Josh Hatcher of Manlihood and I connected earlier this summer to discuss about man stuff. But once I found out he was a father of four adults (and grandfather), I had to pick his brain on his role in his family. Here’s a video preview of our talk. (Full episode is in audio/podcast only) Check out his stuff at manlihood.com ruwando.com/archetype (Still includes coaching call with me) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwan...
Oct 20, 2023•1 hr 8 min
I was raised both Buddhist and Catholic. Neither really stuck. I spent my twenties being “spiritual but not religious”. And otherwise prioritizing individuality over cultural constraints. However for the first time as an adult, I’m seeing the value of traditional religion. I don’t think I’m alone in that. Global culture is at an inflection point. After centuries of moving towards secularism, many seem to be returning to tradition. Especially for those interested in personal development, religion...
Oct 12, 2023•22 min
Muslim and Christian families uniting in protest shows us a historical pattern of ideological conflict. Read article version at ruwando.substack.com Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Oct 04, 2023•17 min
Sexual desire is one of the few places where individual nature will hold out against collective culture. (Comedy being the other big one.) Most of my life I’ve been focused on the importance of individual expression over collective “oppression.” My explorations in sexuality have been a part of that. But lately (since having a family) I’ve been seeing the great value of the other side— there’s a lot to be gained from “belonging” to a greater framework, even at the expense of some individuality. S...
Sep 17, 2023•1 hr
I’m joined by my friend Vicente, one of the psychotherapists who run Iboga Quest , an ibogaine treatment center in Mexico. This conversation was shortly after I attended one of his retreats. We speak about mindfulness, plant medicine, psychotherapy, and how to change your mind. https://ibogaquest.com/ Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Aug 27, 2023•1 hr 5 min
Unf*ck your relationship Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe
Aug 21, 2023•17 min
Religion seems to be making a comeback. Whereas most self help and pop psychology of the 90’s was more about blaming religious oppression, now it seems to be weaving back into personal development. I personally have become more interest in tradition lately. And I’ve been curious to speak with someone who knows both of these worlds. I met Issa a few months ago in a coaching program. He’s a YouTuber who covers similar topics to me. He’s also Muslim. He and I discuss culture, psychology, principles...
Aug 10, 2023•49 min
Relationships are expensive. And men with options have less reason to be in one than ever before. This episode is on 1) how women can reverse that trend, 2) how men can overcome the internal dilemma. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Aug 03, 2023•18 min
My old friend Brian Begin, of TrueCourage (formerly Fearless Man), joins us in a pivotal moment of his life. He shares about recent grief and the lessons he learned from it. Also on recreating your self and your life. As always I got a ton of inspiration chatting with him. https://www.ruwando.com/archetype Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jul 27, 2023•1 hr 3 min
I’ve done a lot of things in the world of men’s personal development. But there’s nothing that has positively impacted me as much as combat sports. Here’s how: References: The Hour Between Dog and Wolf (Coates) Arousal and Physiological Toughness (Dienstbier) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jul 21, 2023•18 min
Culture encourages us to stay “young” (because then we make better consumers). This can be especially troublesome for men. And most men (including me) probably have some inner conflict related to that. Patrick and I discuss “Peter Pan Syndrome”— When a grown man is stuck in elements of “boy psychology”. Referencing Carl Jung, and Marie Louise von Franz's The Problem of the Puer Aeternus (1959) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substa...
Jul 06, 2023•1 hr 1 min
Captain Sinbad is my favorite Youtuber in the personal development space. So I hired him as a coach. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe
Jun 15, 2023•56 min
Last month I noticed my mind was going in a bad direction. At moments I thought I was depressed, and maybe I was. But I realized there was a lot within my mental state that was well within my control. So I decided to do a little lifestyle challenge following the principles of one of my historical role models— the Miyamoto Musashi. This video covers the 21 principles of Dokkodo alongside my 3 week routine: Btw, I’m revamping the Archetype Challenge to include some new content along with a physica...
May 30, 2023•15 min
Alex Petkas is the host of The Cost of Glory Podcast — which I discovered while researching for History of Man episodes III and IV and thoroughly enjoy. He’s was formerly a Classics Professor. We speak about what we can learn from the great men of history and developing your ethos. Ancient Life Coach Substack Rome - Speak Lead Retreat Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Apr 28, 2023•1 hr 8 min
How “truthful” should you be in your relationship? In a committed relationship, that’s actually the wrong way to ask the question… This episode covers a man’s role in influencing the shared perceptions (viz: Magician Archetype). We’ll look at it through different lenses such as “controlling frame” (Red Pill) vs. shared meaning-making (nation-building). (This was recorded before my concussion and I literally forgot about it till now.) Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/su...
Apr 13, 2023•49 min
Many of our patterns of behavior and feeling do not originate in us. They are passed down, through nature or nurture, from those before us. However if you’ve “inherited” undesirable patterns, or see them spreading in your family, you can be the one to interrupt them. Noelfry rejoins the podcast to share a recent experience of disrupting his familial patterns. Btw, I’m back on Youtube: Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruw...
Feb 15, 2023•46 min
Atonement with the Father is a stage in Joseph Campbell's monomyth (Hero's Journey) where a man confronts 'The Godhead'. In doing so, he becomes complete-- unlocking the "god" within himself (Apotheosis). Psychologically it represents healing of the Father Wound-- the gaps in one's masculinity due to the shortcomings of one's father figure. Ruwando Substack is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to...
