I'm joined by a girl who shares her experience with a "Classy Fckboy," someone who knows how to win you over with their words, but is a professional at making empty promises. We hear about how each time she was ready to give up and move on, he reeled her back in by convincing her he was looking for something serious, too. She shares the red flags she identified in hindsight, why she gave him the benefit of the doubt, how she tried to communicate openly with him, and what her dating life looks li...
May 05, 2022•54 min
I'm joined by Jeff Guenther, LPC, to discuss how we can overcome our dating anxiety, make better decisions, and approach the early stages of dating in a healthier way. We discuss what to do when your anxiety is holding you back from dating, tips for staying calm when going on a first date, why we go for people who send us mixed messages and don't treat us well, how to choose better people, why you should take it slow in the beginning, and if attraction can build over time. Schedule an Emotional ...
May 03, 2022•1 hr
I’m joined by a man who shares the the ups and downs he experienced in his hyper-active pursuit of love, which ultimately led him to meet his fiance. We hear how he fit so many dates into his schedule, what he was looking for, how he balanced dating multiple women at the same time, what he learned from all of his dates, how he kept track of them, and how it felt to finally meet the person he was searching for. At the end of the episode, he shares his movie-worthy proposal story. Overcome your da...
Apr 28, 2022•1 hr 6 min
Mariah Grippo, TikTok’s dating queen and founding member of Little Words Project, joins the show to talk about the struggles she and many other women face in their dating lives. We discuss how draining it feels to continue to form connections and relationships with people only to be told they’re “not ready,” questioning if there’s something wrong with us when it keeps not working out, staying with people for too long, making purpose out of the situations that break us, and finding a partner who ...
Apr 26, 2022•59 min
I’m joined by a listener who shares the story of the relationship and breakup that changed her and set her years back on the timeline she had imagined for herself. We discuss going from that high of being so in love with someone who loves you back to breaking up and feeling the lowest you’ve ever felt in your life, what it felt like to see her ex in a relationship with someone new shortly after their breakup and the fear and anxiety surrounding falling for the wrong person again that is holding ...
Apr 21, 2022•53 min
In this episode, I’m joined by Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity, and the brains behind the popular account @sitwithwhit. We discuss how our culture doesn’t allow for negativity and has become a competition for who can seem happiest and most positive, how toxic positivity invalidates people struggling with relationship problems, how we can better support our friends and loved ones who are unhappy with their timelines and their singlehood, the overuse of the term “gaslighting,” an...
Apr 19, 2022•50 min
I sit down with my friend Sammy who shares her highest highs and lowest lows throughout her dating journey. We hear about a six-year relationship that ended because he was having doubts, going through her “hoe phase” in her mid-twenties, how she’s managed to stay friends with most of her exes, finding out her most recent relationship ex was in a relationship with someone else weeks after they called it quits, and what she says when someone says they feel more of a friend vibe after a date. Learn...
Apr 14, 2022•49 min
Jake and I answer listener questions about our relationship and reflect on how we got to where we are now as a couple. We discuss what Jake thinks of dating rules, the honeymoon phase and if we’re still in it, the biggest challenges we've faced together, how we knew we wanted to commit to each other, who said “I love you” first, if we ever run out of things to talk about, the surprising perks of dating someone who’s never been in a relationship before and more. Learn more about your ad choices. ...
Apr 12, 2022•58 min
On this episode, I sit down with a woman who is navigating dating while knowing she doesn’t want kids. We hear when she decided this, why she stands by her decision, and how it impacts her dating life. We also discuss her personal preference for dating nonamericans and how their dating behavior appears drastically different from the Americans she’s dated. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 07, 2022•45 min
On this episode I’m joined by Kate Steinberg, the internet’s early 2000s queen who met her fiancé Chad on HBO Max’s “12 Dates of Christmas.” Kate shares how she remained calm and confident while knowing Chad was going on dates with other women and the benefits of not sharing every detail of your dating life with friends. We discuss how you know if someone’s the one, the importance of being your truest self when dating, and how everything is not what it seems on reality TV. Click here for your ex...
