Ben, hello, hello, and welcome to this week's episode of relationships rule the show that explores the power of authentic connection in building a life and a business
that you love. Today, we're joined by Beverly Glazer, a seasoned therapist, a transformational coach and founder of reinvent impossible, backed by over 35 years of real world results, Beverly helps high performing people to navigate transitions in both life and business by taking clear, strategic mind shifting actions through a unique blend
of emotional intelligence and strategic life design. Beverly brings deep, emotional mastery and sharp, actionable insight to help you quickly navigate personal and professional challenges and step into your next big chapter with clarity, confidence and ease. She is the host of the acclaimed podcast, aging with purpose and passion, and her website, reinvent impossible, has a lot of interesting information that I urge you to check out after the show. So welcome. Welcome to the show.
Thank you for inviting me. Thanks so much. Well, a fellow
Canadian, how can I not? I mean, it was kind of cool. I think we met on LinkedIn, if I'm not mistaken, I
think so. Janice, yes, yes, you're on the warmer side.
Yeah, Canada, yes, yeah. You come from Montreal. You're in Montreal, which is Montreal. Yeah, beautiful city. So I want to know, I know that you, you were a traditional therapist for many years, psychotherapist for many
years. And I know that coaching became a thing, because I remember, in my transition from corporate to working on my own, coaching was just coming into I'm showing my age now, but some coaching was just coming to existence, and I started to look at it for me, as a possible path, because I'd been a teacher, not because I'd been a therapist, but because I'd been a teacher. And of course, I discovered at that time it was so expensive to take the coaching credentials that it
scared me off completely. And I also started to realize that teaching and coaching are completely different things, which, yes, you're nodding your head, and I know that you know that so but for you, what sparked, what was that moment that sparked that interest for you into the world of transformation coaching?
Oh, that's a wonderful question, okay, it really is, because, as a professional, and as, you know, as a teacher, you work really hard to get your credentials. And then I saw all these people going out as coaches, and I'm saying, My goodness, you know, I don't want to do that. It's like, this is terrible, you know? And, yeah, that's my immediate reaction, I have to say. And then I just continued. I was on my path helping people all the time. This is what I do.
This is what I know. And as COVID hit, I started to realize, I mean, we I started to understand coaching more. I started to see that coaching is in many different areas. And what I did is I got my IFC certification because, like everything else, I want to do it the right way, yeah, and learn the right way. And I took a look at that, not, yes, I'm able to do it, and I understand that there are business coaches and
all kinds of coaches, right? Sports go, and I had a lot of clients that travel, and I realized that what I do is not only therapy, everybody needs help at one time or another, but not everybody needs therapy. And at the time of the pandemic, when things were changing, it gave me time to think, because I had a very busy private practice, I had a radio show. I was, you know, everywhere you'd have no time to think, right?
And people were calling me and I'm working and I'm saying, wow, you know, because I love doing what I'm doing, and I love helping people. So what happened is I had that pause, and people were still seeing me online, and I continued with that, and because I had that radio show and was speaking, really to the world, and when you speak to the world, you start to you know you're only talking at a studio, not realizing you're speaking to
the world. You're talking to the newsman. You. And the production person, but when you're speaking out there, right, the voices, the people that you reach are so many, and you can make much more of an impact. And I realized that if I reach out online, I can help so many more people. And that's where I started to see that some people, of course, call me a coach, some people call me a therapist, depending on where they're coming from, I'm really a strategic advisor. Janice, and that's what I do.
And today I've pivoted more and more into strategy for business, because it's not only business, it's strategy for business, and it's also strategy for life. And when people come the problems that they often come for are not what they're actually even working on, because there's so much depth to that. And people
know strategy. They're given the tools. They know what to do. But what happens is you really need the combination of the skills of people, tools, working with other people, problems with teams, problems that's going on on the back end, and they don't
realize that it's about communication. It's it's really about giving clarity, and you can get so much more revenue with that if the communication to with boards, communication with teams and customers, and you know, it's all about that, and also how to extend your energy, because we only have so many hours in a day. And like I was saying, a lot of my clients travel. I work with many C suite people, many people that are stressed beyond belief, and here they are having to come home and
take out the garbage. You know, they're dealing with the personal problems, and they don't have time for that and what, and you'll have it. You know, with men, with women, it's be able to bring this balance into your life, to be able to make your business fun, not just stress, because when it's combined with life and business, you're flying, you know you're flying. And so this is what I love to do, and this is what I do today.
