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A Chinese couple in their early 30s, they take this little vacation in a national park in Thailand. This is kind of pertinent to the story, but the couple, they're Chinese citizens, but they live in Thailand full time. But even within Thailand, they're like, let's take a mini vacation to a different part of Thailand to go visit this national park. We're going to be staying at a hotel. It's going to be nice.
weekend getaway of sorts so they live in thailand they speak thai to a degree this is very pertinent to the story The husband and wife duo, they're expecting a baby on the way. The wife is actually three months pregnant. This is kind of like a cute little, let's just take our mind off of all the stress that we have going on and just enjoy nature.
Now, please correct me if I'm wrong, but I feel like with with Chinese couples in particular, there is this level of extreme protectiveness over the mother, like over pregnant woman. It's just kind of embedded in the culture, at least from what I've seen, what I've perceived.
usually everything down to what the mom drinks or eats has to be deemed not even just healthy but more than healthy they're told to not even leave the house or even shower a month a full month after giving birth because it's bad for their immune systems i don't know how many people still follow these traditions but i i get the feeling that there is a level of like oh no like the husband is very catering to the wife babying the wife so just imagine
How frantic this husband is when his pregnant wife falls off a hundred foot cliff while they're vacationing at this national park. 110 feet. That's equivalent to an 11 story building. Ambulances rush to the scene. The husband is freaking out. I mean, he's screaming to get past these first responders who are trying to save his wife's life. You know, he's running, trying to grab her hand. He's crying out to them and tie like.
shaking the first responders. You have to do something. You have to do something. My wife wandered out alone and she fell. Oh my God, please. You have to save my wife. She's pregnant. And they're like, okay, like let us do our job. He's like so distraught. There's no way to even calm him down. He's running his hands through his hair. He just keeps screaming in broken tie. Please, you have to help my wife.
He's got tears streaming down his face. And at one point he's just frantically holding onto his wife's hand and he leans in close to her face. He's like running his hands across her cheeks. She's still alive. She's still alive. She's conscious.
she can't talk she can't move but she's conscious she's like in a state of shock and he's running his hands across her face across her cheeks and he whispers in mandarin so no one else can understand him but this is like their language that they share together And he whispers, no one else understands Mandarin here. There are no cameras on the cliff. If you don't want to die, you better behave.
The wife is laying on the stretcher, unable to speak, unable to move. And she's looking at her husband. His face looks like the face of pure evil. It's filled with burning hatred and anger. And almost immediately, it's like he snaps out of it. His eyes soften back up and he looks back up at the first responders and begs them again in broken tie to save his precious wife. And he screams about how he will die. without his wife.
As always, full show notes are available at RottenMangoPodcast.com. This is another case that centers around a Chinese couple. They're Chinese citizens. Most of the sources that we found were in Mandarin. So we did have the support of our wonderful Chinese researchers on this case, but... As always, let us know if anything was lost in translation or miscommunicated. But with that being said, let's get into it. The wife, Ning, N-I-N-G is her name, had 17 bone fractures throughout her entire body.
Yeah, even her eyes were at risk since the skin around her eyes had lifted. I've never heard of that before, but they were really scared that they weren't going to be able to save her vision. Thankfully, they were able to. Every part of this woman's body. was like a fragile broken piece of glass that doctors are struggling to piece back together they even showed her her own x-rays while she was laying motionless on the hospital bed and she looked like
She looked like if someone had taken a porcelain vase and threw it at the wall, like chucked it at the wall and it scattered and shattered into like a bajillion different small pieces. And now they have to like glue it back together. every part of her body was basically fractured and shattered she was lucky to be alive that's what the doctors kept telling her
Because she's in such a fragile state, because she's expecting a child, she's hooked up to several different machines that are providing lifesaving care. She's in and out of consciousness. For the first few days, she couldn't even speak. I don't know if it was the shock. I don't know if it was all the tubes running in out of her body She could not speak. She did not have the ability to talk
She's in and out of consciousness, and it's like a fever dream. It's like a nightmare, really. Every time she woke up, she would panic. She's like thinking, oh my god, where am I? Then she would look around, see all these scary tubes and wires connected to her body. And then she would remember all the memories would start flooding in. She was at the hospital. She had fallen off a cliff.
And just as she calmed herself down, she would glance around the hospital room and right there in the corner is her husband, you. And her heart rate would send the machines beeping. He was still there. He was still watching her. He was almost glaring at her from the corner of the room. Sometimes he would walk up to her while she's laying strapped up in this hospital bed, run his fingers through her hair. And his face just showed like...
Utter hatred for her. I don't know if I've ever been looked at like with that type of face, but I can only imagine it's so unsettling. Like genuinely someone hates you so much for whatever reason. She didn't even understand who this man was. This didn't feel like her husband or at least not the husband that she had known for years. It's like he was possessed by evil, possessed by like a killer or something.
Since Ning was unable to move or talk, she spent most of her days just reliving the incident over and over in her mind as she's staring up at this hospital ceiling. It all took place June of 2019. Yu had asked his wife Ning to go to a national park in Thailand. And she was a little hesitant because when you hear national park, you're thinking that sounds like a strenuous activity. Like I am three months pregnant. I don't know if I should be hiking up and down a mountain right now, right?
You told her, of course I considered that. Like, it's not that intense. I made sure to look up reviews. There's a trail and everything is going to be perfect. I've planned it to a T. Like, don't you want to get out and get some fresh oxygen for the baby too? Not only are you not going to be exhausted, but this is going to be a much needed vacation from all of the work stress, all of the stress of prepping for this baby. And it's going to be fun. It's like going to be a reset for our family.
But when they get to the national park, everything is just going the wrong way. Literally everything is going wrong for the couple. So usually this park is filled to the brim with visitors and tourists. And when they arrived the first day, it was jam packed, which kind of adds to it.
a sense of um like easiness you know it's a sense of ease imagine being out in the wooded cliffs alone i feel like i would prefer if it's packed with tourists yeah even though they're strangers it's just like oh okay at least i know a lot of people come here but every minute
It felt like someone is physically dragging the sun down. The gloom started taking over. There was this gray, blurry tint to everything. And before the couple knew it, all the other visitors, all the other tourists had gone home.
And Ning is looking around. She's starting to feel a bit nervous. What if there's some sort of animal or predator out in the woods, like by the cliffside? And she turns to her husband. Hey, I know you planned this all out, but do you think we should start heading back soon? Like, what if it rains or something?
It's getting really cloudy. You insisted everything was gonna be fine. He's like, no, it's gonna be better than fine. Actually, it'll be even more romantic since it's just the two of us enjoying the view alone.
He practically skipped higher up to the mountain, to the cliffside. And Ning is wondering, what has gotten into my husband? This is the guy that for years, he has been... petrified of heights but now he's going over willingly to the cliff's edge not even like looking down just soaking in the views the surroundings she's so confused
And she's so relieved when he finally suggests, you know what? I think we should head back to the hotel now. But before the weekend was over, just a day later, he's like, hey, you want to go to the national park again? She's like, again, we went, we saw everything there was to see. He's like, no, no, I was looking online and actually.
