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Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage, America's only advice columnist, answers your sex and relationship questions and yaps about politics. To record a question for Dan to be answered in a later podcast, record your question and send it to Q@Savage.Love, or call 206-302-2064. For a much longer version of the show, with no ads, visit savage.love and get yourself a subscription.
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Savage Love Episode 231

We start the show off with a little wedding drama. The best man turns out to be a skirt-chasing cad. Should the bride & groom boot him out of the wedding or plug their noses and let him stand up? A married man isn't getting any at home. Can we blame him if he accepts the occasional blow job from a gay man? An American woman living in the Middle-East is dating a Pakistani man. He's a lousy, selfish lover, and deeply religious. Any ideas what she should do with him? Any ideas at all? 206-201-2...

Mar 22, 201147 minEp. 231

Savage Love Episode 230

At the age of 22, a married woman is sick of sex with her husband and wants to branch out. Can Dan save her marriage? How can you avoid the typical pitfalls of a friends-with-benefits relationship? After a sadistic lover violated her safe word, a kinky woman is feeling gun-shy about kinky sex. So is her husband. And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout.

Mar 09, 201148 minEp. 230

Savage Love Episode 229

Mike Huckabee? You're not going to like this show one bit. When friends are dickheads: two tales of nasty pals. One who insults his girlfriend and treats her poorly. Another who writes about his girlfriend on a sex blog against her wishes. Eeesh. She's young. She's kinky. She has a high sex drive. And… she likes to wear diapers and drink from a sippy cup. How can this lass find true love? And a lot more. Tell us your tale, won't you? 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Downlo...

Mar 04, 201143 minEp. 229

Savage Love Episode 228

A gay man who used to be bullied in high school testifies that when you get older, not only does it get better…it gets interesting. Three tales of porn: A man's long distance girlfriend forbids him from watching porn. A porn-friendly lady wants more porn, porn made for ladies. And, a man's boyfriend fucks him like it's a porno movie- no foreplay, no nothing. And that sucks! By the way, we hope you enjoyed Lady Porn Day. Call us up! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 perce...

Mar 01, 201145 minEp. 228

Savage Love Episode 227

A crazy bitch who goes out dancing on a second date with a guy she really likes ends up making out with a completely different guy on the dance floor, and then she worries about being perceived as a "crazy bitch." "I want to do anal right," proclaims a man preparing to pleasure his girlfriend. To help field this one, Dan enlists the help of Tristan Taormino, author of "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women." A man wonders aloud if he has any recourse when his white flannel sheets get stained ...

Feb 22, 201144 minEp. 227

Savage Love Episode 226

It's the long-awaited episode with Mistress Matisse! Meet one of the few people who can make Dan Savage squirm. Topics covered: a sub who scares her dom's dick; "skin play"; unsexy, unwilling hostage situations; and a lot more. Faggot + dominatrix = delightful rapport. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by . Go buy something and be sure to enter "Pony" at checkout. Mistress commands you to visit her website:

Feb 11, 201147 minEp. 226

Savage Love Episode 225

Come hear the tale of the lying bisexual who chickened out and denied her bisexuality to a friend. Now she's paying the price. An ex-Mormon teen wants to have some casual hook-ups. But it turns out that you can take the girl out of Utah, but you can't take the Utah out of the girl. The sugar-daddy decision: One caller is considering finding a sugar daddy to help pay the bills. Another caller has a chilling cautionary tale about being a sugar baby. Is it worth it? Be careful ladies... 206-201-272...

Feb 08, 201143 minEp. 225

Savage Love Episode 224

This week, Dan brings on Amy Lang—sex educator, author, and a generally hilarious and charming guest. All of today's calls concern how parents deal with sexuality and how to talk to your kids about sex. Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by . Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Learn about Amy Lang at Amy will also be answering your questions over at

Jan 26, 201148 minEp. 224

Savage Love Episode 223

A woman who broke up with her boyfriend after one year suffers from ADG (advanced dumper's guilt.) How can she get over it? In what sounds like an after-school special, a high-school couple really want to get it on. But the boy's violin teacher is poisoning the relationship! The drama! Violins! A queer woman wonders if she can maintain her friendship with a conservative Christian woman who thinks she's going to hell. How can you be friends with a woman like that? Can you? 206-201-2720 Today's ep...