So I just went black blank on your podcast name, which is
my podcast name, aging with purpose and passion, right? Aging
with purpose and passion, which I love, I love that that name, and I think that you have said and correct me if I'm wrong, but that midlife is a time of awakening. What do you mean by that? That's exciting. That's exciting, actually, I find. But what do you mean by that?
Well, I find, and I'm past midlife, that there are many awakenings, but at midlife, it's like, oh my goodness, I'm old, not old. I have so much life ahead. When you're in corporate though, you can start to feel old ageism is real. And when you look at the marketing for women, and I'm talking about 50, and this is why I really focus on that demographics, it's it's like my children are leaving. It looks
like my appearance seems to be changing a lot. I'm starting to look like my mother, and that's personal, but you're starting to see that there's more and yet, what next very often, and is there a next? And sometimes you take a look and Mr. Wonderful has changed, or he's not that wonderful. Or do I have like, I've heard this so many times. What's next? What do I do? And it's really about sorting things out, and it's getting that aha moment that you have to be comfortable with yourself no
matter where you are and what you do. And I also have found that that was the time where you're thinking perhaps of retiring, and may not want to retire, and that is your life, because your business is your life, you know. And you say, all my friends are the ones in the office, because I really have very few friends on the outside. So it's about building and developing, and it's around 5055, where we get that. So yes, that's a real awakening,
yeah, and I think, I think it that comes in different ways, and in that different times for people, I remember it. Is what's going on in your life? Because I remember having a huge awakening when I came out of my first marriage, and that was, you know, I was only I was very young when I got married, I had my first child, and then my picket fence fell down. Is what I what I taught, said to myself, but a lot of things happened for me then that that were a huge awakening.
Like, I didn't want to be by myself. I couldn't handle being by myself. I was on the phone every night talking to my girlfriends because I couldn't be alone. And so you have to learn, you know, to to to love yourself and to accept that that's a good thing sometimes, like be alone, not lonely, and things like that. So that, for me, was one big awakening. I also remember I look at my one of my daughters, who's in that 50 So there I've given my myself away, but she is now at the
threshold or the pinnacle of her career. She's in a big leadership role, and she's having to learn her way into that. But, you know, there were things in her life that didn't
happen that she wanted, so that's now a focus. But is it an awakening or what I don't know, there's so many different things that come into play, so I want to just shift that, not shift it, but move it a little bit and ask, what role do you think relationships play in helping or hindering someone's ability to reinvent themselves or to grow into that new per, You know, transformation?
That's really another wonderful question, because we were just talking about this on my podcast yesterday, which is, what role okay? Is that a reawakening? Right? What? What goes on with relationships? You may have that aha moment, but your husband and wife maybe not. And so you have
to have support. You have to have somebody that says, I have your back, and I can tell you honestly, in my case, it's my husband, and anything I do, he supports and I think that's a wonderful thing, because if you decide to pivot, and I have clients right now where she's continuing running her business, she's a founder, and we're working on, you know, this feeling of sabotaging herself because she doesn't feel that She's really good enough to stand on stages and do all these
things, and her husband has just retired, and so how do you shift that when, as she said, these are his words, he's happy watching grass grow, and she's on the next plane, you know, yeah. So what happens is, he gives her 100% support. That's great. That's great. And so we have to understand each other,
because that's when things dissolve. And I also have to say that that's something that each individual has to sort themselves out to because no one should feel that they're a victim, and no one should have to feel that they're strapped
and stuck. Everyone should find their purpose, and everyone has to feel that they matter, and otherwise there's no purpose getting up in the morning, you know, and so we can't sacrifice ourselves for someone else, but it's really a good thing to be able to have someone in the first place to be on board and say, you Know, whatever you do,
yeah, that's so important. I find that a lot of my friends, either retired or or never really worked. They out of the home and and now I could, you know, I I work more than I don't work, but I love what I do. So why wouldn't I, you know? Because if I'm not doing what I'm doing, I'm out spending money, or I'm bored. So I don't know. I just find it's really interesting. So I think retirement today is a very different thing for for every everybody. So you work a lot
with high performing women. What patterns or challenges do you see most often at that sort of midlife stage?
