Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about bonding through trauma and another aspect of which is called “trauma bonding”. A trauma bond is an attachment formed between two people who unconsciously bond through an experience or experiences of shared trauma. We also hear of trauma bon...
Feb 28, 2023•49 min
In this episode I have a conversation with Laura Callahan, BA., CHt. Laura is a clinical hypnotherapist specializing in assisting clients with sexual dysfunction, trauma resolution, anxiety and fertility issues. She is also a Certified HypnoBirthing® Educator. She works with clients via Zoom throughout the US, Canada and elsewhere around the world! We have a conversation about Sexual Freedom through Hypnosis. Sex and intimacy can be a major source of anxiety in people’s lives. More than 40% of p...
Feb 14, 2023•55 min
In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice empowering workshops and helps couples through workshops and retr...
Jan 31, 2023•53 min
In this solocast I talk about the importance of knowing that balancing important parts of our life (work, relationship and self) is not about equality. Your work-life balance will vary over time. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives. Balance also requires that we honor our energy. It is important to identify habits, activities, and people that drain our energy. We need to check in with ourselves regularly to make sure...
Jan 17, 2023•41 min
Marriage is usually the union of two people in love, and it is a legal commitment that has familial, social, and economic implications. People marry for so many reasons. Some marry to raise a family together, to commit to their relationship on a deeper level, cultural or religious reasons or the desire to experience varies legal advantages. People also marry for unhealthy reasons like to escape a dysfunctional home, because your friends are getting married, because a baby is on the way, or your ...
Jan 03, 2023•1 hr 2 min
In this solocast I talk about the importance how to recognize negativity, especially negative sentiment override in your relationships. Especially when you are anticipating negativity from your partner and there is a cloud of that negative bias also then towards them. We therefore distort our view of our partners as well as the situation at times. I also talk about turning that negativity around with positive sentiment override, where you are giving your partner the benefit of the doubt more and...
Dec 20, 2022•36 min•Ep. 175
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about perfectionism and how those traits and tendencies affects relationships. Perfectionism can show up as being controlling, overanalyzing things even the small stuff, setting unrealistic standards of ourselves and others, and being over critic...
Dec 06, 2022•47 min•Ep. 174
Polyamory specifically refers to people who have multiple romantic relationships at the same time. It does not mean any type of open relationship that may include more casual sexual partners. In many polyamorous relationships, each partner is aware of the other ones and transparency and honest communication is a vital part of healthy polyamorous relationships. In this podcast we discuss how polyamory works in relationships and discuss such questions as... What are the benefits and struggles of p...
Nov 15, 2022•56 min•Ep. 173
Anyone can be affected by depression. It can impact every aspect of one’s life including our relationships. Those living with depression or anxiety often experience feelings of loneliness, even when they have a supporting and loving spouse. When depressed, one’s interpretation of things tends to be harsher than reality. There are ways to help ease these episodes and times of struggle for one’s self and the relationship. In this episode I have a conversation with Dr. Juan Santos. Dr. Santos speci...
Nov 01, 2022•46 min•Ep. 172
The idea of “repair attempts” in a conflict has been especially important in understanding what matters about the way that couples manage conflict. John Gottman, (relationship expert and researcher) describes repair attempts as “any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control.” An argument can be avoided and hurt feelings diffused by using repair attempts. If done successfully, they can help de-escalate conflict and keep things from getting ...
Oct 18, 2022•47 min•Ep. 171
It’s natural to get defensive when you feel threatened, or criticized...but your defensiveness may not serve you, your partner, or your relationship. The sad thing is many of us react defensively without even thinking about it. It creates an atmosphere of contention, tension and most of the time blame that eventually leads to a loss of trust, alienation, and separation. Owning our defensiveness is the first step to changing that automatic reaction. In this episode, I have a conversation with my ...
Oct 04, 2022•59 min•Ep. 170
Most couples struggle at times of how to build and feed the “US” or “WE” in their relationship vs. their individual needs and desires. Thinking of your partnership as a team shifts your focus. Suddenly it’s not “me versus you”, it’s “us”. The next step however, is shifting the thinking of this focus and putting it into action. In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both couples and individuals who are striving to f...
Sep 20, 2022•54 min•Ep. 169
Trust goes hand in hand with essential components of a relationship, such as honesty, open communication, vulnerability, and respect, making it of utmost importance. Science proves that trust in a relationship is more essential than love. Building trust in relationships takes time, but being vulnerable with your partner will help the walls come down little by little. In this solocast, I talk about the different ways trust is fed as well as taken away in relationships. “ Relationships dies in lie...
Sep 06, 2022•35 min•Ep. 168
Benjamin Haynes is a wonderful example of today’s young generation. He is a meditator, yogi, and evangelizer of “authentic relating.” I was impressed by his presence, groundedness, and the intentional manner in which he spoke when we met about 3 years ago. After graduating from UNC-Chapel Hill and teaching in Malaysia under a Fulbright grant, Benjamin recently joined Authentic Relating Training, an organization dedicated to the practice and production of authentic relating programs. In today’s e...
Aug 23, 2022•49 min•Ep. 167
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Shame. Shame involves an internalized feeling of being exposed and humiliated. Shame is different from guilt. Shame is a feeling of badness about the self. Hidden shame often drives self-destructive behaviors and other psychological symptoms such as rage, avoidance, o...
Aug 09, 2022•55 min•Ep. 166
Shaun Rawls - is highly sought-after keynote speaker and author of “F”-IT-LESS - Rawls spent 25 years working in real estate, ultimately building Atlanta’s #1 residential real estate firm, The Rawls Group of Keller Williams. Having met many of his professional goals, Rawls made a deliberate choice to shift his attention out of the daily operations of his firm and into new ways he could add even more value to others. Through his work and book, Shaun helps other people evaluate and define what’s i...
