This week, the girls discuss black and white thinking. They cover common causes, conditions and disorders it can be linked to, share personal experiences with it, and offer practical tips for managing it. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/...
Jan 31, 2022•39 min•Ep. 253
The girls are reflecting on, "The Four Agreements," by Don Miguel Ruiz. They breakdown each agreement from the book, and share related personal experiences. Let's talk implementation for these 4 life-changing guidelines to personal freedom! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. See ...
Jan 24, 2022•42 min•Ep. 252
This week, we are joined by forensic psychiatrist, Dr. Tracey Marks. Dr. Marks explains what serotonin syndrome is, how it differs from serotonin toxicity, the causes and symptoms, treatment options, and how your gut can boost your mood. She also shares some fascinating new developments regarding treatment methods for depression. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com K...
Jan 17, 2022•49 min•Ep. 251
This week, we are joined by Competitive Martial Artist and Founder of Kurtz MMA, Alyssa Kurtz. Alyssa opens up about her past trauma including being in and out of psychiatric hospitals as a teen and young adult, what her rock bottom looked like, the biggest turning point in her life, and how a combination of Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Martial Arts literally saved her. Alyssa also walks us through some DBT exercises we can all practice, and offers martial arts-inspired tips for setting heal...
Jan 10, 2022•37 min•Ep. 250
This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by Relationship Expert, Rachel DeAlto. Rachel shares the #1 most important value for any healthy relationship, your new favorite analogy involving TJ Maxx (you'll never look at shopping the same), and answers so many juicy relationship questions. Get excited for responses to questions like: "How do you know when it’s time to call it quits? "What do you do when you're stuck in a pattern of dating the same type of person who isn't a fit?" Simpl...
Jan 03, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 249
This week, the girls are reflecting on the greatest and hardest things they experienced in 2021. They share what they learned, how their perspectives have changed, and the ways this year has inspired next year’s intentions and resolutions. They cover relationships, career, and health - plus offer some tips for reducing stress during the holiday season! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://w...
Dec 27, 2021•52 min•Ep. 248
This week, we are joined by consent educator and founder of Comprehensive Consent, Sarah Casper. Sarah shares how we can practice consent daily in our relationships, offers tips for communicating our desires and needs (plus specific tips for people-pleasers!), how social media has impacted the discussion around consent, and even the role that approval and popularity play. Plus, some consent exercises you can do today with the kids and adults in your lives! For exclusive rewards, and to influence...
Dec 20, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 247
This week, we're joined by craniosacral therapist and registered nurse, Joey Miller. Joey explains the science behind craniosacral therapy, how the body responds to it, and some potential results you can experience with this kind of treatment. Plus, the impact craniosacral therpay has had on Kelsey's health. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kel...
Dec 13, 2021•41 min•Ep. 246
This week, we are joined by Palliative Care Social Worker and mother, Karyn Trowbridge. Karyn shares how she navigated her grief after the loss of her daughter, how this experience changed her life - and the way she views death, and the impact it had on her marriage and other relationships. Plus, what helped Karyn cope vs. what didn’t, how others react when they find out about her loss, and her response to the question, “how many kids do you have?" For exclusive rewards, and to influence content...
Dec 06, 2021•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 245
This week, Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are joined by intimacy and relationship expert, Michaela Boehm. Michaela shares the key components of Tantra, the common misconceptions, and offers practical applications to strengthen your relationship with your partner, and yourself. Plus, the 1 area of the human body we should all be tending to A LOT more to keep things fired up in the bedroom (it’s not what you think!). For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon c...
Nov 29, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 244
We are joined by mental health counselor and anxiety expert, Justine Carino. Justine breaks down, step-by-step, the 6 phases we must go through to break a toxic relationship pattern (and make it stick). Whether you’re experiencing toxicity with a romantic partner, family member, friend, coworker - or anyone else, this episode provides the tips and tools you need in order to be hyper-aware, establish and practice new boundaries, and become the healthiest version of yourself. Plus, find out how an...
Nov 22, 2021•37 min•Ep. 243
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are joined by their former co-host (and recurring guest), Taylor Tomlinson! Taylor offers her favorite tips for long-distance relationships, and shares her personal experience. Plus, the #1 reason why some long-distance relationships fail. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com ”. See omnystudio.com/list...
Nov 15, 2021•57 min•Ep. 242
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing, "The Body Keeps the Score," by Bessel van der Kolk. The book describes how the body and mind react to trauma, shares essential tools for healing and recovery, and breaks down the differences between normal memories and traumatic ones. Plus, the girls share some personal experiences - including recent losses and strengthening their gut instinct. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.pat...
Nov 08, 2021•44 min•Ep. 241
Delanie Fischer and Kelsey Cook are discussing self-doubt. They share the negative behaviors that can be associated with self-doubt (one of these is SHOCKING), different ways to manage these feelings, and their personal go-to tips for when self-doubt creeps into their lives. Plus, enjoy a quotable buffet that’ll get you fired up! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com K...
Nov 01, 2021•52 min•Ep. 240
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer discuss creator burnout this week. They dig into the signs and symptoms, tips for managing and preventing it, and share the impact being content creators has on their mental and physical health. They also describe the role social media plays - with Kelsey being very active on socials, and Delanie now being social media free. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https...