The challenges at midlife, and not only at midlife, I think it's for every woman that's working. Okay, fair enough. It is, you know, it's, it's really. Me, should I really be doing this? And I'm talking even personally for myself,
because same as what I just said, right, should I be doing this
exactly? You're always every single day, the older you are, you're hit with that as younger people come up. And we have to understand that we have value, and remember that, and that no matter how old you are, we've been through all these different twists and turns in the road, and they matter, and they've taught us something. And so what a big problem is to start looking on social media, where you see that you're never
good enough, right? And and you start comparing with who you are and what you should be, etc, etc. And so that would be one of the biggest problems with women in the workforce. It's like, you know, why am I doing this? And sometimes it's perfectly natural to say, I don't want to be doing this, but always go back to your why. And this is something that I always suggest, and I do it myself, you know. And on those days where I say, Ah, why am I
doing this? I'm really thinking of my why, and immediately I don't want to do anything else. I really do. It's just one of those days or one of those minutes, because when you're working, it's not all fun and games. It's work. And there's things that I love to do, like working with my clients, and there's other things that maybe not so much, like all that admin stuff that you write people, you know. So yes, yes, we have to go back to the why. Why are we doing this in the first place?
Yeah, that's so true. And you have a statement on your on your website that I love you are never too old, and it is never too late to reinvent yourself with passion. And I love that because I agree. I think that when you find something that gives you joy and that you're really, really passionate about, it isn't work. You know that part is not work.
The thing that that keeps coming in my head, that I remember experiencing one time, and I think that work, whatever that looks like for you, for me, helps me with and that is that I was once told, and I'll never forget this, because it was at a at a week long personal development thing in the in the in Northern California, up at a ranch, and we were doing this exercise in a big gymnasium, and the one of the big wigs of the company was doing the exercise with us, and she came up to me
and told me that I was invisible. Oh yeah, whoa, it was a women's thing, as I recall, and and I'm like, that stuck with me for so long, because I was always the person that spoke up first. I was always the person that, you know, answered the questions or led the group or whatever. And somehow I lost that. If that's what she said to me that I was invisible, but I don't think I ever got over it, to be honest. Maybe I still think therapy about it. I don't know. But you know, you don't,
and that's what work gives me. I don't feel invisible when I'm helping others, right?
No, and you're not invisible. You have a podcast and everything I know. Quite frankly, I think she was wrong to say that,
of course she was, of course she was, you know, it's damaging even at midlife, right? It's
damaging at any time, exactly, however I have heard, and these are from friends of mine, and I've never experienced it, but this particular friend was saying, you know, I hate that when I go out with younger people, I feel invisible. And I said, You know what? And her name's Anna, if she's listening. I said, I have never felt that right. And if I felt I was invisible, I would make myself known. And I said, Where was that? So she said, Well, it was in a restaurant.
And so I just felt that, you know, they just looked at me as if I was not that important. And I didn't only hear this now from her, Janice, I've heard this from other people that the older we are, you know, the more invisible we become. And what does happen is when we go and when we're sick, and it often happens in the workplace too, and we're not sick, but we are
that person that's the older one and not excited. Expected to be able to know the technology and not be expected to be able to keep up or want to learn, or is expected that you're going to be leaving and retiring, and maybe now we won't invest in you, because it's a bad investment, and we'll invest in the younger people. And so that is where you start to shrink and feel invisible.
But it's internal, right? It's actually,
it's there. It's a real, really there, you know? But, but the way to do it for, in other words, if you're passed over, and you know that that's an ageist thing, it's there. It's real, true and, I've heard stories Janice, of this woman. I mean, she turned 60. It was her birthday that she was member of the team, top of the team, leading many teams. And on her birthday, they just were celebrating her birthday, and the next day, they were telling her, Well, it's time we're
downsizing, etc, etc. Okay, yes, all right. And so if this speaks to anyone in the audience, that is that aha moment that you have to start seeing, I am not valued here, but I can be valued elsewhere, and that is the time a coach is necessary. That is the time where you're able to really put it all together, see
what you want, where do you want to go? That is your gift to self, believe me, because if you're not appreciated here, I've known of women who've pivoted completely, like I have pivoted, but semi because I'm still helping people in different ways. But what happens is they go out and form other businesses that they never thought that they had the
capability of doing because they were strapped. I have in one of my podcasts, this woman, if you, if you've been listening, what she, what she did is she was going to be just literally another company was buying out that company. And what she wanted to do was say, am I going to be continuing. Is very successful my department, but should I continue? I always wanted to be in the film industry, and goodness knows,
what she did is she stepped down. And what she did was she studied everything she could about film, and she said, You know, I'm going to do a film on women over 50, which was her, in her case, over 60. And what I'm going to do is I'm going to start interviewing a film she realizes like a business, it's a production company. I know how to run companies, and she completely reinvented herself and has awards as a filmmaker.
