Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, AKA @thesecurerelationship (1M+) joins the show today to share her expertise on the role that attachment theory plays in relationships. Julie shares advice on how to improve communication in relationships, how to stay connected during conflict, and how to approach difficult situations productively and lovingly. We hear why couples have the same fight over and over, the most common relationship issues she sees in her clients, what steps we can take to achieve secure...
Jan 30, 2024•54 min
On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Stephanie, a 32-year-old who opens up about being a late bloomer with little dating experience. We hear about what has held her back from dating, what it feels like trying to date now, how she has navigated friendships changing as people enter different life phases, and what she wishes people understood better about late bloomers. If you want to come on an Unfiltered episode, email me! Send your story to seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your a...
Jan 25, 2024•36 min
Tinah Ogalo, host of In Your Twentys Podcast, makes her return to the SOP stage after a long year and a half. We hear about how Tinah put dating on the back burner as she focused on her her career, what it was like navigating her FGirl phase, and how she now feels about reprioritizing dating and getting back on the apps. Tinah and I debate splitting the bill, if texting ruined dating, day vs night dates, if ghosting is ever okay, what decade we would most want to date in, and so much more. Follo...
Jan 23, 2024•52 min
I'm joined by a New Yorker named Maddie who opens up about never having been in a relationship before, and why she thinks it's her biggest green flag. We discuss why someone can still have relationship experience if they’ve never been in a relationship, how to navigate dating and relationship advice with friends, and why you shouldn’t feel like you’re falling behind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 18, 2024•51 min
I’m joined by comedian Tess Tregellas to discuss whether being a hopeless romantic is a blessing or a curse. We chat about what makes a date epic, why you should always shoot your shot, meeting people IRL, and Tess’s best and worst dating stories. Finally, we hear about Tess’s upcoming 4th wedding and why we all need to be a part of it. Get tickets to wedding crashers here Follow Tess @tesstreg on Instagram and @tesstregellas on TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoic...
Jan 16, 2024•55 min
My cousin-in-law Angie joins the podcast to open up about a very serious medical issue she faced earlier this year. When Angie started experiencing lethargy, excess bleeding during her periods, hair loss, and frequent urination, her doctors chalked it up to stress and anxiety, and she chalked it up to "being 32." As her list of symptoms got longer and more intense, Angie found herself going to a series of doctors to figure out what was wrong. Angie learned there was a Fibroid growing in her uter...
Jan 11, 2024•49 min
Backed by incredibly popular demand, Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for the 4th episode of "Ask The Guys Anything." They answer your questions about whether or not guys are actually bad texters, how they would feel if their friend dated someone they used to date, if guys "know" in 1-2 months, and if guys put girls in boxes (hookup box vs girlfriend box). We disucss unmatching, assessing chemistry, ending on good terms, what would make a guy actually want to commit, and more. Learn more about...
Jan 09, 2024•1 hr 19 min
UPDATE: Tyler proposed to Nikki while skiing in Colorado just days after recording this episode! I'm joined by Nikki, a 28-year-old woman who shares her story of reconnecting with her now-fiancé years after their first few dates. We hear how their relationship unfolded and led to a few years of long distance followed by moving in together. We discuss how things change when you move in with your partner, why it's important to keep learning about each other and growing together. Learn more about y...
Jan 04, 2024•47 min
I'm joined by Damona Hoffman, host of Dates And Mates Podcast, contributor to the Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post, and author of F The Fairytale, a brand new book that you should order right this minute. Damona shares the four biggest dating myths that we need to ditch to find and build healthy, lasting relationships. We debate if we believe in soulmates, what should and shouldn't be on your checklist, why we can't rely on – or ditch – the dating apps entirely, and so much more...
Jan 02, 2024•54 min
Bonus episode! I sit down with my fiancé Jake (and Barkley) for our first annual recap recording all of our dates from the year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 31, 2023•1 hr 1 min
TW: This conversation may triggering for those with sensitivities around sexual assault. I’m joined by a 30-year-old anonymous guest who opens up about searching for closure for eight years after her five-year relationship ended. She shares how she reconnected with him after not speaking for years, and we hear how she learned that closure is something you cannot get from someone else. Finally, we have a serious and candid conversation about our experiences with sexual assault. Learn more about y...
