SC 64 - Tracking & Parenting Your Partner With Ellen Boeder

Codependency gets a bad rap. Parenting your partner? Who wants be married to their mom or dad? But there’s more to the story here. And lots of gold if you’re willing to reframe and play the “attachment” game in your primary relationship. My wife Ellen joins me again with her attachment knowledge and personal experience on how to track and parent your partner. We give some personal examples from our marriage as well.

SHOWNOTES

• Why do people freak out when they hear the idea of “parenting your partner” or “co-dependency”? [13:30]
• What is attachment in a relationship? [18:00]
• The huge benefit of using the lens of attachment in a relationship. [20:30]
• What does it mean to parent your partner? [21:45]
• Track my partner? What does that even mean? [23:45]
• The “secure home base” and how it can be a great barometer of the relationship. [25:30]
• The physiological cost of not giving attention to your primary relationship. [27:45]
• 3 action steps you can take today to improve your relationship. [29:30]
• Jayson’s action step for the listener. [36:30]
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