Ever wondered how to honor your past without letting shame dictate your journey Imagine being able to replace shame with a more empowering word, acknowledging its role in your life, and recognizing that the story has changed. We've crafted an episode that brings light to this transformative process. Drawing inspiration from biblical stories such as Jesus and the new wine and the old wineskin, the Prodigal Son, Martha and Mary, as well as insights from Aundi Kolber 's " Try Softer ", we reflect o...
Jul 25, 2023•11 min•Ep. 27
Are your habits and addictions holding you back? Join me, Andrea, as we boldly navigate the challenging terrain of triggers in Sacred by Design. We'll unveil the power of naming and understanding your triggers, the important second step towards breaking the cycle of addiction. Together, we'll journey through the profound wisdom of the Bible, revealing how Jesus is aware of our struggles and invites us towards wholeness. The second half of our conversation takes us deeper into the realm of freedo...
Jul 18, 2023•11 min•Ep. 26
What if the key to breaking free from unwanted sexual behavior lies in the power of your thoughts? Let's journey together through this thought-provoking conversation as we explore the often overlooked significance of our mental pathways and how they can lead us to experiences of shame, isolation, and disappointment. Yet, there's hope. There's a promise - and not just any promise, but one from Jesus, who is ready to guide us in creating new neural paths filled with freedom, victory, and community...
Jul 11, 2023•12 min
Buckle up, Sacred by Design listeners, because we’re about to take a more frequent journey together! Starting now, you can expect soul-nourishing episodes every week, diving into the intricacies of our sexuality, our relationship with God, and all the messy, beautiful bits in between. And as a cherry on top, every month, we’ll be joined by voices you love - Kit, Anne, Rebecca, and Kyle, as we dive deeper into gritty topics like sexual boundaries in dating and recovery from sexual betrayal. Now, ...
Jul 04, 2023•4 min
Tired of navigating the confusing world of sexual boundaries within Christian dating relationships? We're here to help you redefine these boundaries as markers of holiness, focusing on maintaining sacredness and godliness according to God's intentions. Join us as we dive into Paul's words in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6 and discuss how to approach dating relationships with a heart for protecting our future spouse, even if our current relationship doesn't work out. We'll share insights on having convers...
Jun 27, 2023•15 min•Ep. 23
Are you ready to unlock the secrets of true intimacy in your marriage? Join us on this eye-opening episode of Sacred By Design, where we peel back the layers of intimacy, diving deeper than just the physical aspect. We discuss the six aspects of intimacy – emotional, physical, sexual, intellectual, recreational, and spiritual – and reveal how understanding and nurturing these elements can lead to a stronger, more fulfilling relationship with your spouse. Listen in as we explore the importance of...
Jun 13, 2023•15 min•Ep. 22
Have you ever wondered why some women struggle with pornography addiction, and how it might be connected to deeper heart issues? In this intimate and powerful conversation, we tackle the tough topic of pornography addiction in women and the extra layer of shame they often bear. Join us as we explore how the type of porn someone is drawn to can reveal underlying issues, such as upbringing, gender roles, or personal vows. We're committed to guiding you on a journey of self-discovery and healing, h...
May 24, 2023•17 min•Ep. 21
Consider this episode a life course. And we’re calling this class Boundaries 101: What are they? How do I set up boundaries? Why do I set up boundaries? What does God think of boundaries? If they’re so good, why are they so hard to set up? This topic and conversation is rich with definitions and examples and more. Let’s get started. Highlights: Boundaries are more about saying “yes” to our healthy selves than they are about saying “no” to someone else. START WITH THE BIG PICTURE As you begin to ...
May 16, 2023•19 min•Ep. 20
H.A.L.T is a powerful tool used in recovery. Each letter represents a different risk state that can lead you to your drug of choice (H Hungry, A Angry, L Lonely, T Tired). In this episode of Sacred by Design, we’re exploring the risk state of Loneliness. Out of the 4, loneliness feels the most risky and vulnerable to talk about. So, we’re talking about it. Highlights: In your journey towards sexual wholeness, acknowledge that loneliness is powerful and not something to be brushed off. Whether yo...
