What do you call a baker without an oven, a butcher who turns vegan or a plumber that doesn’t… plumb? How about someone who is alosexual and between relationships or a swinger who doesn’t swing? This week Helen Greene from Recovering From Religion joins Nate and Christy in understanding monogamous bisexuals, single poly people and dusty and rusty personal adjectives. Identity politics, unused labels and your calls on this week’s SecX! ► Jump-start your recovery at https://www.RecoveringFromRelig...
May 21, 2021•1 hr 28 min
Love is love, whether you make it while looking into someone’s eyes or clean it up with a mop and bucket. That holds true no matter how many whips, chains or octopus dildos we involve but as we work to untangle the web of love and sex and god it’s natural to lose the thread. This week The Non-Prophets’ own P*ck joins Christy in sorting through the often tricky and always sticky strings that bind us together in caregiver-little relationships. Everything from mommydommes to playful puppys, loving ...
May 14, 2021•1 hr 26 min
Purity Culture. Homophobia. Organ music. There’s a lot to despise about religion and the trauma that it creates but in between dunking on theists and working to unplug minds from the religious Matrix there’s healing to be had. Janice Selby, a religious trauma therapist and Conference on Religious Trauma organizer joins the show to walk Christy and Nate through the therapeutic process, to talk about the future of religious trauma healing and to offer some advice on how we can all help, plus your ...
May 07, 2021•1 hr 27 min
After to much time beating around the bush and conversations with some of the most successful legal sex-workers of our era, it’s past time we discuss the decriminalization of sex work. Why is sex legal until it costs money? Why are sex workers adamant that legalization will lead to even greater injustice? What wind is the political wind blowing and please won’t anyone think of the children? Jack Parker joins the show to answer these questions, your questions and more!
Apr 30, 2021•1 hr 17 min
On a scale of Marsha P. Johnson to Tyler Perry, just how is queer acceptance progressing in black communities? And does that change if you believe in heaven or ride Lil Nas X’s pole down to Montero? Black Nonbeliever, atheist and activist Kevon Cameron joins Rudy Bee and Christy in breaking down the double duty of racism and homophobia inside and outside of black churches, and to recommend a way away from hate across queer culture, plus your calls! ►Find Kevon and Black Nonbelievers, Inc. @Black...
Apr 23, 2021•1 hr 18 min
We’ve all got dirty laundry and while SecX viewers’ may be a bit uh, stickier, then most that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Sex is perfectly natural and while adult diapers and blackmail fantasies may be anything but, the impulses are and that’s kind of the point anyway, right? But how do you unpack all that baggage and lay out your kinks and quirks, whether in front of a partner or a professional? Amberly Rothfield, phone sex operator and adult industry consultant, has heard it all returns to the...
Apr 16, 2021•1 hr 31 min
In our ongoing quest to explore the spectrums of life and trick people into googling the phrase ‘bimodal distribution’ we return again this week to the spaces between. Author Dianna Anderson, enby writer of Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity and Problematic: How Toxic Callout Culture Is Destroying Feminism joins Rudy Bee and Christy in discussing their new work on the history of non-binary culture. Join us between the poles and connect with the past, plus your calls! ►Find Diann...
Apr 09, 2021•1 hr 29 min
Come one come all to see these April Fools! This week’s High-Flying High-Falutin Secular Sexuality Cross Over Sextacular combines the mild-mannered reporting of the ACA’s The Non-Prophets with the wild and bawdy bacchanal SecX delivers each and every week. See the gender queers and sexy freaks as they take on the challenges of the modern news cycle and calls from our salacious spectators with special guest Johnny P Angel! It’ll be a hoot and a half you won’t soon forget! ►Catch The Non-Prophets ...
Apr 02, 2021•1 hr 34 min
Today we’re joined by two long-time viewers of Secular Sexuality, Dishonest Ape and Ragabash Dabbler. These two lovebirds found each other in the live chat and were able to find love in the time of COVID thanks to Christy and Vi. Let’s get to know them and share in their journey!
Mar 26, 2021•1 hr 35 min
Do you ever wish things could be just a little bit… gayer? I mean whether you’re gay, straight or anywhere else on the spectrum it feels like there should be a little bit more breathing room then what super-straight stoicism allows for, or atleast a La Bianca Loophole. With so many new adjectives and labels available (hello poly viking power bottoms) why are so many of us rushing to the extreme ends of the spectrum? Join Christy, Vi and Arden of Eden as we work to untangle some toxically black a...
