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Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Savage Love Episode 261

Come hear the tale of the woman who wanks like a toddler. Remember that boy who got booted out of the Christian singing group "Psalm 100" for being gay? Dan chats him up a bit. How can a fickle bisexual chicken take the plunge and suck some cock already? And more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

Oct 18, 201150 minEp. 261

Savage Love Episode 260

"No sex before the game!" Is this bit of conventional wisdom wise? A gay man wonders if his date being specifically NOT invited to a family wedding is in any way bigoted. A man and woman are married only in the legal sense. But they still live together and enjoy each other's company. How do they roll out the nature of their odd relationship to potential lovers? And more, more, more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at ...

Oct 11, 201150 minEp. 260

Savage Love Episode 259

Ladies: How should you react when your boyfriend accuses you of cheating on him because he can feel that your vagina is looser than he remembers it being? Oh, and he has a really small dick. Do you have man boobs? Maybe you shouldn't. Do lesbians perform oral sex on strap-ons? DO THEY??? And! Dan responds to Douchegate 2011. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.

Oct 05, 201150 minEp. 259

Savage Love Episode 258

Apparently, there is someone more qualified to answer your filthy questions than Dan Savage. The identity of Dan's replacement may shock you… A man's buddy is accused of sexual assault by an acquaintance. The caller is dubious, but pretends to believe her. Should he confront her or lie in order to protect his friend? Is there a polite way to suggest that a lady shave her nether-regions? Remember: Think of the children. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio...

Sep 23, 201153 minEp. 258

Savage Love Episode 257

It's the fairy dust show! Can Dan Savage reach into his man-purse, pull out a handful of pink fairy dust, sprinkle it all over your sexual problems, and cure you of whatever ails you? No, he cannot. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at

Sep 20, 201142 minEp. 257

Savage Love Episode 256

This week the Lovecast is honored to welcome Dr. Anna Kaminski, medical director from Planned Parenthood. Hats off, everyone. Dan and Anna discuss the risks of herpes, chlamydia, pre-come, ass-licking and other deep medical topics. Anna quotes from scientific studies and Dan makes repulsive off-color jokes. What's not to like? Call us up: 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at Donate t...

Sep 09, 201150 minEp. 256

Savage Love Episode 255

The Savage Lovecast is delighted to welcome Mistress Matisse, Seattle's charming and terrifying dominatrix. Can sadists get it on with other sadists? Is domming a viable career choice? Can the master-slave relationship work when it's time to do the dishes? All of this and more await you, worm. 206-201-2720 This podcast is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter SANTORUM at checkout.

Sep 06, 201145 minEp. 255

Savage Love Episode 254

After a young queer woman came out to her high-school friends, one of them utterly rejected her and expressed retroactive squeamishness for all the hugs they ever shared. What a creep. A woman's gay friend with internalized homophobia disparages other gays and comes on to women when he's drunk. What a jerk. A young lesbian's cousin sends her links to anti-gay reparative-therapy sites. Asshole! Each one faces Dan's wrath. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free aud...

Aug 26, 201148 minEp. 254

Savage Love Episode 253

A son is more than a little jealous that his dad has multiple orgasms, and prays that perhaps it's genetic? Research scientist and hymen expert Debby Herbenick confirms that *spoiler alert* the hymen does indeed exist. You think you got it bad? At least YOU have a rectum… And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast

Aug 23, 201146 minEp. 253

Savage Love Episode 252

A woman who enjoys vanilla sex feels discriminated against by her kinky, poly posse. A man recently home from Iraq doesn't know how to speak gently to the ladies anymore. And hear the tale of Mike's friend's wife's nipples and the trouble they're bringing to his relationship. Naughty nipples! 206-201-2720 Sex at Dawn is now out in paperback. Read the book that Dan Savage wants to marry. Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout....

Aug 15, 201151 minEp. 252

Savage Love Episode 251

Gentle listeners of the podcast, it pains us to have to remind you to TEND TO YOUR UNICORN. In other words, if you have secured a lovely lady who is willing to be the third in your three-way, you are obligated to do her the courtesy of providing her with an ORGASM. Jesus Christ, people. In other matters concerning etiquette, it is now officially BAD FORM to open your relationship to include your brother. A young curmudgeonly lass has a long list of deal breakers. No drinking, no drugs, and no po...

