Delanie Fischer is joined by Board Certified Behavior Analyst, Molly Maxwell, to discuss the powerful minutiae around behavior change including the principles of reinforcement, punishment (not as scary as it sounds!), and extinction. Molly also guides Delanie through crafting a game plan for 3 different habits she's amidst building—exposing the obstacles, from all angles, that are keeping her from action and consistency. You'll never think about 30 seconds the same way again! Plus: + How Perfect...
Jul 07, 2025•1 hr 38 min•Ep. 465
Delanie Fischer is joined by Emmy-nominated songwriter, comedian, writer, and actress, Riki Lindhome, to discuss her personal experience with infertility and the diverse avenues she explored to become a parent—including egg freezing, IVF, adoption, and surrogacy. They also delve into Riki's creative process, and how it's evolved since becoming a mom. Plus: + An Inside Look at the Surrogacy Process + The Moment Riki Met Her Son + How She Organizes Her Creative Ideas More episodes related to this ...
Jun 30, 2025•51 min•Ep. 464
Be a guest on Self-Helpless! Tune in for all submission instructions for The Subscriber Stories Series. Can't wait to have you on the show! How To Apply Send submission to selfhelplesspodcast@gmail.com by July 14th and include: + Name + Email address + Topic(s) + Any additional details PS topics and perspectives not yet explored on Self-Helpless will be prioritized. You can search keywords from our catalog of 450+ episodes here: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes Delanie's Book MockTal...
Jun 23, 2025•12 min•Ep. 463
Delanie Fischer is joined by Steve Moore (Certified: Sex Addiction Therapist, Partner Trauma Therapist, Multiple Addictions Therapist) and Mark Kastleman (Board-Certified: Clinical Chaplain and Pastoral Counselor), co-hosts of The PBSE Podcast (Porn, Betrayal, Sex, and the Experts) , to share their personal experiences with pornography and sexual addiction—including root causes, signs and symptoms, raw inner dialogue around the behaviors, their recovery process and its impact on their marriages,...
Jun 16, 2025•2 hr 18 min•Ep. 462
What if the most common things we've been told about aging aren't true? Delanie Fischer is joined by health and fitness icon, author, and owner of the restaurant Stuff I Eat , Chef Babette Davis, to explore her insights on aging with health, strength, vitality, purpose, and impact. Chef Babette opens up about the trauma she's experienced, what sparked her transformation, and the practices she swears by — including what she eats and why, the only supplement she takes, her sleep habits, skincare r...
Jun 09, 2025•48 min•Ep. 461
Delanie Fischer is joined by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, hosts of The Almost 30 Podcast , to explore insights from their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond. They discuss some of their most powerful takeaways from years of podcasting with a diverse range of guests, how they've grown both personally and professionally, and the unique challenges and rewards of navigating life transitions publicly—while evolving together as friends and b...
Jun 02, 2025•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 460
Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "How do you prevent burnout, relieve pressure, and give yourself breaks as a content creator?" She's sharing the mindset that helps her stay consistent and inspired, as well as 10+ practical tips for creating in fun, simple ways when you need more breathing room, or clean breaks. Want your question answered on the next mini episode? Submit it here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com S...
May 28, 2025•22 min•Ep. 459
Delanie Fischer is joined by New York Times Bestselling Author, Janice Kaplan, to discuss the fascinating findings mentioned in her new book, What Your Body Knows About Happiness: How To Use Your Body To Change Your Mind. Did you know that whether you're holding a hot or cold drink impacts your perception of the people around you? Or how the weather can influence college applications? Also, why a heavy clipboard and a hard chair might be vital for your next meeting? Learn about all of these thou...
May 19, 2025•49 min•Ep. 458
Delanie Fischer is joined by Founder of Rowdy Girl Sanctuary and The Rancher Advocacy Program, subject of the documentary, Rowdy Girl, and hilarious force of nature, Renee King-Sonnen. 10 years ago, former cattle ranchers, Renee and her husband, Tommy, made history as the first-ever cattle ranch in the world to transition into an animal sanctuary. Renee shares the moments that led to this change of heart, the epic standoff on the ranch, and the everyday miracles that came with each small step fo...
May 12, 2025•56 min•Ep. 457
Delanie Fischer is joined by renowned psychologist, author, professor, and minister, Dr. Thema Bryant, to discuss the concepts in her book, Matters of the Heart—including healing traumas and building healthy relationships, reclaiming an old version of yourself vs. creating a new one, why we hold onto toxicity, busyness isn't just what we're paid for, and what we can do when people around us feel judged by our growth. Plus: + Do You Keep Yourself Perpetually Busy But Can't Stop? + How To Determin...