Dec 28, 2023•56 min
Welcome to the Third Annual End of Year Episode! I sit down with my Associate Producer, Camila Vola, to reflect on 2023 and look ahead to 2024. We discuss my highs and lows of the year, biggest wins and biggest challenges, accomplished goals, and more. We talk about wedding planning, favorite episodes and guests, New Year's resolutions, mindset shifts, how to best approach dating in the new year, and so much more. Thank you guys for the best 2023 ever. Cheers to a happy and healthy 2024! Learn m...
Dec 26, 2023•53 min
I'm joined by a 25-year-old male listener from South Africa, who shares the painful dating experience he recently went through and how he's navigating his healing era. Then he answers your questions about what guys want to see on a dating app profile, what to do if you're a bad texter, whether or not men put you in a hookup vs date box, what his dealbreakers are, if it matters which gender says ILY first, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 21, 2023•49 min
I'm joined by Beth Gulotta, LMHC, Founder and Owner of NYC Therapeutic Wellness, and host of Quiet The Clock Podcast. Beth and I discuss the societal pressures that many women face to meet their person, settle down, and have children all by a certain age. We hear how Beth met her now-husband at 34 and why she's glad she didn't meet him any sooner. We discuss why we should challenge society's expectations and pave our paths, how to overcome the feeling that you're falling behind, what to do if yo...
Dec 19, 2023•49 min
On this solo unfiltered, I'm answering your questions about fears I have for marriage, fighting in relationships, people having photos of their ex on their Instagram, friendships changing, how I knew Jake was the one, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 14, 2023•38 min
TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities surrounding disordered eating I'm joined by health and wellness creator, Jordanna Drazin AKA The Daily Schvitz! We hear how Jordanna met her long-term boyfriend on Birthright while she was dating someone else. We hear how they ended up reconnecting once she was single, and how she wasn't sure if their first date was actually a date or a catch-up as just friends. We discuss changing in your twenties, maintaining independence in relati...
Dec 12, 2023•52 min
I'm joined by a 66-year-old divorcee who opens up about looking for love a third time around. She opens up what she learned from her first two marriages, what she say if she could go back and give her younger self advice, and what she's looking for now. We hear about her dating app experiences including which apps she's using, what points she's experiencing, and how she makes the most of each date. Finally, she shares some hilarious date fails along with the best advice she has for all of us. Le...
Dec 07, 2023•46 min
I’m joined by Dara Pollak and Kunal Arora, hosts of You Both Suck podcast, to decide once and for all what the best type of date is: dinner, drinks, or activities. We chat splitting the bill, whether or not there is such thing as too much therapy, and what red flags we missed in our last relationships. We answer listener questions about navigating a situation where you realize you don’t want something casual with someone you hooked up with, and how to find out if someone you met IRL is in a rela...
Dec 05, 2023•59 min
On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Jason, a 34-year-old from Cape Town living in London. He shares how men rarely open up about their dating lives and feelings to each other, which can lead to a feeling of loneliness when going through something. He takes us through situations with four women he met last year on dating apps that all ended in a similar way. We hear what he's learned from these experiences, how they've impacted him, and what he's hoping for moving forward in his dating life. Learn ...
Nov 30, 2023•54 min
I’m joined by Dani Kravette, a longtime friend and 27 year old navigating modern dating in NYC. We chat about being a “boyfriend girl,” feeling surrounded by friends in relationships, and debate if someone’s reason for ending things actually matters. We dissect her Hinge profile, chat about not drinking on dates, discuss her dealbreakers, and cackle over her hilarious dating stories. No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next ...
