Whoa momma has it become trendy to call your boyfriend Daddy, and no judgement we’re happy to see you being you. Caregiving and caretaking are important emotional needs and a little bit of roleplay may be just what the doctor ordered. Curious? Confused? Concerned? Brett Turner joins Christy and fan favorite Serafina Smith to help clear up the questions and introduce us to the big big world of little relationships. All your ageplay questions answered plus your calls on the October 4th episode of ...
Oct 09, 2020•1 hr 33 min
We throw a lot of new words around (it’s all poly-viking-power-bottom this and demisexual compersion that) but when these words really define a piece of who you are it becomes all the more important that your therapist speaks your language. Talk therapy loses a lot of momentum when you have to pause your explanation of your self to constantly explain yourself and yet most therapists make it through their many years of training without any special understanding of queer culture or human sexuality...
Oct 02, 2020•1 hr 26 min
Vi and Christy are continuing their conversation about the world of sex work with a luxury escort, internationally recognized sex educator, and 4’8” redhead, Alice Little. Tonight, they’ll be discussing how Alice got started, her many specialties (from flirting and foreplay to lectures on the science of sex), and the state of sex work during COVID. A bonus: they will also have some practical advice for anyone thinking about hiring a luxury escort, in case you wanted to try it yourself! ►Find Ali...
Sep 25, 2020•1 hr 33 min
Despite what you may read in our YouTube comments sex work is real work and real business. With the growth of OnlyFans and others creators can have more and more industry access with differing results. Enter Amberly Rothfield, business consultant and erotic content creator with 15 years in an always changing industry. Join Christy and Vi as we talk shop and take your calls on the business of sex. ►Find Amberly on Twitter @AmberlyPSO and online at https://amberlyrothfield.com/ ►Learn more about m...
Sep 18, 2020•1 hr 28 min
Ahh, homemade artisanal soft genderfluid cutiepie nudes, just like Grandma used to make. We’ve dabbled before in the discussion of amature porn but ExCultBaby Rudy Bee returns to the show to get a little extra up close and personal about their OnlyFans. We’re talking online sex work in a pre-gender equality, post-Bella Thorne COVID present, plus taking your calls on the September 10th episode of Secular Sexuality. ►Find Rudy on Twitter @ExCultBaby and YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0M...
Sep 11, 2020•1 hr 33 min
Whether you blame it on a glitch in the Matrix or just a bad headache, our senses often throw us curve balls. Ghosts? ESP? An undigested bit of beef, a blot of mustard, a crumb of cheese… hard to say exactly what it is that trips up our senses but for many of us it’s not an occasional deja vu but a life that seems to be turned up to 11. By exploring new neuroscience and classical psychology Courtney Keiser joins Vi and Christy in a skeptical and intriguing look at the phenomena of highly sensiti...
Sep 04, 2020•1 hr 28 min
This month The Wachowskis confirmed that their sci-fi blockbuster The Matrix was in part an allegory for the trans experience- a splinter in the mind telling you that your reality, enforced through violent agents, is really just a performance. That hasn’t stopped The Red Pill and other online groups on Reddit and elsewhere from using the film as a jumping off point for warmed over social Darwinism and misogyny. Bigfoot De-Bunker and Truth Wanted Objectively Dan joins Vi and Christy to take your ...
Aug 28, 2020•1 hr 27 min
Nothing says first kiss on a hot date quite like August 20th, 2020 does it? Between the social unrest, political division and stumbling economy, it’s almost possible to forget about the virus you specifically get...from spit. At a time where we all have way too much time to swipe, many of us are struggling to look for new love in the time of corona. Returning to the show is relationship therapist Grace Wood to answer your calls and walk us through dating in 2020. ►Find Grace and her Dating In 20...
Aug 21, 2020•1 hr 16 min
Last week we discussed the power of finding your own sexual identity, throwing out every sort of adjective, orientation, kink and descriptor we could find! If it felt like we left on a bit of a cliffhanger, the SecX Patron Saint Eve is here to dust off the darker corners of the research library and walk us through the dos, don'ts and don’t evens of exploring a new kink. We’re safe, sane, consensual and learning how to kink, plus your calls on tonight’s Secular Sexuality! Topics and calls on toda...
Aug 14, 2020•1 hr 26 min
What on earth is a poly Viking power bottom? How about a soft dom femboy switch kitten? Are they spy code names? Super obscure indie bands? Character descriptions for the world’s best sci-fi film? No, these are descriptions of our kinks, and we want to walk you through creating your own epic kink title! Join Vi La Bianca, Christy Powell, and photographer and kinkster Julian Oakes Norman as we discuss the benefits of kink identities and practices on Secular Sexuality. ► Read ENM Magazine’s articl...