May 02, 2023•24 min•Ep. 19
We hope by now you’ve come to expect the unexpected from Sacred by Design. Sexuality and Singleness is what we are talking about today! That being said, many of you might assume the life of a single, Christian woman means numbing and suppressing desires. Being single doesn’t just mean not having sex. There is so much more. Are you willing to give God the space, as you listen to this podcast, to embrace a different perspective about your sexuality in your singleness? Acknowledge the sad, angry, f...
Apr 18, 2023•19 min•Ep. 18
The sacred voice of God calls you beloved. Can you hear it? Shame and rejection may be loud in your day to day. For now, let’s set down our megaphones of criticism. Consider what it would sound like and feel like and look like to embrace your belovedness, and learn that We Must Love Ourselves to Love Others. Let’s get ready. Highlights: Many of us believe that being a good Christian means we focus entirely on others, that we ignore ourselves.But, when we don’t care for ourselves, we can fall int...
Apr 04, 2023•22 min•Ep. 17
The aftershock of betrayal can feel like a cracking in the landscape of your life. Nothing looks or feels familiar anymore. How do you move forward? What are next steps? On this episode of Sacred by Design, we’ll tenderly walk through a framework to help you navigate the next steps. Infidelity, Cheating, Betrayal: Each of these words carries a lot of hurt and shame. Whether you just found out your husband’s been unfaithful or you found porn on your loved ones phone, you may realize you’re left w...
Mar 21, 2023•13 min•Ep. 16
Try allowing this statement to marinate in your heart for a moment: “God is writing a story for your child that you wouldn’t write.” Being a mom is a tough job. Listen in while two moms talk about loving children well. We are with you in NOT underestimating the hurt. Help for Hurting Parents. And we want to encourage you to NOT underestimate the hope. And if you aren’t a mom, stay with us and hear how the conversation can be applied to the meaningful relationships in your life. (Make sure to lis...
Mar 07, 2023•27 min•Ep. 15
Friendship is fun and discouraging and vulnerable and wonderful and hard. Part of your sacred design is a calling for friendship. You are hard-wired for connection. So, we’re devoting this time to both acknowledge the difficulty in friendship and explore the fullness it holds. Friendship offers a type of love that comes alongside you. We hope you hear and see enthusiasm and encouragement in this episode just for you. Highlights: A simple question, whatever season we’re in, is where is God callin...
Feb 21, 2023•22 min•Ep. 14
Maybe you’ve been on a roll. When it comes to your sexual addiction, maybe you have hit a level of sobriety and then… it all falls apart. OK. So, now what? First, if you’re struggling with an addiction like compulsive masturbation or hookups, please know you’re not alone. And then stick with us to see how to step out of the shame game and into the life Jesus is calling you towards. Listen in as Kyle walks us through a scripture meditation full of grace and truth just for you. Highlights: This is...
Feb 07, 2023•21 min•Ep. 13
Maybe this is Step One for you today. Maybe even just listening to us talk about desire, pleasure, wanting is your first step towards sexual wholeness. We pray it is. Join us as we explore more of our sacred design through the lens of desire. Let’s focus the lens a bit more on what Low Desire is, what it feels like, and how to understand it. Please be aware that you may want to protect little ones ears as well as your listening space for the content we’ll cover today. Highlights: You may feel am...
Jan 24, 2023•24 min•Ep. 12
Grab a cup of tea and take a deep breath. Hold the cup in your hands and let its warmth travel through you as you listen. We’re unpacking a big word for you on this episode: Codependency. As you’re listening and maybe begin to recognize things in your own story, be gentle, be curious, be kind. This is a complicated topic. So, we’ll explore it carefully through the lens of story. Codependency can often be traced back to childhood, linking to your relationships with your mom or dad. What you learn...
Jan 10, 2023•23 min•Ep. 11
As a little girl, in what ways was your mom NOT who you needed her to be? You're probably feeling a reaction to this question in your gut. Whether your reflex is to protect your mom with excuses or you're ready to lash out; you're in the right place. We invite you to listen while we explore the mother wound. Lets define the pain with an understanding that is less about blaming your mom and more about naming the hurt. Identifying a mother wound is to name the wounding so you can move through it t...
