Divorce is at the end , not necessarily . We have witnessed many marriages that , after divorce , were able to put things back together and actually make a good marriage and be married for many , many happy years after the divorce actually was final .
You're watching this because of the fact that either you're in the middle of a divorce or maybe already the divorce is over and you're thinking well , I still love him or I still love her . What can I do ? Is there some magic out there ? And the answer is no . There's no magic . I see it every time on the internet , all over the place .
Pay me this much money and I'll give you the magic word , the magic phrase , the magic action , and they'll come running back to you . That's not the way it works . People cannot be manipulated that easily . And if you were to manipulate somebody to come back , then you'd have to manipulate them to stay back . But is it possible to bring them back Absolutely ?
But not by trying to focus on how to change that situation or even change your spouse , because the only person you can change is . You Heard a story from a couple just not long ago . They were in one of our in-person workshops .
He had earlier come through one of our solo workshops and had learned a great deal about what he needed to do to become the person he needed to be . And he was kind of worried about the fact that I learned this too late .
I mean , I don't have a shot at showing my wife or my ex-wife at that point any more of these things because she has no contact with me . We have no children , no business together . It's all over . But I'm going to go ahead and do everything I can to make me be the best person I can be .
He's telling this story in a workshop where his wife ex-wife actually is sitting next to him and he's talking about why they're at the workshop . He said I wound up teaching a class in another county . No way anybody there would have known my wife my ex-wife , I guess I should be accurate to say and there was a guy there .
And at the end of that thing he said you know , I kind of briefly knew earlier and you have become a much better person than you were . You're pretty awesome and went back and told the guy's ex-wife that he's changed dramatically .
She got interested and made contact with him and now they were in one of our couples workshops to work things out and put it back together . In other words , there appeared to be no hope . She's divorced me , she doesn't want to be around me . She actually is in love with somebody else and there's no contact between the two of us .
There's no way this marriage could ever be put back together , but it was Now . We hear those kinds of stories all the time . Why ? Because the person becomes the best person he or she can be . You see , you'll get through this , no matter what happens . You'll get through this .
But we'd love to help you know how to get through this Because of the fact that if you can , even while dealing with your emotions of feeling rejected , feeling hurt , feeling this deep pain within you , if you can learn , first of all , what went wrong and to what degree , if any , you played in , what went wrong and how you should do relationships so that they
can become strong and healthy and happy , and all those kinds of things , then you never can tell what's going to happen next . Now I can't guarantee you that means your spouse is going to hear about it and contact you and we'll get you through a workshop and help you put your marriage back together .
I can't guarantee that because I don't lie , but I'm telling you we've watched it happen again and again and again Because of the fact that opportunity comes to those people who are prepared for it . Now , things went wrong . That's why your marriage ended .
Maybe it was something that you did , maybe you had the affair , or maybe it was something that your spouse did , maybe he or she fell in love with someone else or decided that you were too controlling and dominating , or some other thing .
It really doesn't make any difference what the problem was , because the solution is to understand the relationship principles of how did that happen ? How could it be fixed ? How do I need to change myself to become the best I can be and then look for the opportunity that , if it does open the door , we can put this marriage back together .
We can show you how to do that Now . Again , I'm not guaranteeing it , we don't lie . But if you want to know how to do that , we have what we call our solo spouse workshop . You say what's that ? It's really the same workshop we do for couples , but we do it for individual spouses .
So they might be 20 or 30 , sometimes even 40 different individual spouses in it . In other words , it's not husband and wife , it's a husband and there's another husband and there's somebody else's wife and it's not the couple or their individuals . And they ask a lot of questions . We answer as thoroughly as we possibly can .
We teach the information and we got the lights go off in people's minds like , oh , I see that , I'd see what I did wrong there . Oh , that makes sense . I can change that .
And even if it did not lead to putting the marriage back together , they become so much better people and if they choose to have another relationship down the line , they now know how to do it and do it right . But I'm not trying to marry off to somebody else . What I'm trying to say is you don't have to give up , acknowledge your pain .
Your pain's real and you need to allow some time to pass here because of the fact that if you rush things , almost always that winds up making some kind of a mess . But in that solo spouse workshop we can help you figure out what happened .
We can help you understand how to be the best person you can be and that if you get a chance to renew the relationship with your spouse or if somewhere down the line you want a relationship with somebody else , the right way to do it , to build it the way where it will have great foundation and can last a lifetime .
Now , if you'd like to ask about it or find out more about our solo spouse workshop , go to marriagehelpercom slash book now and you'll talk to one of our intake specialists . They're not counselors , they're not therapists . They are there to listen to your story and to help you know if there's anything we have that can be of value and assistance to you .
But be sure to tell them I'm divorced . I'm looking to begin with at the solo spouse workshop . They can help you sign up for that and because of the fact that I lead most not all , but most of the solo spouse workshops , maybe y'all got a chance to meet you there . I've been remarried for 37 years at this taping 37 .
We were divorced for three and my wife were the only two . It would be an anomaly . I'm telling you it happens again and again and again . We'd love to help you find how to make it happen for you . Please contact us . Don't give up hope . Contact us now .