Are you stuck in victimhood? Jayson breaks down how to invert the victim triangle and make the shift from victim to author. What’s the difference between blame and responsibility? Is being in the victim seat always a bad thing? Stay tuned until the end when Jayson shares one important question you should always ask your clients - and yourself. Timestamps: 0:55 - The victim/drama triangle 5:08 - The difference between blame and responsibility 6:58 - Getting out of the victim seat 8:31 - Inverting...
Jul 01, 2025•21 min•Ep. 533
What if today were your last day on Earth? Jayson is joined by author and retired Navy SEAL Commander Mark Divine for his 3rd time on the show to discuss finding your purpose on this planet, meditation vs. psychedelics, developing mental and physical toughness, and much more. Don’t miss Mark’s exhortation for coaches at the end. Mark Divine is a retired Navy SEAL, bestselling author, and transformative thought leader, inspiring compassion, resilience, and fortitude. His distinguished military ca...
Jun 24, 2025•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 532
Is it time to fire your coach or therapist? Jayson breaks it down. Do the sessions you attend feel more like coffee dates? Is your trauma going unaddressed? Have you been seeing a practitioner for years without making real progress? If you're struggling to see results, you won’t want to miss this episode. Timestamps: 5:26 - Your story isn’t being challenged 6:35 - Sessions feel like a coffee date 7:36 - Therapy feels like a friendship 8:56 - Trauma isn’t being addressed 11:31 - No change is happ...
Jun 17, 2025•29 min•Ep. 531
What does it mean to follow your deepest calling? How do you get clear on what actually matters and act on it today? Jayson sits down with executive coach John O’Connor to explore what it takes to create real transformation. They get into symbolic sovereignty, creating a clear vision, and how deep callings can emerge from deep traumas. Jayson shares what it means to earn your black belt in relationships, they discuss why music is a powerful metaphor for life, and the one skill every facilitator ...
Jun 10, 2025•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 530
Jayson breaks down the problems with one common strategy—people-pleasing and how it relates to the core inner conflict. What are the childhood roots of people-pleasing? Why do people-pleasers become resentful? Why do integrated individuals make better coaches and therapists? Tune in to this insightful episode to learn how to stop betraying yourself in the context of your relationship. Timestamps: 1:37 - Client example 5:43 - The childhood roots of people-pleasing 12:04 - Betraying yourself to fi...
Jun 03, 2025•24 min•Ep. 529
Jayson sits down with Duane Mullner to talk about the role of the therapist or coach. Why is the here and now so important? Can clients help their coaches and therapists? How should you prepare for a session? What should you do with a client who isn’t making progress? How can you help clients who are stuck in victimhood? Don’t miss this chance to hear Duane Mullner share the wisdom he has accumulated over his long career. Timestamps: 6:44 - What is the role of the therapist/coach 15:30 - What’s ...
May 27, 2025•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 528
Jayson breaks down how to coach yourself using AI and shares a variety of example prompts. Can AI offer constructive criticism? What can it do with astrology and Gene Keys? Can it give you a tough-love wake-up call? Stick around until the end to learn how you can use AI to get the most out of your therapy sessions! Timestamps: 2:40 - Ways to use AI as a client 4:52 - Using AI for constructive criticism 7:50 - Astrology 10:27 - Tough love 13:36 - Getting the most out of therapy Links: Follow Jays...
May 20, 2025•19 min•Ep. 527
Jayson discusses the role of AI in the therapy and coaching space. Will AI replace therapists and coaches? Can it ever be better than a real coach or therapist? What are the downsides of using AI to coach yourself? Stay tuned until the end of the episode to find out how you can thrive—rather than just survive—as a coach or therapist in the age of AI. Timestamps: 5:42 - Price point 9:10 - Who will lose their jobs? 12:53 - What AI can't replace 19:24 - AI and intuition 23:47 - How should coaches a...
May 13, 2025•34 min•Ep. 526
If you want to get the most out of therapy or coaching, it’s important to know how to be a great client. In this episode, Jayson shares his experience of being a client and breaks down how you can make sure you’re getting the results you want. Is it ever okay not to make progress? Learn how to advocate for yourself, prepare for your sessions, stay accountable to friends and family, and much more in this episode! Timestamps: 1:40 - Is it okay not to make progress? 4:01 - Jayson's story 8:51 - How...
May 06, 2025•18 min•Ep. 525
Clinical psychologist Alexandra Solomon joins Jayson to offer valuable advice for therapists and coaches. What are the unique challenges of working with men in couples work? How should therapists and coaches manage countertransference? What common issues are individuals bringing to therapy these days? And how can therapists help people most effectively? Find the answers to these questions—and more—in this insightful episode! Timestamps: 10:11 - Gendered issues in therapy 19:45 - Individuals vs c...