May 05, 2025•55 min•Ep. 456
Delanie Fischer is joined by Psychic Therapist and author of The Secret That's Holding You Back, Vincent Genna, to discuss a fresh approach to intuition, unlearning unconscious beliefs, and what truly shapes our collective (and individual) reality. Plus: + Debunking The Myths of "Positive Thinking" & "Tapping Into" Intuition + Why Your Ego Is Not Your Enemy (And How You'd Feel Without It) + The 2 Core Beliefs That Keep Us Stuck In Survival Mode More episodes related to this topic: Was it Gut...
Apr 28, 2025•48 min•Ep. 455
Today's "Snack" (mini episode) is a snippet from Delanie Fischer's appearance on Elise Museles' podcast, Once Upon A Food Story, where the two discuss fun, simple, and imperfect steps towards health, mindfulness, and sustainability around what we consume, habit-building, and more. Full episode with Delanie and Elise on Once Upon A Food Story here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/make-self-improvement-fun-imperfect-and-doable/id1448917116?i=1000699848628 Delanie's new book, MockTales: 50+ L...
Apr 21, 2025•14 min•Ep. 454
Delanie Fischer is joined by Certified Financial Planner and Childfree Wealth Specialist, Dr. Jay Zigmont, to discuss how vital it is to rethink traditional systems around wealth, financial planning, and retirement—because they don't work for many of us. Through the lens of a child-free lifestyle, Dr. Jay shares how to ensure that our current life, and retirement plan, actually reflects our values and goals—including the most important question to ask your financial planner to avoid an enormous ...
Apr 14, 2025•58 min•Ep. 453
Author of "Codependent Attachment Personality Patterns," Heidi Rain, shares how unmet needs in childhood show up in adult relationships, what these behaviors can actually look like, and how to break a cycle you're tired of feeling stuck in. Plus, an awesome template for healthy relationships. Full episode with Heidi Rain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/24c74079/7-shocking-truths-about-codependency-and-addiction-with-heidi-rain You can support the podcast, vote on topics, an...
Apr 07, 2025•13 min•Ep. 452
Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Kate Balestrieri, describes insidious relationship patterns, their origins (and their impact) including: the pressure to mind-read, feeling engulfed or suffocated, oversharing mature information, tasks that aren't age-appropriate, living vicariously or "best friends" parent-child dynamics, and more. Plus, how to give yourself grace if you're caught in any of these cycles, and steps you can take to create new behaviors. Full episode with Dr. Kate Balestrieri: https://ww...
Mar 31, 2025•29 min•Ep. 451
Delanie Fischer is joined by Amie McNee, Author of We Need Your Art: Stop Messing Around And Make Something , to discuss the importance of creativity for our health, communities, and more. They chat about the challenges and rewards of being a multidisciplinary artist and multi-hypenate, offer insights into their own rituals and approach to work, as well as share practical tips and mindset shifts for overcoming perfectionism, rejecting burnout culture, and thriving in your unique creative practic...
Mar 24, 2025•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 450
Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "What's Your Favorite Documentary?" and shares a bit about 20 documentaries that have been discussed, or mentioned, on Self-Helpless through the years by guests and hosts alike. Want your question answered on the next mini episode? Submit it here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.com 20 Documentaries To Watch Stink! https://www.instagram.com/stinkmovie/?hl=en Earthlings: https://www.nat...
Mar 17, 2025•11 min•Ep. 449
Delanie Fischer is joined by Licensed Psychotherapist and International & Board Certified Trauma Therapist, Támara Hill, to discuss betrayal trauma —including deceptive affection, symptoms of this kind of trauma, the initial (and ongoing) impact it can have, and a multidimensional approach to healing. Plus: + Your "Life as a Platter" Analogy & Growth Mindset + Learned Helplessness, Enmeshment, and PTSD + A Journaling Ritual You Might Want to Try Next! More episodes related to this topic:...
Mar 10, 2025•43 min•Ep. 448
Krista St-Germain, widow, mom, and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast, debunks the most common myth about grief, as well as shares what practices seem to be most effective for grieving —including what's helped her navigate the loss of her then-husband. Full episode with Krista St-Germain: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2fc9f314/rethinking-the-5-stages-of-grief-with-krista-st-germain You can support the podcast here (plus, vote on topics, submit questions for guests, and more!)...
Mar 03, 2025•8 min•Ep. 447
Delanie Fischer is joined by Literary Agent and Best-Selling Author, Lindsey Smith, to respond to your questions about the publishing and podcasting industries, share their experience with creative entrepreneurship, and offer a peak behind the curtain of their new book, MockTales: 50+ Literary Mocktails Inspired by Classic Works, Banned Books, and More. They're Addressing Questions Like: + How To Find A Lit Agent, Self vs. Traditional Publishing, and More + Making Money As A Podcaster, Streamlin...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 446
Jessica Frew, co-host of The Husband In Law Podcast, shares with Delanie her experience with betrayal, divorce, and healing after learning about her then-husband's affair and sexuality. Full episode with Jessica Frew: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-infidelity-divorce-and-friendship-with-jessica-frew If this, or past, episodes have helped you, you can support the podcast here (plus, vote on topics, submit questions for guests, and more!):: h...
