On today's Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a 28-year-old guy from New York City named Sam. Sam walks us through his complicated relationship with Taylor that began right before covid started, resulting in an unexpected Long distance relationship. Sam shares the struggles that he and Taylor faced including lack of communication, internal mental health issues, external pressures, family members adding their opinions in, and breaking up and getting back together multiple times. Learn more about...
Sep 30, 2021•1 hr 17 min•Season 3Ep. 59
Gigi Robinson, Gen Z thought leader, chronic illness and mental health advocate, and the host of Spotify Greenroom's "Everything You Need Is Within" joins the show today. We discuss how social media makes us feel more single and isolated than we are, what it feels to not have gone on a date since 2019, dating during covid when you are immune compromised, how quarantine impacted friendships, navigating dating when you are chronically ill, and why you shouldn’t making snap judgments about potentia...
Sep 28, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 58
Caitlin Kelley, host of What The Fuck’s Up podcast, joins us for a deep dive into all things cheating. We analyze your responses to a series of cheating-focused IG story question boxes and polls, and discuss why people cheat, if they get caught if they come clean, the long term impacts of cheating and being cheated on, and how cheaters feel in the moment. Caitlin shares her own story of being cheated on, why she initially chose to give him the benefit of the doubt, and what finally pushed her ov...
Sep 21, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 57
UNFILTERED: In this episode, I sit down with a woman who shares a story about being diagnosed with vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition in which the vaginal muscles contract involuntarily during any form of vaginal penetration. Depending on the woman, the effects of vaginismus can vary from mild discomfort to severe pain. She shares what it was like to receive her diagnosis and how it’s impacted her dating life and daily life ever since. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch...
Sep 16, 2021•59 min•Ep. 56
Artist and songwriter Gayle joins the show today to talk about what it’s like transforming her dating experiences into music and lyrics. We talk about the breakup that led to her new single "abcdefu," what it’s like putting her raw emotions out there for the world to hear, turning heartbreak into music, dating within the industry, writing revenge songs, the fear of never being good enough, and more. Check out the song "abcdefu" here and follow Gayle on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices...
Sep 14, 2021•55 min•Ep. 55
TW: the following content may be sensitive for those who have experienced any form of sexual assault. On today’s episode, I’m joined by a woman who had a nonconsensual sexual experience when she was a college student. We hear about the events leading up to this, what actually happened in the moment, and how it’s impacted her longterm. We discuss guilt, trust, consent, communication, safe dating and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 09, 2021•54 min•Ep. 54
Tinah (with an H) Ogalo, host of the In Your Twentys podcast, joins us today for a deep dive into the most controversial and shocking poll results from the @seeingotherpeople Instagram Story that you’ve all been voting on. Get ready to hear about politics, cheating, family involvement, social media stalking, commitment issues, exclusivity and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 07, 2021•56 min•Ep. 53
TW: the following content may be sensitive for those with an eating disorder. On today’s episode, we hear from a 25 year old male who has struggled with body image issues and an eating disorder. He shares what it’s been like to date and use dating apps when you aren’t comfortable in your own skin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 02, 2021•47 min•Ep. 52
Today we’re joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author of "Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing Kindle" and host of the "Relationships Made Easy" podcast. We’re sitting down to discuss everything that you need to know about moving on, leaving the past in the past and not letting previous dating and relationship experiences impact present and future ones. Abby walks us through getting closure with yourself, learning how to live in the moment and not in the ...
Aug 31, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 51
On today’s Unfiltered episode, Ilana sits down with Daniela, a 27 year old female living in Toronto, Canada. Daniela shares the story of the breakup she went through due to her partner's parents not supporting their relationship because of factors including her ethnicity, immigration status, age, career, and appearance. We discuss how this impacted her relationship, her self worth, and her values when it comes to dating and searching for a life partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...
Aug 26, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 50
LDR (Long Distance Relationship) survivors Jamie and Max walk us through the highs and lows of the four-year long distance span of their relationship. We discuss their decision to pursue a long-distance relationship during college, how they involved each other in their lives from afar, what visiting each other was like, how important it was to trust one another and practice straightforward communication, the shift that occurred when Max graduated and was starting his career in NYC during Jamie’s...
Aug 24, 2021•52 min•Ep. 49
Ilana sits down with a 28 heterosexual woman who currently lives in New York. She opens up about her first dating app experiences in 2019, which included somebody who ghosted her out of nowhere followed by a situation that had a tremendous negative impact on her mental and physical health. We discuss how she overcame these traumatizing experiences in order to get back out there and end up in a healthy relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 19, 2021•59 min•Ep. 48
Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusive with someone, and what happens if you actually express what you want. Learn more about your ad ch...
