Last week I taught you the key difference between stress and anxiety and my top seven tips for effectively dealing with stress . You learned that while stress and anxiety are linked, they’re actually two different states of being, and what you do to alleviate stress can actually make you more anxious! This week, we’re focusing on my top tips to effectively tackle anxiety, so stay tuned to learn everything you need to know to reduce your anxiety and start living a more peaceful, joyful life. ____...
Feb 14, 2023•49 min•Season 5Ep. 227
While stress and anxiety are linked, they’re actually two different states of being. And what you do to alleviate stress can actually make you more anxious! So you’ve got to know what tools to use when! I’ve got so many great strategies and tools that I’ve created this two-part series. Today, I’ll teach you the key difference between stress and anxiety and then outline my top seven tips for effectively dealing with stress. Next week, we’ll focus on anxiety as I outline my top tips. Since one of ...
Feb 07, 2023•39 min•Season 5Ep. 226
Whether you call it technoference, phubbing, or just plain annoying, dealing with technology in our relationships can be challenging. From over 50 years of research, we know that the quality of our social connections is the number one predictor of our happiness. We also know from the research that email, social media, online gaming, and texting are poor substitutes for those crucial in-person interactions that help us feel secure and happy. Since smartphones, social media, and other technology a...
Jan 31, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Season 5Ep. 225
When they say that everything changes after you have kids, they’re right, but it doesn’t have to mean that things have to get worse! Your relationship after children is different, and there are some things to do and think to not only safeguard your relationship, but to even make it better! Today is a master class in rebuilding intimacy with your partner after having kids. I’ve got tons of valuable information and amazing tips, so stay tuned! ____________________________ Full blog and show notes:...
Jan 24, 2023•1 hr 32 min•Season 5Ep. 224
Whether it’s a coworker, friend, parent, or partner, dealing with people who are aggressive or confrontational is exhausting. They try to bulldoze, argue or dominate, which leaves you feeling inadequate, frustrated, upset, or resentful. But all that’s going to change after today! Stay tuned to better understand why people are aggressive and confrontational and my three-step process for handling these situations with more ease and peace. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-ha...
Jan 17, 2023•47 min•Season 5Ep. 223
So many of my clients come to therapy looking for some type of closure. From breakups to being fired to getting over childhood trauma, it’s a common human condition to look for endings or bad events to be explained and wrapped up so you can move on. But can you ever do that, and if you could, would it actually help in the way you’re hoping? Today I’m teaching you what closure really is, the three reasons why what you’re doing hasn’t worked, and my three-step process for finding closure for real....
Jan 10, 2023•1 hr 1 min•Season 5Ep. 222
Do you know someone who always seems to be picking a fight for no apparent reason? Are they just argumentative, or is there something deeper going on? Today I’m teaching you the five reasons people pick fights and the three things you can do to make the craziness stop. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-five-reasons-people-pick-fights-and-three-things-to-do-about-it ____________________________ Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you ...
Jan 03, 2023•43 min•Season 5Ep. 221
You’ve always got two choices to make in your relationship: evolve and grow or repeat and stay stuck in old patterns. Don’t wait until after the holidays, the first of next month, or the first of next year to set goals. If your relationship doesn’t feel the way you want, there’s no better time to set and achieve new relationship goals, than right now. Today we’re going deep on the five goals every couple should set in their relationship. One day or day one. You decide. Full blog and show notes: ...
Dec 13, 2022•55 min•Season 5Ep. 220
They love you one minute and hate you the next. They seem to cause trouble in all their relationships. They’ll go from sweet and loving to furious and lashing out. Yup. That’s life when a loved one has borderline personality disorder or BPD. Today I’m going to explain what BPD is exactly and the top ways you can help others and yourself. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-cope-when-a-loved-one-has-borderline-personality-disorder For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube ...
Dec 06, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 219
Do you know someone who has zero self-awareness? Do they seem to never understand your feelings? Do they have a hard time controlling or naming their own emotions? Or does any of this apply to you? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you’ve likely got someone in your life with low emotional intelligence (and they’re driving you crazy)! Or you, yourself, are struggling with the fallout from not having higher emotional intelligence and your relationships are feeling it. Today you’ll l...
