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Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunnredcircle.com
Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Join host Ilana and both well-known and anonymous, unfiltered guests as they navigate the complexities and realities of modern dating. From first dates to breakups, they’re not afraid to bare all as they dive deep into what it means to be single, in a relationship, or anything in between. Whether you're looking for love, or just want to laugh and commiserate with others, tune in to explore the rollercoaster that is the ever-evolving world of dating. And in the meantime, follow along @seeingotherpeople to feel a little less alone.
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Episodes

36 Questions that Lead to Love with Mady Maio

Mady Maio, founder of Camber app and host of Okay Sis, joins the show today. We answer some of the 36 Questions that Lead to Love in honor of Mady’s new video podcast “36 Questions Later,” and deep dive into discussions about the concept of fame, how you can’t make everybody happy, and our desire to not care what others think. Mady shares how she and her long-term boyfriend started out as friends and transitioned to more, and we hear how they’ve grown as individuals and partners throughout their...

Mar 21, 20231 hr 13 minSeason 1Ep. 217

I'M ENGAGED!

My fiancé Jake (AH!) joins me to recap our proposal week! We answer your questions about when we knew we wanted to marry each other, if/when we talked about a timeline for getting engaged, and if he asked my parents’ permission. We dive into our ring-making process, what “ring shopping” was like, how far in advance he got the ring, and more. Finally, we talk about our proposal day, whether or not I knew, and how the proposal unfolded. Jake shares his thoughts going into popping the question, and...

Mar 16, 202349 minEp. 216

How to Express Your Needs

I’m joined by Ariella Azaraf, LCSW, to talk about expressing your needs, setting boundaries, and managing your dating anxiety. We discuss the language to use when you want to communicate about your needs (or your needs not being met) to someone new, when and how to trust your gut and intuition, coping with being blindsided, and what to do when you’re fresh out of a breakup and are afraid to go to the places that remind you of them. Ariella shares her expertise on where your anxiety comes from, w...

Mar 14, 20231 hr 12 minEp. 214

Losing my Job at Hinge, Starting Seeing Other People, and My Biggest Dating Tips

I’m sharing one of my favorite podcast interviews I’ve experienced to date! Elevation Nation’s Sam Pantich and Parker Yablon invited me onto their show to discuss how I got to where I am today. We discuss my career path, including my struggle in the music industry post-college, my time at Hinge, and how I made the decision to go full time with Seeing Other People. I open up about the challenges I faced, my internal struggles, and what led me to start podcasting and opening up about mid dating li...

Mar 09, 20231 hr 16 minSeason 1Ep. 213

Dating for Fun, Not for Love

I’m joined by Brianna Apple, a 23 year old Tiktoker navigating the NYC dating scene. We discuss the nuances of why she’s dating for fun and not for love right now, and how she navigates getting to know people without being misleading about her intentions. She shares why she has her heart guarded, her biggest dating pet peeves, and hilarious dating fails. We discuss red flags we give off, the best and worst parts of dating in your 20s, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...

Mar 07, 20231 hr

"Getting Through A Blindsided Breakup"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 40 year old woman who shares the story of how she developed a relationship with an old friend after he became her white knight during her divorce. We hear how they went from being friends (and roommates) to partners, and how their relationship went from happy and healthy to toxic, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. She shares red flags she missed, why she didn’t end it even though she was unhappy, and how they finally parted ways. We hear what has helped her get t...

Mar 02, 20231 hr 7 minSeason 1Ep. 212

How to Stop Overthinking

I’m joined by Sabrina Bendory, Author of “You’re Overthinking It” and “10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men.” Sabrina shares insight into what men really want, red flags that you should never ignore, and how we can stop overthinking. We discuss how to stop obsessing over someone early on, whether or not you should date multiple people at a time, mistakes we made in our dating lives, and whether or not men marry the woman in front of them when they’re ready. Learn more about your ad choi...

Feb 28, 20231 hr 2 minEp. 211

"Learning to Accept Myself"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Laurina Sachetti, host of Funny Girl Podcast to talk about her experience embracing her sexuality. We learned what led her to become pansexual (and what that means), what signs she saw and may have ignored, and how she began to experiment dating people of different genders and sexual orientations. Laurina shares how the queer community has embraced her, how she navigates telling someone she’s queer when on a date, and what differences she’s noticed between dating men an...

Feb 23, 202354 min

How to Be a Better Listener

I’m joined by Orly Israel, founder of Orly’s Listening Table, to discuss all things listening and communication. We hear about why he started Orly’s listening table, what he’s learned from it, and the impact it’s had. We discuss how to practice being a better listener, when should you just listen vs offer advice, what to do when you disagree with someone who is venting to you, tips for spicing up communication in your daily lives, the craziest stories he’s heard while doing Orly’s listening tabl...

