SC 95 - The Problem With Never Fighting In Your Relationship

If you are not fighting after 4 years of being together you're asleep. Why? I'll explain in this episode. I used to be proud of the fact that I never fought in my relationships. But man, was I missing the boat...

SHOWNOTES

Question: “You talk about working together and communication. But is there such a thing as working TOO well together, never fighting or getting into an argument? Sometimes I would like to have some type of disagreement or argument. We’ve been together almost 4 years and we’ve not had one disagreement or argument.  He just kinda always gives me what I want. Please help. “

• Why conflict is important - and the dangers of chronic conflict-avoidance [1:00]
• Why the older generations often ‘suck up’ their conflict, and why the mainstream is wrong about conflict [4:00]
• What to do if your partner is a ‘conflict avoider’ [6:00]
• How to use fighting as a doorway to greater understanding and connection in your relationship [7:00]
• What American Beauty can teach us about how not to handle conflict and tension [8:00]
• How to approach your partner if they’re conflict-avoidant (and how to say it well)[12:00]