Apr 29, 2025•45 min•Ep. 524
Jayson and Ellen have started a new podcast! Integrated is for entrepreneurial couples who want both a high-impact career and an exceptional partnership. Jayson and Ellen blend cutting-edge relationship science with decades of coaching experience to help you balance leadership at home and in business, fostering deeper connection and lasting success. Subscribe to Integrated here: Spotify Apple Podcasts In this episode Jayson and Ellen talk about five reasons why being a team is so hard. How do cu...
Apr 25, 2025•28 min
What’s wrong with going into fix-it mode when someone shares their problems? Jayson explains why it’s better to offer understanding rather than jumping in with solutions—and how people are more likely to come up with their own answers when they feel truly heard. Timestamps: 0:03 - What's wrong with "fix-it" mode? 3:49 - Reflecting instead of fixing 7:08 - Giving people space to come up with their own solutions 8:30 - Understanding first, then solutions Links: Follow Jayson on social media: ...
Apr 22, 2025•12 min•Ep. 523
How should you coach someone who wants to be in a successful relationship? Jayson breaks it down. Do you need to have successful relationships yourself to coach effectively? How can you teach your clients the skills they need to develop, and what does that process look like? Don’t miss this insightful episode. Timestamps: 0:36 - You have to have successful relationships 7:05 - Skill acquisition 13:27 - Don't be uncomfortable with intimacy Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouT...
Apr 15, 2025•16 min•Ep. 522
Jayson breaks down motivational interviewing. What is it? Can you force your clients to change? What should you do if a client is ambivalent about change? Is your client placing value on the right things? Whether you're a coach or a client, you won’t want to miss this insightful episode. Timestamps: 1:50 - Placing value on the right things 3:34 - Motivational interviewing 5:57 - Ambivalence about change 11:37 - You can't force people to change Links: Become A Certified Relationship Coach (RCT) F...
Apr 08, 2025•22 min•Ep. 521
Jayson explores the pros and cons of coaching. Is coaching more effective than therapy? He discusses the lack of standards in coaching, the absence of trauma training, and the potential shallowness of the approach. Jayson also examines why prioritizing results over feelings can be problematic. However, he also highlights why coaching can sometimes be a better option than therapy. Why choose coaching? Tune in to find out. Timestamps: 0:57 - A lack of standards 4:26 - Results over feelings 7:47 - ...
Apr 02, 2025•18 min
Jayson breaks down the pros and cons of talk therapy. Where does talk therapy come up short? What are its strengths? What kind of therapy should you progress to after talk therapy? Why are relationships better than talk therapy? Whether you’re a client, coach, or therapist, you won’t want to miss this insightful episode. Timestamps: 3:13 - Where talk therapy comes up short 5:55 - Positive outcomes of talk therapy 8:33 - Moving on after talk therapy 10:28 - Relationships are better than talk ther...
Mar 26, 2025•16 min
What is your main job as a coach? Jayson discusses the importance of giving your clients permission to be messy, finding key relationships where they can be authentic, and providing them with a sense of certainty. He also explains why your ultimate goal as a coach should be to work yourself out of a job. Tune in to discover how to help people authentically be themselves while achieving what they want in life. Timestamps: 4:52 Giving your clients permission to be messy 8:45 Finding key relationsh...
Mar 19, 2025•16 min
Jayson talks about what it means to truly love a client. What is the real definition of love? Why is being challenged so important? How do we “accept” ourselves and work on being better at the same time? How does accepting our limitations empower us? And why is it crucial not to expect relationships to be easy? Join Jayson as he explores the second principle of present-centered relationship coaching. Timestamps: 1:09 - What is love? 8:25 - Don't expect relationships to be easy 14:53 - Self-accep...
Mar 12, 2025•23 min
Jayson shares his #1 principle for coaches and therapists. Learn how to empower your clients instead of treating them as fragile. It’s time to stop missing the forest for the trees and take a broader view. Tune in to discover what powerful phrase he comes from in this episode. Timestamps: 1:10 - Taking a larger view 4:14 - The foundational principle 10:00 - Empower you clients Links: Follow Jayson on social media: Instagram YouTube LinkedIn TikTok Twitter Facebook...
