Our beliefs contribute to our mindset, which can trickle down into everything we do and not do. The way we see ourselves and those around us has a big influence on our thoughts, feelings, and behavior. And because of this, it also shapes the reality we are living in and the quality of our relationships. Many of our core beliefs can be traced back to our early childhood. Those beliefs will continue to manifest into adulthood. Some of these beliefs are good, and not all of them are the result of t...
Nov 04, 2021•12 min•Ep. 68
Let’s talk about overthinking! Do you think or replay scenarios in your mind where your thoughts end up being so intrusive that you can’t shut them out? Overthinking can be linked to anxiety and depression. It can also contribute to PTSD and eating disorders! What causes overthinking? It happens when you can’t stop thinking about an experience or when you just fixate on a feeling. If we overthink, our thoughts end up becoming our reality, and this negative cycle can perpetuate itself. When this ...
Oct 28, 2021•9 min•Ep. 67
Are you experiencing procrastination? Do you seem to just keep putting off your tasks so that you can focus on something that’s not as important? To be clear, there is a difference between procrastination and laziness. Laziness involves apathy and us choosing not to act whereas procrastination is the replacement of activities we don’t want to be doing. For example, sometimes we procrastinate because it just feels too overwhelming to do at the time, or that we are perfectionists. Sometimes we pro...
Oct 21, 2021•10 min•Ep. 66
Toxic work environments can cause us to feel anxious, stressed, and can sometimes lead to physical illness. A survey came out that said 30% of workers had experienced bullying at work. Sometimes, we don’t notice the telltale signs, and we think these work environments are just ‘normal’. Kamini sheds some light on what’s unacceptable and what to be aware of if these things are happening to you! Let’s slow it down. A bad workplace can be through ineffective leadership. A positive workplace would b...
Oct 14, 2021•11 min•Ep. 65
There are different voices in our heads that can prevent us from living a life of true happiness. It’s called self-sabotage and it isn’t always so obvious when these voices are at play. Self-sabotage usually involves a negative mindset that reduces your motivation and hinders your chances for success and happiness. If you’re trying to move up in life, whether that be bettering yourself or getting better career opportunities, those voices in your head could keep you from moving forward. The thing...
Oct 07, 2021•11 min•Ep. 64
An attribute that healthy communicators have is the ability to stay curious. If you don’t know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing. The only stupid quesiton out there is the one that hasn’t been asked yet. Asking questions will always be a good thing, and to cultivate that is to be a curious person. Asking questions can do more than just dig for information, it can build relationships and it can build rapport with people. It opens the floor up for having people express their need...
Sep 23, 2021•8 min•Ep. 63
What are some of the best ways to manage and monitor our emotions? It’s important to strive to a point where your mood doesn’t shift dramatically based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence. The one who has the most self-control has the most power. When it comes to effective communication, the ability to manage our emotions will greatly improve and help your communication skills, even more so when you’re trying to navigate a tough ...
Sep 16, 2021•10 min•Ep. 62
How do we become healthier, more effective, communicators? In last week’s episode, Kamini talked about active and engaged listening to be a better friend and partner. This week, Kamini focuses on non-verbal cues and communication to help you build a better connection. In fact, the most important thing in communication is your ability to hear what isn’t being said. Most communication is non-verbal. We need to use our eyes to see the undertones of the person’s body language, which then helps us tr...
Sep 09, 2021•10 min•Ep. 61
Kamini continues her conversation about communication and building healthy communication skills to help bring your relationships closer. Today, Kamini does a deep dive on how to have a great conversation through the act of honing in on your listening skills. Listening is an act that requests attention over talent, over ego, and over self! Being a great listener is a vital skill, not just for your personal relationships, but for your professional ones as well. We often think about communication a...
Sep 02, 2021•12 min•Ep. 60
There’s so many subtle details that go into communication. If you think about it, communication is more than just talking. During a normal conversation, we have the ability to process the undertones and layers of communication that go on. We intuitively know how to ‘read between the lines’. Communication is so powerful. It can uplift others, and it can discredit and disempower them. Whether you realize it or not, you are walking a fine balance when it comes to communicating with another person a...
