What were the taboo topics you never got to discuss with your parents? Could they be the same topics your children might have wanted to talk with you about? In this episode, I discuss the importance of creating an environment where we can talk about anything, no matter what it is. I reflect on my experience teaching body safety to children and how telling them that they can talk about anything doesn't always align with their lived experiences. I invite listeners to share their own experiences of...
Jun 12, 2023•36 min
Are we raising our kids to be aware that they can readily seek help whenever they need to? Seeking help, both formal and informal, is crucial for our mental health and overall well-being. While seeking help has always been important, our awareness of it has improved over time. This is not just an individual issue; it is a systemic one influenced by social support, education systems, and the pressures of social media. Along with it, I discussed the five ideas for raising kids who seek help. They ...
Jun 05, 2023•20 min
Wonder how we can cultivate critical thinking in our children, especially considering the rapidly changing world they are growing up in? I realized that we might have overlooked the importance of home life in developing critical thinking skills. We tend to associate critical thinking with education and overlook the role of parents in fostering these skills. However, our children need critical thinking not only for academic success but also for navigating their everyday lives. In our parenting jo...
May 29, 2023•28 min
Have you heard statements such as, “You’re unlikable, you don’t belong here, you don’t fit in”? One of the things where shame comes from is the sense of not belonging. Those negative messages convert to shame. Children either try to prove themselves to the world or completely reject the world. Repeated experiences of feeling they do not belong usually occur in schools but it can also happen in the family, as well. In this episode, we will discuss the effects of shame and praise on a child, the ‘...
May 22, 2023•23 min
How do we raise kids who know that they are worthy of and deserve relationships and respect? How do we raise them to know that they have the right to feel safe all the time? Respectful relationships. Not just with the family but with peers, close friends and even with coworkers in the future as well. We want them to identify a good relationship from a bad one. It’s not about doing them perfectly but role modelling them in front of our kids, showing vulnerability, owning up to the mistakes, and g...
May 15, 2023•31 min
Are we raising our kids to speak or live the truth? Or are they living the way we want them to live? Are they pretending to be someone they are not? Are they genuine and being themselves? Children are innately assertive. They don’t stress or think about what others might think of them. They aren’t afraid of what others think. In time, authenticity, and individualism start to go away. But why? Where does it go and why does it start to fade? In this episode, we will discuss: Different areas of why...
May 08, 2023•34 min
Have you heard statements as such as, “You’re unlikable, you don’t belong here, you don’t fit in”? One of the things where shame comes from is the sense of not belonging. Those negative messages convert to shame. Children either try to prove themselves to the world or completely reject the world. Repeated experiences of feeling they do not belong usually occur in schools but it can also happen in the family, as well. In this episode, we will discuss: Effects of shame and praise on a child ‘Spare...
May 01, 2023•28 min
What are the things you’re ashamed of? Where has shame popped into your life? How has it shaped you? Is there a shame you are now ready to let go of? Shame is lurking in the darkness and filtering into everyday but likely you have not stopped to take time, think about it and let it go before it gets passed on to the next generation. In this episode, we will discuss: What shame is and how to identify it Where shame could have stemmed from The effects of shame on our identity and how we view the w...
Apr 24, 2023•19 min
Think back to your childhood. Were you labelled as the smart one, the pretty one, the clumsy one, or something else entirely? Did these labels shape the choices you made, and do you still believe them to be true about yourself? In this episode, we'll be exploring the power of shedding the labels we carry with us from childhood and adolescence and how they can limit our growth and potential. When we pause to notice, we can make different choices and remove the limitations on ourselves, and in set...
Apr 17, 2023•32 min
Have you ever found yourself feeling burnt out, reactive instead of proactive, or losing the joy of parenting? It is nothing to feel ashamed of. In fact, shame will only prevent you from seeking the help you may need. In my professional development days as a social worker, I learned that there was a name for this. It’s called ‘blocked care’. It’s when your ability to sustain care for your child in the most ideal, loving way, is blocked, due to your own needs for connection and care being unmet. ...
