’s Always Sunny* Pixel Blue Light Filtering Reader + Px Glasses * TrueDark Twilight Sleep-Hacking Glasses* Affirmators Affirmation Cards Deck Do you care about what goes in your body? If you do, then it’s time for an organic personal lubricant. Healthy and highly effective, Coconu is the natural way to elevate your lovemaking. And d...
Jul 24, 2019•53 min