Nov 29, 2022•48 min•Season 5Ep. 218
The research shows that just by changing your posture and how you breathe you can positively impact issues such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, chronic pain, and insomnia! Today I’m interviewing world-renowned expert, researcher, and author Dr. Erik Peper to explain just how this works and, as always, bringing you practical tools to make the changes you want in your life. Full show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-changing-your-breathing-and-posture-can-change-your-life Grab a copy of Dr. Peper’...
Nov 22, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Season 5Ep. 217
The marriage of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck has given broken hearts the world over hope that maybe, this time, it could work out with their ex. But despite their seeming success (it’s still early days after all), is it a good idea for you to get back together with your ex? Today you’ll learn my three rules for deciding if it’s a good idea to get back together with your ex and I’ve got an amazing free journaling tool to help you make a healthy decision. Full blog and show notes: https://abbyme...
Nov 15, 2022•31 min•Season 5Ep. 216
There’s nothing like getting together with your parents and siblings over the holidays… and then realizing you're plotting their murders halfway through dinner. Being with family members, especially around the holidays, can be tough for a lot of reasons, but the main reason you’re unhappy has to do with your expectations. Today I’m teaching you the three big problems with your expectations and the one tool you can use to create connection and joy this holiday season. Full blog and show notes: ht...
Nov 08, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 215
It’s hard to watch someone you care about struggling with mental health issues. You know that if they’d go to therapy, their life would be so much better, but they just won’t listen, or you’re afraid to even approach them because they’re so prickly and defensive about their issues. Between the research and my years of experience having these difficult conversations, I’ve identified an effective three-step process that helps others become motivated to go to therapy and take the actions needed to ...
Oct 31, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 214
While there are some who say their work lives have become much easier since the pandemic, the vast majority of people I speak to say they’re feeling overburdened and burned out at work, which ends up negatively impacting their lives at home. As with everything (according to me), the answer is to set healthy boundaries and stick to them. Today, I’m talking about why you’re burned out and my top 5 tips to stop it. ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ how-...
Oct 24, 2022•53 min•Season 5Ep. 213
Do you put other people’s needs ahead of your own? Do you feel guilty when you say “no”? Are you not saying what you really need and feel because you don’t want to upset someone else? Do you often feel resentful, frustrated, unappreciated, or emotionally drained in your relationships? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, today’s show is for you. Today you’ll learn the difference between people pleasing and just being nice or supportive, why you people please, and my top tips to stop ...
Oct 17, 2022•45 min•Season 5Ep. 212
Even if you use all the great tools I’ve taught you in the last 200 episodes during an argument, you might still have trouble reconnecting after an argument. When our feelings have been hurt, it can be hard to come back to feeling “normal” with this person again. Our rational minds tell us that it’s time to reconnect, but we just can’t seem to find the motivation or tools to make it happen. Today I’m sharing the one thing you need to do to reconnect, and my best tools to make that happen! Full b...
Oct 10, 2022•36 min•Season 5Ep. 211
You’ve had the argument, and the dust has settled but no one’s feeling better (at least not you) because you never actually came to any agreement about what you were fighting about! You want to find a way to finish this conversation without it turning into a fight again, but how? In today’s episode, you’ll learn my easy four-step process to resolving that argument once and for all. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-resolve-an-argument-that-didnt-get-resolved-the-first-time...
Oct 03, 2022•43 min•Season 5Ep. 210
With a career spanning over 35 years in multiple countries and having worked in every environment you can imagine, I’ve learned a lot about what it means to be in healthy relationships. Today I’m sharing the top five things I see over and over in successful, happy relationships. And this doesn’t just apply to your romantic relationships! These five signs apply to work relationships, friendships, and other family members too. Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-5-signs-of-health...
Sep 26, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 5Ep. 209
Do you have a hard time managing your emotions when life gets stressful? Have you tried tips and tools before, but can’t find anything that works consistently for you? That’s likely because you were given the wrong types of strategies for your particular stress style. Today, I’m breaking down the two main ways our brains respond to stress and my top tips for how to manage your emotions for each of those ways. If you’re ready to get in charge of your feelings, today is for you! Full blog and show...
