For young children that grew up in a demanding household, it might have been especially difficult for them to ask for help. It might be because they felt embarrassed that they needed it. They had fears their parents would judge them for something they ‘should already know’ and so much more. This fear ends up translating into adulthood where adults end up fearing the same projections. They don’t want to look stupid in front of their peers or bosses so they rather stay silent than speak up. Genuin...
Nov 02, 2023•6 min•Ep. 166
After doing something offensive or unkind, people often follow it up with, “It’s just a joke.” They use this as a way to undermine your legitimate feelings and to also make light of how ‘sensitive’ you are. Don’t be fooled by the undertones of aggression! Your feelings are valid! There are different forms of humor, mockery being one of them. Mockery though is often hurtful and usually there’s a person who ends up being the butt of the joke. However, teasing someone is often much more playful and...
Oct 12, 2023•9 min•Ep. 165
Radical acceptance is the ability to accept the situation for what it is, even if it’s painful. Radical acceptance does not mean that you condone or even approve of the circumstance, it’s just the ability to choose peace over the event. Mel Robbins, a famous motivational speaker, has a reel that recommends that people should ‘let them be’. This is a great stance to take and showcase a bit of that radical acceptance mindset. There’s research that shows a radical acceptance perspective reduces str...
Oct 05, 2023•8 min•Ep. 164
The body can hold onto so many emotions and feelings. If it doesn’t have an outlet, it begins leaking in unexpected and sometimes painful places. Like a juice detox, the body is able to see more clearly and process the emotions that might be unconsciously hurting you when the emotional path is clear. What are some signs you need an emotional detox? The first sign is that you might be chronically stressed. Stress is a silent killer to our immune system and it can halt our nervous system from figh...
Sep 29, 2023•9 min•Ep. 163
It’s natural for us to go through ups and downs in any type of relationship, but a healthy connection is about trust and emotional safety. It’s also the ability to grow into a better person and the independence to still be your own person within that relationship. However, we can find ourselves in relationships that exhibit none of these things yet we still can not imagine a life without this particular person. What is a trauma bond? It is the emotional attachment that develops between two peopl...
Sep 22, 2023•10 min•Ep. 162
The five stages of grief are not a linear process. When we go through grief, we go back and forth through the different ranges of emotions. When it comes to setting boundaries, it can also be a similar pattern and process. We might set a strong and safe boundary, only to fall back on our standards. This shouldn’t be a point of shame, but a learning process as you go through these stages of boundary setting. To do a comparison, the first stage of grief is denial and disbelief. In boundary setting...
Sep 14, 2023•9 min•Ep. 161
Many high performers and overachievers tend to find themselves in toxic relationships. They often have a really hard time speaking out about it because it’s seen as a failure or taboo. They often don’t want to admit that there’s something wrong because that would mean that they have personally failed in the relationship. Remember, it’s healthy to talk about it! This is something you shouldn’t be embarrassed about. People with a narcissistic personality tend to have an inflated sense of superiori...
Sep 07, 2023•12 min•Ep. 160
No matter what stage of life you’re in, stress has a tendency to come your way, especially during high seasons like exam week, finishing your degree, hitting a deadline at work, and so much more. We all need to find our unique way to take care of ourselves. When it comes to self-care, it doesn’t mean you need to go out and buy a bunch of things to feel whole again. It means looking inwards and figuring out what you need to do to show up for yourself in a healthy and positive way. What are some w...
Aug 31, 2023•8 min•Ep. 159
When change happens, it can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. There’s a loss of control when change occurs, even if we inherently know that change is good for us. Our brains are naturally wired to perceive uncertainty as a problem. When we’re in uncertain territory, our brains desperately want us to go back to normal, and will do anything; even sabotage ourselves; to get back there. However, as we all know, change is inevitable. How can we get the brain and the body used to these uncomfortable ...
Aug 24, 2023•10 min•Ep. 158
The most important relationship we can have is with ourselves. When we understand who we are and how we want to show up for others, then the path towards moving forward and living an authentic life becomes a lot easier. However, to first understand yourself, you do have to go on a journey of self-discovery, forgiveness, appreciation, and love. The concept of innerstanding is not only to develop a deep knowledge for yourself and those around you, but dives deep into your emotions, your truth, and...
