You already know that women need to feel their feelings. But that's only half of the equation... A man assuming the role of 'Head of the Household' is an increasingly taboo concept. But it's the only way to really give your partner and dependents the space and safety to be themselves. (Please excuse the sound quality. This was recorded in nature.) Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jul 20, 2022•29 min
Your 'Demons' = Patterns from your past that limit your present. These emotions/beliefs/tendencies tend to re-appear right when you're about to have a positive breakthrough. I share how you can slay your demons with a process from Radical General Semantics (Gad Horowitz). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jul 12, 2022•46 min
Men have a new kind of "Fear of Women." It's the fear that the woman they are intimate with, won't want to be in her feminine. My wife pointed out to me that women have this fear too— of their own femininity. She shares her recent experiences with the new levels of polarity. www.nalayachakana.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jun 23, 2022•1 hr
Ken Blackman coaches people in relationships, sex, communication, and human dynamics. We met when he was the Head of Education at OneTaste. We reconnected recently via one of his writings that resonated with a challenge I've been feeling regarding being seen. We talk about the good ole cult days, navigating traps in the personal development industry and media, and sharing your truth. kenblackman.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwand...
Jun 16, 2022•52 min
Boyhood Wounds come from natural desires not met in childhood. When left open too long then turn into fantasy, delusion, and pathology. This episode explores some of the darker parts of male psychology, and how to heal the wounds that affect your adult behavior. Referencing Jung, Attachment Theory, and some of my embarrassing stories. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jun 09, 2022•1 hr 35 min
Fatherhood has felt like a continuation of my previous pursuit to become a good lover... Similar traits apply. Which is why I wanted to speak to my friend Steve Mayeda. I know Steve from way back in dating coaching days in the infamous PUA world. Steve is a father of 4 and currently runs Austin Men's Development. He shares about his divorce, balancing providing with presence, and fatherhood (and motherhood) in modern culture. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to...
Jun 02, 2022•1 hr 10 min
There was no such thing as “war” in the Stone Age. Only through certain social advancements was war made possible by the early states. This episode covers: * History’s first war, first empire, and first fully centralized state. * The art of “statecraft” as an extension of the dominance hierarchy. * The fissure in male psychology as explained by Nietzsche’s Master and Slave Morality * Why we can blame bread (and rice) for the suppression of masculinity * How the Us vs. Them paradigm is constructe...
Jun 01, 2022•2 hr 27 min
Mac Lethal is a rapper, YouTuber, author, and recent Hindu convert (only partially kidding). We connected last month over an article I wrote regarding masculine-feminine dynamics, specifically on how to handle fiery women. We speak about how to regain the passion in a sexless marriage, why men are like swimming pools (not cups), and practical spirituality for the lifelong atheist. *When Kali Trampled Shiva: A Parable About Challenging Women [article]: https://medium.com/@ruwando/when-kali-trampl...
May 19, 2022•1 hr 13 min
Modern women have a difficult dilemma: the working world requires them to be in their 'Masculine' (competitive self) while fulfilling relationships require them to be in their 'Feminine' (interdependent self). As a man who dates women, you can help her enter her Feminine at least at home. Not only will you reap the rewards of high polarity intimacy, it's also an opportunity to level up as a man. This episode draws on some fringe experiences in BDSM, and of course evolutionary biology. If you're ...
Apr 21, 2022•1 hr 46 min
This is a preview of Ep 0 of History of Man Podcast. Check out the first two episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Substack: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/history-of-man-podcast/id1616976961 https://open.spotify.com/show/2P1bDLkucGSOZZNdH68b4B?si=_tkyxBpyR3m3rnsesz4ADA&utm_source=native-share-menu https://historyofman.substack.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Apr 04, 2022•56 sec
The History of Man podcast just released. Here's a little preview of Ep 1. Check out the first two episodes on Apple, Spotify, or Substack: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/history-of-man-podcast/id1616976961 https://open.spotify.com/show/2P1bDLkucGSOZZNdH68b4B?si=_tkyxBpyR3m3rnsesz4ADA&utm_source=native-share-menu https://historyofman.substack.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Apr 04, 2022•1 min
Episode I starts with the first skirmishes between hunting parties in the Paleolithic Era. We cover the relationship of economics and violence, and the earliest psychological mechanisms for overcoming the Resistance to Killing. Including quotes from interviews with LtCol. Dave Grossman ( Ruwando Podcast episode 81 ) and Jack Donovan (Ep 98) This is the ad-free version for subscribers. Click on “listen on another app” to get a private feed to your preferred podcast app for future subscriber-only ...
Mar 31, 2022•1 hr 43 min
This episode covers the roots of male competition from single-celled asexual species all the way up to modern day stock brokers. It’s more biology than history, but we have to start with objective science if we are to make sane assessments of human culture later on. This episode covers: * How ‘maleness’ originated * Why mammals sway their gender ratios based on status * The genetic similarities of stock brokers and serial killers * The internal hormonal symphony that occurs when males fight * an...
Mar 31, 2022•1 hr 11 min
This is a preview of Ep 0 airing tomorrow. (We’re also testing our RSS feed.) Real episodes come out tomorrow! Get full access to History of Man Podcast at historyofman.substack.com/subscribe Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe
Mar 30, 2022•56 sec
The Anima (Jung) is the feminine soul of a man. It is the source of creativity, well being, intuition, and inner peace. This episode shares how you can use your conscious mind to allow this part of you to flourish. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Mar 29, 2022•1 hr 32 min
On changing another's perception of reality. This episode goes into the more active side of mind control... as benevolently applied to relationships. Referencing MindWar by Michael Aquino, the work of Sir Robert Grainger Ker Thompson (Counterinsurgency), and others. Check out my new project: History of Man Podcast , coming soon: historyofman.substack.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Mar 10, 2022•1 hr 15 min
A feature of 21 Century First World life is that reality is largely filtered for you. Society protects you from both autonomy and consequences through various safety nets and controls. While this may prevent chipped teeth and skinned knees, it's damaging to the masculine psyche. This episode discusses how to take the filters off and interface with reality directly. We discuss "raw vs. cooked" symbolism, active choice in "involuntary" moments, and warrior's contempt for death. Also parkour. I lea...
