Most men I know felt really frustrated when they first heard about affirmative consent - after all, this felt like yet another example of men being burdened with women's' responsibilities. But I've come to realise that there could be a very real way in which affirmative consent may prove to be a very positive change for us guys in the long run - and there's good evidence existing to suggest that we should consider embracing the yes means yes ideology. What could be the hidden benefit?...
Sep 10, 2020•13 min•Season 11Ep. 10
Here is one proven strategy to stop being needy forever - this has a 100% success rate with all my clients over the last 11 years. Neediness with women is an instant turn off - and it can be almost impossible to hide forever - it always has a way of coming back and destroying your relationships, and her attraction for you in the process. Becoming needy and clingy with women has become far too common with men - and it boils down to not having specific emotional needs met in their day to day lives...
Sep 07, 2020•11 min•Season 11Ep. 9
What his your Dark Masculine? And why do all men need to do shadow work to learn to embrace their dark masculine? Why are women so turned on by men who are dangerous but in control? Your dark side is the portal to accessing your masculinity - and it's often not pretty or socially acceptable. But it's a critical part of who you are as a man, and it should never be suppressed or ignored. Men who want to stop being scared of the world need to learn to embrace and be comfortable with the darkest par...
Aug 25, 2020•13 min•Season 11Ep. 8
Is it worth getting Tinder Gold in 2020? Many men get really frustrated with Tinder, and especially with Tinder Gold, if they don't end up getting any results. Which happens quite often. In fact, as many as 80% of guys who pay for tinder gold get barely any results at all. This isn't a random effect, however, and there are some very good use case scenarios when paying to upgrade your tinder account is well worth it, and you can improve your results dramatically. In this video, I'll show you both...
Aug 10, 2020•13 min•Season 11Ep. 7
Is online dating better than cold approaching? Which modality of attraction is best for you? That's actually not as simple as it sounds, for some guys, jumping onto Tinder or Bumble and crafting a really amazing online dating profile is the best way to go - for other guys, it'is worth it to invest time learning to approach and attract women out in the real world. In this video, I'm going to discuss the pros and cons of different ways of meeting cute girls, whether it's online or out in the real ...
Aug 04, 2020•18 min•Season 11Ep. 6
Men's group sare one of the powerful ways to men to work on their self-development and discover their masculinity in a safe compassionate space of other men who are there to serve you. When I was a younger man, wanting to work on my masculinity and stop being such a pushover nice-guy - men's groups really helped me to discover what it was that I was doing wrong. We live in a climate where feminists and other women are trying to control the dialogue on what a 'real man' really is, and teaching ou...
Jul 28, 2020•13 min•Season 11Ep. 5
Why do I think most couples aren't ready for an open relationship? What are some of the hidden dangers of a polyamorous lifestyle? What are some of the massive benefits to be had from having an open marriage? Today I'm going to discuss my experiences both with my partner and being around many other couples who are experimenting with open relationships and swinging, and what I've seen working and not working which has caused them to thrive or fall apart....
Jul 21, 2020•18 min•Season 11Ep. 4
How we deal with Rejection and Failure is one of the biggest determining factors in whether we are going to go and accomplish all the things we dream about in life. But the truth is that most of us give up after a couple of failures or brutal rejections, and some of us are so frightened of the pain that we never even try in the first place. But there is a deceptively simple strategy to breaking through and dealing with rejection in a way that prevents it from having a lasting effect on your emot...
Jul 14, 2020•11 min•Season 11Ep. 3
It may surprise you to hear me suggest that romantic love is based largely on a transaction between two or more people, and that if someone doesn't keep living up to their end of the bargain - then the relationship will fail. It may also surprise you that I still think that love is very real and romance is still alive and well in both men and women, and isn't going anywhere. I want to tell you why understanding the true transactional nature of love can be incredibly empowering and help you to ha...
Jul 07, 2020•10 min•Season 11Ep. 2
4 Online dating tips to help guys get casual sex relationships with women from their dating apps. When looking for dating advice for men - it's often focussed on how to get dates, rather than how to create a casual hookup - which is exactly what so many guys are really after. As a dating coach of over 11 years, I'll show you 4 important things you need to do with your online dating profiles to consistently find new friends with benefits.