Aug 07, 2020•1 hr 31 min
Secular Sexuality | 07.30 | July 30th | Madison Hollis What could be more important than family? Turns out things like party loyalty, which lives matter, facial skin sensitivity, and ancient homophobic poetry have been dividing familes at alarming rates. Ours is not the first generation to face excommunication or family shunning, but in a divided world with uncertain economics and portentous protests, cast-outs are facing ever-increasing challenges. Family Systems Therapist Madison Hollis joins ...
Jul 31, 2020•1 hr 43 min
Joining us on Secular Sexuality tonight is Katy Montgomerie, an LGBTQ rights activist who has been holding court on Medium on behalf of trans folks. Her topic? By far the worst installment of the Harry Potter series: JK Rowling and the UK TERFS. ► Find Katy’s piece about JKRTERF and other work at https://medium.com/ @completelykaty ► Find more links or dive deeper into the show at https://www.vcatx.com/media/jkrterf ►Read more about JK Rowling’s recent transphobic content here: https://www.forbe...
Jul 24, 2020•1 hr 23 min
Femme fatale and fashioner designer Miss O Kissed first came to our attention when she shared with us all about the wonderful world of burlesque. Now she joins Vi and Christy to share another part of her identity- her asexuality. What’s it like navigating the world of fetish wear and burlesque as an ace? That question, your calls and a whole lot more on this week’s Secular Sexuality. ► Find more links or dive deeper into the show at https://www.vcatx.com/media/missokissed ► Learn more about this...
Jul 17, 2020•1 hr 29 min
The TRANS AGENDA. Maybe you’ve heard about it on Twitter, where the massive following of Dolores Umbridge, er um, Rita Skeeter , er- a well-known Young Adult author have been recently addressing the subject. Here on Secular Sexuality, we will be talking with two actual trans women. What DO they want? What is their experience? All this and more, including your own calls and questions, on the July 9 episode of Secular Sexuality, on the Atheist Experience Network! ► Find more links or dive deeper i...
Jul 10, 2020•1 hr 31 min
You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Net...
Jul 03, 2020•1 hr 28 min
It is so ordered. 5 years ago the Supreme Court ended its decision to guarantee equal marital rights to all U.S. citizens with those words. But how much really changed? In a summer where we realize the gains of 50 years ago have fallen short of true equal rights, what should our next steps be? Is it even possible to outlaw bigotry and is there anything the trans rights movement can take away from these decades long legal battles? The Atheist Experience Network’s Johnny makes a return visit, join...
Jun 26, 2020•1 hr 28 min
Trystan Reese damn near broke the internet when he chose to speak publicly with CNN, VICE and The Washington Post (among dozens of others) about his pregnancy. As a gay trans man and a public figure Trystan’s Collaborative Consulting provides training and support on trans inclusion, racial justice and other issues plaguing our workplaces, marketplaces and forums. Join Vi, Sera and Christy as we watch last week’s interview with Trystan and try to make sense of trans safety and acceptance during t...
Jun 19, 2020•1 hr 30 min
I can’t tell if we’re behind on answering our emails or if time is a flat circle that no longer corresponds to common sense or basic human decency. In any case Vi and Christy answer your questions as we all look to get our bearings during these turbulent times. If you’ve written in, wanna give us a call or just need help remembering what day of the week it is the Secular Sexuality team has got you covered. “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fide...
Jun 12, 2020•1 hr 34 min
Vi La Bianca is joined by ACA host and co-host Johnny P. Johnny has worked behind the scenes and in front of the camera to make our shows even that much more amazing! Vi started the show off summarizing that Black Lives Matter. Tonight's topic is about Allyship and how best to educate ourselves on that topic. Johnny asks himself what can he do, what has he done lately? The first caller we have is Laurie in Texas. She is calling to give her take on Secular Sexuality. She was working in the church...
Jun 05, 2020•1 hr 22 min
ExCultBaby joins Vi and Christy to offer a public service so your non-binary and agender friends, children and co-workers don’t have to. We’re busting all the myths, breaking down the mysteries and answering all of your questions- serious, silly and sexy, all in equal measure. It’s an enby exploration of gender, culture and community on AEN’s Secular Sexuality. Find ExCultBaby’s YouTube channel ( https://www.youtube.com/excultbaby) , twitter, instagram, tumblr and more as @ExCultBaby Learn more ...