They said that it's the best when we go during sunrise. There's even like this secret local spot to get the best views of the sun rising amongst the mountains. It's just incredible. Like when else are we going to have the time to see this type of thing? When else are we going to come all the way? over here, when we have a baby, it's gonna be so rough. We're not gonna be able to travel anywhere for at least a few years, right?
At first she's a little hesitant, but she'd already been there. She already kind of knew the vibe. Maybe it wouldn't be too bad. And the views were pretty, even though it was gloomy. So maybe it would be more incredible during dawn. So the next day, at 3.30am, the couple check out of their hotel and make their way to the top of the mountain. Ning noticed that her husband was in a rather pensive mood.
I mean, maybe it's like the fact that they're hiking up a cliffside before the sun rises. Maybe that's adding to it. Or maybe it's being alone with nature. But he turns to his wife and is like asking all these pensive questions. lifetime, babe. Do you have any regrets? It's so random, but she's thinking, okay, I mean, it makes sense. It's the type of conversation maybe couples have when they're hiking. So she genuinely thinks about it for a moment.
She has a beyond successful career. Her husband is working really hard recently to make their home feel ready for their baby. It's cliche, but yeah, there's things that she maybe regrets a little bit, but she would never redo anything. So she smiles and she says, no, I don't think so. No regrets. And he just smiles at her and he takes the lead.
He climbs higher and higher up the mountain. And once they get really high, I'm talking like 100 feet off the ground, up in the mountain, like the cliffside mountain, Yu starts pointing towards the cliff edge, saying that he read online that this is the specific spot that local...
it's like a secret spot for locals for sunrises it's the best view he even said that there's paintings left behind from ancient civilizations from thousands of years ago kind of tracked because a lot of this national park has these guided pathways and these beautifully preserved relics from the past. And then he's saying this is one that isn't preserved. It's just been left in the open because nobody really knows about it except for a few locals and they posted about it online.
Like where is it? I'm so confused. Literally on the cliff's edge. Like outside of the cliff? Like this is the mountain, right? There's a mountain. Yes. They're on the mountain 100 feet in the air. And he's like right at the cliff on the ground near the very edge. There's these paintings. Oh, OK. Yeah. OK. And they're like getting.
they're getting degraded through the weather. So who knows how long this will last. So he's saying, go stand by the cliff, poke your head out, and you're going to see this beautiful art. Yeah. Okay. And Ning is like, okay. let me go and you is going first right so ning walks towards the area and she wasn't expecting to go all the way up to the cliff's edge since they had walked off the designated trail already but they're about three feet away from the cliff's edge when she looks
around and she's like wait I don't see any of the drawings that you're talking about and it doesn't really look like people come here there's no even footmarks or some sort of eroded pathway there's nothing it's I think we should go back to the trail She's like I feel like this is a little dangerous you ignores her and completely just
ignores her completely and keeps walking towards the cliff's edge and she's shocked once again because this is her husband who is known to have acrophobia and trust me as someone who is beyond terrified of heights you will never catch me doing this even if the view is spectacular you will never catch me just like gallivanting towards the cliff's edge especially if there's no railing like you will never see that in a million years
And Ning is so worried about her own husband. She keeps begging him like, hey, babe, like let's walk back to the trail. Let's go. Let's go. But he just keeps going. She has no choice but to chase after him. And abruptly, he just stops near the cliff's edge. He's looking up at the sky, taking in the views. She's like, what has come over this guy? Like, what is going on? Is he pensive? What is he thinking about? And she looks up and she has to admit the view is incredible.
The sun is casting this orange hue on everything, and the air felt crisp, even for a hot June day in Thailand. Because they were so high up, it just felt so... It felt so fresh. She was kind of running, but now she's slowing down and just slowly walking up behind him while admiring the sunrise. And when she gets close, her husband turns around, hugs her tightly, kisses her on the cheek, and she's like...
smiling, you know? This moment right here is a moment that she would remember for the rest of her life the two of them hugging in the glow of the sunrise on the mountainside cliff in thailand like yeah their marriage had its ups and downs but this is what love is about this is a core memory for them and her husband nestled his face into her hair and then brushed his lips on her ear. And he said, go die. And pushed his three-month pregnant wife off a 110-foot tall cliff with all his strength.
He said go die? He said go die. He kissed her on the cheek and said go die.
This was the scene that Ning would play over and over in her mind while laying in that hospital bed, unable to speak, unable to leave. She just laid there staring at her husband who sat in the corner of the room, staring at her with just pure... evil disgust on his face and then she would hear the door open to the room because she's in the ICU she's got her own room a nurse would come in and it's like a switch had been flipped
his face would immediately soften and he would go from being this evil guard of hell in the corner of her room to this loving husband who would ask about his wife's condition and if their baby was okay and if there is absolutely anything that he can do for his wife, please just let him know. Ning would try to communicate to the nurses with just her eyes like,
I'm terrified. My husband is the one that pushed me off the cliff like something is wrong. You have to help me. You need him to leave. Like, please get him out of here. He's going to try and kill me again.
But each time the nurses would smile at her and tell her, you're so lucky to have a husband like this. You're so lucky he's with you by your side. And don't worry, we're going to get you out of here. You're going to recover nice and well and you get to go home with your husband and everything will be okay. The nurses had no idea that you would try to unplug Ning's life assistant devices while in the hospital. He straight up tried to unplug her to silence her once and for all.
what's so crazy about this case is that Ning really didn't see any of this coming it's not like her husband ever beat her it's not like her husband ever threatened to kill her or did any of these crazy crazy things I mean they kind of had the perfect relationship before
before he pushed her off a cliff or okay maybe it wasn't like exactly perfect there was a little bit of weirdness or a little bit of ups and downs i mean especially now that she had a lot of time to think about their relationship while she's in this hospital bed One of the main things was she never even wanted to date you in the first place. Literally, Ning did not have time to spend with friends, let alone a relationship, a boyfriend.
She had basically not known a single day of rest and peace since the day that she had been born. i'm not even sure if ambitious is the right word to describe her she was more unstoppable than anything like she had the ambition she had the drive and from the moment that she graduated university with a major in business development i mean this this woman hits the ground running
She tried working at an insurance company, a travel agency. She went from an assistant in the travel agency to an operations managers in record time. even got relocated to Thailand for the travel agency. She wasn't even just sent to Thailand like, hey, go work at our Thailand branch, right? No, she was tasked with opening up the agency's market in Thailand. Basically building it from scratch in a foreign country where she doesn't speak the language.
Like, I feel like I'd be terrified to see this woman's Google calendar. Like, I bet there is not a single bit of white space for her to relax. Just appointments, meetings, back to back. She would eventually quit the travel agency to start her own business. She would try a bunch of different things. things and
You know, there would be failures. She tried a dried fruit business. She lost about $30,000 from that. Then she tried a trading business, which kind of took off. Then it evolved into a Chinese restaurant and a homestay location for Chinese citizens to come stay. in thailand and in the off chance in the rare chance that she had some free time she was just like head deep in a thai language learning book
So she's putting her roots down in Thailand. She's starting her businesses here. And she's thinking, yeah, I better learn the freaking language. It's said that every single night early on in her career, so like most of her 20s, she only got three to four hours of sleep. She was focused, dedicated to making a name for herself. Every single day of her 20s was spent working her ass off and it paid off. By the time that she hit her milestone, her 30th birthday, she was successful.