Aug 17, 2023•9 min•Ep. 157
This subject hits close to home. As parents, we always try to do the best we can, but sometimes our best isn't what was needed for the situation. In this particular instance, Kamini thought her son had a minor injury that he could recover from and made the best judgment for the situation at the time. She later found out that her son needed surgery because he had a broken wrist. Mistakes like this happen, but as a parent, you can’t help but feel so guilty for ‘not knowing better’. We can carry gu...
Aug 11, 2023•9 min•Ep. 155
Many of us know someone who wants to help us. They’re always willing to lend a hand and they are incredibly accommodating towards us. This, on the surface, might seem like they’re amazing friends right off the bat, but there are some tale-tale signs that they might be a communal narcissist in disguise. If your gut is telling you something towards how ‘nice’ this person is, pay close attention to what it might be telling you. A communal narcissist has an obsessive preoccupation with presenting on...
Jul 27, 2023•10 min•Ep. 154
Do you constantly worry that people are going to mock or criticize you? Do you worry about looking foolish to others or even freeze when you’re the center of attention? When we are overly anxious about how others perceive us, we can have a lack of confidence when in public and our self-esteem can also take a toll. It can become so bad that you don’t want to leave your home or interact with anyone from the outside because of this fear of how others will perceive you. This deep fear can prevent yo...
Jul 20, 2023•10 min•Ep. 153
How often do you dwell on your previous mistakes? Do you think you should have done something better a lot earlier? Oftentimes, we hold ourselves back from our fullest potential without realizing it and it’s because we allow limiting beliefs to cloud ourselves. Your inner critic is the loudest voice you will ever hear. You might not see it this way, but your inner critic is a form of internalized abuse. Negative self-talk, self doubt, and self-sabotaging behaviors stand in our way from our own p...
Jul 14, 2023•9 min•Ep. 152
So many people are confused as to what conscious parenting actually is. There is even a bit of controversy that if you ‘consciously parent’ you’re creating children that are unable to handle resiliency. This, of course, is not true, but how do you successfully practice it? As a parent, you want your children to be happy, healthy, and successful adults. This means there isn’t one tried and true way to parent. It has to be unique to you and your beliefs as a person. However, your mood can dictate ...
Jul 06, 2023•8 min•Ep. 151
Toxic relationships can occur throughout any relationship dynamic you might have. This means you could be in a toxic relationship with your work colleagues, your friends, or even your parents/family. The most apparent toxic relationship happens with a partner, but no relationship is truly immune to a master manipulator. Oftentimes, we form a strong bond with a toxic person and it can cause a lot of suffering and distress. It doesn’t just affect your emotional health, but it can also affect your ...
Jun 29, 2023•10 min•Ep. 150
There’s a lot of talk about shame happening in the world today, which is good news that more and more people feel comfortable talking about it, but why does shame occur? Shame is something that shuts people down and makes people not allowed to grow in the ways that they need to. It keeps them paralyzed in a prison that they seemingly are unable to control. There are three factors to why shame is occurring. The experience is being dismissed, denied, or being gaslit by the listener. When shame is ...
Jun 22, 2023•8 min•Ep. 149
Everyday, we have to make decisions. It’s an important part of life, but there comes a point when the mind can become overwhelmed or even ‘tapped out’ from the various forms of decisions it has to make. Decision fatigue is very real and it can be damaging to your own emotional wellbeing and self worth. People who are under too much stress tend to simply just shut down. Decision fatigue can manifest in many different ways, but some of the common symptoms include procrastination and/or impulsivity...
Jun 16, 2023•9 min•Ep. 148
Has someone ever said to you, ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’? Are you known to be a chronic worrier over things you can’t control? No one should truly aim to be 100% worry-free because it’s an impossible task, but reducing your anxiety around worrying will put you on a less stressful and happier path. There’s a lot of value in the ability to worry. We should think about how things can and/or will go wrong. Worry is a very useful survival mechanism that keeps us safe, but if you find yourself cons...
Jun 08, 2023•10 min•Ep. 147
Do you feel like you’re always at a tug-o-war with your desires vs. your responsibilities? For instance, do you find it hard to say no? Do you consistently do things that don’t serve you even though you have every intention of doing ‘the right thing’? If so, you might be struggling with self-control or have issues with setting strong boundaries for yourself. A perfect example of poor self-control can be when you’re trying to save money that month, but end up overspending on non-needed items just...