Aug 26, 2021•7 min•Ep. 59
We continue our series about friendship. Kamini recaps the last two episodes she talked about on how to find and keep sane and nurturing friendships, especially during times of burnout and extreme stress, as well as things to look out for that will disrupt a friendship. This week’s episode covers how you can strengthen and enhance your friendships by using Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages. The five love languages are: Quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of s...
Aug 19, 2021•9 min•Ep. 58
One of the biggest reasons for burnout is the lack of community. This episode is a continuation of last week’s episode about friendships, and how you can begin to create and attract healthier people in your life. Solid friends should not be overlooked and having people that we can count on is incredibly important as we go through the ups and downs of life. So, what kind of unhealthy or toxic patterns do people take on that could actually inhibit or destroy friendships? People are complex and as ...
Aug 12, 2021•10 min•Ep. 57
One of the reasons why people experience burnout is due to the lack of community and friendships in their lives. With the inability to connect with others, our brains start to shut down and become isolated. So, let’s talk about friendships in general and how we can strengthen them when we’re feeling alone and tapped out. How do you attract healthy friendships? Well, it’s important to have an open mind, well-rounded interests, and a pursuit of happiness mindset. Let’s break each of these things d...
Aug 05, 2021•8 min•Ep. 56
Are you stressed out? Do you know the tale-tell signs of when you’re stressed? It is true that a bit of stress is a good thing because it can push you to reach your goals and get yourself motivated. However, ongoing and excessive stress can really impact you. If you’re permanently stuck in the ‘fight or flight’ mode, your body starts to wear down and you aren’t able to react as effectively. It’s crazy to think about, but prolonged stress can actually make you act and react similar to the way tra...
Jul 29, 2021•12 min•Ep. 55
Let’s talk about breakup trauma. Unfortunately, breakups are a part of life. Almost everyone has been broken up with when they were still in love with that person. It’s such a painful part of life to experience that. It’s difficult to open up and be vulnerable, and then to have someone say it’s not working out, that loss can really be traumatic and shape who we are. A breakup can really impair your self-esteem and your self-worth. It can also impact the way you see yourself on the whole if your ...
Jul 22, 2021•10 min•Ep. 54
Gaslighters use emotional manipulation to create doubt in someone’s own perception, emotions, and sanity. They use these tactics to undermine and emotionally abuse their victim. The goal is to make the victim no longer trust themselves and their reality. These tools are usually used by narcissists to control their victim. Gaslighters can appear in any kind of relationship, whether that be romantic, parent/child, workplace, or friendships. You can detect a covert narcissist by their obsessive nee...
Jul 15, 2021•11 min•Ep. 53
The inner child is a hot topic these days, but not many people might know about it. What is the inner child? It represents the sum of your past experiences and memories that plays a significant part in your development. It can be a source of strength, but it can also hold onto turmoil and pain. When we’re faced with a hard and triggering moment. It’s important to bring your limiting beliefs front and center and challenge those beliefs. Where are you now? What’s true for you now? You are not your...
Jul 08, 2021•11 min•Ep. 52
So many people roll their eyes when it comes to journaling! But wait! Before you click off of this episode, you might want to hear what some of the unforeseen benefits are. For a lot of people, journaling can just seem like an extra to-do. However, Kamini attributes journaling similar to watering a seedling. You water it a couple of times and it appears nothing is happening, but little do you know, your seedling is growing. When we start a new habit, we don’t see the benefits immediately. So, ho...
Jul 01, 2021•8 min•Ep. 51
Optimism is both a mental attitude as well as a personality trait and it’s often shaped by the perceptions we have about the world around us. Basically, psychologists believe your perception of reality determines whether or not you see things from an optimistic point of view or a pessimistic perspective. What is an optimist exactly? An optimist believes in positive outcomes and expects good things to happen. A pessimist, however, expects unfavourable outcomes. Optimists have a positive mindset t...
Jun 24, 2021•10 min•Ep. 50
Let’s talk about boundaries today! There are so many benefits to setting boundaries, but a lot of us have fears that if we express our needs, it’ll push the people we love away from us. People who need to set healthy boundaries are afraid that it will create unnecessary conflict in their life. But before we dive deeper into this, how do you define boundaries? To put it simply, it’s to create clear borders between yourself and other people. It can be both a physical and emotional space. By having...