Nov 28, 2023•1 hr
On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a 40-year-old woman who opens up about getting divorced after 15 years of marriage to her high school sweetheart. She shares how their relationship changed over time and how they were able to end things on positive terms. We hear what it was like to be independent for the first time ever in her mid-thirties and how she processed the divorce by moving to LA and taking time to heal. Finally, we hear what it was like dating for the first time and what's been going ...
Nov 23, 2023•43 min
TikToker Scott Erickson joins the Seeing Other People family this week! He opens up about what led to his divorce, how he and his ex-wife have managed to stay friends, and the good, bad, and ugly about dating after divorce. We chat about the hardest part of dating apps and dating, traveling for first dates, when you should move in with your partner, how the death of a loved one impacts your dating life, and much more. Follow Scott on Instagram @scotterickson13 and TikTok @thescotterickson Learn ...
Nov 21, 2023•55 min
I’m joined by an anonymous 25-year-old woman who lives in NYC and recently got out of a four-year long-distance relationship. We discuss the pros and cons of long-distance relationships, how we firmly believe that long-distance relationships need an end date, and how being long-distance helped her healing process once they broke up. She shares what has surprised her about dating in NYC, and at the very end of the episode, she tells us one of the most profound things any Unfiltered guest has ever...
Nov 16, 2023•50 min
I'm joined by Leeor Gal, LMFT, AKA The Therapy Gal, to discuss dating burnout and feeling anxious about never finding your person. We discuss mindset shifts for when you're feeling down about your relationship status, what to say to your annoying relatives during the holidays when they ask why you're still single, how to navigate the anxiety around approaching someone IRL, and more. Follow Leeor at @thetherapygal on tiktok and @the_therapy_gal on IG and check out thetherapygal.com to inquire abo...
Nov 14, 2023•53 min
I'm joined by a woman who opens up about an emotionally abusive relationship she was in and how she was able to grow and learn from it, and break her unhealthy dating patterns. We hear how he "removed labels" from the relationship and the emotional impact it had on he, how he begged to stay friends after she learned he was cheating, and how he later came back and expressed how he wished he could have loved her. She shares what she's learned from dating podcasts and how she's applied them to her ...
Nov 09, 2023•58 min
We're celebrating your dating wins in this very special solo episode! I talk about the importance of staying positive and finding little wins every step of the way when dating. Then, I highlight your dating wins about firsts, vulnerability, prioritizing yourself, breaking bad habits, and more. No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at w...
Nov 07, 2023•43 min
I'm joined by a 29-year-old woman who recently divorced her husband of five years. She shares how she and her ex-husband grew apart throughout their marriage, to a point where their lives and futures were no longer aligning. She talks us through her decision to go to therapy hoping to fix her marriage, but how her therapist helped her realize that fixing it may not have been the answer. Finally, we discuss what she's looking for now and what her experience has been like dating and using dating a...
Nov 02, 2023•43 min
I'm joined by Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, to discuss why we find ourselves in unhealthy dating patterns and how to stop. We chat about the importance of putting in the work, taking accountability, and recognizing when something isn't working for you. We answer listener questions about what to do if someone isn't making time for you and keeps rescheduling, how much couples should challenge each other, and how to navigate a situation where someone ends things with you but still wants to be friends. Chec...
Oct 31, 2023•50 min
Jake and I sit down for a dramatic game of Where Do You Draw The Line to figure out what our relationship dealbreakers are. We debate topics like sharing locations, talking about exes, cheating, finances, prenups and more. Play Where Do You Draw The Line on your next date, with your bffs, or during family dinner! Grab your box at wdydtl.com/buy and use code ILANA for 20% off! This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEO...
Oct 26, 2023•44 min
Dr. Morgan Anderson, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, and host of Let's Get Vulnerable joins us today to discuss going from an unhealthy or traumatic relationship to a healthy relationship. We discuss where our attachment styles can come from, what steps we need to take to heal them, and how the research around attachment theory has changed over time. We open up about our past traumatic relationships, how they impacted us, and how we were able to move past them and find loving, heal...
Oct 24, 2023•53 min
