SC 159 - What To Do When You Get Defensive
Sep 18, 2017•11 min
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Episode description
QUESTION
When my boyfriend gets triggered and shares his thoughts and feelings with me, how do I not take it personal and get defensive? I feel like this creates a barrier between us when he is trying to reach out and I want to be with him in this moment. But I feel attacked even though I know he's not attacking me - I can hear my shitty defensive tone of voice and feel my body language change. I also can't get my thoughts clear enough to have a mature conversation with him, I'm all caught up in my own BS, it's pathetic! How do I get past this and be present with him?Kim - Fairfax VA
SHOWNOTES
- Question from Kim [1:00]
- Zeroing in on what makes us defensive [3:00]
- Working out what you need when you're feeling defensive [5:00]
- What to do when you're too triggered to think clearly [7:00]
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