Jan 21, 201143 minEp. 223

Savage Love Episode 222A

New and Improved! Reduce, reuse, recycle. Does this apply to condoms? Should a boyfriend be expected to help pay for birth control pills? A rape survivor wonders if she should let her boyfriend engage in "rape play" as a form of therapy. And a lot more Call us at 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve

Jan 18, 201140 minEp. 222

Savage Love Episode 221

Sorry about the sound quality on some of this, folks. It gets better. Speaking of! Dan talks with the brilliant Rebecca Drysdale about her nearly perfect song/video to accompany the It Gets Better Project. A woman's ex-lover and current roommate is wacking off in a pair of her old underwear. Just how creeped out should she be? A bisexual man is frustrated that people (both men and women) dump him when they find out he's bi. So why should he even tell them? And more. Call us up. 206-201-2720 This...

Jan 11, 201149 minEp. 221

Savage Love Episode 220

A gay man posted some photos of himself wearing a dress. Now his family is FREAKING OUT. How can he explain that being a little freaky doesn't make him a transsexual? Meanwhile, a very game woman is dating a confused cross-dresser. Is he gay? Is he transexual? Dan chats with Helen Boyd- author of "My Husband Betty" to get the scoop. A bisexual man is not out to his family. Is he morally obligated to tell them even when he doesn't have a boyfriend? All this, and more. Call us at 206-201-2720 Toda...

Jan 04, 201145 minEp. 220

Savage Love Episode 219

A college co-ed is mortified at her own behavior at a frat party. Can she recast her image from drunken ho to witty sophisticate? After 12 years of marriage a man finds himself at an impasse. He's not getting any. She's not giving any. He doesn't want to pay for it, demand it or lie about it. What's a hard-up husband to do? It's hard to be out n' proud when you just feel like a lesbian homewrecker. Hey baby. How's it goin'? Did you find this podcast "formulaic?" 206-201-2720 This episode is brou...

Dec 20, 201046 minEp. 219

Savage Love Episode 218

Her boyfriend wets the bed. Should this be a dealbreaker? A straight man repeatedly "finds himself" getting his dick sucked by his creepy neighbor. Bi-curious much? A 16 year old girl gets busted by her mother for sending pictures of herself to a 39 year old man. Who's the hero here? Call us. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible.com Download a free audio book of your choice today at www.audiblepodcast.com/savage Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project...

Dec 20, 201052 minEp. 218

Savage Love Episode 217

"It's not you. I'm just not ready for a relationship." How should a man deal with these crazy-making words? A woman used to be a bit of a slut. Now she's monogamous with her man. But the man keeps obsessing about her past. How can they build trust? Don't you hate it when your new boyfriend has a crazy girlfriend that he's recently impregnated? Jealousy. It's what's for dinner. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Sav...

Dec 14, 201046 minEp. 217

Savage Love Episode 216

A gay man's entire Catholic family knows he's gay. When will he come out already so they can meet his boyfriend? Want to punish your parents? Why not join a queer porn collective? Birthday etiquette: A concerned aunt gives her lesbian niece a packet of ex-gay propaganda, warning that she will go to hell if she doesn't magically turn straight. Is this a) kind, b) polite, c) a fun gift to get, or d) none of the above. Relatives! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 5...

Dec 07, 201048 minEp. 216

Savage Love Episode 215

How do you make the transition from massage parlors to dating? A self-acknowedged cheater used to cheat, currently cheats and will cheat again. Should he consider an open relationship? And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879

Nov 30, 201039 minEp. 215

Savage Love Episode 214

A young kinkster doesn't know how to tell her newly deflowered boyfriend that she wants him to slap her silly. Beware the man who says he only meets women who are boring, or crazy or bitches. Also, if you fool around with a man who doesn't listen to you when you say "no," it's quite alright to send him packing into the cold, cold night. And other cautionary tales. 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by AudiblePodcast.Com/Savage. Download a free audio book of your choice today. Check out ...

Nov 23, 201049 minEp. 214

Savage Love Episode 213

Clown porn- balloon poodles will never be the same. How do you tell your partner that she should lose a little weight? Is it racist to dig Mexican men? And Dan is joined by Wayne Besen of "Truth Wins Out" on how to deal with victims of the ex-gay movement. Apniatic? 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call...