She had a net worth of over $3 million. I mean, she's killing it. She was a huge influence in the Chinese community in Thailand. A lot of Chinese citizens who would do business in Thailand or visit Thailand, they would rub shoulders with Ning. She was kind of the know-all be-all to Thailand. And you would think that her parents are like, you know what? I'm so proud of you. I could never ask for a better daughter. But they were also like, okay, great. Why do you not have a boyfriend?
Oh, I don't know, mom. Maybe it's the fact that I spent like 120 hours a week on my business for the past decade. And Ning would ignore her parents, but I mean, yeah.
sometimes she could feel it she feels a little lonely sometimes her house feels a little empty and like maybe it is time to date so prior to moving to thailand basically in college she had two boyfriends that's it she hadn't dated in like the past decade over a decade and ever since then she's just focused on work nothing else the term boyfriend like the idea of calling someone oh that's my boyfriend it sounded so foreign to her she's like that is weird
She didn't even realize when someone was flirting with her. So during these networking events, men would try and come and make small talk with Ning, maybe slowly drop some cute little jokes here and there, and Ning would just be straight-faced. She's not even entertaining it. She thinks something is wrong with these people. This is a work event.
why are we talking about the weather sometimes they would ask her out for a cup of coffee and she would show up with like a briefcase full of business proposals and they're like oh i was just i just wanted to get to know you And she's like, yeah, well, you can get to know my business. Yeah, she was really, really intense. Like she was so focused on work. She literally forgot how to date. And then May of 2017 at one of these networking events in Thailand.
Which, like I said, there's a strong Chinese community there. So a lot of Chinese people there. Ning is introduced to a man named Yu. He's also a Chinese citizen. But like I said, a lot of her business circle are Chinese expats. So nothing too crazy. But the minute that he opens his mouth, she's like, wait a freaking minute. You're from Nanjing.
Right? So in China, every town and city basically has their own dialect of sorts. So in Shanghai, people speak Mandarin. Well, most people speak Mandarin or Shanghainese. But just because you speak Mandarin doesn't mean you speak Shanghainese. So a lot of Chinese people, at least from my... personal observation with my husband being Chinese.
I feel like there is a closer bond as expats. Like in the US, when he meets someone that's Chinese, he's like, oh, you're Chinese, cool. He meets someone who speaks Shanghainese. He's like, oh my gosh, you are my best friend. We were separated at birth. What's going on? So she's imagine finding out while abroad that someone is from the same hometown as you and speaks the same exact dialect as you. It's this nice, comfortable feeling. You know, you feel closer to them without knowing.
anything about them you're like I feel like I've known you my whole life even though you just met them and he opens up his mouth and he's speaking the dialect that's native to Nanjing I mean what are the odds she's so happy she's like this is so freaking wild It's a piece of home. It was a brief spark. And when he continues to try and carry on the conversation, she's like, okay, I'm over it. This has nothing to do with work. So bye.
And he's like, what just happened? She was so excited that I spoke the same dialect. And then all of a sudden she's back to being cold, back to being all about business. He's so confused. She's checked out. She's not getting the hint that he's into her. He even tried adding her as a friend on WeChat and she comes home and she sees it on her phone and she's like, what could he possibly want to talk to me about? We're not even in the same industry. Reject. What? Yeah.
I mean, adding someone as a WeChat friend is like adding someone as a Facebook friend or like accepting a follower on Instagram. It's not like you're giving them your social security number. It's a pretty standard thing. So she just rejects him and it only makes him more curious. He's like, I have never met a woman like this. This is insane. Like she's so blunt. She's so laser focused on work.
And you know that one idea that's like going around on TikTok, the more passionate someone is about something, the more attractive and charismatic they are. That was what was happening. You cannot stop thinking about her. Now, I don't know how someone would react to what he does next, but I guess it really depends person to person. Make your own personal judgment. You literally does not give up. He keeps trying to ask for her contact until she finally caves in.
And the minute, I mean, the second that he gets that notification that Ning finally accepted him on WeChat, he's all in. He's... actively pursuing her it's like his new life mission is to pursue this woman he would beg her to go out to eat with him he would fight to pay the bill he would take her to tie lessons together so that they could both learn tie sometimes when she was missing home
He would drive miles out to these random markets to buy supplies to cook her a nostalgic home-cooked meal that reminded her of Nanjing. You know, at first glance, he's not a bad guy. He's responsible. He's very caring. He's financially independent. He's said to have almost this calming aura about him.
like just seems very calm like when you're with him you feel very well taken care of like if you guys are outside something goes wrong he's the type of person to take charge and figure out a solution but in terms of personality They were complete opposites. Oh my God, beyond that. Like you was this hopeless romantic.
Really? Yeah. There were like a few key moments early in their relationship that set the tone for their marriage. And Ning is like, what have I gotten myself into? This is crazy. Maybe it's hindsight. Maybe it's love bombing. It's hard to say. But now looking back. It's a little, it's a little creepy.
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so Ning remembered very early on in their relationship this is at a phase where she didn't even feel like this is a serious relationship they'd been dating for like a month She wakes up one morning to one of the longest messages she had ever received from a single human being. It was a message from you. And at the time, it...
It felt like him professing his love, some sort of confessional. But now in hindsight, she's like, it's a deranged letter. I mean, just imagine waking up one morning to a long message from the guy that you're casually dating. And this is what it reads. One month, you said. One month. And side note, this is shortened for clarity, but it's a very long message. It starts. Every man imagines their ideal partner. Let me tell you about mine.
I prefer a southern woman's petite figure. I hope my future partner is beautiful and has a good body figure. She would have long hair, a gentle personality, good morals, and be independent, bright, and cheerful. Because I don't have the best cultural background, I hope my other half has a better education than me so that she can guide our future child. She would also be sensible, well-mannered, and have a career. Meeting you is like love at first sight and I want to grow old with you.
Fate has brought us together. Many people would get together because of their age and from family pressure. And under these circumstances, they get forced to be married, but none of them are happy. What I look for in a marriage is pure love. And after I met you, I didn't just like you. I didn't want to just date you and have a relationship with you. I wanna take care of you for the rest of my life. I wanna share your pain and your sorrows. If possible, allow me to face all of your hardships.
If I start a relationship with you, there will be a happy ending. We can have our own family, have our own kids. We can teach them to be good people. If we have a boy, he can learn martial arts, work out, and become a caring man like me. If we have a girl, we will treat her like a princess. And when she grows up, she can find a man that loves her as much as I love you. Oh, yeah. So it's like every girl's life purpose. Okay. Now that you have me.
Everything is different. You are no longer alone. You will never be lonely again. All the darkness and pain will go away because of me. After we've become a family, all of this will go away and this life will be filled with happiness. Our careers will continue to prosper and we will work hard together and generate wealth for our family. We will have a better life. Let our parents retire with better conditions.
and provide our children with better learning environments and a better place to grow up and let them just see the world. And when we grow old, it doesn't matter where we are. China, Bangkok, Europe, no matter the place, you and I will be inseparable. Yeah. So you must believe our meeting was just a coincidence, but I believe it's fate. I hope you can accept my love, hold my hand, and start a new chapter in life. Okay, you know that feeling?