Apr 10, 2023•40 min
Can you think of the last time you needed to address an issue with one of your children? Can you think back to the last time that happened? How did it go when you tried to address it? Perhaps you found yourself escalating. Perhaps you felt like you and your child were on the opposite sides of the Grand Canyon, staring at each other, knowing that you needed to find a way to communicate, but just stuck at that moment where you are unable to reconnect with each other and really work together. In th...
Apr 03, 2023•13 min
Do you know that there is a parenting challenge that is so normalized, so expected, so talked about that there’s ever a chance that you would’ve known this stage before you even became a parent, and even before you had children, just accepted that this is a challenge you will face that you didn’t really give it much thought after that? We have normalized the idea that parents will be sidelined, no longer relevant to their teenagers and even to their tweens. We have normalized it to the point whe...
Mar 27, 2023•16 min
Are you ready to make parenting a fun, positive experience for both you and your children? We’re focusing on a powerful technique I’m calling, ‘Love Bombing’ that will help you create and maintain deep, loving connections with your children. In this episode, we will be: exploring a variety of simple, yet impactful ways to show our love and support transforming everyday moments into opportunities for both bonding and growth from the magic of physical touch diving into our children’s world uncover...
Mar 20, 2023•33 min
Do you remember the last time your kid said something and you didn't know what to say in response? Have they asked you a question or commented about something that shocked you so much which made you silent for a minute? Whenever I am faced with these moments, my favorite trick is to ask a question instead of offering an advice. Instead of offering a story of the same experience or starting off with the word “at least” – just ask a question and make them feel that you are interested to know what’...
Mar 13, 2023•13 min
Have you ever thought about ways on how to strengthen your connection with your child? Have you heard about “Emotion Coaching”? It is one of the most powerful tools that can help us strengthen our relationship with our kids. As parents, this will help us recognize the significance of our children’s emotions and improve ability to self-calm and label their feelings by being receptive and accepting through spoken directives. In this episode, we will be discussing more about: What is Emotion Coachi...
Mar 06, 2023•19 min
Are there moments when you find yourself getting flustered and frustrated that none of your kids seems to be listening? How do you approach it at that moment? Did you ever find yourself wondering, how to get these kids to cooperate so you can do the things that you need to do in the timeframe that you need to do them? These are really common struggles. And you know what, you are not alone. In this episode, we will be discussing more about: The Power of Oxytocin Connection and Cooperation What Ox...
Feb 28, 2023•11 min
As a parent, is there a part of you that wants to control your child’s outcomes for their life and their future? When you try to control them, how does it come out? What does it look like? Our reason for doing this may be quite reasonable and might be driven by the desire of keeping them safe. But we must remember that our kids need to experience having some control over their own body, their own choices, their own future and their own life. It doesn’t mean that they get to control everything, b...
Feb 20, 2023•20 min
Connection is enjoying, savoring, being grateful for being in your child’s presence. It is being not just physically present, but emotionally present. When you tune into your children, it gives them the message that they matter, that they are important, that they are loved, that they are worth your time. In this episode, we will be discussing more about: Why Connecting with Your Child Matters Establishing Connections with Your Child Impacts of Building Good Connection Got any questions? Get in t...
Feb 13, 2023•20 min
Raising children is hard. They push us to our limits, invoking feelings of inadequacy. But instead of telling yourself that you’re screwing up, shift your focus on what’s going well. Pat yourself on the back for small accomplishments. Spend some time each day focusing on what you’re offering your child and how well you’re doing. In this episode, we will be discussing more about: Growing as a Parent Seasons of Parenting Life Self-appreciation and Self-care Got any questions? Get in touch and conn...
Feb 06, 2023•9 min
Do you feel like a broken record? Do you feel like you’re always repeating the same messages to your kids, and it’s just not getting through? Do you feel forced into a situation where you have to nag? Can you feel your frustration rise as you wonder, exasperated, why your children won’t cooperate? You are not alone. There is another way. And that’s what I want to talk about. In this episode, we will be discussing more about: Understanding your child’s behaviour Healthy and effective discipline s...