May 29, 2020•1 hr 29 min
The voice of Secular Sexuality, Eric Murphy, brings back the sultry tones of an Atheist Experience Network mainstay. He, Vi and Christy come together to tackle the topic of toxicity in American masculinity, talking out the do’s, don’ts and don’t even’s of the modern man. Join us as we work towards understanding how to be better men, how to better root out toxic influences and build a better world. Find Eric and Vi on Talk Heathen every Sunday at 1p CT ( https://www.youtube.com/talkheathen) Eric’...
May 22, 2020•1 hr 42 min
ACA standout and Atheistasis Jenna Belk comes back to the show in order to embrace life’s one constant- Change. Jenna will be walking us through some of the changes in her own life regarding all things secular and sexual, as well as discuss some tips on how to navigate change in relationship. Join us as our guests, callers and hosts discuss communication, growth and acceptance as we embrace life, love and a smattering of romance. If you are interested in learning more about Jenna’s work, watch h...
May 15, 2020•1 hr 21 min
Tonight's episode features Christy, Serafina and the mysterious Mr. F exploring the dangers and damages of the Church of Latter Day Saints. Mr. F, a volunteer with Dr. Ray’s Recovering From Religion foundation, shares his story of leaving Mormonism behind while guiding others along the path to freedom. If you are interested in learning more about recovering from religion you can find them at https://www.recoveringfromreligion.org/ Learn more about the struggle out of Mormonism and find support o...
May 08, 2020•1 hr 23 min
Today we’re going to be talking about respecting other people’s sexual choices, and how to embody sex positivity. Join Vi, Christy, and returning special guest Marie D’Elephant of the Everyone’s Autonomous podcast to discuss celebrating each other’s right to boink. If you are interested in learning more about Marie’s work, follow her at: www.everyonesautonomous.com www.Mariedelephant.com Find some of our favorite sex positive media or a dive deeper into the episode at www.vcatx.com/media/positiv...
May 01, 2020•1 hr 34 min
Todays Topic: Sci-Fi & The Cis Gaze Hello and welcome to Secular Sexuality, the ACA show that goes where no one has gone before. Joining me as always is our resident sexpert Christy Powell, and this week I’m incredibly excited to be guest hosting with Jessie Gender. Jessie’s YouTube channel uses geek and pop culture to talk about social, political, and topical issues, and is part of my steady diet, especially when it comes to two of my favorite topics: gender and Star Trek. She also has been...
Apr 24, 2020•1 hr 45 min
Mailbag episode! We have several friends on to help us answer emails, and field a few calls in between. Our hair is getting wild and wooly. Which breaks first- the quarantine or will we finally give in and cut our own hair? First up, we have an email about sapiosexuality. Is not even a thing right? If we start letting all these made up identifiers in, won’t it allow the heterosexuals to sneak into queer spaces? (I doubt it.) Shannon Q clarifies and expands on her answer from a previous episode. ...
Apr 17, 2020•1 hr 30 min
What a decade it’s been huh? We hope this finds you sheltered in place, surrounded by at least 6 feet of free space which is then surrounded by your loved ones. Even in this time of isolation and loneliness many of us are still dealing with close quarters and stressful relationships. Eclipse Life Coach Annette James joins us this week to help us cope and keep ourselves grounded during this wild ride. Find more grounding exercises or dive deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/gro...
Apr 10, 2020•1 hr 43 min
What does it mean to be invisibly queer? This week Vi and Christy are talking about passing and stealth with Shannon Q. All three of our hosts have stories about the benefits and challenges of invisible queerness, how passing is a privilege, and how erasure is harmful and leaves lasting impact on the GRSM community at large. If you’re interested in sharing your story or asking for advice on sex, relationships, or gender, get in touch by emailing sex@atheist-community.org or calling us at our voi...
Apr 03, 2020•1 hr 31 min
Between Lavarne Cox, Jill Soloway and, um, Ryan Seacrest, trans exposure has made remarkable jumps in the past 5 years. But if trans gender is just as genetic as cis gender, why are most Americans only now seeing it? Trans therapist and educator Billie Beard joins us in the studio to fill in some of the gaps in our memory by discussing trans heroes from American history and to help us understand why these stories are so rarely told. Jackie Shane - Walking The Dog - 1965 R&B- https://youtu.be...
Mar 13, 2020•58 min
A few weeks ago Christy got a chance to do his first ever boudoir photography shoot! Jenna Avery of Creatrix Photography does body positive, queer affirming photography so after working together on his headshots, they were the au-natural choice. Jenna joines Vi and Christy in studio on this week’s Secular Sexuality to discuss the *ahem* ins and outs of professional nudity, boudoir photography and American judeo-christian modesty. Book Jenna at https://mybadassphotographer.com/ or follow @Creatri...
Mar 06, 2020•54 min