When one person is way more into a relationship than the other and you read this message from a guy that you're like kind of lukewarm about. You're just like, whoa, that's a lot. Like that is a lot to wake up to. Like imagine, cause you know, you check your phone before you even brush your teeth. Your eyes are barely open and you're trying to read this long message. You're like, it's not that serious. It's really just.
not that serious. I feel like I would need to brush my teeth, wash my face, down a cup of coffee, sit on the couch and reread this three more times to really even grasp. What the hell he's even trying to say right now? Like, why is he even sending this message in the middle of the night when I'm dead asleep? It's so random. It's so out of nowhere. We're not even that serious yet.
But Ning does not have that type of time. So she quickly skims through the message. She gets ready for work, swings open her front door and she screams like, oh my God, you scared me. At her front door is you. I've been here the whole night since I sent that message. Whoa. You what?
When I was writing that message, I was thinking about you and it made me miss you and I couldn't fall back asleep. So I came here, but then I realized that you're probably asleep and I didn't want to wake you up because then it would ruin your sleep. So I've just been standing here waiting for you to wake up.
For hours he just stood in front of her front door. And Ning was kind of confused on how to feel about it. Like on one hand it's very jarring and maybe even a little bit creepy. But on the other hand it's... I guess it's kind of romantic. And you have to remember, she hasn't really dated much in her life. She's thinking, maybe this is how all hopeless romantics are. Like maybe they genuinely see themselves in some sort of like movie.
And I think the deciding factor for Ning to feel like it was more romantic than creepy was, you know, context. You had always been this hopeless romantic, like since the moment that they met. He's even said so himself, like, I have this very idealistic vision of love.
I mean, she could feel it from the moment that they started talking. The way that he talked about marriage, the way that he talked about all of this. It's like he's in his own little romance novel and he's Prince Charming. And for her, it was kind of endearing. In a sense, like she's thinking, you know, if I was with someone that was like me, we would never even work out because we would never talk to each other. We would both be so much into our own work in our own world.
We would not even be able to maintain this relationship. But since he's the total opposite, he's the glue that keeps them talking. Otherwise, she would never reach out to him, right? So he's like, well, since I'm here, do you want to go to the beach? They go to the beach and he rents two small horses. I have a picture of this. And they ride as the sun comes up.
It was like a Prince Charming moment. And at one point, as the sun is coming up, just like across the horizon, he gets down from his horse and he stands next to her. And you hear the waves crashing behind him. And he looks. into ning's eyes and said i can be your prince charming okay but he didn't propose right no okay thank god yeah so within two months of dating yeah this is
He's about to propose. Two months? Yeah. So within two months of dating, this is all unfolding within two months. Like she had just met the man two and a half months ago. They started dating officially like two weeks into meeting and it's been two months of having this, what she perceived as a pretty casual relationship. The two of them are enjoying this nice little Saturday evening dinner.
Just being in each other's company when you all of a sudden is like, we should get married. And she's like, what? You're joking, right? Like, that's crazy. No. I know I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Like, what is the point in waiting now? We're both in our 30s. I mean, we're both of age. What are we waiting for? And Ning is kind of laughing because she's thinking.
he's joking he's crazy this is this is crazy but he keeps insisting and she tries to reason with him well no like you haven't even met my parents my parents would be so upset if i got married to someone and they didn't even approve of him i can't just get married out of nowhere
and he tries to convince her that they can just get married first and tell the parents later they're both independent they're both successful they're both of age like they're not even like 18 they're in their 30s this shouldn't be something that parents need to be involved in I mean, which I can partly agree with, but it's the fact that that's what she wants to do. You should respect it. Even if you feel like the tradition is not your vibe, still respect it.
You just kept saying how he's certain about this love. He's certain about the way that he feels about her. He's never felt this way about anyone else before. And honestly, Ning is like, what is going on? Like, this is so unbelievable. I don't even know if he's being serious right now. And she just keeps telling him, you're crazy. Like, you're crazy. This is crazy. I can't do this. No. Okay.
How about this? We go to the courthouse tomorrow. It's Sunday. Courthouses are almost always closed on Sundays. When's the last time you ever saw a courthouse open on a Sunday, right? Right.
We go, and if they're open, that means we're destined to be married tomorrow. If they're closed, fine. We'll come back home, eat a meal, take it slow. Um, what kind of a stupid idea is that? Like, he must... research this beforehand yeah and ning is looking at him like he's crazy but it's so stupid she doesn't take it seriously okay because she fell basically
got tricked yes because i mean i would imagine i'd be like that's so stupid yeah okay fine let's go to the courthouse tomorrow it's not gonna be open and then we'll probably go get lunch and then i'll go to work after Like that's what she's thinking. No courthouse is open on Sundays.
So the next morning, she still thinks that he's just trying to be cute and she's just playing along, entertaining him. She gets ready for the day. She doesn't even get ready for the courthouse specifically. She gets ready for her day, goes to the courthouse and they're freaking open. I mean, most likely he paid someone to keep it open or something, right? Yeah. And at this point, she was so surprised. She started believing it was fate. She talked herself into it. She's like, you know what?
This is so absurd and so crazy. Maybe it's a sign. Because again, when was the last time a courthouse is open on a Sunday? Like this is marbles, nuts. So, okay. fine let's get married we're gonna probably get married anyway she's thinking you know let's do it
Okay, some context to remember is that Ning is in her 30s. The way that she's approaching this relationship is not, let me just date around. Yeah, so how I see is like if she's Chinese at that point, she's probably getting pressured every single day.
the parents like when is you when are you getting married where's my grandkid and then she probably have that social pressure of oh i need to have a kid now i need to get married now you know she feels like her time's running out that might have pushed her to just okay maybe this guy is is it Yeah, and I think the logic was
I mean, we're already talking about Gary getting married eventually anyway. I'm not getting any younger. He's not either. We'll just get married now. And it was just kind of a cute moment too. It was romantic. Like, think about it. You're like making a bet. Hey, if the courthouse is open, like what are the...
odds and then you go there and it's open there might be some adrenaline running like oh my god this is crazy and that feels like it should be it's meant to be like they already had the plans for the rest of their lives together so that day no ring no wedding no honeymoon no parents knowing they get married and in the moment it felt romantic it just felt like two people With no stress of having this big, luxurious wedding. It was just love, right? They signed that marriage certificate.
And everything flipped upside down. An immediate 180. You went from being a romantic... hopeless romantic to an evil husband straight out of one of those k dramas okay well i don't want to say evil more like a deadbeat husband like the epitome of a useless husband So I don't know if I can say evil. He's not hitting her. He's not cheating on her, at least that we know of. But he's just...
So gross. Like it just made her so confused the day after they signed their marriage papers. So normally when they would spend the night at each other's places, they would both jump up in the morning, ready to get washed up, both tackle their to-do list. Like they were both on the same. page of ambition and having that really intense work ethic. But the day after alarms go off, you stays in bed. He rolls over, grabs his phone and starts playing phone games like mobile phone games.