Aug 05, 201147 minEp. 251

Savage Love Episode 250

What is the proper etiquette when you are offered $20 on the street to perform a sex act? A female sex worker in a new relationship wants to leave the life. Her boyfriend wants her to leave the life. But the money is so damn good! Can she ask him to support her while she gets her new life together? Can slapping a girl who didn't want to be slapped be reasonably construed as a "dick move"? We thought so, too. 206-201-2720 Oh! And we almost forgot! Hear Rachel's response to last week's marriage pr...

Jul 27, 201141 minEp. 250

Savage Love Episode 249

The open-minded father of a 14-year-old lesbian wonders if he should allow her to have sleepovers with her girlfriend.Dan's position on the Mormon poly lifestyle… revealed!Is it intolerable to dump your boyfriend right when he's about to go into surgery?And more ethical dilemmas.206-201-2720Comment on what you heard here at And be sure to get yourself a copy of the Savage Love App for iTunes and Android.

Jul 25, 201145 minEp. 249

Savage Love Episode 248

A meddling, deluded mother changes the relationship status on her gay son’s Facebook page to say he’s interested in women. How can this patient son help his mother through her tantrum phase? A young woman’s 19-year-old cousin is planning on meeting a 42-year-old man she met online. He claims to be in an open relationship. What could go wrong? A woman and her Method-actor boyfriend planned a night where they acted out their rape fantasy. Let’s hear how it went, shall we? Call us up and ramble on:...

Jul 19, 201142 minEp. 248

Savage Love Episode 247

A bi man and his lady enjoyed glorious bi-friendly sex until they had a baby. Then she demanded an immediate end to his bisexuality for fear he isn't a good enough role model for their son. Doesn't that suck? A lesbian and her lady made a commitment to lose weight together. Our heroine has succeeded where her partner hasn't even tried. Does the caller have the right to demand that her partner lose a few pounds? Dan speaks with David Jay, founder of Asexuality.org about what asexuality is and mea...

Jul 12, 201152 minEp. 247

Savage Love Episode 246

Dan Savage? What is the connection between homosexuals and unicorns? Can a gay man make out with a straight girl? Can he do that?? A woman complains that her boyfriend lays out a mighty sexy scene when he's texting her, but when it's time to actually do anything, he can't deliver. Is this a case of Madonna/whore syndrome? And so much more. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at This episode is brought to you by FyreTV- the ultim...

Jul 05, 201140 minEp. 246

Savage Love Episode 245

Seriously now. What's the most environmentally friendly way to dispose of your jiz? When encountering a man masturbating under cover of bushes in a public park, is it your responsibility to report him to the authorities? A woman is having mind blowing sex with a chronic liar. Should she just nod and smile and take the sex, or run as fast as she can in the other direction? What would you do? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by www.PinkVisual.com. They innovate, you masturbate. Comment ...

Jun 28, 201142 minEp. 245

Savage Love Episode 244

More rantings about a man named Weiner. Are garter belts inherently sexist, and is there a male equivalent? Dan interviews Ogi Ogas, co-author of "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" in which two computational neuroscientists embark on the largest study of sexuality since Kinsey. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. This episode is brought to you by FyreTV- the ultimate adult video experience. Sign up for FRE...

Jun 21, 201146 minEp. 244

Savage Love Episode 243

Is it wrong to contact the subsequent lovers of your lying, cheating, abusive ex and compare notes? What if one of the notes is that you have herpes? A closeted lesbian is worried that if she comes out it will impact her parents- pillars in their conservative community. A jealous lover makes his boyfriend write essays about his previous relationships. Dan has five special letters for this caller. Now class. Your assignment is to call: 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 pe...

Jun 14, 201146 minEp. 243

Savage Love Episode 242

How do you ask your lady if her boobs are the work of god or man? A woman engaged to be married wants to help a gay couple she knows by being a surrogate mother. Her fiancé isn't having it. Who should prevail? Poppers! Deep fried snack or sex enhancing drug- they're both nasty. Call us. Tell us everything. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to . Commen...