Jun 02, 2023•9 min•Ep. 146
What is self-sabotage? Self-sabotage means that you might have some self-destructive behaviors or patterns that affect you in a negative way. A negative mindset can lead you to a lack of belief in yourself or have a mindset that you are flawed or that there’s something wrong with you. If you have these strong and negative beliefs about yourself, then unconsciously, you might be doing things to hurt you or set you back because it reconfirms the belief you have about yourself. We sometimes even us...
May 25, 2023•9 min•Ep. 145
Most of us have experienced deep pain and loss throughout our lives. We’ve experienced painful breakups, maybe even experienced the death of a loved one, or even have felt that life didn’t quite turn out how we wanted it to. If you’ve suffered from depression or anxiety in the past, although it’s not an ideal emotion, it is part of the human experience. More people are recognizing the deeper effects of what shame does to their own psyche. Shame has ripple effects and can be passed down to the ne...
May 18, 2023•10 min•Ep. 144
Self-compassion is such an important piece to your emotional and mental wellbeing. It is also a foundational piece to elevating your own self-worth, but so many people struggle with speaking kindly and nicely to their own self. As a high achiever or even a perfectionist, there’s this urge to constantly want to push yourself and it can sometimes feel ‘icky’ to give yourself any sort of praise when you’ve reached (or almost reached) the finish line. When you’re going through any sort of loss, grie...
May 11, 2023•9 min•Ep. 143
Parents can hold in on a lot of guilt when it comes to whether they’re a good parent or not. They often wonder if they’re good enough or if they’re further traumatizing their children. They wonder if they’re just repeating bad patterns or if they’re not pushing their children hard enough to succeed. There are a million and one thoughts that go through a parent’s mind when it comes to raising their children in a healthy and productive way. When we’re talking about mom and dad guilt, what we’re re...
Apr 27, 2023•10 min•Ep. 142
Emotional safety is the foundation of a healthy relationship. People want to feel loved and respected in a relationship, but it’s impossible to feel that if you don’t feel safe in the relationship. When you have emotional safety, you are able to express yourself freely and be who you are without judgment. When we’re in relationships where we don’t feel safe, there is a higher chance of people feeling inadequate and rejected. They are constantly in a defensive position, which can really weigh hea...
Apr 20, 2023•8 min•Ep. 141
How often have you had a poor day or have been disappointed that the day didn’t turn out how you wanted it to? Have you ever felt furious, unhappy, disappointed that you weren’t able to change the situation? Maybe you felt like you didn’t have control and it was someone else’s fault that caused you to spiral or derail. The truth is many of us escape in self-sabotaging behaviors to help soothe us. We inherit core beliefs and self-perception from society and from our close friend circle to keep us...
Apr 13, 2023•9 min•Ep. 140
Something remains a true fact no matter where you go and that is: Change is inevitable. As Kamini is experiencing change in her home as an empty nester, she was originally resistant to these up and coming transitions. Life decisions happen to all of us, whether you’re moving out of your family home, getting married, having kids, changing careers, no one is immune to these transitions. We also experience life transitions that we simply do not have control over, like death or economic uncertainty....
Apr 06, 2023•9 min•Ep. 139
Dominique Blake is a professional track and field athlete and international motivational speaker. Everything she’s worked up to has not been by accident. Her hard-working parents instill an important message within her: Always give 100% to whatever excites you about life. Invest all you have so that you don’t walk away disappointed. Because of this, Dominique is blessed to say she does not have any regrets about anything. Dominique participated in the London 2012 Summer Olympics and she feels ve...
Mar 30, 2023•23 min•Ep. 138
So many people fall into codependent relationships without realizing it. As an exercise, think about a relationship with a close friend, parent or even romantic partner, and think about how you interact with that person. Are both parties benefiting from that interaction? Do both parties give and take equally? Or, do you find yourself being the one that is overgiving and overfunctioning just to please the individual without getting much in return? What is codependency? A quick definition of it is...
Mar 23, 2023•9 min•Ep. 137
Kamini has struggled with self-compassion and still works through some of her own thoughts and doubts about herself to this day. Your personal journey to wellness and healing will always be a work in progress, but Kamini has some healthy and gentle ways you can incorporate a daily practice around boosting your own inner thoughts and becoming more compassionate towards yourself in today’s episode. It’s so much easier to be compassionate to other people than it is to receive that same compassion f...
Mar 16, 2023•11 min•Ep. 136