Apr 05, 2022•48 min
On today's episode I talk to a woman who reached out to me after listening to the unfiltered episode called "Married at 25, Divorced at 26, Dating at 27". She wanted to share her story of being on the other side of that situation, dating someone who was married at 25 and divorced at 27. She shares how their relationship unfolded, what her initial reaction was to him sharing that he was divorced and how his previous marriage has impacted their current relationship. She gives advice for anyone dat...
Mar 31, 2022•37 min
On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more. Click here for your expedited Lox Club membership review or use code ILANA in the referral section when signing up. Elevate your kitchen and upgrade your at-home date nights with Cara...
Mar 29, 2022•1 hr 3 min
On this solo Q&A I answer listener questions about what makes a good date, rekindling an old situationship, being friends with an ex after ending on good terms, not hearing back from someone after telling them how you feel, what to do if you're always texting first, if they're still active on dating apps after telling you they like you, when to follow up, and how to know if you should stay or go. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before...
Mar 24, 2022•37 min
On this episode, I sit down with Kelly McKenna (@sitwithkelly), a therapist for anxious millennials. We discuss the difference between overthinking and anxiety, how dating rules and games can make you more anxious, boundaries you should be setting, identifying the source of your anxiety, and in-the-moment tools for dealing with your dating anxiety. Kelly shares tips for communicating your anxieties to a new partner and supporting a partner with anxiety. Go to shop.analuisa.com/seeingotherpeople ...
Mar 22, 2022•54 min
On today’s episode I sit down with Kayla Moran, host of the Let’s Get Candid podcast. Kayla opens up about relationship and intimacy trauma, her relationship with sex and her body, and how her childhood and her relationship with her mother impacted her dating life. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 17, 2022•47 min
On this episode, I’m joined by @yourbreakupbestie Kendra Allen to discuss how to get through a breakup. Kendra walks us through the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup, if getting back together is ever a good idea, what to do if it’s been a while since the breakup but you still think about them, when and how to get back out there, if you should ever text your ex on their birthday, how to stop watching their Instagram stories, and everything in between. Go to shop.analuisa.com/seeingothe...
Mar 15, 2022•1 hr
TW: Sexual assault. On this Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares the story of the toxic relationship she didn’t realize she was in, despite all of the warning signs. We hear about gaslighting, manipulation, lying, and other unhealthy behaviors her partner brought to their relationship. We discuss why she was in denial of what was really happening, why she ignored the early red flags, what she wishes she would have done differently, and how she learned from this experience and moved for...
Mar 10, 2022•48 min
On this episode, I sit down with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and founders of the Therapy Group. We hear about early red flags you can look out for to identify if someone might be toxic, manipulative, or abusive, how to realize you’re in an unhealthy situation, and how you can get out of it. We discuss why we want what we can’t have and push away what we can have, dating a narcissist, what to do if our friend is in a toxic situation and more. We close out the episode b...
Mar 08, 2022•1 hr 4 min
On today’s episode, I sit down with a 27-year-old woman who recently went through a divorce from her high school sweetheart who she had been with for nine years. We hear about what her life was like before the divorce, why they got divorced, and what it’s been like getting out in the dating world for the first time as a 27-year-old divorcee. Feel better with O Positiv's Immunity and PMS gummies! opositiv.com/seeingotherpeople for 20% off your purchase or subscription. Overcome your dating anxiet...
Mar 03, 2022•42 min
On this episode I sit down with Talia Goldstein, Founder and CEO of Three Day Rule Matchmaking. We discuss the biggest flaws in dating apps and modern dating, the most common mistakes daters are making, what questions you should be asking on dates, how to determine your dealbreakers vs. “nice to haves,” and whether or not you’re correct about your “type.” Talia shares how the matchmaking process works from getting to know you, to pre-screening dates, setting you up with people who are truly look...
Mar 01, 2022•52 min
In this solo episode, I answer listener questions about ghosting, unfollowing, and taking things slow. At 15 minutes in, I open up about the constant pressure I feel to be at a certain place in my relationship and how social media leads us down a dangerous path of comparing ourselves to others, no matter what life stage we’re in. At 28 minutes I discuss the precautions you should take when considering dating a close friend. I share a past dating experience where I approached this situation in a ...