Jun 17, 2021•10 min•Ep. 49
What is gaslighting? The term actually comes from a 1934 movie, Gas Light, where a husband manipulates his wife and alters her environment to force her to see a reality that is ‘staged’. The person being gaslit begins to question their own sanity and is not sure what’s real and what their abuser is making up. Their abuser often feeds them a completely alternative reality in an effort to control the person and make them feel like they’re the catalyst for ‘all the bad things’ happening in their li...
Jun 10, 2021•9 min•Ep. 48
Let’s talk about parental burnout. Kamini is a parent of five children, but it doesn’t matter if you’re a parent of one child or 12, all parents face this struggle. It’s tough constantly trying to balance the demands of work, life, and children. Also, there can be a lot of guilt associated with this too if you have to work late or you feel like you’re unable to prioritize your children’s needs above everything else. We all have these expectations of ourselves on what success looks like at home. ...
Jun 03, 2021•11 min•Ep. 47
Kamini is a recovering perfectionist. These ‘perfection’ tendencies are just part of who Kamini is as a person and part of her personality traits, but that doesn’t mean they always work to her benefit. Perfectionists typically hold a belief that they’re the only ones who can get it right and that no one else can do as good of a job as them. Although this may or may not be true, this doesn’t help us scale or grow as a person. Perfectionists hold a lot of weight and burden on their shoulders and t...
May 27, 2021•11 min•Ep. 46
So many of Kamini's clients really want to be happy, but yet many of their objectives and goals were tied to external focuses. The purpose of true happiness means we find internal satisfaction from an inside out perspective. When we are no longer dependent on external forces, we will always find our happy place no matter what else is happening in our lives. We liberate ourselves from the stress of day-to-day life by tapping into this happy source no matter what. In our previous episodes, we spok...
May 20, 2021•8 min•Ep. 45
We often fall victim to thinking that we will be happy after we get a promotion or after we’ve found our ‘perfect’ partner, but that’s not the case! Happiness is an inside job. Kamini continues her series on how you can cultivate happiness on this week’s episode! Our past series talked about the importance of a gratitude practice, why we have to let go of comparing ourselves to others, how to be more mindful and present in the moment, but there’s another piece that we have to let go over, and th...
May 13, 2021•7 min•Ep. 44
This week we are continuing our series about happiness. A common theme in Kamini’s client calls has been surrounding happiness. We’re so desperate to find it! We keep looking externally to find happiness. How many times have you been guilty of saying, “I’ll be happy when I get…” Well guess what, now that you have it, the brain starts looking for it’s next dopamine fix. The real truth is that happiness is an inside job. If you want to be happy, you need to cultivate happiness from the inside out....
May 06, 2021•7 min•Ep. 43
This week we are continuing our series about happiness. We all want to feel happy, but what does that actually mean? We are often so dependent on external factors, instead of internal factors, to help us feel happy. One of the external factors we often fall victim to is comparison. Social media can help us be especially guilty of this. Social media is supposed to be used for connection and to feel closer to one another, but it can often have the opposite effect. Social media can make us seek out...
Apr 29, 2021•7 min•Ep. 42
Let’s talk about cultivating happiness. So many of Kamini’s clients just want to ‘be happy’, but they just find themselves stuck or unable to sustain it for a long period. Does this sound familiar? At the end of the day, what causes happiness? To sum it up briefly, it’s when the body experiences pleasure based on our thoughts and experiences. However, true happiness is something that starts first from within. When we continue to look for happiness externally or through pleasure seeking activitie...
Apr 22, 2021•7 min•Ep. 41
Lately, body positivity has gotten a bit of a bad rep, so let’s clear up some misconceptions. The main purpose of the body positivity movement is that we should love our bodies as they are instead of trying to live up to an unrealistic depiction of what a ‘healthy body’ looks like. It’s all about not using an external form of validation on what our body should, and shouldn’t, be. Bodies come in different shapes and sizes. That’s a fact! However, if you rely solely on the images presented to you ...
Apr 15, 2021•8 min•Ep. 40
Do you suffer from a very mean inner critic? As many of us set new year resolutions at the beginning of the year, we often fall off these goals around March. There’s nothing wrong with setting new goals for the year to help us change and grow, but what ends up being bad is when we beat ourselves up for it when things don’t go according to plan! When bad things happen, or when we think we’re not worthy, our inner critic is at its strongest. This little voice in our head is really just trying to k...
Apr 08, 2021•8 min•Ep. 39
