Click here to download the FREE PDF from this week's episode! As we work on changing our codependent thoughts and behaviors, it can help to intentionally repeat healthier thoughts that support us in improving our self-esteem, taking better care of ourselves, and building relationships based on mutual trust and respect.
Codependents suffer from guilt because they have unrealistically high expectations for themselves, are people-pleasers and worry about what others think of them, are sensitive to criticism, and are afraid of conflict and rejection. Click here to download your free Conquering Codependency PDF. Learn more about codependency and 3 tools to help you begin to change your interactions in relationships.
Codependency at its core is the disconnection from self. We don’t understand where we end and another person begins. Click here to download the Codependent Bible and learn which patterns and characteristics you identify with the most. Awareness is the first step to healing, codependency.
Affirmations helped change my life. There are two secrets you must know so they work for you, not against you.
Respect me, my time, my flaws, my family, & I will be the most loyal, loving, & giving person with every ounce of my being.
A healthy and loving relationship is mutually supportive and fosters the greatest amount of psychological and spiritual growth for both individuals.
The presence of fear says you are relying on your faith and when you surrender your fear to the inner guidance system & a higher power is when you will be guided.
When my clients come to me they have doubt and trust, love and hate; the bring me all their duality, and my job is to teach them how to be non-dual.
What Are Boundaries? Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others.
Anxiety causes massive discord in relationships. There are 3 types of anxiety that effect a relationship. We are going to go through all three on this podcast!
Every time we do something that goes against the beliefs we were taught we feel guilty, we punish ourselves by feeling shameful. The victim carries the guilt, the shame, and the blame in a backpack. That victim reaches into their backpack and smears the crap they have been carrying for a lifetime all over themselves every time they feel they did something wrong, or wasn't good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or worthy enough.
The more you know about your partner's emotional history, the less likely you are to see your partner as your adversary.
When people describe their idyllic first weeks, they describe a perfect world. They felt better about themselves. They had more energy and more positive outlooks on life. They felt wittier, more playful, more optimistic. In the beginning, each partner's goal is to appear less needy and more giving than they really are. If they don’t seem to have many needs of their own, their partners are free to assume that their goal in life is to take care of their needs, and this makes them very desirable, i...
Stop trying to control what is not your business to control, someone else, and fix what is not in your power to fix. What you're trying to control is much better off without your "help." What you're trying to fix in a partner can't be fixed by you anyway. The only that will happen is your relationship will get worse and worse. We cannot be our fearful patterns, our dysfunctional habits, our mind viruses, and expect to be in a loving and healthy relationship. It will not work. The price you pay f...
Conflict can bring you closer if you choose to approach it as a way to know your partner more, you can bring deeper intimacy and a stronger relationship through any disagreement.
Sex, how often do couples have it? Who initiates sex? What about rejection? What's the difference between intimacy and sex? Sex and kids? Oh boy! I teach my clients how to be a perceptive partner. This is the beginning of bringing intimacy and sex back into your relationship. Men have sex to get emotionally closer. Women need to feel emotionally close to have sex. This is a challenge. If you are disconnected the man wants sex so he can feel emotionally close to his partner again, but a woman sim...
What is emotional mastery? What are the 3 decisions that control your life? Why do we settle? Change happens when staying the same is harder than change itself! https://heather-carteroys.mykajabi.com/highestpotential
You must release your past, and live in the present, so you can create an amazing future.
What is your threshold for pain? How long are you willing to be disrespected in your relationship before you say, "enough." I find that many of my clients are denying what is right in front of them. We do this for many reasons. I discuss all of them on this episode!
I wrote these 12 Commandments YEARS ago. This is how I live. These are the rules I live by. In this episode I am going to deep dive how to use my commandments to create a healthy, loving, peaceful, and joyful relationship. These commandments will also greatly help you be in charge of your life, your mind and reduce your fear, worry, and stress! I created The 12 Commandments of Being An Empowered Person: Define Clearly What You Want To Give To The World. You need to align yourself with profession...
If you're a terrible problem solver, most likely your relationship is suffering. I realized years ago; I was a bad problem solver. One of the first shifts I did was I started to seek solutions instead of focusing on the issue. Once I started doing that, I realized that there infinite possibilities open to me. I began to see choices. I realized I wasn't stuck. I suffered from years of abuse and trauma; my nervous system was a wreck. I was always in flight or fight mode. I was trying to run from t...
So whether or not you stay in the marriage/relationship you need to learn how to communicate with your next partner. Yes, there will be a next partner and you cannot keep making the same mistakes. Do not waste time dating until you have learned how to become a conscious partner. Being a conscious partner is vital to your reconciliation, too! A conscious partnership is a relationship that is mutually supportive and fosters the psychological and spiritual growth of both individuals; it's when both...
My client Jason went from despair to clarity and lack of self-confidence, fear, and anxiety to empowerment quickly. In this episode, I interview Jason, and you will learn we got him to a place of thriving and empowerment. Jason will share the signs that he saw that his ex-wife was having an emotional affair. We will go through how staying disconnected in your marriage is the pitfall. If reconnection does not happen, that marriage cannot be saved. We dive deep into how trust is essential in the m...
The top 3 things couples fight about: Sex, money, & kids. If your marriage changed when the kids came, you're not alone. Let's face it, a big reason you're not having sex anymore is because of the kids. There is no quality time, romance is gone, you're fighting over the chores, because you're sick of no sex, romance, and quality time. Then the blame game starts and everything you used to ignore before the kids becomes a pet peeve. No one can let anything go, your arguments are on repeat, and...
How does the saying, "If you love something set it free, if it's meant for you, it will come back to you, if not, it was never meant to be" related to marriage and relationships-whether you have been together two years or 20 years? Partners are meant to evolve and access the highest parts within themselves. You cannot do that if you are in an unhealthy relationship, or are unhealthy yourself and unwilling to seek help. Healing occurs in the present. Our pain is not coming from the love we didn't...