Feb 24, 2022•52 min
In today’s episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw (aka @lizlistens), Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, owner of A Better Life Therapy, and author of “I Want This to Work.” We discuss the different types of couples therapy, the most common issues couples face, how to ask your partner to go to couples therapy, and early signs of relationship success or failure. Liz gives us tips for starting hard conversations, fighting well, and building healthy relationships from the start. Elevate yo...
Feb 22, 2022•51 min
On this Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a man whose infidelity and the guilt surrounding it led to him and his wife getting divorced. We hear what his life was like before he cheated, why he decided to do it, how the truth came out, and what happened next. He shares how this impacted his self-worth and his personal relationships, and whether or not he’s been able to forgive himself and move forward. We discuss if the statement “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is true or false. Support this...
Feb 17, 2022•35 min
I kick off this Valentine’s Day special by sharing tips for making the most out of the holiday if you’re single. At 10 minutes, I’m joined by Fran Mariano from Barstool’s Chicks in the Office to chat celebrity couples, on-screen romances, and public breakups. We share our favorite tv, movie and music couples, celebrity couples we admire, and couples we wish lasted. We discuss the pressure and stress of relationships in the spotlight, PR relationships, and how difficult it must be to continue wor...
Feb 14, 2022•1 hr 8 min
On today's episode, I sit down with Diana, a 37-year-old woman who is happily single. Diana opens up about growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness, how her views on marriage changed as she got older, and how she’s navigated different dating phases of her life. Diana shares how she’s learned to embrace singlehood, love herself, enjoy her timeline, and not let societal pressures force her to settle. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking a Mindset Wellness CBD Happy gummy before a date +...
Feb 10, 2022•46 min
On this episode, I’m joined by Candice Horbacz aka Eva Lovia. We hear about Candice’s rise to fame in the adult film industry and what her career taught her about intimacy and relationships. Candice shares how she and her now-husband navigated their open relationship, worked through moments of jealousy and made it work despite the unique challenges they faced. We discuss what it takes to have a healthy open relationship, why you shouldn’t feel jealous that your partner enjoys porn, and how to co...
Feb 08, 2022•46 min
In this episode, I'm joined by a 27-year-old woman who has never had sex before. We hear about why she’s never had sex, what it’s like to date as a virgin, how dates react when she tells them about it, how others judge her and how she judges her self because of it. She shares her fears around losing her virginity and how our sex-obsessed culture causes her to feel isolated. Mindset Wellness CBD's happy and calm gummies alleviated my dating anxiety. Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com & c...
Feb 03, 2022•55 min
On this episode I’m joined by Jen Lauren, host of Dare to Self Care. We discuss the importance of balancing your relationship and friendships, maintaining your independence and sense of self throughout your relationship, and continuing to practice self-care when you're in a relationship. Jen shares how she and her boyfriend went from “high school sweethearts” to serious partners in the real world, how they’ve changed as individuals and as partners over the course of their 10 year relationship, a...
Feb 01, 2022•1 hr 3 min
On todays episode, I sit down with Aliana Michals who shares her story of how her happy and healthy relationship was directly affected by the national dialogue surrounding the pandemic, vaccine efficacy and hesitancy. Aliana’s upcoming poetry collection, In Defense of Science, is a direct reflection on her how despite how in love she and her partner were, they ultimately chose their values over each other, in the end, they were better off for it. Pre order "In Defense of Science" here. Choose yo...
Jan 27, 2022•59 min
On this episode, I’m joined by Jonny Lazarus and Justin Kapelmaster from The Latke Room. We discuss why your date or partner probably doesn’t know what you’re thinking, what an Instagram story view really means, how to slide into the DMs, why gender roles shouldn’t matter but social cues should, and why some people think they have to prioritize their career over their relationships. We answer listener emails about being ghosted after dating for four months and being unsure whether or not to clos...
Jan 25, 2022•56 min