Jan 30, 2023•13 min
🤔 It can be tricky to find the right approach in your parenting style. 🤷♂️ How do we provide the boundaries children need, encourage good choices and be their safe, trusted space? ⚖️ How do we find that sweet spot, so that we are not too harsh, and also not pushovers or disrespected? 🚤 I use an analogy I call, 'finding the centre of the river'. `In this episode, we will be discussing more about: Authoritarian Parenting, Authoritative Parenting & Permissive Parenting Parenting Influences ...
Jan 23, 2023•18 min
Good interaction and communication between you and your child is important for developing a positive relationship and will make it easier for you to talk about difficult topics as they get older. It’s a reality for many parents that we don’t always give our children full, undivided attention. Between cell phones, work, TV, and socialization, many parents struggle to be fully present with their kids. As parents, we should make sure that when we are having a conversation with our child, whether it...
Jan 16, 2023•20 min
Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility, decision making and struggles on how to best raise your child. Knowing your child takes time, desire and careful observation. You always have your child's best interest at heart, but sometimes your child may disagree with the rules you have set down and as a parent, we want our children to be able to make their own mistakes and learn from them. In this episode, we will be discussing: How acting as the only expert affects our relationship with ou...
Jan 09, 2023•20 min
As a parent, we face different challenges as we try to figure out the best way to proper parenting. We discover that there are many challenges that we never expected or knew about before having children. It can be tough and exhausting to as we try to parent our kids based on who we think they should be instead of who they are. In this episode, we will be talking about something that might be sabotaging your parenting. We’ll discuss: How did you expect parenting to be before you became a parent. ...
Jan 02, 2023•17 min
Are you feeling overwhelmed and like you're constantly sacrificing your own needs and desires for your kids? It's a common struggle that many of us face, but it's important to remember that as parents, we need to prioritise our own well-being too. In this episode, we're talking about the belief that "A good parent always puts their children first," and how this belief can be harmful if we don't also make time for ourselves. Here are the main points we'll cover: How this belief can shape our deci...
Dec 26, 2022•17 min
Do you ever look around and think everyone is managing more easily than you? Do you ever watch others and assume you’re the only one finding it this hard? Comparing ourselves to others seems to be human nature. It probably served some evolutionary purpose, somewhere along the line. But that doesn’t mean it’s serving us well anymore - ESPECIALLY if your brain assumes everyone is always doing everything better than you! In this episode, we’ll explore what the real consequences are of endlessly (an...
Dec 19, 2022•14 min
Do you ever get stuck? Do you wind up walking around the house, silently (or not so silently) fuming, for the best part of a day? Do you find that your day gets sucked into some sort of parenting vortex, where the kids just keep fighting, and nobody’s having a good time? If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. But as you likely already know, the getting stuck isn’t serving you, and it might just be the reason that vortex appears. In this episode, we’ll talk about how you can start to learn to...
Dec 12, 2022•18 min
Have you ever taken offence to your child’s behaviour? Have you ever found yourself either freezing up or lashing out, triggered by what your child’s behaviour says about you? Have you ever gotten hot and flustered, because their behaviour MUST show that they simply don’t respect you enough? If you have, you’re certainly not alone. In this episode, we’ll explore what your child’s behaviour is actually about, and what they really need you to know. We’ll find one of the keys to helping you stay ca...
Dec 05, 2022•23 min
Do you ever find parenting really uncomfortable? The noise. The mess. The feelings (so many feelings!). There’s so many places to be. Shoes to keep track of. Mouths to feed. Bills to pay. It’s a lot, and sometimes it might just feel like it’s all too much. The mental load can be extraordinary. Because of all of that, parenting can create feelings of discomfort that run (literally) through our whole body. And for some of us, that feeling can get pretty hard to take. If this resonates with you, th...
Nov 28, 2022•17 min
Do you ever find yourself frustrated and flabbergasted at your child’s behaviour? Do you ever wonder why they are still doing what they’re doing, in spite of all the consequences? Are you simply sick and tired of repeating yourself? If this is what you’re experiencing, this show is for you. In this episode, we’ll explore where those behaviours are really coming from, and why you’re still seeing them over and over. We’ll talk about how behaviour really is just communication, and what this really ...
Nov 21, 2022•18 min