And she's like, okay, that's weird. He's never done that before. I've actually never even seen him play a phone game in my life. I didn't even know that he was into phone games. But she finishes getting ready. He's still playing phone games. She makes breakfast. He comes out to eat, goes right back to bed, playing mobile games. She's like, what is going on? Okay, maybe he has an off day today.
She goes out to work, comes home. He's still in bed playing mobile games. Mobile games. I sound like a boomer playing games, okay? And she's like, what is going on? Like, what the hell came over this guy? She's so confused. She's not trying to raise a boy, though. So every single day she would get up and do her things. And it was like every day she'd come home still like, oh, I'm sure today is the day that he goes back to being normal. But no.
Still playing games. In bed. So what's going on? So he married her for her money? It seems like it. To do nothing. Just lay in bed. Yeah, he wouldn't even leave the house. All he used to talk about was his budding company, how he wanted to be the CEO, how he had all these visions of these different endeavors, his future dreams, all of that. And now, now all he does is play phone games.
And she's like, the man that I used to know or I thought I knew just dissipated into thin air. Now he's like a full blown deadbeat husband. He was living under her roof, relying on her financially. He was a leech. He was just sucking her dry of energy. compassion and money not only did he take advantage of her financially but his loving attitude towards her gone out the window
So remember how Ning opens a Chinese restaurant? So she's just the owner. She doesn't really go in unless they need someone, unless someone cancels, calls out of their shift, or it's like peak hours and they're understaffed. Now, he used to come over and help her out when it got really busy. if the employees called out. He would go, he would put on an apron, he would just do everything. And she would look at him like, wow, he really is something, right?
But now she would get called in during peak hours. She'd be like, let's go. Come on, get up. Like you need to do something with your life. He would drag his feet to the restaurant, plop down on one of the customer chairs. No. Eat food for free and play on his phone. And she's getting so frustrated because you know what? Like there's only so much you can nag someone before you're like. I don't even have the energy to nag anymore. Like I genuinely don't.
He would watch her clean tables, take in orders. He did nothing to help, not a single thing. Employees said that the worst thing was one time Ning was carrying a ton of stuff from the stock room. She's walking down the stairs, accidentally slips and falls, tumbles all the way from the top.
top of the staircase to the bottom of the staircase obviously this type of thing doesn't happen quietly it's like a series of really loud thuds and bangs back to back she's probably screaming employees are probably like oh my god what happened right They look over at the husband thinking, okay, like your wife just tumbled down the stairs. He looks up from his phone, verifies that his wife is not bleeding out dead on the bottom of the stairs and goes back to his phone.
It doesn't even pretend to care. Not even a meaningless. Are you good? Not even that. Not even that. I mean, that would be a problem, but not even that. Like no reaction. Employees rush to Ning's side and they stare at each other like, what the fork is this guy's problem? Like, what kind of husband acts like that? Her fall was so bad, it warranted an ambulance ride to the hospital. No way. Yeah. He did not care.
So Ning is trying to reason with herself. Maybe it's just a phase. You know, maybe she even read online like guys go through a phase after getting married because it's this feeling of commitment that becomes overwhelming. Honestly, she was making excuses for him because I'm sure to a degree, she also felt trapped. Like she legally got married in Chinese societies. Like anywhere in the world, there is a stigma against divorcees, especially of her age.
And she's thinking, maybe it's even my own success. Maybe dating is one thing, you know, maybe when he was dating her, he wanted her to be successful and he wanted to date an ambitious woman. But then she's reading online of all these other women saying that once you get married, it's different. women that are more successful than them, it's no longer an advantage. It's no longer a pro. It becomes like this con.
So she's thinking, okay, maybe he's dealing with all these emotions. Deep down, she's trying to reason with herself and hope that the you that she used to know would make a reappearance. And randomly, he would be nice. Randomly, he would do chores. He would take out the trash, give her a foot massage. And she would think, OK, thank God, like he's back. He's coming back. The man that I fell in love with, he's coming back.
But then he would look up from her feet and ask with a big old grin on his face, Can I borrow a few thousand dollars? At first it's a few thousand, then it's like 10,000, then a $20,000. Finally, Ning puts her foot down and she's like, what the hell do you need all this money for? Like you don't pay rent. You're not even working on your company anymore. So it's not like you need money or funds to expand your business or something's.
going on with your company. You literally spent every single day laying in bed, playing games. Why on earth would you need a thousand dollars, let alone $20,000? Eventually, he confessed that he has $140,000 in gambling debt. This is the man that used to talk to her with such authority as if he was this aspirational hustling entrepreneur CEO to be. And now he's confessing to the fact that he does nothing with his time and he's in debt from gambling.
Can you imagine just the whiplash you would get from something like that? But what can she do?
they didn't sign a prenup and he said that he had these aggressive violent loan sharks that are breathing down his neck every single day he told her that he never wanted her to get involved in this this was his problem to take care of by himself but he was scared for his life oh yeah yeah laying on the bed taking care of it oh yeah so ning briefly scolded him you know like well i don't even know if it's scolding but kind of what you would expect like
you shouldn't be gambling in the first place. Like you shouldn't be taking out loans to gamble. Like that's so dangerous. Do you not know that can ruin your life? Like, I mean, that's an easy way to kill your own future. And if you're dealing with crazy loan sharks, you could end up killing yourself. Instead of tucking his tail and being like, I know, I know.
I know I'm going to take accountability. I messed up. I'll never do it again. He straight up starts whining like a child. And he's like, no, I always said no. But my friends would visit and they would make me gamble. They'd be like, let's hit the casinos. And you're like, what? You are 30 years old, dude. She was so shocked. He pinky swore that he would never do it again. And Ning said, you know, I'm not going to pay off all your debt.
Because then you'll never learn. I will pay off half your debt. That is more than enough. That is generous. And it's more than enough to get the loan sharks off your back to give you enough time to make up the other half. And she was thinking like she is someone.
who is very empathetic and likes to think the best of people not even the best of people but tries to reason with herself like she tries to reason with human psychology she's thinking maybe he was so depressed because he was getting all these calls from these loan sharks he felt like he was in such a deep hole that he couldn't climb out of. Maybe that's why every single day he would lay in bed playing games because he just didn't even know how to tackle this problem, right?
But now there's a clear solution. Not even that. Ning was like, I'm going to give you one of my businesses to run and I will pay you more than the market competitor price for this type of job. for you to pay the rest back you don't even have bills so your whole salary just goes to paying back your your loan you're gonna be out of this in no time
And Ning said at first he was super passionate about his job, like super enthusiastic about not only doing his best, but transforming the business into something bigger, scaling it, expanding it, IPO vibes, you know? Do you know what business?
I think it was one of her trading companies, like where they would wholesale trade stuff. Yeah. And then he was like, it's going to be like an IPO company. Just you wait. It's going to be public. I'm going to make it like the next Amazon. And then after a week, he was over it. He's literally like a child. I don't know. Okay. I'm sure every single one of us has met one of these people. They're so in love with the idea of being a boss or like a CEO, but they have such a phobia for work.
Like they just they'll sit there and talk about how they're going to scale this to be the next like fortune 500 company. And then you never see them actually work a day in their life. They're just like at Starbucks in business meetings. But those business meetings are just like. telling random people about their business that they're gonna start. That was him. That was him. And then one day, you said that he had a meeting with the client for work.