Feb 08, 2023•52 min
(Apologies for the bad audio-- my main mic cut out.) Havingness (a.k.a. self-concept) is how much you subconsciously believe your deserve when it comes to different areas of life— money, love, respect, attention, ease, etc. We tend to revert to our this "Having Level" when we deviate too far away from it. But you can increase your Having Level, and upgrade your sense of normal through certain practices. Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwa...
Feb 02, 2023•1 hr 1 min
“Sometimes you need to be punched so hard in the face that you wake up” Since appearing in episode 140 Slave to King: Nice Guy Transformation , I have received more listener questions about him than any other guest. Patrick H. from Germany returns to the podcast to fill us in on his life since his return to dating post-celibacy, and now in a new kind of relationship. If you’re a man with a history of unfulfilling relationships, choosing the wrong women, or general Nice Guy BS, listen to this one...
Jan 25, 2023•47 min
Apparently last Friday was “Three King’s Day”— referring to the magi who visited baby J in the manger. It happened to coincide with a summit planned with my new office mates. The three of us are young fathers and entrepreneurs. We christened our new space, Studio 14 , with a chat on the Father Wound, the greater demands on manhood in creating a Perimeter, and fatherhood philosophy. Apologies to anyone who was expecting a livestream last Friday— I had some technical difficulties with the streamin...
Jan 12, 2023•48 min
The last few weeks I’ve had a few discussions with guys about “being a rock”. In theory, it’s a nice manly image… but what does it actually mean? In practice, being “a rock” can seem like being “passive” at times, but it’s not the same thing. This episode covers HOW to be a grounded “rock” (as opposed to a fiery hothead, watery fish, or airy space cadet). NOTE: I’m going start livestreaming some episodes again as I was pre-pandemic. If you’d like to hop on the next episode and ask questions live...
Dec 29, 2022•48 min
The Muse: The part of the psyche responsible for involuntary creation. The Muse is like any woman. Her desires rarely make logical sense. Get in her good graces and she'll fill you with inspiration. Get on her bad side and she'll look for ways to torture you. In this episode I share the story of writing my story, using quotes from other poets to drive certain principles home. Also my book is out. In case you didn't see, read it free on ruwando.substack.com . Next week I'll be moving the Ruwando ...
Nov 14, 2022•33 min
I'm in some sh*t right now... of my own doing. I'm in a Netflix documentary coming out tomorrow on the cult I was in. A lot heavy things are coming my way, and it's been requiring extra inner strength. So I'm forced to practice what I preach... This episode is on the Anabolic Psyche— Building strength in your soul. I cover two kinds of traps that kill soul strength (spiritual and material) along with 3 principles for metaphorically "bulking up". In other news... I'm moving my podcast hosting to ...
Nov 04, 2022•51 min
The Greco-Persian Wars not only decided the future of world culture, but the Greek and Persian cultural differences helped determine the results of the wars. This episode covers a clash of very different worlds after the Bronze Age collapse. Personal Note : Thank you for your patience with this one. I’ve been moving my family from Thailand to Mexico the last few months and have been pressed on time. But starting this month I’ll be putting out regular content on the historyofman.substack.com Make...
Oct 14, 2022•2 hr 55 min
Polarity requires tension. Our reproductive instincts (attraction, lust, passion) sometimes need a little "transgression" to get going. This episode opens with a little intimacy lesson from the ancient Spartans. I also discuss a different take on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent , and how to "skillfully (consensually) violate". More on the Spartans in History of Man episode III airing soon! https://bettymartin.org/videos/ https://historyofman.substack.com/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle...
Sep 29, 2022•34 min
Once in awhile we meet someone who changes our view of life, our model of reality. One of such people like that, for me, was my friend Daniel. He is both the luckiest and unluckiest guy I know—When he's "ON" everything seems to serendipitously fall in his lap. And when he's ''OFF'' he has the uncanny ability to F everything up. This episode looks at how one can "turn on or off one's magnet", looking at Daniel, addiction, resentment, and an experiment for "manifestation". Advertising Inquiries: h...
Sep 22, 2022•31 min
We tend to fight the worst with those we love the most. While fights ought to be rare, when they do happen they are great opportunities for improving the relationship as a whole. This episode covers how to resolve fights quickly and how to use them to "gain intimacy" rather than costing it. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Sep 06, 2022•59 min
Being detached from outcome seems to attract what you want... In dating, in business, and possibly in unforeseeable ways in life. But how do you intend what you want while also being detached? This episode looks at achieving this mental state that helps one overcome internal resistance and MAYBE can also attract desired things beyond your control... Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Aug 25, 2022•38 min
"All the ancestors before us refer to beauty as the sacred. They regard to that as pure beauty. You should get chills when you really feel beauty." Arthur Kwon Lee was named 'Artist of the Year' in 2020. Six months later was blacklisted for not subscribing to woke ideology. Since then he's become the artist of "don't tread of me" masculine virtue. We discuss culture and reality paradigms, functional ethics, anarchism vs statism, rites of passage, sacredness of beauty, and the creative unconsciou...
Aug 04, 2022•1 hr 28 min
Polarity means asymmetry of responsibility: There are some things the man does for the woman that are not necessarily reciprocated. But what about men's needs? This episode covers how a man can get his needs met without violating the polarity of his relationship. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jul 28, 2022•28 min