So if I'm talking to anyone here, you don't know the depth of how much you have, and the older you have are, the more depth you have.
That's fantastic. I was going to ask you this last question, and you've pretty much answered it. And basically of women or our our listeners navigating their own transition. What piece of advice would you offer for them to move forward with confidence? And you've kind of answered that question, which I love in many ways, and and it's actually quite exciting. I it's funny. I, as you know, from before we came on air, that I've just had a little bit of a medical experience, and it was
in the hospital. And so the other day, one of my close friends came over to visit, and, you know, brought goodies, and we sat down and and visited. And she had said to me a few weeks ago, Janice, I know that she she calls me her tech guru, and I'm not a tech guru by any means. But, of course, you know more than someone else, and to them you are. And she wanted me to show her how to use chat GPT, and so she brought her little iPad with her. And she's, she does. She's retired, a retired
banker for several years now. And you know, she's a grandma, and that's most important to her, and she loves to travel. And I said, Okay, what do you want to do? What project should we start with? So we did two projects. One was small. One had to do with creating some greeting card messages for special people and how she and so now she can do that on any occasion. And the other one was about creating a trip to Ireland with her girlfriend, and we, we worked on this for with chat GBT
for about an hour. And when we were finished, she had this whole itinerary of three weeks in Ireland in different cities, and it asked her questions, and she said, this is like magic. You should sit there, light up. It was just. So exciting to see that now she's telling everyone that she's The Wiz, right, that knows how to do it. And I love that because it gave her some passion and some excitement about something new, exactly. That's the thing that actually keeps me going when I look at
what it can do for people. So it's kind of exciting, I think, because there's so much to learn and so much to do. Yeah, it is. It is all right. So just to wrap up, a couple of quick questions for you, so because there's so much out there to do and so much to learn these days, and because the word curiosity is my favorite, so I'm going to ask you my two part question. One, do you think curiosity is innate or learned? And I'd be curious to know your answer based on your expertise as a
professional. And secondly, what are you most curious about these days? Because that's what excites me, the new things to learn. So go ahead and let me know. Oh,
wow. We can go on and on that entire podcast. I know is curiosity innate. I think it probably is, you know, and as a teacher, you probably see it, you know, we can be shut down, though, by older people that are not necessarily wiser, but all we have to do is take a look at a child and they're curious about absolutely everything. And curiosity, for me, it's my secret sauce. I am always curious about everything.
I love learning, whether it's AI. I was in a webinar yesterday that just happened to have hit me, and there's, like, all these different, 25 different AI than some of them stemming from a lot of them stemming from chat GBT, but it's like, wow. You know how quickly the world is. You know, I'm a glutton for learning. I don't never stop. So for me, Curiosity is what what he's
like, people are, what I'm interested in. So it's the issues underneath asking the questions is allows me to see what blocks people have so that I can help them move forward. It's all about literally forming relationships, finding out more, being curious. It's, I don't know. The question is, is it innate? I think that's what keeps us alive asking questions. Yeah, I agree. And the more we learn, it's all through questions. So whether you're asking chat GBT or asking
someone else, just be that child and keep asking. And there's no such thing as a stupid question. Yeah,
I love that. And having a very curious five and a half year old or almost six year old granddaughter, that just lights me up and and so I see it in her a lot. Oh, yeah. Well, this has been delightful, and I thank you for your time and for your value and what you bring to the world. Just before I close, please tell my audience where they can find you. And I think you have a free resource for
yes, it's a checklist. It's called stuck to unstoppable,
to go from stuck to unstoppable, right? Unstoppable? I know I forget the name of mine. Yeah, it's all good.
It's all the same thing. Actually, I should change that.
Yeah, from stuck to unstuckable, yeah.
And really it is. It's strategies to take strategic action just to stop sabotaging yourself. And that is on your website, right? It's on my website, or it's on the link that I gave you, and right, which
I'll put on this in the show notes. Get it right in. Sure. Perfect. Thank you so much. Well, Beverly reminds us that it's never too late to rewrite the script, and that the relationships we cultivate, especially the one with ourselves, are key to any transformation, whether you're approaching a new chapter or supporting someone who is Beverly work is a powerful testament to what's possible
when strategy meets purpose. So to learn more. Do visit her website, reinvent impossible.com, or tune into her podcast, aging with purpose and passion, you'll see her curiosity there as she asks interesting questions of her guests. And remember, so thanks for joining us first of all, and remember in business and in life, relationships rule and stay it's important to stay connected and be remembered. I.