Jun 30, 2020•15 min•Season 11Ep. 1
Why are men feeling increasingly frustrated with dating? Could it be because both men and women have too many choices? What does the choice paradox outlined by Barry Schwartz have to do with dating and relationships? As it turns out, it could tell us quite a lot about why finding women to date can be so frustrating in this day and age.
Jun 23, 2020•16 min•Season 10Ep. 10
Do you find yourself sabotaging all chance of success when you really like a girl? It's true that most men I work with have gotten very good at self-sabotaging their own success, and even though they have all the requirements to be quite good with women, they always find a way to fail just before they can get success. The worst thing is that our internal reasons for sabotaging ourselves live in our sub-conscious and so they are often great big dating blind spots for us. I'm going to show you how...
Jun 16, 2020•12 min•Season 10Ep. 8
My complete guide to going out and getting fantastic Tinder profile photos that guarantee you'll get matches and dates. The most difficult part of any Tinder profile is getting the right photos is having access to good quality shots - but most men aren't lucky enough to have any lying around. This guide will help you get out there right now and get some great shots you can use to give your profile that much needed boost.
Jun 09, 2020•12 min•Season 10Ep. 7
Learn how to get a friend with benefits relationship EASILY. How can you know if a woman is open to casual sex? How can you create a friends with benefits relationship with her? How can you maintain a casual sex relationship? I'm going to show you how to find, attract, and establish friends with benefits relationships without making the kinds of mistakes most men regularly make with women.
Jun 02, 2020•16 min•Season 10Ep. 6
I joined a Sugar Daddy online dating website (seeking arrangement) to see what it was all about. As it turned out, I had a really fascinating experience that taught me quite a bit about the current state of women's online dating as well as the true nature of human relationships. I've definitely learned things that can be directly applied to other online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. So what did I learn? Keep listening to find out
May 25, 2020•15 min•Season 10Ep. 5
How do you know if a woman you've just started dating is actually a good catch? Is there a way to tell if she's about to make your life a living hell once you get into a long term relationship? Today I want to share the 3 relationship flags that every man should think about prior to getting serious about a new woman in his life. This is the dating advice that I wish someone had given me when I was a younger man. 1. What are her friends like? 2. What is her relationship with her father like? 3. W...
May 25, 2020•12 min•Season 10Ep. 4
How has online dating changed during the coronavirus outbreak? Do women use Tinder or Bumble differently? Do they look for different kinds of men? What are the most curious ways that women have now changed their dating behaviours? With Covid-19 on the top of everyone's mind, we are all coping with the current situation in different ways. I've noticed some very curious changes that have happened in the way women are using online dating apps, as well as the kinds of men they're looking for....
May 21, 2020•10 min•Season 10Ep. 3
What is your attachment style? How does that attachment style determine whether you're going to face an ongoing string of bad relationships, or whether you're going to find an incredible woman? Attachment theory has been around for over 50 years, and it studies the ways in which our early childhood impacts our anxiety levels around relationships as adults, and can have a massive impact on the quality of the relationships that we have.
May 18, 2020•11 min•Season 10Ep. 2
2 powerful strategies to help you stop being needy around women. Women consistently rate neediness as being one of the biggest turn-offs - and yet so many guys find it hard to reduce the amount of needy behaviour that finds its way into their interactions. Imagine if you could stop feeling so 'thirsty' for women and instead started focussing on what you really wanted from a woman and being willing to walk away. It's a myth that women are the gatekeepers of sex - in fact you should be your own ga...
May 14, 2020•13 min•Season 10Ep. 1
What if self-confidence doesn't really exist? What if people who are trying to learn to be more confident are going about it all wrong? Almost all of us want to know how to be more confident, and in this video, I want to show you how the key to becoming more confident might be to STOP trying to act more confident, and instead focus on being whatever you are when you let go of your insecurities.
May 10, 2020•9 min•Season 9Ep. 12
We've all heard that women are turned off by weak men - And that the best way to keep a woman attracted is not to show any weakness at all, to remain stoic and alpha. But most men feel a lot of conflict about this solution (rightfully so). After all, one of the reasons to have a long term partner is for emotional support and intimacy. So what's a better solution? How can you share your vulnerabilities and weaknesses with women - and indulge your emotionally insecure moments without losing her re...