Sep 19, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 208
Last week I taught you how your attachment style affects your personal relationships. Today, we’re applying all those same principles to show how your attachment style affects your work life. After all, your work environment is all about relationships too! Today you’ll learn not only the things you need to watch out for given your particular style, but also the strengths you bring (yes, we’ve all got them) and my top tips for managing your particular attachment style at work so you can be happie...
Sep 12, 2022•58 min•Season 5Ep. 207
The research has consistently shown that how you attached to your parents or caregivers as a child affects how you connect in your current adult relationships. Your attachment style affects everything from what romantic partners (and friends) you choose, what issues you’ll repeatedly face in your relationships, and even how your relationships will end. Today you’ll learn to identify your attachment style so you can begin to understand why you do what you do in your various relationships, why you...
Sep 05, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 5Ep. 206
This is one of those times when my education in both counseling and organizational psychology, as well as my many years of experience with clients who were working together, all dovetails perfectly. If you want to have a successful business with your partner while also having an awesome personal relationship, today's episode is for you. ______ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/my-top-5-rules-for-couples-who-work-together Grab my FREE Guide to Effective Communication in Every Rela...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 5Ep. 205
I get asked two questions a lot: First, how do you get so much done every day? And second, how do you seem so happy all the time? The answer to both questions is the same: I owe it all to my morning routine. Today I’m going to take you through my easy to adopt, five-step morning routine which will only take you 15 minutes but offer you huge results! Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/abbys-step-by-step-guide-to-starting-your-day-right Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://ab...
Aug 22, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 204
I get asked two questions a lot: First, how do you get so much done every day? And second, how do you seem so happy all the time? The answer to both questions is the same: I owe it all to my morning routine. Today I’m going to take you through my easy to adopt, five-step morning routine which will only take you 15 minutes but offer you huge results! Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/abbys-step-by-step-guide-to-starting-your-day-right Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://ab...
Aug 22, 2022•54 min•Season 5Ep. 204
The latest research suggests that taking the time to experience awe, whether that’s rocking out to a great song, hiking to a beautiful view or having a great belly laugh with your toddler, can help you improve your relationships, decrease your stress and negative thinking, and make you calmer and happier. Today I’m going to teach you what awe really is and my top quick and easy ways to experience awe on the daily. ____ Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-awe-will-help-you-have-a...
Aug 15, 2022•47 min•Season 5Ep. 203
I always say that wherever you end your current relationship is where you’ll begin the next one. So if it’s time to end your relationship, you want to do it the healthiest way possible. Today I’m sharing my seven tips for ending a relationship the right way so you can walk away better, not bitter. ____ Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/7-tips-for-ending-a-relationship-the-healthiest-way-possible Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-star...
Aug 08, 2022•56 min•Season 5Ep. 202
We hear a lot about honesty in relationships but what does that really mean? Do you have to share everything? And how do you share your truth so the other person listens and doesn’t become defensive? Today I’m teaching you my top three tips for being honest so you can build trust in all your relationships. Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-be-honest-and-build-trust-in-a-relationship-2/ Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter...
Aug 01, 2022•58 min•Season 5Ep. 201
In the last three decades I’ve learned a lot about what works and what doesn’t when it comes to happy, connected relationships and effective communication. Since this is the 200th episode of the podcast, I thought it would be the perfect time to recap my top 10 tools for effective communication in every relationship. Full blog and shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/my-top-10-tools-for-effective-communication-in-every-relationship/ Grab my FREE Meditation Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/prod...
Jul 11, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 200
Whether you’re thinking of moving in or tying the knot, there are some things you’ve got to get clear before that big day if you want a long, successful relationship. In my almost 4 decades of working with couples, I’m amazed at how many questions aren’t asked or worked out before they move in together or get married. If you don’t deal with your problems before you make that next step, you’re going to be dealing with it later. You’ve got to get clear on your expectations first before marriage or...
Jul 04, 2022•45 min•Season 4Ep. 199