Mar 05, 2025•17 min
What is the role of therapy and coaching? In this overview episode, Jayson explores how humans navigate relationships. Why do we betray ourselves in pursuit of belonging? How can coaches challenge clients who seek the path of least resistance? When we choose not to grow, we pass on trauma. Whether you're a coach or a client, you'll find valuable insights in this episode. Timestamps: 2:28 - What is the context of coaching and therapy? 10:13 - Seeking pleasure and avoiding pain 13:47 - Projecting ...
Feb 27, 2025•25 min
Big changes are happening at The Relationship School Podcast! In this special update, Jayson Gaddis shares the new direction of the show, now called The Relationship Coaching School Podcast, focusing on coaching, therapy, and transformation. Whether you're a coach, therapist, or an engaged client looking to maximize results, this new format will deepen your understanding of human relationships and personal growth. Plus, Jayson teases an exciting new podcast with his wife, Ellen, and announces up...
Feb 19, 2025•11 min
In this coaching session, Jayson works with Becca, a woman navigating a relationship with a partner who doesn’t acknowledge her feelings. How should you deal with a partner who isn’t open to seeking relationship help? What should you do if your partner struggles to handle your emotions? If you're in a relationship with someone who doesn’t recognize your feelings, you won’t want to miss this powerful session. Timestamps: 6:11 - When a partner isn't on board to get help 13:00 - When a partner won'...
Oct 01, 2024•25 min
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Sharon, a woman struggling with self-worth and feelings of not being enough. How can you stop repeating untrue stories to yourself and create new associations? What’s the best way to start focusing on the ways you are enough? What are you gaining by staying in negative patterns? If you’re struggling with self-worth or feeling like you’re not enough, you won’t want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 6:00 - Struggling with shame 10:00...
Sep 24, 2024•28 min
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Susan, a woman who has identified her spending patterns as problematic. How do you know when a behavior crosses over into an addiction? How does a lack of meaning contribute to addiction? What role can healthy relationships play in helping someone escape from addiction? If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, you won’t want to miss this inspiring coaching session. Timestamps: 4:29 - Spending addiction 11:51 - How do we define addicti...
Sep 17, 2024•26 min
In this live coaching session, Jayson coaches Derek, an anxious man struggling with an avoidant partner. How should couples balance the need for space with the need for connection? How can you tell if your relationship concerns stem from care or fear? How do you know if couples therapy is working? Don’t miss this powerful coaching session! Timestamps: 6:09 - How to set boundaries while maintaining a relationship 9:09 - Balancing the need for space and connection 15:27 - Is your therapy working? ...
Sep 10, 2024•27 min
In this episode, Jayson introduces three powerful trainings designed to transform your life and relationships. First, explore the Communication Breakthrough Experience , where hands-on demos and live coaching sessions help you overcome communication barriers and deepen your emotional connections. Next, learn about Relationship Coach Training , a program that empowers you to turn your passion for personal growth and relationships into a fulfilling career, making a meaningful impact on others. Fin...
Aug 27, 2024•13 min
Do you wish you and your partner still communicated like you did when you first fell in love? In this episode, Jayson delves into the science of infatuation—why we experience it and why it fades. Can you rekindle the magic of the early days of your relationship, or is there something even better ahead? Tune in to discover how to earn your second honeymoon stage. Timestamps: 2:48 - Infatuation 6:16 - Falling out of love or working toward relational maturity? 9:49 - Learning how to communicate 13:...
Jul 30, 2024•17 min
Jayson and Ellen delve into the complex relationship between teens, screens, and mental health. Is it okay to use screens to help kids calm down? Are teens becoming more anxious? At what age should children have their own cell phones? What societal changes are needed to protect the mental health and well-being of children and teens? How can you effectively implement boundaries at home? Tune in to find the answers to these and many more questions. Timestamps: 2:35 - Why screen time matters 5:50 -...
Jul 09, 2024•47 min
In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships. Timestamps: Why Interacting With Family Can Be So Difficult [1:30] Terri Cole’s Family Experience [3:30] The Importance Of Boundaries and Language With Family [7:30] Examples Of Managing Family Dysfunction Successfully [9:30] Strategies For Avoiding Unwanted Conversations With Family [14:30] Is It Okay To Just Walk Away From Shitty Family Conversations? [23:00] T...
Jul 02, 2024•35 min
Jayson answers listener questions: How should you deal with trauma responses in intimate situations? Should your partner have access to your phone? What should you do if your partner isn’t interested in personal growth? What is the right way to apologize? Is it possible to make a relationship work with an emotionless partner? Find the answers to these questions and more on this episode of The Relationship School Podcast. Timestamps: 2:19 - Trauma responses in intimate situations 5:55 - Dealing w...
Jun 25, 2024•22 min