Oct 25, 2021•38 min•Ep. 239
Kelsey Cook and Delanie Fischer are discussing people-pleasing. They cover signs that you’re a people-pleaser, how individuals develop these tendencies, why these patterns are hard to break, and offer tips for setting boundaries and prioritizing your needs. Plus, they share some shocking stories about how people-pleasing has impacted their own lives. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www...
Oct 18, 2021•49 min•Ep. 238
The girls are joined by urologist and sexual health expert, Dr. Rena Malik, to debunk UTI myths, discuss interstitial cystitis, and offer tips and treatment options for pelvic floor dysfunction. If you’ve been experiencing pain during sex, feel a stinging sensation when you pee, or suffer from chronic constipation or back pain, the answers you need might be in this episode! Plus, Taylor Tomlinson is back to chat about her theatre tour! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show...
Oct 11, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 237
Kelsey and Delanie are discussing, "Wintering," by Katherine May. This book is about the winter seasons of life (literal and metaphorical), why slowing down during tough times is necessary and important, and how we can learn to accept challenges instead of resist them. Plus, the girls share some of their go-to comforts when they find themselves “wintering.” For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: http...
Oct 04, 2021•39 min•Ep. 236
We are joined by psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and ADHD expert, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis. Dr. Sarkis shares the signs, symptoms, types, and treatment options for people who have ADHD, the biggest misconceptions about this disorder (these blew our minds), why young girls are often overlooked and not diagnosed until adulthood, as well as what partners of people with ADHD experience in their day-to-day. Plus, the shocking link between emotional abuse and ADHD...
Sep 27, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 235
This week the girls discuss empathy. They cover the 3 different types of empathy (did you know there were 3??), how empathy can impact us physically and emotionally, and things we can all do to become more empathetic. Plus, Kelsey shares a story that includes all 3 types! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See omnystudio.com/listen...
Sep 20, 2021•32 min•Ep. 234
We are joined by social justice activist and founder of "The Body is Not An Apology" movement, Sonya Renee Taylor. Sonya shares the difference between “cancel culture” and accountability, what a sincere apology includes vs. what is just absolution, whether “getting canceled” is actually a real thing, and how we can hold ourselves (and others) accountable while keeping in mind that we all make mistakes. Plus, the ONE requirement of true accountability. Grab your notebook, this episode is packed w...
Sep 13, 2021•50 min•Ep. 233
The girls are discussing social conditioning - what it is, its impact on us, and how to question the parts of it that don’t feel right. They also share some early memories around their own conditioning, how it’s shaped who they are, and how each of them continue to challenge the status quo. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://www.kelseycook.com See om...
Sep 06, 2021•36 min•Ep. 232
We are joined by award-winning journalist and activist, Noor Tagouri. Noor explains how we can ensure the information we receive and share is credible, who benefits (and profits) from our fear and the divisiveness created in traditional media outlets, and what changes would have a positive impact on the media industry as a whole - and therefore on us. Plus, practical tips for getting involved in causes you care about without the overwhelm! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the ...
Aug 30, 2021•42 min•Ep. 231
The girls are dishing out some strange facts this week. Everything from the origin of the term "spam mail," a terrifying skill that wasps have, the one family dynamic no U.S. president has ever had, why pigeons are underappreciated, and how jellyfish are probably going to take over the world at some point. Plus, some weird exercises and fun facts about Delanie and Kelsey! For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelples...
Aug 23, 2021•50 min•Ep. 230
The girls are discussing uncertainty, and all of the anxiety that can come with it. They share some tips for coping, what tools have helped them the most, offer some personal experiences, and encourage you to audit your own perspective on uncertainty. Plus, what they feel has been the BIGGEST silver lining when it comes to uncertainty in their own lives. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https:/...
Aug 16, 2021•32 min•Ep. 229
The girls are discussing damaging relationships. They share some statistics about emotional abuse in the United States, signs to be aware of in relationship dynamics, as well as open up about some tough personal experiences. If you're in need of clarity and validation, this is the episode for you. *This content may be difficult for survivors of abuse. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://ww...
Aug 09, 2021•57 min•Ep. 228
The girls are discussing work-life balance. They share what habits have actually stuck for them, what hasn't stuck at all, offer some practical tips, and describe their go-to daily systems for this never-ending pursuit. This episode is a chance to evaluate what’s working for you, what’s not, and generate some unique solutions for more joy, fulfillment, and purpose in work and life. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/s...
Aug 02, 2021•39 min•Ep. 227
The girls are sharing their top 20 simple beauty tips this week. They cover hair, skincare, makeup, outfits, some of their favorite products, what’s worked for them vs. what hasn’t, and swap some beauty fail stories. Plus, who chopped their hair off as a kid, and who was missing a chunk of their eyebrow for a while... For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https...
Jul 26, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 226
The girls are discussing jealousy - the root cause of it, what can happen if we let jealousy dictate our lives, and how we can use this emotion as a tool to achieve our goals. Plus, they're sharing some personal experiences with jealousy, and the difference in how they respond to it now vs. when they were younger. For exclusive rewards, and to influence content for the show, join our Patreon community: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Delanie: https://www.delaniefischer.com Kelsey: https://w...
Jul 19, 2021•44 min•Ep. 225
We are joined by psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and author of Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People - And Break Free, Dr. Stephanie Sarkis. Dr. Sarkis explains what gaslighting is, why people do it, and the short-term and long-term psychological effects it has on people experiencing it. She also offers examples of gaslighting, signs to be aware of, and how to set boundaries in order to protect yourself from emotional abuse. ...
Jul 12, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 224