Jul 26, 2022•58 min•Ep. 165
It can be difficult to be in a relationship if you don’t have a great deal of self-love. Remember that self-love is important for enjoying a happy, healthy, and respectful relationship. When you are secure, confident, and feeling good about yourself you feed positive energy into the space between you. One's relationship with oneself is crucial to proper development. In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy is a relational coach and facilitator. She works with both coupl...
Jul 12, 2022•55 min•Ep. 164
Agreeing to disagreeing may be essential in our relationships. We also need to know to how to work effective compromises when we differ. Getting away from the negative mindset of “right” and “wrong” is essential. Disagreeing in fact is beneficial in healthy relationships if done correctly. Disagreeing can provide an opportunity to address issues, get insights and understandings and most of all can strengthen intimacy. In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. ...
Jun 28, 2022•51 min•Ep. 163
In this solocast I talk about some red flags to be aware of in your relationships. Not every red flag a sign that the relationship won’t work, but understanding your non-negotiable one will help you to understand whether to stick around or not. So it is important to understand the difference workable differences and non- negotiables. Recognizing our own relationship patterns is key. Do you find yourself repeating the same old patterns or attracting the same kinds of people? Does this person comm...
Jun 14, 2022•29 min•Ep. 162
Many people don’t realize but colors can have an effect on our moods, emotions and therefore on our relationships. Color is an immediate form of non-verbal communication. Color association is also dependent on people’s innate feelings and experiences, and can have subconscious effects on their decision making as well having influence on how people relate to one another. In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where...
May 31, 2022•51 min•Ep. 161
In this solocast I talk about the importance of your thoughts and how they create the reality of your relationships. The way we think about our relationship and our partner matters. When we start to have judgmental and critical thoughts of our partners we tend to “see” more of this behavior which solidify these beliefs. We need to look at our partners from a different “lens”, one of more positive and appreciative beliefs and thoughts. It is a choice and a habit. How we think about our relationsh...
May 17, 2022•28 min•Ep. 160
Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about Adult tantrums, especial mantrums (male tantrums). We have uncontrolled outburst and expressions of anger. Adult temper tantrums can be sometimes be used as a mechanism to manipulate others, cover up fear, shame or guilt with anger or get attention, as well divert att...
May 03, 2022•41 min•Ep. 159
Many people have never truly felt seen and heard before, which can be isolating and lonely. When you are deeply seen for who you are, the gift of feeling comfortable in your own skin can emerge. “Circling” is a communication technique and tool to help you learn how to get into another person’s world in a way for them to feel more deeply heard, seen and understood. In this episode, I have a conversation with my friend Gregg Levoy and we dive into this topic. Gregg is a frequent seminar leader who...
Apr 19, 2022•49 min•Ep. 158
Separation and Divorce can be an emotional difficult time. The emotions of sadness, anger, grief and fear are typically experienced. Most divorces are rife with conflict among separating and divorcing partners. It takes a tremendous toll not only on the people divorcing but also their children, family and friends. Is it possible to have a healthy divorce? One that honors not only each person but the union that was once filled with love and hope. Consciously Uncoupling is a mindful, respectful an...
Apr 05, 2022•53 min•Ep. 157
The public health crisis of addiction and overdoses continue to rise. Fentanyl poisoning now ranks No.1 on the biggest list of killers of 18-45 yr. olds in the United States, for the last three years by a wide margin. Destigmatizing mental illness and addiction is crucial to empower those suffering to reach out for help. Many people do not understand and also fail to educate themselves on the importance of mental health and due to stereotypes and misrepresentations, some people do not understand...
Mar 22, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 156
What does it mean to have your partner’s back? The feeling of emotional safety and the knowing that you can rely on your partner in many ways, especially at time of stress, overwhelm and crises is a cornerstone to this support and safety. Relieving each other’s “load” and lending support is a hallmark of healthy dependence. Emotional safety is also taken away and eroded when partners don’t have each other’s back. In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She i...
Mar 08, 2022•48 min•Ep. 155
We all have held on to conflicts, resentments, arguments, grudges, and anger. The decision of whether to bring up and try to resolve a conflict is a tricky one. When is the right time? How should you do it? What if your partner is not open to talk about it? Is it healthy to just let it go and move on? And if you decide to let go of a conflict, what do you do instead? In this episode I have a conversation with my wife, Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky. She is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where sh...
Feb 22, 2022•54 min•Ep. 154
Have you ever felt controlled in your relationship? Or have you been accused of being controlling? Do you think you know the best way to do to do things? At the root of most relationship control issues is fear: fear of rejection, fear of being wrong, fear of vulnerability, fear of abandonment, fear of things going wrong. Also, anxiety is widely considered to be the underlying common denominator of a strong need to exert control. In this episode, I have a conversation with Cathy Courtenay. Cathy ...
Feb 08, 2022•49 min•Ep. 153
Have you ever felt not heard or seen by your partner or others? Like the times you believe you are clearly communicating something but the other person does not acknowledge what you are saying, doesn’t understand you, or for that matter disregards you and your wants and needs. Or what about when you hold back your truth or something you need because you are concerned of hurting the other person. And, perhaps you’ve tried everything to not hurt them but to no avail. In this episode, I answer a fe...
Jan 25, 2022•30 min•Ep. 152
This world is desperately in need of healthy masculinity and all men owe it to themselves to do the work to bring that into fruition. One way is for men to be honest with themselves about their own feelings, needs and desires and to be able to communicate this in connecting and accountable ways. This is a daily practice, one that will lead to intentional self-growth and commitment to change and therefore a pathway to more enriching and healthier relationships. In this solocast, I talk about some...
Jan 11, 2022•35 min•Ep. 151