Dec 27, 2022•21 min•Ep. 10
In your heart, what do you believe freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors looks like, feels like? In this episode of Sacred by Design, we'll unpack the many-layered gift of true freedom. God sees you and loves you, right where you are. He is inviting you to freedom of immeasurably more than just staying within practical boundaries. Together, lets redefine freedom. Highlights: A ccept the process: we know that god can come in and instantaneously remove whatever the struggle is. And, that's what m...
Dec 13, 2022•15 min•Ep. 9
You were never meant to be alone. If you find yourself alone because no one seems to understand or because you can’t imagine sharing your struggle; listen in. We’re exploring the need we all carry for community. There is power within a circle of safety and good listening. And you deserve it. Maybe you’ve found community and been hurt within it. This is for you too. Highlights: Pain alone is awful. Pain together is bearable. Healing from Trauma requires intimacy because intimacy is where the trau...
Nov 29, 2022•21 min•Ep. 8
You have a story. And, your story holds power. Once you unlock the truth written in your story, you could unlock yourself from cycles of bad habits, bad relationships, and more. If this idea feels overwhelming, listen in as we take the process one line at a time, one chapter at a time. So, what is your story? Grab a pen and paper. Take a deep breath. And, let’s begin. Highlights: “One of the bravest things we can do is tell our stories, own our stories and love ourselves through it.” - Brené Bro...
Nov 15, 2022•26 min•Ep. 7
“The talk.” These two small words hold big power! If you’ve been putting off having the sex talk with your kids because it feels overwhelming; we’re easing the load things up for you. What if you could break apart the rehearsed, rushed monologue into a sprinkling of smaller question & answer sessions? If you just felt your shoulders relax, you’re in the right place. On this episode of “Sacred by Design,” Rebecca and Andrea set out new ways to talk about sex, sexuality, our bodies and more mi...
Nov 01, 2022•18 min•Ep. 6
If you’re a woman who loves Jesus and you find yourself attracted to other women, reconciling your “identity” may feel impossible. The world we live in reduces who we are to the smallest sliver of our sexuality. But there’s so much more to you than being a lesbian or straight or a Christian or not. Take some time with us to stop hiding or defining yourself. For now, set aside the condemnation you might be hearing (or assuming) and just listen for the calling. Your identity is Sacred by Design - ...
Oct 18, 2022•22 min•Ep. 5
Everything changed with a ding, with a click on a tab; that’s all it took to discover the man you love has been cheating on you. Now what? That’s just one of the questions we’ll walk through on this episode of “Sacred by Design.” Anne joins Andrea to discuss the ways infidelity leaves you with more than just a broken heart. Together, let’s Learn to name the symptoms your body is experiencing, to give words to the screaming questions in your head, to validate your response to a devastating discov...
Oct 04, 2022•18 min•Ep. 4
If you grew up in the “Purity Culture,” there is work to be UN-done. Teens growing up in this powerful subculture of the church were taught about sex through deep shame and tight restrictions. Words like Clean and Dirty reduced sexuality as something to say “no” to, but, there is more. Let’s bust through some of the myths purity culture taught, while trying to catch a glimpse of the much wider vision God has for us as women. Let’s move away from being scared of our design, desires and body in or...
Sep 20, 2022•14 min•Ep. 3
Desire feels like a hush-hush topic, especially for Christian women. There’s almost an element of shame, maybe selfishness, attached to the word. In this episode, we’re challenging the shame with an open conversation. Understanding that you are sacred by design means carefully looking at and exploring the intricacies of your sexuality. Your desires are worth exploring. Let’s dive in. ( Spiritual Coaching sessions usually incorporate a spiritual practice that draws us nearer to God. Look to our s...
Sep 06, 2022•17 min•Ep. 2
Welcome to “Sacred by Design” - a conversational podcast by women, for women seeking to get closer to Jesus diving deeper into topics like sexual integrity, relational healing, spiritual health, and so much more. God crafted you with your sexual desire. Along the way, something may have twisted that gift. Let’s get back to valuing your sexuality. Every bit of you is sacred by design. No matter where you are in life and maybe even because of what you’re battling; we hope you hear that loud and cl...
Aug 17, 2022•7 min•Ep. 1