Nov 16, 201053 minEp. 213

Savage Love Episode 212

If you're dating a poly lady, does that automatically make YOU poly? How do you keep those pesky pubic hairs from getting trapped in the cock ring? Hear about how paella cost a man one week of sex. Hopefully it was really good paella. How many naked pictures of your boyfriend's ex are too many? And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brou...

Nov 09, 201046 minEp. 212

Savage Love Episode 211

A gay man watches in horror as his gay friend attempts to become straight in order to please Jesus Christ. Meanwhile, an ex-Mormon and current foot-fetishist wonders if it's dishonest to give his girlfriend a foot rub. A grandpa is worried about the porn watching habits of his grandson. Though he used to spank it pretty good in his day... And more. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/Sava...

Nov 02, 201039 minEp. 211

Savage Love Episode 210

Dan is joined by Christopher Ryan, coauthor of Sex at Dawn. The two attempt to tackle your freaky sex problems from an evolutionary psychologist's perspective. Dan just wants to talk about plunger dicks, big sperm babies, and bonobo vulvas. Science! 206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project. Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, ...

Oct 27, 201058 minEp. 210

Savage Love Episode 209

It's the Damsels in Distress episode! A college coed lost her virginity while blasted drunk. Though she remembers giving consent, her shame caused her to call it rape. Now what? Another woman got pregnant with her brand-new boyfriend. Should she keep the baby? She and her fiancé broke up. Can they stay living together in their teeny tiny apartment as friends? Women! 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at check...

Oct 19, 201046 minEp. 209

Savage Love Episode 208

A woman and her mother have a tumultuous relationship. How will she take is when her daughter comes out as poly? A man and his wife have a great sex life, except she won't fuck his pal. Does pegging make you gay? Real men actually wonder this. Remember: It's just a dolphin. 206-201-2720 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download...

Oct 12, 201039 minEp. 208

Savage Love Episode 207

A woman is married to a cruel dickhead, pure 'n' simple. Will she DTMFA? Confused Unicorn: A married bisexual is chagrined by the treatment she gets among the gays. The poignant question is, —is the B in LGBT silent? A woman uses the wrong pronoun to address a transsexual pal. All hell breaks loose. And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten Today's episode is brought to y...

Oct 05, 201052 minEp. 207

Savage Love Episode 206

It's the bisexual visibility show! All bisexuals, all of the time. Happy belated Bisexuality Day. Call us up. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Check out Dan's It Gets Better Project

Sep 28, 201052 minEp. 206

Savage Love Episode 205

A gay man is bewildered when a lover asks him to save his spunk in a Ziplock bag. If the lady you're making love to tells you that you don't need to wear a condom, is she saying the same thing to all the other fellas? Two tales of massages with happy endings. One of them getting happier and happier… Feeling tense? Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Get STD Tested. Call today for easy, reliable, and confidential STD testing: 888-387-1879 Today's episode is brought to you...

Sep 21, 20101 hr 1 minEp. 205

Savage Love Episode 204

A woman's boyfriend got fired in May and still hasn't gotten his ass off the couch. Should she cut and run or hang in there? A lesbian grapples with her hypnosis fetish. A woman's new lover whimpers like a kicked puppy when having sex. She finds this… not so sexy. And on and on. Call us at 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Adam and Eve. Get 50 percent off almost any item when you enter "Savage" at checkout. Click here: http://j.mp/SavageAdamEve Today's episode is also brought to ...

Sep 14, 201047 minEp. 204

Savage Love Episode 203

Polyamory: There's a dark side, you know. When a stripper pays you extra attention at a strip club, does it automatically mean you're being hustled? Gusher on Aisle 3! This lady has the dubious problem of ejaculating so much that she needs three layers of towels lest she soak the bed. And more. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Audible. Download a free audio book of your choice today here: http://j.mp/savageaudible Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent ...

Sep 07, 201049 minEp. 203

Savage Love Episode 202

Dan is joined by Adam Carolla for a tag team on three-ways. (For the first and last time...) And more. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Smitten Kitten. Get 20 percent off your order when you enter "Savage" at checkout: http://j.mp/SavageKitten

Aug 31, 201044 minEp. 202
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