May 06, 2020•13 min•Season 9Ep. 11
Do you find yourself fixating on being able to attract those women who seem to be the hottest in any room? The ones who work for hours to look as good as they do? The ones who work hard to ensure they have every man's eyes on them? Getting fixated on these women is actually a dangerous trap that many men fall into - and they get fixated on the wrong women for the wrong reasons, and often this can lead to a huge amount of dating and relationship pain. Learn how to avoid falling into this dating t...
May 04, 2020•11 min•Season 9Ep. 10
What do women want in a man? Do they want the bad boy? Do they want the rock star? Do they want the strong and silent type? No matter where you look online, trying to work out what kind of man turns women on is complicated, and you're likely to get mixed messages, and that's frustrating. As it turns out there are many different kinds of men that women like, many stereotypes of guy that girls get excited about. Because not all women just like one kind of guy.
Apr 30, 2020•15 min•Season 9Ep. 9
When women play games with and try to manipulate you, it's frustrating, and angering - and very often it makes us feel mad at the woman, and sometimes women in general. Last week I went on a few dates with a woman who started to play games with me, and I felt like it was a fantastic learning opportunity for both myself and my audience. When you can understand the deeper reasons why women play games with men, then you can often find yourself becoming less frustrated because you can really see the...
Apr 27, 2020•19 min•Season 9Ep. 8
A lot of our dating frustrations have their roots in our blindspots. Our blindspots are the results of the rules of thumb we have about women, about yourselves, about sex, and about attraction - And if these rules that we hold for ourselves are mal-adaptive, then it can prove to be very difficult to attract women. I want to go over where these rules of thumb come from, what some of the most common rules of thumb are, and also how to begin to let go of our subconscious rules we have about the wor...
Apr 23, 2020•12 min•Season 9Ep. 7
Sick and tired of your tinder match rate constantly dropping, and it eventually seems like no women in your area are going to be interested in you ever again? Working on my own Tinder, I found a really fantastic strategy for both halting the Tinder ranking decay, and for increasing the variety of women that end up matching with you. Sometimes focussing on a tighter niche of women can prove to be the better way to get women more interested in you. This strategy also works on other dating apps lik...
Apr 20, 2020•9 min•Season 9Ep. 6
Establishing and Maintaining Casual Sex Relationships can be tricky at the best of times. Today I'll be bringing Lloyd from TheSingleGuy channel to discuss some critical insights on the big mistakes guys make when it comes to keeping casual relationships healthy. If you've ever had a woman fall for you and you only wanted to keep things casual, or if you've had women in the past get angry or jealous at you even though you never lied to them, then this is the video for you.
Apr 16, 2020•12 min•Season 9Ep. 5
Open relationships can be emotionally complicated at the best of times, and I've learned the critical importance of a technique called emotional zeroing out which has really helped keep my partner and I happy even when things get complicated. A few nights ago at a swingers party, I felt myself getting triggered by a few things that were going on. Rather than get mad at my partner and lash out at her, I took some space to emotionally zero out, and really get to the core of what I was feeling and ...
Apr 13, 2020•12 min•Season 9Ep. 4
Are you thinking about doing a pickup Bootcamp over a weekend? Are you getting really excited by all the hype and positive reviews you're seeing on the company's website? Today I want to talk about why most men should be very wary of doing a weekend pickup Bootcamp - and why I rarely ever run them myself. And under what circumstances I DO run them. For guys who want to learn to be more successful with women, or learn to be pick up artists (PUA) there are usually quite a few dating coaches availa...
Apr 09, 2020•11 min•Season 9Ep. 3
When you meet a woman, why should you expect her to want to go on a date with you? This is a confronting question that many men fail to ask themselves. Today I'm going to be discussing the dating mindset that guys need to have before trying to learn to attract women. Because sometimes the best strategy is to work on yourself as a man first before trying to pick up girls. This is the dating advice that more men need to be hearing because there can be a lot of failures that men experience needless...
Apr 06, 2020•11 min•Season 9Ep. 2