Mar 20, 2021•1 hr 30 min
The internet is huge, and weird, and ever changing. While that last bit is key two things seem to stay evergreen, religiously fueled homophobia and web forums for talking about it. Recovering From Religion, one of our favorite places on the internet, is helping to host and move these conversations forward through their broad collection of resources, chat rooms and forums and Nate Smith, RfR volunteer and forum moderator, joins SecX to tell us all about it. Catch him and Christy with fan favorite...
Mar 12, 2021•1 hr 23 min
You’ve probably used the word ‘pandemic’ more in the last year then you ever expected- as a show built on Dr. Darrel Ray’s The God Virus we’ve definitely learned enough about viral transmission to last a lifetime. And while the current crisis may be showing only the earliest signs of abating, the last few years have brought some incredible strides in the ongoing battle with HIV/AIDS. 40 years into a global pandemic ‘the virus’ may be finally ready to give up it’s ominous title and Cynthia McDona...
Mar 05, 2021•1 hr 25 min
If SecX was looking for a soulmate, Rudy and Marie would be pretty close to the top of our list. Alas there are neither perfect partners nor podcasters, at least until Elliot Page starts a YouTube channel. Still this black and white expectation that god and destiny will bring us the perfect person is a persistent one. Host of Everyone’s Autonomous and relationship ► Find the many hats of Marie D’Elephant at https://mariedelephant.com/ ► Dive deeper into the episode and find more research at http...
Feb 26, 2021•1 hr 28 min
Purity culture, frankly like most social ills, seems to work double time against women of color. Limitations on healthcare access, stiff social restrictions on dating choice and strongly enforced dependence on male providers are bad enough without having to contend with the jezebel stereotype at every turn. Non-prophet Jena Miyu is powerfully black, female and atheist and joins Rudy and P*ck in discussing the added challenges of purity culture on Black Americans. Our conversation and tons of you...
Feb 19, 2021•1 hr 20 min
Are you there god? It’s us, the Atheist Community of Austin. We know you’re not real but we still have some questions about menstruation. Until you get back to us, Dr. Anna, scientist, communicator and imaginarium curator joins the show to bring her biotechnical background and skepticism to bear on these socially stigmatized cycles of life, plus your calls.
Feb 12, 2021•1 hr 26 min
TERF-y gender critical talking points and plain old transphobia have long since played an outsized role in public policy no matter what the science says. This week Cindy Plaza, host of The Path of Reason (La Voie de la Raison), joins Secular Sexuality to apply a little critical thinking to some of the most tired arguments against trans inclusion. With her help Vi and Christy take your calls and work to answer the question- where are we supposed to pee? ► Dive deeper into the episode and find mor...
Feb 05, 2021•1 hr 26 min
You know you’re not a crumpled flower or a chewed up piece of bubblegum, old ideas of your sexual identity no longer suit you. Congratulations from us, sincerely. And yet so many of those old ideas; rigid gender norms, toxic monogamy, patriarchy and heteronormativity all still live within us. Turns out, that’s by design. Author of The God Virus and SecX’s creator and producer emeritus Dr. Darrel Ray returns to the show to share with us some of the history of modern purity culture and how we can ...
Jan 29, 2021•1 hr 24 min
It’s bad enough that religious trauma can do such a number on our sexuality without the stigma of atheism impacting our dating life. It’s hard enough to find the perfect poly Viking power bottom or androgynous cat cyborg of our dreams without getting the automatic left swipe for our beliefs or miss out on a second date because our star signs don’t match expectations. Join Matt, Rudy and Christy as we discuss what it’s like being atheists, activists and actively seeking to share life and love, al...
Jan 22, 2021•1 hr 34 min
Ever hear a door close and catch a sudden feeling of dread? Or buy a new car and realize seemingly for the first time just how much stress that old transmission was causing? Don’t worry, you don’t have ESP, psychic premonitions or copy-righted spider based superpowers- instead you’re experiencing one of the most primitive and powerful pieces of human evolution! Justin Sunseri, polyvagal podcaster and host of Stuck Not Broken, joins the show to walk us through the spooky science of neuroception a...
Jan 15, 2021•1 hr 29 min
Hello and Welcome to 2021, the year where we’re definitely going to start exercising, heal our religious trauma and fix our political system, amiright!? Maybe not, but Alice Little rejoins the show to walk us through her efforts to fight the status quo and see sex workers enjoy the rights extended to everyone else. Join us as we discuss the ongoing pandemic and check-in on our favorite adult content creators, plus your calls and questions! ► Find Alice on YouTube by searching AliceLittleTv https...