Feb 17, 2025•7 min•Ep. 445
Delanie Fischer is joined by Founder of The Optimism Institute and host of Blue Sky Podcast, Bill Burke, to discuss what optimism is NOT, how we can become more optimistic about the future (and the impact of doing so), and taking simple action despite the noise of the modern age. Plus: + Are Our Brains Really Addicted To Negativity? + The Most Shocking Health Benefit of Optimism + 7 Seriously Delicious Quotes To Fire You Up More episodes related to this topic: Netflix Documentary Discussion: The...
Feb 10, 2025•51 min•Ep. 443
Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, psychotherapist, American Mental Health Counselors Association Diplomate, and author of Gaslighting, shares the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that you're in a cycle of emotional abuse —from dysfunctional behaviors that have been normalized in media, feeling trapped in a job where you're being mistreated, and insidious romantic relationships. Full episode with Dr. Sarkis: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/2a31527c/the-psychological-impact-of-gaslighting...
Feb 03, 2025•10 min•Ep. 442
Delanie Fischer chats with Host of The Losing 100 Pounds Podcast, Corinne Crabtree, about her experience with diets that don't work, what actually supported her weight loss (by losing weight the way she wants to live her life), and how to love yourself at any and every size. Full episode with Corinne Crabtree: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/19bbe1c5/no-bs-weight-loss-losing-100-pounds-with-corinne-crabtree What topic would you like covered next? Vote & submit questions ...
Jan 27, 2025•13 min•Ep. 441
Delanie Fischer is joined by Athena Trombly, who shares about her experience with a brain tumor — how she discovered it, what her surgeries and recovery have been like, and the impact it's made on her life, including her relationships, beliefs, and how she chooses to spend her time. This episode is part of our series, "Subscriber Stories." Next round of submissions: spring 2025. Plus: + Navigating Scanxiety and Spirituality + 2 Songs That Were Athena's Anthems + The Pros And Cons of Time Urgency...
Jan 20, 2025•43 min•Ep. 440
Delanie Fischer answers the question from a patron, "How Do You Organize Your Calendar As A Multi-Hyphenate?" She shares some tips that help keep her planner as clutter-free as possible, how she currently sets up her week in order to tend to 3 different streams of revenue as a writer and podcaster, and what has NOT worked in the past. Want your question answered on the next mini episode? Submit it here: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless Your Host, Delanie Fischer: https://www.delaniefischer.c...
Jan 13, 2025•17 min•Ep. 439
Could you imagine your kid going from hating school to LOVING it so much they wish they even had it on weeknds? Delanie Fischer is joined by former public school teacher, mom, and Founder and Director of Fáilte Waldorf Microschool, Jennifer Kempin, to share her experience with homeschooling her son, the impact this transition made on him, and how it inspired her to help other kids who struggle in conventional school settings. Whether your kid is deeply unhappy at school and you're unsure how to ...
Jan 06, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 438
Certified Coach and HR Expert, Shelby McGuire Canlas, chats with Delanie about the importance of prioritizing your mental health and wellbeing during a job search, why taking a job "for the meantime" might be exactly the kind of breather you need (for your happiness and long-term success), and how to let go of the "dream job" pressure + tips for your next career move. Full episode with Shelby McGuire Canlas: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/21ce2f57/how-to-crush-the-job-searc...
Dec 30, 2024•15 min•Ep. 437
Body-centered Collage Artist, Tatum Elizabeth, chats with Delanie about the creative process, imposter syndrome, embracing embarrassment, tips for getting started on a new project, and how we can all submit to be featured in Tatum's next collage! Full episode with Tatum Elizabeth: https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/episodes/episode/245a1122/how-a-collage-changed-my-life-with-tatum-elizabeth Get Featured In Tatum's Next Art Piece: https://www.tatumelizabethartistry.com/ What topic would you like...
Dec 23, 2024•14 min•Ep. 436
Delanie Fischer is joined by board-certified psychologist and insomnia treatment specialist, Dr. Brian F. Licuanan, to discuss why insomnia happens, treatment options, and fascinating findings around the science of sleep. Dr. Brian shares how we can improve our sleep hygiene, information about sleep disorders, and the relationship between addiction and insomnia. Plus: + How Long Should It Really Take You To Fall Asleep? + What To Stop Doing vs. Start Doing in Bed ASAP + Segmented Sleep, Nap Time...
Dec 16, 2024•54 min•Ep. 435