She's like, okay, well, maybe he's going to enter his phase of being determined and motivated again, and then that's going to die off in a week. Whatever. He leaves early in the morning, and Ning is getting ready to head out. She's brushing her teeth when she gets a phone call. Hello? It's her accountant asking her why she just transferred $700,000 from her account. Transfer out of 700 USD? USD. Wow.
And she's like, what? I didn't transfer out $700,000. Why would I do that? Hold on. I'm about to run out the door and go to the bank and see what's going on. She spit out the toothpaste, ran to her bag to run out the door. But one glance inside, her wallet is gone. He wouldn't, right? Like, that's crazy. He wouldn't do that. She runs to the file folder in the corner of the room. Their marriage certificate is gone, as well as other personal identification documents of hers were gone.
So he used this at the bank to be like, look, this is my wife. This is our joint account. And basically tricked the bank into allowing this transfer. She stood there not even knowing how to feel like this man that she married her husband stole $700,000 from her She didn't know how to feel if she should feel angry sad manipulated gross betrayed
She grabbed her phone from her pocket and she keeps trying to call this guy. No answer. So she's like, you know what? I have no choice. She goes to the police station and reports him. At this point, Ning's life. was at her lowest. Her husband just stole $700,000 from her. I mean, she still had a lot of money left. I think her assets totaled to be around $3 million at this point, but I'm not sure how much of our assets were in cash. But even then, I think it's just the principle of her husband.
been stealing money from her. and the emotional trauma of all of that i mean he knew he was the only person in the world that knew how hard she had worked her entire life like how much she had sacrificed to be this career woman she didn't even date she didn't have friends And even though he knew all of this, he betrayed her. And just before this incident, there was a really bad fight that they had where Ning was, she found out that she was pregnant.
And her life was completely fine before meeting you. You know, sure, she would have moments where she felt a little bit lonely. She saw everyone else around her getting married, having families. She hated calling her parents because they would inevitably ask, when are you going to find someone? When are you going to give us grandchildren?
But other than that, her life felt so stable. Like she was very content. She knew exactly what her future was. She knew what she was doing. And then after meeting this man, it's like her life was a toilet bowl. It's just spinning down the drain. They get married. Everything starts falling apart in the matter of a year or two. It's like a car accident that she can't stop watching and she's got front row tickets. She's about to get hit by a car.
And now she's pregnant with a husband who can't even do the bare minimum. Not only could he not just exist and be invisible, but he's constantly making her life worse. Like her life is not even neutral because of him. Her life is harder because of him.
And she's so upset. She's stressed about bringing a baby into this type of home. She's overwhelmed with all of her responsibilities. And when she told him the news of her pregnancy, he was drunk and he angrily said, well, I don't want a kid right now. If you want to abort it, abort it. If you want the baby, you can raise it on your own. Wow. He said, abort it, it. The man that she thought she was marrying was gone.
She had sat alone in her home, like waiting for the police to catch her husband for stealing her money. And she would reread that message that he had sent her before they got married. And the words just stung. He wrote, we can have a family work hard and have kids we can teach them to be good people if we have a boy he can learn martial arts work out and become a caring man like me if we have a girl we'll treat her like a princess and when she grows up she can
a man that loves her as much as i love you it just felt like everything he had ever said to her was a complete and utter lie So after a full week, the police find you and he confesses to stealing $700,000 from his own wife. He stated that he lost it all in the matter of a week due to gambling. He lost almost a million dollars. Okay, it's not almost. Oh my gosh. $700,000. The police station called Ning. And they're like, hey, we got your husband. You want to come down here?
She walks in through the doors and he runs to her. He slumps down onto his knees and he's sobbing in front of everyone. And there was snot coming down his face. And he said that he just wanted to confess to everything. Just be clean. He wanted to bare his soul to her. He admitted to stealing her. money he admitted to losing seven hundred thousand dollars to gambling but also he revealed that he was jailed for 12 years in the past for robbery and theft
He served eight years in prison and had only been out for the past three years before he met Ning. He lied about his whole life. And what can you do? Because she can't even pursue anything because that's her husband. Yeah. Right? But also, the father of her soon-to-be child. Yeah. Wow. He said he lied about his whole life because he wanted to feel like he was good enough for her. He said, you know, I really do love you and I knew that you wouldn't want to date someone like me. Most of his 20s...
that he lied and said that he was trying to build businesses, he was in prison. He wanted to, which nothing is wrong with that. Well, depending on the crime, maybe, right? But still, the fact that he lied. Yeah, it's just so manipulative. Like, just be honest about it. And I'm sure there will be someone out there that is okay with it and loves you for you. But why would you lie about it?
He said now he wants to lay it all on the table so he can be the man that he truly thinks he can be and the man that she deserved him to be. He begged her for one more chance, even though he knew that he didn't deserve it. He said that he's like, even though I know I don't deserve another chance, like you don't have to. But like, can you find it in the goodness of your heart to just give me like one last chance?
Wow. Like, this guy is so good with his words. He's a master manipulator. I will give him that. Ning said that she would think about it. She didn't even say yes right away. She was like, just, I don't even know what to say to you right now.
I'm just going to go home. He goes home. And that next morning, he's a new man. He wakes up bright and early, draws the curtain, starts cleaning the house top to bottom. He cooks healthy pregnancy meals for Ning, rubs her feet, rubs her back, giggling in her ear about. how nice it's going to be when they have a kid, how his plans for the nursery.
He would leave little post-it notes around the house, little love letters for Ning when she comes home from work. The minute that she walked in, she would smell fresh-cooked, home-cooked meals just crawling up her nostrils. It would smell so delicious. And it just felt like her hopeless romantic husband was back. And one night while rubbing her back, you told her, you know, my cousin works in the insurance industry.
Oh my gosh. They said that we need to get life insurance since we have a little one on the way. He said it's really standard. Everyone does it. You know, it's time to start thinking about our child's future too, you know? And then... kind of smiled it was kind of heartwarming when you think about it you was going around asking family members for tips on what to do now now that he was about to be a dad and his cousin happened to be in the insurance industry and was like you know here's
big tip he was taking it very seriously he had even thought of something that had slipped Ning's mind it was something that she didn't even think about she's like oh yeah that makes sense of course we need life insurance we're gonna be parents It is the responsible thing to do. Well it was all a lie. Her whole the marriage was a lie. The hopeless romantic was like even the insurance thing was a lie. I mean, trust me He got the life insurance, but it's not because his cousin works in the industry
Ning realized it when she woke up at the bottom of the cliff. At first, she didn't even know where she was. She was out for like 40 minutes. She was unconscious for 40 minutes. Her eyes adjusted to the bright light and she could see these clouds. and leaves in a sky and she's like where am i and it was honestly kind of beautiful for a second and then it was painful
Slowly everything started coming back to her. She felt the cold rocks just jabbing into her body. Her whole body felt like it had been hit by an 18 wheeler that reversed and then ran over her again. She tried to scream. But she couldn't even talk. Nothing would come out. And even if she could scream, would someone even hear her? Nobody was at the cliff when they were up there. Is it like a miracle that she lived? Yeah. So she actually hid a bunch of massive tree branches.
so she thumped on multiple tree branches on the way down and that kind of saved her from the impact had she fallen directly onto the rocks, she would have died. So it's not like she fell fully 11 stories. It's like she fell, hit tree, then hit another tree, then hit another tree, and then hit the ground. I mean, her body was still obliterated and like shattered. But yeah, it was a miracle that there were so many tree branches in that particular spot. Yeah, because otherwise...
