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Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunnredcircle.com
Modern dating sucks, but dating expert Ilana Dunn is here to make it suck just a little bit less. Join host Ilana and both well-known and anonymous, unfiltered guests as they navigate the complexities and realities of modern dating. From first dates to breakups, they’re not afraid to bare all as they dive deep into what it means to be single, in a relationship, or anything in between. Whether you're looking for love, or just want to laugh and commiserate with others, tune in to explore the rollercoaster that is the ever-evolving world of dating. And in the meantime, follow along @seeingotherpeople to feel a little less alone.
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Episodes

Chemistry vs. Compatibility with Matchmaker Maria

I'm joined by Maria Avgitidis, aka Matchmaker Maria, founder of Agape Match to chat all things chemistry and compatibility. We discuss if singles are looking for the wrong things, how we should assess first dates, how to meet people IRL, and what you should look for when setting friends up. Maria shares advice on how to approach important conversations like wanting children, finances, and cultural differences. We answer listener questions about seeking intellectual connections, what to do when s...

Dec 06, 20221 hr 8 min

How Losing Loved Ones Impacts Your Love Life with Jamie Stone

I’m joined by Jamie Stone, blogger at honestlyjamie.com and host of the “A Little Too Much” podcast. Jamie opens up about losing her younger sister in 2016 and her dad in 2019 and how it’s impacted her life, dating journey, relationships, and friendships. We discuss why we’re afraid to talk about death, how you lose friends during the grieving process, how her losses amplified her fear of abandonment, bonding with someone else who has experienced loss like this, what to say when it comes up on d...

Dec 01, 20221 hr 2 min

What Men Wish Women Did Differently in Dating with Tripp Kramer

I’m joined by Tripp Kramer, world-renowned dating men’s dating coach and host of the “How to Talk to Girls” podcast. Tripp and I discuss the biggest misconceptions that men and women have about each other and what men wish women did differently in dating. We answer listener questions from women about assessing interest, paying for dates, friend zoning, bringing up exclusivity, and nerves going into your first trip with a new significant other. We answer questions from guys about when to make a m...

Nov 29, 20221 hr 4 min

Situationships, Approaching Someone IRL & First Date Anxiety

Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode I answer listener questions about how to enjoy the holidays when you're single, how to get over a situationship when you're in the same friend group, what to do if the idea of going on a date causes so much anxiety, tips for bonding with your significant other's family, advice for believing your healthy relatioship is real, what to do when things ended but you see them every time you go to the gym, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm...

Nov 24, 202251 min

Make Your Own Dating Rules with Eli Rallo

I’m joined by Eli Rallo, writer, content creator, host of the podcast Miss Congeniality, and Author of “I Didn’t Know I Needed This” coming out next Fall, 2023. Eli and I discuss how to create your own rules that work for you in dating, what to do if you get ghosted, and combatting loneliness and seasonal depression. Eli shares how she manifested her boyfriend and teaches us a Manifestation 101 lesson. We answer listener questions about making new friends in a new city, moving in with your partn...

Nov 22, 20221 hr 11 min

"How to Make a Relationship Last"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by my college professor, Keith Giglio, and his wife, Juliet Giglio, a husband-wife screenwriting duo who met cute in an elevator while attending NYU Grad Film school (and have produced films including A Cinderella Story, Return to Halloweentown, Disney’s Tarzan & more). We chat about their first novel and my personal favorite book ever, THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS, a holiday romcom that so many love stories can relate to. We hear about how they got married while still in s...

Nov 17, 202252 min

Saving Modern Dating with Dateable's Julie and Yue

I’m joined by Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu, hosts of Dateable podcast. We’re chatting all about why dating sucks and how we each can make it better. We discuss the biggest mistakes singles are making in their dating lives, the importance of focusing on the positives when dating, how we can turn each date into a learning experience, what we’ve learned from our past, and more. Listen to Dateable and follow along on Instagram! Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Check out Adobe Express he...

Nov 15, 20221 hr 3 min

"Getting Ghosted Led Me to Meet the Love of My Life'"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 29-year-old woman who tells us how got ghosted after dating someone for months whom she met through her parents. We talk about the red flags she noticed retrospectively, when things shifted, and how he went about ghosting her. We hear what getting back into dating after this experience was like, and how it ultimately led her to reconnect with her now partner and the love of her life, who she had previously written off because of distance. Learn more about your ad choi...

Nov 10, 202259 min

How to Tell if a Guy is Interested In You with Jake Tuff

I’m joined by my friend Jake Tuff who opens up about a breakup that he just went through. We hear what he’s learned from going through it, what his breakup recovery looks like, and if he has any regrets about how everything went down. He talks about moving to a new place and starting over when you don’t know many people, learning his love language, and how he navigates his many female friendships when he’s in a relationship. Jake answers listener questions about what guys think of the phrase “If...