Feb 21, 20231 hr 18 min

"Can Relationships End on Good Terms?"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Julia Mazur, host of Pretty Much Done and former Tinder employee, to discuss her journey leaving a toxic relationship, learning to love herself, what she’s learned from her recent breakup, how she overcame the societal / internal pressure to get married and start a family, and more. We hear how her she ended her previous relationship on good terms, what it was like working at Tinder, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 16, 20231 hr 2 min

Recently Single Behavior, Missing an Ex, and How to Flirt

Erica Shea (previously on the episode “Do You Really Find Love When You Least Expect It?” is back to update us on what happened with the guy she met…when she least expected it. We hear why it didn’t work out, how things ended, how her healing process has been, and what she’s learned from the breakup. We chat about RSB, AKA “Recent Single Behavior,” and if Erica still believes you find love when you least expect it, even after getting her heart broken. We answer listener questions about reaching ...

Feb 14, 20231 hr 17 min

"Dating in Different Countires"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by Kyla who shares her experiences dating people from all around the world during her solo travels. We hear what led her to start traveling on her own, how she went about meeting people, the differences in her dating experiences abroad vs in America, what she learned from dating in different countries, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feb 09, 202345 min

Don't Believe What You See on Social Media with Hilary Weinstein, LCSW

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW, founder of HLW therapy to discuss what she has learned while going through the most difficult time of her life. Hilary opens up about getting engaged as her mother’s four year battle with ovarian cancer was coming to a devastating end. We discuss the lack of transparency on social media, how we compare ourselves and our lives to others based on what we see online, and how everyone’s high highs are on display while the low lows are kept behind closed doors. W...

Feb 07, 20231 hr 12 min

"I Dated a Nazi"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by a woman who tells the story of meeting a man from Bumble, developing a relationship with him, and then learning that he's a member of a Nationalist organization. We hear how he told her this, what her reaction was, and why she decided to continue seeing him. She shares the internal struggle she faced because of this, her experience going to his Nationalist chapter Christmas party, whether or not she told her friends, why she continued to date him despite his beliefs, an...

Feb 02, 202359 min

Blindsided Breakups, Dating App Tips & Meeting People IRL

I’m joined by Morgan Raum, Lox Club’s Head of Membership and creator of @tooomuchfoood. Morgan opens up about taking it slow at the start of a new relationship, the pressure of being their +1 at weddings in the early stages of dating, and the blindsided breakup she recently went through. We chat about the biggest mistakes people are making on dating apps and how to improve your profile. Finally, we discuss Morgan’s viral “I’m Single” series where she became known as the girl who walked around pa...

Jan 31, 20231 hr 5 min

"I Was the Other Woman for a Year and Didn't Know It"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by a woman who tells the story of how she accidentally ended up in a long distance relationship with a man she met on Bumble while he was visiting NYC from Australia. We hear about their rom-com worthy first date, why they decided to keep in touch, and how deep their connection got despite the distance. She shares how spotted some red flags along the way, but was easily able to justify them and continue forward, until she received a message from his girlfriend of over a de...

Jan 26, 20231 hr 21 min

When to Call it Quits & How to Get Back Out There

I'm joined by Rudy A, TikToker and host of the Rude Advice podcast. We discuss how he went from being happily married to having an affair, why he and his ex-wife decided to finally call it quits, and what going through his divorce was like. Rudy shares his advice for healing after a breakup or divorce, rediscovering yourself / rebuilding your life, and getting back out there. We answer listener questions about dating someone who isn't on the same page about wanting to get married, why someone wo...

Jan 24, 20231 hr 10 min

"My Ex-Wife Realized She's a Lesbian 14 Years into Marriage"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who tells the story of how his 14-year marriage ended because his wife realized she was a lesbian. We hear how he reacted to the news, and how he and his ex-wife created a wonderful co-parenting situation filled with gratitude, empathy, and flexibility. He opens up about falling in love, with a woman we refer to as “A,” soon after he dipped his toe back in the dating pool. He shares how this relationship was the best six months of his life, while also being filled...

Jan 19, 202353 min

Relationship Timelines, Proposal Fails & Working With Your Partner with Olivia Landau

I’m joined by Olivia Landau, Founder & CEO of The Clear Cut, the insanely popular bespoke diamond and fine jewelry company. We hear Olivia she made the first move with her now-husband Kyle, their emotional rollercoaster of a proposal story, why they ended up starting The Clear Cut together despite their families telling them not to go into business together, and what it’s like working with your spouse. We discuss how social media has completely changed the proposal process and led to fewer s...