Jun 07, 201150 minEp. 242

Savage Love Episode 241

Today we are joined by the venerable athiest, science-lovin', feminist blogger Jen McCreight who has a thing or two to say about skepticism. She takes Dan to task for his lack of critical thinking while interviewing a recent guest about female ejaculation. So, the calls today are all viewed through the cold, hard prism of science. This all BEFORE the rapture proved to be a non-event. That took courage. Call us up: 206-201-2720 Check out Jen's magnificent blog: at www.blaghag.com. Today's episode...

May 31, 201147 minEp. 241

Savage Love Episode 240

This week we are joined by the good doctor Vy Chu- a specialist in gay men's health. So there's a lot of talk about butts. And balls. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to www.. You can and should comment on this show over at

May 24, 201148 minEp. 240

Savage Love Episode 239

What does a neglectful drunk have to do to win his wife back? A man with a doll fetish wonders if his turn-on for the "little girl" look automatically makes him a pedophile. An attractive man with a homely girlfriend wonders if he's missing out by leaving all the world's hotties on the table. And more. 206-201-2720 Hello Randy Marquardt from West Bend K-12! Email ole Randy at rmarquardt@west-bend.k12.wi.us Or give him a friendly jingle at 262-306-2601 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 5...

May 17, 201141 minEp. 239

Savage Love Episode 238

Too much information? A woman confides in a friend that she is having an affair. Now the friend feels on the hook with this unwanted knowledge. Should she tell or clam up? A man and his girlfriend have agreed to embark on an open relationship. But it's open only for him. She's not allowed to go outside the relationship. Is this okay? Heike Rodriguez, an educator who teaches women how to achieve female ejaculation, talks with Dan in the studio and makes him squirm in about a dozen ways. Two words...

May 09, 201151 minEp. 238

Savage Love Episode 237

What happens when you're turned on by rape fantasies and then you actually get raped? Time to find a new fantasy. Marijuana! Is it Viagra for women? A transvestite in Kansas: A college crossdresser finds it hard to meet women who will accept him for who he is. We accept you. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Netflix. For a free 30-day trial, go to . Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. You can an...

May 02, 201146 minEp. 237

Savage Love Episode 236

A woman is having an affair with a man who is probably gay. Should she help him to cross the line into homo-land, or butt out and find somebody who digs chicks? A man is dating a gal who is perfect in every way except for one little problem. She is bat-shit, loony tunes crazy. Is the sex worth it? A queer woman has a girlfriend who's a real snoozer in the sack. She calls her hot gender-queer pals whenever she wants sex, fucks them and then comes home to her girlfriend to read in bed and fall asl...

Apr 26, 201139 minEp. 236

Savage Love Episode 235

OMG! Don't you hate it when you go to a gay bar, make out with TWO gay men (even though you are a woman), and then totally don't remember it because you were, like, too drunk? How do you tell your on-again, off-again lover that you are suddenly into kink? This includes a bonus anti-choking sermon from Father Dan Savage. Don't do it. A lost lesbian bemoans the fact that she is a butch dyke attracted to other butch dykes. Can she meet anyone like her? Maybe if she moved out of Tulsa, Oklahoma… And...

Apr 19, 201148 minEp. 235

Savage Love Episode 234

It's the one-minute wonder show! All calls less than one minute long! All answers less than one minute long! Why me talking like Hulk? Topics covered: Friends with overgrown bushes, herpes dating sites, more come, less come, loud neighbors, master-slave role-play, icing on boobs and so much more. Call us quickly!! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today at Comment on this episode at www.thestranger.com/lovecast.

Apr 12, 201136 minEp. 234

Savage Love Episode 233

When he first met his future wife in college, she was a sex machine. Now their sex life is vanilla and boring. Is it all over for him? Has he missed out? Dan speaks with a staff member for the ACLU, doing the work and opening up a can of whup-ass on bigots and homophobes. A woman begs Dan to decode her dark fantasies. And decode them he does. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Check out the ACLU's ...

Apr 05, 201157 minEp. 233

Savage Love Episode 232

How to engineer the perfect fuck-buddy. She has him somewhat trained. But he won't buy his own condoms, and he won't switch and let her sub for a while. Can she perfect him? A woman and her husband have agreed to open up their marriage. But what will their friends and neighbors think when the gossip starts to fly? A man and a woman are coworkers. They share a small lab space together and work long hours. She is in love with him. He isn't in love with her. That's one bad petri dish. And more. 206...

Mar 29, 201144 minEp. 232
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