Nov 08, 20221 hr 7 min

"Dating an Addict"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 29 year old woman who opens up about her eight year relationship that ultimately ended because of her partner’s addiction to alcohol. She shares how his struggle with alcohol use went unnoticed during college as heavy drinking is common in greek life culture, but how it became more noticible post-grad, once they lived together, and when covid hit. She shares how she tried to support him and encourage him to be sober, how his alcohol use impacted her, and what it final...

Nov 03, 20221 hr 3 min

Taking Breaks & Being Friends with Exes

I’m joined by Leslie Grant, host of Interstates and Heartbreak, to discuss taking breaks & staying in touch with exes. We chat about whether or not taking a break can work, what situations would allow for it to work, and when a break is just a precursor to a breakup. We discuss giving someone a second chance, criteria for being friends with an ex, whether or not you should text your ex on their birthday, and tips for dating in LA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoice...

Nov 01, 20221 hr 4 min

Ilana's Childhood BFF Spills the Tea About her Dating Life

My childhood best friend Cristina joins me to answer listener-submitted questions about my past dating experiences. We cover all of my firsts, from my first crush to my first date to my first time being cheated on and everything in between. We discuss mistakes I made in the past, times I put boys before my friendships, how I handle rejection, ways I've grown in my dating life, whether or not I take my own advice, if there is a guy from my past she was rooting for, and so much more. Learn more ab...

Oct 27, 202252 min

What We Learned About Love from Taylor Swift with Michael Kaye

I’m joined by Michael Kaye, Global Head of Communications at OkCupid, to discuss all things dating apps, cuffing season, and Taylor Swift. Michael shares the insider scoop into the biggest mistakes people are making in their dating app profiles, the best icebreakers for first opening lines, and how to best prepare for this year’s cuffing season. Michael opens up about how he was still in the closet when he and his partner Parker connected on Tinder, and what he has learned about love from OkCupi...

Oct 25, 202257 min

Is Sexuality Really Fluid?

I’m joined by Sarah and Audrey, cohosts of the podcast Completely Fucking Clueless. Sarah and Audrey open up about when they knew they were queer, how they explored it, whether or not they suppressed their sexuality, and what helped them fully embrace who they are. Sarah shares how she and her current partner first met at summer camp when they were 12, and Audrey shares what it’s like being bisexual on dating apps in NYC. We chat about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who have ...

Oct 20, 20221 hr 1 min

Once an Fboy, Always an Fboy?

I'm joined by singer/songwriter Maryon King to chat all about fboys and situationships. We discuss fboy tendencies, how to spot an fboy, and whether or not we're all capable of being fboys. We dissect why we end up in so many situationships, if it's possible to go from a situationship to a relationship, how to combat the feeling of someone making you feel unworthy, how she turned her frustration with modern dating into her hit song "Boys Will Be Boys." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit meg...

Oct 18, 202256 min

Do You Really Find Love When You Least Expect It? with Erica Shea

I’m joined by Erica Shea, San Diego radio star on The Geena the Latina And Frankie V. Morning Show, and host of the podcast “Oversharing with Erica Shea.” Erica and I chat about dating while moving to a new city, meeting people IRL, and accepting the bare minimum. Erica tells us the crazy story of how she met her current partner (IRL!), why her mindset was different when she met him, and how they’ve made their long-distance relationship work. We discuss asking for your needs and whether or not t...

Oct 11, 20221 hr 7 min

"Choosing to be Childfree"

TW: Suicidal thoughts UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who opens up about the longterm relationship he was in where his partner knew she wanted a child and he knew that he did not. We hear how they tried to work through this, how difficult it was to try and change their mind for the other, and how it ultimately lead to them breaking up. He shares what factors went into his decision to get a vasectomy, how his childfree lifestyle has impacted his friendships, and what navigating the dating world i...

Oct 06, 202256 min

Setting Boundaries will Change Your Dating Life with Mariann Yip

I’m joined by Mariann Yip, host of the podcast The City Confessions and Author of “UN-HINGED what I Learned from Saying It’s You, It’s Not Me in the NYC Dating Scene.” Mariann and I discuss how therapy helped us navigate our dating challenges, why we should stop asking our friends to show us photos of their date/crush, the importance of looking for a growth-oriented relationship, and how much we have changed throughout our twenties. Mariann shares how she learned to set boundaries when dating, w...