Mar 03, 2022•50 min
To be "tamed" is to be conditioned to be more fearful, less free, or weaker in some way. There are many "taming forces" in modern society that can affect us in this way if we're not well equipped. This episode covers how to resist such forces. We draw lessons from a man who successfully resisted his captors while in a literal brainwashing prison. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Feb 24, 2022•1 hr
You are not who you think you are.... Identity is not a static thing. Which means who you "are" can be changed, for better and for worse. This episode is on how to free yourself from unwanted tendencies and move closer to an individuated Self. We draw on lessons from the literal book on brainwashing ( Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism by Robert J. Lifton), Existential Kink, and a weird thing called "dicing". Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwan...
Feb 17, 2022•1 hr 8 min
This episode explores the Aleister Crowley's maxim "Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law"-- exploring the taboo idea of putting yourself first, what it means for your psyche, and how to do it in a way that benefits those around you. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Feb 10, 2022•57 min
Men go through different stages. In each stage there are different drives, pitfalls, and keys to fulfilment. This episode covers the five stages from the perspectives of biology, the hero's journey, and relations to women. Also references Deida, Nietzsche's metamorphoses, and other lenses on men's psychology such as Red Pill. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Feb 03, 2022•1 hr 51 min
Patrick H. is a client from Germany who went through some pretty intense Nice Guy sh*t a year ago. He tells his story of transformation, overcoming mother enmeshment, rekindling masculinity, gaining personal power, and finally getting what he wants in dating and in life. He started with the Masculine Archetype Challenge . If you've been disconnected from your masculinity, you may gain from it as well: Go here to check it out >> www.ruwando.com/archetype Advertising Inquiries: https://redci...
Jan 27, 2022•54 min
How do you know what you "know" is true? This episode explores Sanity from the lens of General Semantics (how we translate events into perceptions). We speak about the "Chain of Perception", insanity vs. creativity, the basis of propaganda, why smart people believe dumb things, building a "efficient nervous system", liberal and conservative fallacies, and the work of Alfred Korzybski. Here you can check out the artwork used. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to ...
Jan 20, 2022•1 hr 43 min
"Semantic Consciousness" is the layer of our perception responsible for rationality, intelligence, and symbology (meaning-making). This episode covers how language creates reality and can skew perception. This is a Circuit 3 of Leary's Circuits of Consciousness model, continuing from the Dog Brain (circuit 2) episode. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Jan 13, 2022•1 hr 19 min
In physics, Escape Velocity is the minimum speed an object needs to leave the orbit of a planet. In life (metaphor), it's the minimum psychological conditions one needs to leave an old reality (patterns and perceived norms) and enter new ones. This episode discusses how to prevent backsliding into old patterns, leave the monotonous or familiar, discover new territory, and embrace the unknown. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.subst...
Jan 06, 2022•1 hr 12 min
James is a graduate student in clinical depth psychology at Pacifica, where I was considering getting a PhD. We discuss a Jungian take on the recent shifts in culture, stages of development of male psychology, red pill, childhood imprinting, how to discern a good life partner, and all sorts of good thought streams. "The tangent is the way!" Archetype Challenge : www.ruwando.com/archetype ( still comes with a complementary coaching session with me ) Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/br...
Dec 30, 2021•1 hr 8 min
A high polarity relationship is one where each partner willingly "specializes" more into either masculine (testosterone/dopamine/noradrenalin-driven) or feminine (oxytocin/estrogen/serotonin driven) mode of behavior than one can do on their own. It's one of the reasons we've evolved to pair-bond— and why romantic attachment feels so "right". But modern social beliefs often run counter to these natural principles, which is why so many people struggle with healthy polarity. This episode covers the...
Dec 21, 2021•1 hr 21 min
Noelfry asked me what advice I'd give to myself 10 years ago. Conveniently, he's exactly 10yrs younger than me. I share the things that have and haven't worked for me the last decade. We discuss finding "Purpose", the need for adventure, attracting women, pleasure vs. fulfillment, and man's need to struggle. Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Get full access to Ruwando Substack at ruwando.substack.com/subscribe...
Dec 16, 2021•52 min
I had COVID this week. It wasn't too bad. But in my feverdom I had an old recurring dream where I am forced to accept my death. And it reminded me of an essay I read about how “primitive man” didn't fear death nor aging, because at every stage of his life he felt so fulfilled. This episode explores this idea of Ultimate Fulfillment drawing from an essay by a Mr. Kaczynski, Into the Wild , and other ponderings. 133 Ultimate Fulfillment & Welcoming Death Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircl...
Dec 09, 2021•1 hr 2 min
Your default tendencies when it comes to Status/Power, Deservingness, sense of Connection/Belonging, Trust is a function of your pre-conscious nervous system. Its the part of your brain that almost identical to that of a dog... This episode goes into how to understand your "Dog Brain" and recondition yourself from low status perception to high status perception, distrust to trust, and not deserving to deserving. Brought to you by KUDRA - a herbal adaptogen to help you become more resilient again...
Nov 23, 2021•1 hr 32 min
