SC 143 - Boundaries & Needs

QUESTION:
Since a boundary of mine is about to be breached - again - does that spell the end of this particular partnership?
I've been lying to myself and my partner about my ok-ness with her quarterly 7+ day adventures with a supposedly platonic friend of hers. It took almost a year to figure that out and come to a place of acceptance with it. Last night during a semi-routine check-in conversation I was finally able to be honest with myself and with her that these trips, which started after she and I began seeing each other just over a year ago, are not ok with me - to the point of being non-negotiable. It turns out that I need my partner to have me as their primary adventure person.
In less than two weeks, my partner and this friend of hers are scheduled to embark on a 9 day climbing journey together.
- Alex, CA

SHOWNOTES

• Alex’s question [1:00]
• When people use spirituality as an excuse for not standing up for their needs [2:00]
• How to find win-win when making requests with your partner [4:00]
• The difference between setting setting boundaries with your partner and controlling them [6:00]
• When is it best to take what we’ve learnt from this relationship as practice for the next? [9:00]