Don't you think he would have gotten away with this? And he would have gotten millions of dollars because she was the beneficiary. He also was entitled to all of her earnings and all of her wealth. And the life insurance, I don't know exactly how much it was, but he would have walked away a rich man. A killer and a rich man. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. And she just, she laid there. She couldn't scream. All she could think about were...
how her husband had told her the hateful words, go die. Like imagine waking up knowing that your husband that you trusted threw you off a cliff after saying, go die. I feel like the words go die are worse than just throwing someone off a cliff. It's so like, it's like, you don't even feel guilty. You don't even have a moment of sadness.
It's not even a moment of... Just pure evil. And it's... You don't even see her as a human. And I think that's the only time that he actually expresses how he truly feels about her. Yeah. Right? This is like... you know someone's about to die so you don't care you can you he can finally say how he really feels yeah you know what i mean and this is what he chose to say go die go die yeah
yeah like that's a level of hatred that i don't understand even pushing someone off a cliff is a level of hatred i don't understand but this is an added layer of evil yeah So, side note, Yu did wait around the cliff for about 30 minutes to make sure that she was dead and not screaming for help. Thankfully, Ning was passed out and did not scream. So she would regain consciousness after he already left.
I don't know what he would have done if she had screamed while he was there. Wow. And even more fortunately, that day, there weren't a lot of tourists, but one of the tourists that were there at the national park got lost. They went off the trail and were like trying to get back on the trail, ended up at this area at the bottom of the cliff and found Ning. Wow.
Ning felt hot tears dripping down her face. She was unable to move. She just felt someone holding her hand. And this person was screaming at her. You're safe. You're safe. It's okay. You're safe. I'm going to get help. The ambulances were called. And this is crazy because you was driving out of the park area. But as he's exiting, he sees the ambulances coming into the park area. Now, let's be real. He knows exactly what the ambulances are for and who it's for. So what does he do?
He parks his car, waits for the ambulances to leave, and he starts following the ambulance to the hospital. And the minute that Ning is taken out of the stretcher, he's screaming in time, my wife, my wife, what happened? Where did you go? Why did you wander off alone? you have to save my precious wife any whispers in mandarin like no one speaks mandarin there were no cameras if you don't want to die behave yourself
He told the hospital staff that his wife was pregnant and feeling dizzy. She had wandered off from the trail to get some fresh air and accidentally fell off the cliff. He tried looking for her for about 30 minutes, but because she had wandered away from him, he didn't know exactly where she had even fallen or like where.
she had gone he thought maybe she had walked down the that down the mountain he didn't even know that she fell off the cliff so after about 30 minutes he got in the car to go look for some help to get the police but he saw the ambulances so he followed the ambulances just
in the hopes that it wasn't his wife. Wow, he is really good at making up stories. Later, when Ning was able to gain consciousness and could speak again, authorities asked her what happened, and she glanced at her husband and said, I was dizzy. I must have fallen off the cliff. No way. So at this point where Ning stands is she doesn't really know Thai that well. She doesn't know Thai authorities that well.
I think that things would have played out differently if she had been in China, right? So she's not exactly sure how to play these cards because she doesn't have proof that he pushed her. She doesn't know if these officers are even going to believe her.
And most of the hospital staff, they felt bad for her, right? Everyone was like, oh my God, but thankfully you have your husband with you, right? Thankfully you survived. But there was one nurse who called the cops and she was like, by chance, this is crazy, okay? I speak Mandarin. What? Yeah. This one nurse is like, I speak Mandarin. It's my second language. And the husband, like they were in their room.
in the ICU. And when she was finally able to talk again, when the wife was able to talk again, I heard her screaming, not screaming, but like kind of crying, why did you do this to me in Mandarin? The nurse just heard and said nothing.
No, the minute she heard, she called the cops. Oh. Because this is after a few days that she finally was able to talk. But the nurse never like butt in like, hey, what do you mean? So she heard this and she's like, oh my God. I got to call the cops. The husband did it. Yeah. Wow.
So she calls the police, right? And the police do probably the worst thing possible that made Ning not trust them. They immediately confront you. And it's like, hey, why was your wife saying, why did you do this to me? And you was like, what? Oh!
that she was yelling at me because i wasn't taking well enough care of her when she was pregnant and i made her go to the national park and then she was upset because i wasn't holding her hand the whole time and like i wasn't making sure that she wasn't getting dizzy so yeah she was screaming like why did you
this to me because i wasn't taking care of her like it was my carelessness they would ask ning and because they're literally asking her in front of her husband she's like yeah that's that's why i said that And this helped you relax a lot. He was no longer staring her down every second of every day in the hospital. In fact, he felt good enough to go to breakfast every morning.
Yeah, he would leave, go eat breakfast each morning. And on one of those mornings, Ning waited for that nurse and she grabbed her hand. She felt this adrenaline pumping in her body. And she said, please. She didn't want to say too much. She just said, please, my husband makes me nervous. It's making me depressed. Do I have to have him in the room all day? And the nurse looked at her and said, okay, yeah, let me talk to the doctors. The doctors did what they should do.
Not what the police did. Instead of being like, hey, husband, you're making your wife uncomfortable. You can't be here every day. They just inform you. Hey, so we just changed our hospital rules right now and guests now have to abide by visiting hours. I know, I know it sucks, but we were just having too many guests stay over and it's become a safety hazard. So there will now just be visiting hours and you can only visit during those specified hours.
And slowly, without Yu's constant presence, Ning starts opening up slowly to the nurses. And she doesn't tell them right away. She wanted to guarantee that she would have some level of protection when she's released. Because the worst case would be the police investigate her claims, find no evidence.
and they basically tell you like your wife is talking and they're like, sorry, you got to move on with your life. And we got new cases. She would be out of the hospital without any protection from her husband who clearly tried to kill her. So she was really worried about that. Thankfully, the police promised they were like, we promise we'll protect you. Just tell us what happened. She opened up and they followed through. They arrested you.
brought in for attempted homicide charges and in march of 2020 his trial began this is 10 months after the incident you was pretty emotionless during the entire trial he pled not guilty he was very calm almost indifferent meanwhile the state
presented the motive you is in debt he's employed unemployed recently pulled out life insurance for his wife with himself listed as the beneficiary and with all of his wife's assets he stood to gain more than three million dollars so yeah it It makes sense that he killed his wife.
Very quickly, he was pronounced guilty and sentenced to life in prison. This is the first time he gets emotional during the trial. And he gets up and like a little boy, like a little kid, he starts whining. Why does everyone believe Ning and not me? I'm innocent. I'm not lying.