Aug 17, 2021•59 min•Ep. 48
Ilana sits down with a 32-year-old who called off her marriage just two months before the wedding. We hear what led to this decision, how she went about ending the engagement, what she’s learned from this experience, and what advice she has for anyone who is going through something similar or questioning whether or not their relationship is built to last. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 12, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 46
Serena Kerrigan, the Queen of Confidence and the creator of the show and card game Let’s F*cking Date and the new card game Let’s F*cking F*ck, joins us today to give us the scoop on how we can be more confident in our dating lives. We chat about how to portray yourself on dating apps, why texting isn’t real and you should get to the date before stalking and talking too much, whether or not they always come back, how it’s tough to see an ex move on, prioritizing work and relationships at the sam...
Aug 10, 2021•58 min•Ep. 45
A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual. She explains what led to this exploration, what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life. Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misconceptions of bisexuality, and advice she has for anyone else who is considering exploring their sexu...
Aug 05, 2021•58 min•Ep. 44
Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell-all about their relationship. Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA. They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they became official. We also hear their first fight go down as they debate some of these details. Ilana and...
Aug 03, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 43
On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really finding his person has been very difficult. We discuss what it was like for him to tell people that ...
Jul 29, 2021•54 min•Ep. 41
Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meeting someone, how to navigate you or your date having a fear of commitment, what to do when someone say...
Jul 27, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 41
On this Unfiltered episode we’re joined by a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with herpes. She shares what it was like receiving her diagnosis, communicating it to the person who transmitted it to her and what it’s been like to date with herpes. We hear how her diagnosis impacted her mental health and self worth and she walks us through the steps she took to get herself back to a good place. We learn about the common misconceptions about herpes, the resources that are available for those who...
Jul 22, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 46
Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling than partying and sex. Andrew walks us through what sparked his transformation, including taking a ...
Jul 20, 2021•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 39
On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26-year-old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 15, 2021•50 min•Ep. 38
Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprising things about dating in the 50s and dating now, and more. Follow along at @excusemygrandma, @seeing...
Jul 13, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 37
On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by Caroline, a 27 year old living in New York City who is navigating dating after losing her older brother. She shares what it’s like to communicate her loss to a date, what people’s reactions have been, and how each individual has their own personal preference on the grieving process and on how and when to have these conversations with a potential partner. Caroline and I discuss how people can have more thoughtful and empathetic conversations surroundin...
Jul 08, 2021•57 min•Season 2Ep. 36
Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be longer than an hour, how important the little things in dating are. Follow @fourplaysocial, visit Fourp...
Jul 06, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 35
Twenty-seven year old NYC resident, listener and friend Helena joins the Unfiltered family today to discuss the challenges of dating when you’ve never been in a relationship before. She opens up about the pressure she feels from her family, society, and herself to find love. Helena shares what she feels like she’s missing out on, how she discusses her “relationship history” with potential partners, and what her fears are for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...
Jul 01, 2021•49 min•Ep. 34
Smiley Poswolsky, author of Friendship in the Age of Loneliness, joins Ilana on Seeing Other People to discuss human connection in today’s society and culture. Smiley shares his research and knowledge on opening your world up to new people, digging deeper with the people that you know, using technology to foster more meaningful connections, and more. He gives advice on maintaining friendships when you or a friend gets into a new relationship, what to do when your friend’s new significant other i...
Jun 29, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 33
On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by a 24-year-old female who has been grappling with religious sexual shame while trying to date. From a young age, she was taught that dating and sexual experiences were for marriage only. She has spent years reflecting on her religious upbringing and is now committed to starting over and dictating her own values as she beings to explore how she feels about casual dating, relationships, and the entire world of modern dating. Learn more about your ad choi...
Jun 24, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 32
Ilana sits down with Matthew Wurnig, the creator and dater behind 50 Dates in 50 States. Matthew shares how he got the idea to do a date in every state during the pandemic, first virtually, and then IRL. We discuss what it’s like meeting and dating people from all different backgrounds, how the place you grow up can impact your dating life, and how dating culture differs from state to state. We also learn what Matthew has learned about himself and about human connection throughout his journey. C...
Jun 22, 2021•59 min•Ep. 31
Real people. Real stories. Real life. Anonymous listeners join the show to have vulnerable and open conversations about what they’ve struggled with in their dating lives, what they wish they knew when going through their experience, and how they came out stronger. Topics to expect include dating after experiencing loss, STIs, eating disorders, abortions, mental health, trauma and more. No matter what you’re going through, you’re not alone. This is Seeing Other People UNFILTERED. Presented by Min...
Jun 15, 2021•1 hr 23 min•Ep. 30