Jan 08, 2021•1 hr 14 min
Like a tree that just needs a little love, 2020 is the Christmas season nobody asked for but yippee ki yay you filthy animals, Secular Sexuality is here to ring bells and shoot eyes out no matter how nipply it gets. Join Christy, Vi and Hanna as we block out the world and sink into the Holiday Boob-Tube, discussing the secular and the sexuality of your favorite and not so classic holiday Holiday movies. Catch the conversation and your calls on the Holiday Movie episode of Secular Sexuality! Find...
Dec 18, 2020•1 hr 21 min
Master Wrath Daddy James White joins Secular Sexuality to introduce us to the world of leather- exploring the history, culture and misconceptions of this incredible community. As a horror and erotica author, former heavyweight kickboxing champion, former MMA trainer, dungeon owner, and BDSM educator who teaches about leather and kink Wrath invites us to better understand this charitable and charming society through personal stories and a life in the community, plus your calls! 00:00 Intro 1:33 W...
Dec 11, 2020•1 hr 18 min
Happy Thanksgiving! We decided to give the hosts and crew the day off to rest and celebrate with their families this week, but that doesn't mean you can't have some hot, fresh video to watch today! Vi La Bianca is joined by Rudy Bee and Hanna Vaughn in her debut on the show, and they'll be digging into the ol' mailbag to answer your questions.
Dec 05, 2020•1 hr
Living in a religious world it can be easy to forget that we’re all just talking primates with fancy computers. Our feelings, our beliefs and our relationships can all be confounded by the idea that there’s a way we were meant to be, should be or are supposed to behave. Annette James returns to the show this week to share with us fascinating evolutionary psychology and interpersonal neurobiology to help us reinterpret our mood and better understand our role on earth, not as fallen angels but as ...
Dec 04, 2020•1 hr 34 min
Secular Sexuality 07.46 2020-11-19 with Christy Powell, Vi La Bianca and Billie Beard One of the most interesting challenges of doing a YouTube show as a podcast with live callers is the challenge of keeping everyone’s voices clear for the audience. As fans of the show no doubt know, names like Sera, Rudy or Christy don’t necessarily ‘sound’ the way we’ve been raised to expect they should. Where do those expectations come from? What should we be doing to dismantle them? Is it okay to explore who...
Nov 20, 2020•1 hr 32 min
Relationships are hard, or at least important enough to spend an hour and a half each week talking about, right? We talk a lot about how relationships can get much harder when they don’t follow the typical patterns of our culture- polyamorous lesbians in a d/s dynamic don’t experience quite the same social support or mindful accommodations afforded a more typical relationship. But what to do if your relationship or your mind itself is atypical, on a neurological level? Miss O Kissed returns to t...
Nov 13, 2020•1 hr 34 min
You’ll hear it in any hypnotherapist’s office- all hypnosis is self-hypnosis. And since SecX is the type of show that wraps each week with an entreatment for the self-treatment, we decided to do a little more digging into the dreamy world of erotic hypnosis. Eve of Eve’s Garden joins Christy and Vi in one of our favorite pre-taped interviews to discuss the mysterious and affirming power of fantasy and the human mind, mixed with your live calls and questions on this Guy Fawkes Day episode of Secu...
Nov 06, 2020•1 hr 31 min
Join Dr. Frank-N-Furter, an Androgynous Cat Cyborg and Death herself as the SecX hosts answer your emails and calls on this holiday mailbag episode of Secular Sexuality! How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring Who You Are by Alex Lantaffi and Meg-John Barker Sex Positive Talks to Have With Kids is your guide to creating an open, shame-free connection with the young people in your world- https://sexpositivefamilies.com/ Everything You Need To Know About Aegosexuality from L...
Oct 30, 2020•1 hr 26 min
What do you call an exotic dancer, pastry chef, and atheist author all rolled into one? Here on Secular Sexuality, we call that the Trifecta. Erin Louis chats with Christy Powell and Vi La Bianca about deconstructing harmful ideas and discarding dilapidated belief systems on this week’s episode. Join us as we dive into a groundbreaking conversation with the author of Expose Yourself, the Fifty Shades of Gray meets The God Delusion self-help book. ►Find more about Erin Louis and buy her books at ...
Oct 23, 2020•1 hr 19 min
The Atheist Community prides itself on a reliance on science so in true SecX tradition we made sure our scientist guest was also a pod *scratch that* porncaster. We’re joined by Scibabe and science journalist Yvette d'Entremont from Two Girls One Mic and anywhere junk science jumps onto the scene to sell you a supplement. Yvette writes and speaks on everything from genes and GMOs to sex and splenda and now joines the show to take your calls on the October 15th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find...
Oct 16, 2020•1 hr 40 min