He would appeal, resulting in a second trial in Thailand. And if you're wondering where he gets it all from, the apple does not fall far from the tree. His mom is giving typical, my son could never, my son is perfect. He's basically Jesus reincarnated and absolutely.
angel the drugs and gun in his room he's just keeping for a friend the girl that he's holding hostage in the basement she's a whore anyway like that's the vibe that his mom gives that's the exact energy throughout the entire trial her son could do no wrong she comes to court and tries to argue that this
state's motive that her son wanted money from Ning was a complete and utter lie. It was bullshit she said. Why? Because he had a successful business that made even more money than Ning's little business. His business was bringing in tens of millions of dollars a year.
As evidence, she pulled out a company business card and identified herself as a shareholder of the company. With very minimal surface level investigations, it was revealed the company does not exist and the business cards were made using Photoshop.
What? Yeah. But she thought that people would just take a look at her business card and take her word for it that the business was making tens of millions of dollars a year. And she was like, you don't know because it's in China. And Thailand was like... Well, we do know. All we had to do was some quick search and some quick little chats with Chinese diplomats. Your business doesn't even exist.
Side note she the mom did later reach out to Ning and said I'm sorry. I think I was too greedy I wanted too much and I put too much pressure on my son which caused him to do this Again, what? Even just like how is that sufficient for an apology after your son tried to murder his pregnant wife? Like, oh, I just put so much pressure. He was so stressed he did this.
Ning is a way better person than I could ever be She did not lash out at the mom Instead, she wisely and coolly just texted Yeah, well, everything has cause and effect oh shit okay and that was that finally march 24th 2021 you was convicted of attempted Homicide and sentenced to life in prison. He was also ordered to pay Ning a hundred and eighty thousand dollars in compensation But let's be real. How is he gonna pay that back?
Meanwhile, Ning had lost almost everything. She couldn't work for a long time since she had multiple steel plates placed in her body. Her legs can't even bend properly. She had more than 200 stitches. She can't even use the toilet properly. She has to, to this day. Put her body up against the wall or handle of the side of the restroom and slowly support her body to squat down because her legs don't work.
Every morning after waking up, she needs to do three to four hours of rehabilitation exercise or she could lose her ability to walk. She could lose all of her progress and it's not just painful, but it's repetitive. It's boring It takes so much of her time and the worst part is she can't be independent anymore And again, this is a woman who values independence so much the most that she could even do
to take care of herself was brush her teeth. And even that took her so much strength. She couldn't use the restroom alone. She couldn't shower alone. Her little sister had to quit her job and be her 24-7 caretaker and it just... broke her heart to see her sister give up everything to take care of her. During her recovery, she had the most awful news from the morphine and all the medications she had to... after the attempted murder, her child was no longer viable to survive outside of the womb.
And add to that with Ning's current state, even her attempting to give birth would likely result in her own death. So the doctors were like... This baby is not going to survive outside of the womb anyway, and it will most likely kill you to give birth. So she lost her child. She lost her husband. She lost her child, her independence, her career, and her trust in...
I don't know, humanity all at once. She still had to undergo eight different surgeries and for about a year she said it was just non-stop mental breakdowns. And then in 2022, like early 2022, she picked herself up from rock bottom and said, why am I doing this? I am a successful woman and I can be successful again. So she started social media.
got back on her feet. As of 2023, she doesn't cry anymore about what happened. She said that she had time to reflect. And side note, netizens really broke down like every part of this case and they really used it as a way to showcase. how people can be so manipulative in relationships. And these aren't even, I guess at the time,
netizens were under the belief that the biggest red flag is someone hitting you. Like you always think, okay, if someone kills their partner, there must be some evidence of violence up until that point, right? But this was a huge wake-up call. There might never be violence until one day they kill you.
They also noted something in the letter that I think is very, very true. A lot of netizens said that one thing that stood out was in his initial letter to her before they got married, he keeps talking about how... The whole letter is so narcissistic. It's all about what he wants, what his wife can do for him, him, him, him. And then what he brings to the table is like, I'm going to fix your life.
But her life doesn't need to be fixed. Her life is better than your life, right? But one thing a lot of female netizens pointed out was... If you ever meet a guy that says that they want you to have a gentle personality and yet be career driven, that basically means they want you to make money, work hard but still be submissive.
And a lot of female netizens were like, this is the biggest red flag these days. When people say they want a woman who has a career, but still has a gentle personality, because women are saying, do you know how hard it is to maintain a gentle personality? If you're out there working like that, literally you cannot have both at the same time. It's impossible. So they're like, that's the biggest red flag people need to look out for now. So guys, look out for that.
And the whole letter is just, it's a mess. Do you guys think the letter was a mess? Did you get it from the get-go or do you feel like it's hindsight? Let me know. Yeah, it's weird. Yeah, it's weird. It's a weird letter. It was a weird letter. It doesn't feel... Romantic. Yeah, it doesn't feel sincere. It doesn't feel normal.
yeah it's like what are you saying it's just really weird but also like long hair good figure like it's like whoa if i read that in a letter i'd be like this is very creepy yeah Anyway, Ning had to basically start from scratch again. She lost her business from not being able to work all the time. A lot of money was poured into not only fighting the legal battles,
And her recovery, you know, rehab, physical rehab, all of her medical bills, traveling from Thailand back to her home country, like everything. It just, it was a lot of cost. But Ning remains positive. It's so interesting. So she was interviewed and she was asked, looking back on the past three years, when was the darkest moment of your life? Like, how did you even survive this? She said from the moment that he pushed me down the cliff till the moment that I could stand up on my own.
Every moment between that was dark. the event destroyed my life i mean my little family was gone my lover betrayed me my child was gone my health was gone my career was destroyed all my plans were gone my life was in ruins i was a successful person before this i lived a decent life and for some Someone like that to go from being independent to urinating and defecating in bed every day. It is a level of torture and humiliation that.
You won't understand unless you experience it yourself. My parents are older, so they were helping me recovery. But I was thinking, you know, when my parents get even older, I'm supposed to help them. But are they going to be old, barely alive and helping me? Or will all of us just lie in bed together and look at each other as we die? And I thought, how can I prevent this? And my only option that I could think of...
was, I gotta get better. She said, you know, I've seen the best of people, I've seen the worst of people, and it's made me feel some relief at least, because now I've seen it all, and I have courage to face my new life. She also said that she's very happy that her story can inspire netizens to get out of bad relationships. And she also said... 17 bone fractures, over 200 stitches, multiple surgeries. What doesn't kill me does make me stronger. And she said, my flash marriage with him.
was extremely risky and it's my fault that i didn't do my homework and investigate i hope everyone can learn get to know people more take them to your parents you can also investigate through formal means to see if they've been involved in criminal or civil cases or if they have debt
These are things I didn't do and I hope everyone knows this and they start doing this. Protect yourself. What's crazy is that when she was asked if she still believes in love and marriage, she said, marriage is beautiful. Love is beautiful. And I don't think that he can represent marriage or love because he's not worthy of either. And she is now active on Douyin.
she i mean i'll just say like her ability to take this in strides and really come out stronger on the other side is not only impressive but it's like unbelievably inspiring so What are your thoughts on this case? I thought it was very strange in the sense that, I mean...
statistically it's the husband or it's always the wife, right? But just the way it went down, it was enough red flags to know that he's a toxic person. But was it enough red flags to know that he was a killer? It's terrifying. Yeah. what are your thoughts please stay safe and i will see you guys on sunday for the mini-sode bye