Jan 17, 20231 hr

"When You 'Do Everything Right' & It Still Doesn't Work Out"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by a man who went through a painful breakup in Mid-August. We hear how the situation spawned a lot of self-discovery and growth in the past four months as he's been healing, learning, and reflecting. We discuss how to read mixed signals, what to do when someone isn't ready to commit but you are, and how to process the feedback that "you did everything right," but it didn't work out anyway. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jan 12, 202356 min

Talk About Sex Before Having It

I’m joined by Tatiana Fogt, sexuality educator and host of Bedside, a podcast series & activist platform, where she explores sexual health & wellness in the digital age. We discuss having non awkward dialogues surrounding sex, setting clear boundaries, and assessing someone’s intentions. Tatiana answers listener questions about porn consumption, whether you should discuss how you would handle an unplanned pregnancy before having sex with someone, what to do if your sex drive and your par...

Jan 10, 20231 hr 19 min

"Surviving and Thriving After a Toxic Relationship"

I'm joined by a 30 year old woman who shares the story of her two year long toxic relationship involving cheating, manipulation, and emotional abuse. She shares how the relationship started off like a fairytale, but then became an endless cycle of explosive fights, and silent treatments followed by outpours of affection and apologies for his behavior. We discuss if the bad times were worth the good times, the red flags she now sees in hindsight, and what advice she would give to anyone going thr...

Jan 05, 20231 hr 6 min

Adulting 101: Dating Mistakes, Losing Dream Jobs, and Friendship Breakups

On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman and Dani Katowitz, two of my good friends who I met via social media in 2022. We discuss all things navigating your twenties from career to friendship to dating to mental health and social media. We open up about getting let go from our “dream jobs,” the pressure we put on ourselves to find boyfriends, how we realized that some of our friendship weren’t serving us, why we feel like we need to people please, what advice we would give to our younger s...

Jan 03, 20231 hr 14 min

Ilana's 2022: Highs & Lows, Lessons Learned, My Struggles & More

I’m joined by my associate producer, Camila Vola, to reflect back on 2022 and look ahead to 2023. We discuss my highs and lows, what lessons I learned, who had the biggest impact on my year, challenges I overcame, and goals I accomplished (plus goals I did not). I open up about my fears, what I’m self-conscious about, and what my struggles are with this career path. We chat about favorite episodes, the best pieces of advice, what I want to accomplish in the new year, and more. Learn more about y...

Dec 29, 20221 hr 22 min

Pressure & Expectations from Family & Culture

I'm joined by South Asian Therapist Fatema Jivanjee-Shakir, LMSW, to discuss the nuances of South Asian dating culture and how much emphasis our society places on marriage. We discuss the shame and secrecy around dating in South Asian culture, how individuals are expected to not date in their teenage years and get married in their early twenties, the intersection of food and body image with dating and relationships, and more. Fatema shares advice on how to become more confident in your own skin ...

Dec 27, 20221 hr 9 min

"I Caught Him Cheating and Took Him Back"

UNFILTERED: An anonymous listener shares the story of the relationship she was in over the last year where she caught her boyfriend cheating on her. We hear how the relationship began, when and how she found out he was being unfaithful, if she confronted him about it, and why she decided to take him back. She shares if she was able to truly forgive him, if the relationship was able to progress forward, how her loved ones felt about the situation, and how it impacted her mental health and self wo...

Dec 22, 20221 hr 6 min

The Biggest Challenges that Couples are Facing + Listener Q’s

I'm joined by Zac Stern, Founder, and CEO of Official, the app for enhancing your relationships. We discuss why dating apps aren’t setting us up for relationship success, the biggest challenges that couples are facing right now, and why we’re so afraid to communicate with our crushes and partners. Zac walks us through what led him to start Official and why we’re more comfortable on our phones than IRL. We answer listener questions about date ideas, how to identify someone’s intentions, are they ...

Dec 20, 202258 min

So You Have a Crush on Your Coworker? with Kristen and Sam

I'm joined by Kristen and Sam, my friends who are getting married in 2023 who – you guessed it – met at work. We hear how Kristen was crushing on Sam from afar and what steps she took to assess if there was mutual interest and make her move. They share Sam's initial hesitations, how they navigated the early stages of figuring out what was between them while keeping things professional, and if they told their colleagues that they were together. We discuss getting over your work crush who isn't in...

Dec 15, 20221 hr 8 min

Avoiding, Leaving, and Recovering From Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman

I'm joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jaime Zuckerman. We discuss the difference between a toxic relationship and a narcissistic relationship, early signs someone might be a narcissist, the difference between love bombing vs. someone being really interested in you, if a narcissist can ever change, and what causes someone to become a narcissist. We discuss how to spot narcissistic characteristics in friends and family members, what to do if your friend is dating a...

Dec 13, 20221 hr 6 min

"Neurodiversity in Modern Dating"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Hannah, a 28-year-old woman who shares her experience living and dating with ADHD. We hear when and how she got her diagnosis and in what ways her ADHD impacts her day-to-day life and her dating life. Hannah helps answer listener ADHD-related questions including dealing with a lack of texts, how your non-ADHD partner can best support you, when to mention your ADHD to someone new, how to avoid overpowering the conversation and interrupting someone, what to do when someon...

Dec 08, 202257 min
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