Oct 04, 202259 min

"You Don’t Need to Lose Weight to Be Loved"

*This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders. UNFILTERED; I’m joined by Jackie Shames, a woman who opens up about her long-term struggle with her body image and an eating disorder. We hear how her ED impacted her dating life and made her feel like she wouldn’t find love if she didn’t look a certain way. She shares how she’s worked through it, how therapy has helped her, and why she no longer feels like she needs to lose weight to be loved. We discuss whethe...

Sep 29, 202259 min

Freezing Your Eggs 101

I’m joined by Ali Jackson AKA Finding Mr. Height to chat all about her egg freezing experience. Ali walks us through what egg freezing is, what factors went into her decision to freeze her eggs, and what the process is like. She shares how she felt throughout the process, what side effects she experienced, whether or not it’s changed how she feels about her timeline, and how she communicates about this with potential partners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 27, 202257 min

"When Your Relationship Has an End Date"

I'm joined by Livia, a 23-year-old who shares her story of starting a relationship while knowing there was an end date. We discuss what it's like to countdown to the relationship ending, sticking with your gut decision to pursue something independently, being open-minded about dealbreakers, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 22, 202241 min

You're Worthy of Love with Kirstie Taylor

I’m joined by Kirstie Taylor, a dating, relationships, and self-love writer & author of “What I Wish I Knew About Love.” Kirstie and I chat about practicing self-love when navigating modern dating, forgiving yourself when your actions caused things to go awry, and setting and enforcing healthy boundaries. We discuss what to do when going through a breakup including building back your self-worth, rediscovering yourself, and working towards getting back out there. Learn more about your ad choi...

Sep 20, 20221 hr 9 min

Q&A: Exclusive Vs. Relationship, Bringing Up Moving In & Getting Engaged, Age Gaps and More

My best friend Sara Curwin and I sit down to answer your questions! We discuss what to do when he invites you to his party but his other hookup is there and they are flirting, how to handle bad manners on a first date, whether or not there's a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, how to have conversations about longterm plans with your significant other, age gaps, breaking the ice when you match with someone you kind of know, when to let go of someone who seemed promis...

Sep 15, 202238 min

What Makes a Marriage Last?

In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss why people get married, what makes a marriage last, what intimacy really means, and what it means to be a husband or a wife. He explains why we shouldn’t date if we have no intentions of getting married within the next five years and why we need to be selfish when we date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 13, 202255 min

"The Craziest Dating Stories You Will Ever Hear"

Get ready for the most jaw dropping, hilarious, and heartwarming Unfiltered episode yet! This week’s guest shares three wild dating scenarios she found herself in. No spoilers here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sep 08, 20221 hr 8 min

Early Signs a Relationship Won’t Work Out with Hilary Weinstein, LCSW

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW and Founder of HLW Therapy, a therapy practice that is currently accepting new clients. We discuss the importance of taking time to reflect on your dating experiences, the most common mistakes women are making in dating, getting back out there after going through a traumatic relationship experience, and how to have a “Who do I want to pick?” mindset instead of a “Pick me!” mindset. We answer listener questions about early signs a relationship won’t work, if r...

Sep 06, 20221 hr 12 min

"Comparing Yourself & Staying Present"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast to discuss dating intentionally. We chat about focusing on how the person makes you feel, staying present on the date, why it doesn’t matter if someone has never been in a relationship before, how to stop comparing your timeline to those around you, forgiving yourself for not being where you want to be, how to end a bad date, and whether to reject someone at the end of the date or wait until the next day. Le...

Sep 01, 20221 hr 4 min

Expectations Vs. Reality of Marriage with Maya and Hunter

I’m joined by Maya and Hunter, high school sweethearts turned married couple who are breaking the internet by breaking gender norms. We discuss how Hunter became a “Stay-At-Home Husband” and why their reversal of gender roles is so important for our society to see. Maya and Hunter share how they navigated their most transformative years as they grew and changed both individually and as a couple. We chat about what goes into a successful partnership, the realities of taking a break, how social me...

Aug 30, 20221 hr 3 min

"Questioning Chemistry and Learning from Mistakes"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 23-year-old man who shares his dating experiences over the past year. He opens up about putting too much pressure on himself to make potential relationships work out, misreading signs because of how much he wanted the connection to be there, and how overanalyzing and obsessing over someone fuels our anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aug 25, 202236 min

You’re Only as Needy as your Unmet Needs with Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick

I’m joined by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC to discuss how our upbringing impacts our relationships. Elizabeth teaches us all about relational programming, how the way we grew up impacts who we choose as a partner, how we can move past our traumas to end up in healthy relationships, reprograming negative core beliefs, learning to differentiate what feels like a threat vs. what actually is a threat, understanding your triggers and more. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Min...

Aug 23, 202256 min
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