Here in Boulder Colorado there are a lot of spiritual people doing great, deep, spiritual work. But does it translate into relational development? Listen to my take in this episode. (2:42) Relational and Spiritual Development episodes https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-spiritually-developed-people-struggle-with-monogamy-ellen-and-jayson-sc-176/ https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/relationship-problems-in-spiritual-communities-gabrielle-ted-usatynski-smart-couple-podcast-224/ https://r...
Nov 19, 2019•9 min
Want to help couples better? Want to learn about the real issue in your partnership? This interview will shed some serious light on what's below all the surface fights. If you like attachment science, you'll love this one. Shownotes: (3:45) Introduction Sue Johnson (19:30) Sue’s experience of attachment in a community (21:39) Reading emotional cues in relationships to find problems (30:35) Helping couples by showing them their own dynamics when fighting (39:25) Understanding love through attachm...
Nov 12, 2019•56 min
Feeling seen is one of the 4 core needs in a partnership. However, what does that mean and how do we do that? What if we don't feel safe? What if we don't know how? Listen to this. I think it will help. Shownotes: (2:05) What does “Being seen” mean (3:20) Why a lot of people close up and hide parts of themselves (4:50) Confronting our “Dark side” in long-term relationships (7:30) Settling for feeling seen, but not being accepted...
Nov 06, 2019•11 min
Women ask me all the time, "How do I get him to open up?" It's an important question as some of us guys are pretty emotionally jammed up. But there are a few things you can do to help, without feeling resentful. Listen in! Shownotes: (3:55) Introduction Shana James (10:20) Why she decided to work helping men (18:50) Safety and sex in relationships (27:00) Having honest and open conversations with our partners (31:35) How women can understand men in their lives. (36:55) How women can help men sol...
Oct 30, 2019•1 hr 1 min
Years ago, I watched a woman re-pattern a baby's movements after a tough Caesarean birth. It was so powerful. It all happened in a few minutes. She was a baby whisperer. Turns out this woman is quite the healer. From tantra facilitator to couples therapist, Annie Brooke has some serious skills. I've had sessions with her, and my son did a water session with her when he was six months old. I think you'll like this interview I recently did with her. We covered a ton of ground. Conflict, attachment...
Oct 30, 2019•1 hr 7 min
Recently I interviewed my friend Joanna Shakti on masculine/feminine energy. Some people get pretty triggered with these terms, but I think they are quite useful, so long as we tease them apart from gender. Regardless, there's a lot of great stuff in this interview about polarity, sexual chemistry, and how one woman turned her "energy" around and found a different level of love. Plus, there are 4 questions you can ask to see where you fall on the masculine/feminine spectrum. Listen now... Showno...
Oct 14, 2019•59 min
If you are not a parent, this is pretty interesting. I think you can learn a few things here. If you are a parent, there's such a thing as too much parenting. The helicopter or enabling parent. Is there such a thing as "over-attachment"? I think so. In this short episode my wife and I dig into this touchy subject. I say touchy because parents are soooo sensitive to criticism. Check it out!
Oct 08, 2019•30 min
Do you know the fastest way to get the connection back? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner? Listen here as I offer you a few tips to get both. Shownotes: (1:50) Falling into Victimhood when you don’t feel accepted (4:12) The first step is to connect with yourself (8:40) The feeling of being accepted (11:25) Relationship School Event November 7th
Oct 01, 2019•19 min
Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling insecure and frustrated. In this podcast, I cover the signs and symptoms of codependency, the history of the term, how it "works" and what to do about it. You'll want to check this out. Shownotes: (2:10) What does co-dependency mean (8:35) Signs and symptoms of a co-dependent relationship (15:25) What can you do to avoid this in your own life (21:10) ...
Sep 24, 2019•23 min
There's a little known hack out there in the personal growth world about changing patterns, beliefs, and thoughts. Tony Robbins' entire approach is based on it. It's called NLP. I've never formally studied it. Which is why I had my friend Matt Brauning on the podcast to discuss how to change your relationship patterns. Check it out. Shownotes: (2:40) Introduction Matt Brauning (12:45) How “choice” works in our life (16:20) How NLP can help you change your beliefs (23:50) Your struggles can also ...
Sep 18, 2019•1 hr 7 min
Are there really any risks with falling hard for someone? You know, when you're just in the zone with this person and you lose track of time and space... Even though it feels so amazing (almost addictive), there are major downsides to the "honeymoon period" that are just underneath the surface, your relationship will be at risk unless you know what to look for. Shownotes: (0:20) Introduction - action step (1:45) Is it possible to fall in love too fast? (4:50) What can you do when you’re In this ...
Sep 10, 2019•9 min
My friend Tami Simon, founder & CEO of Sounds True, shares her insights about the spiritual path and relationships. Her decades of interviewing the world's leading authorities on spirituality, wellness, and relationships shines in this podcast interview. From spiritual gurus to CEO's of major companies, learn why relationships are key to a brighter future. Shownotes: (4:00) Introduction Tami Simon (11:30) Why Spiritual teachers don’t talk often about relationship (25:20) What has changed abo...
Sep 03, 2019•57 min
Do you ever wish your partner, or ex, would just change? I mean, if only they would, everything would be awesome, right? Not so fast. But... there is one thing you can do under the radar to get them to change. Check it out and listen in... Shownotes: (2:40) Why trying to change your partner is almost impossible (5:30) What can you do to help others change? (8:15) Action step
Aug 26, 2019•11 min
It took Kimberly 6.5 years to heal her body and have sex without pain. Her vulnerability and knowledge is huge and she shares it all on this podcast. She did over 800 sessions with women working on their pelvic floor. Gulp. If you find yourself still in a freeze response after being hurt this morning, or from years ago, you'll want to check this out... Shownotes: (3:00) Introduction Kimberly Johnson (7:00) Why Kimberly Choose to go deeper on Trauma work and Sexological Bodyworkers (15:50) Learni...
Aug 20, 2019•1 hr 7 min
This week's podcast is all about passive people and walking on eggshells. In fact, there's a fun new term "Fragilizing". Listen to find out what the hell that means... Shownotes: (2:30) What is fragilizing. (5:50) About passive and fragile people. (9:50) Closing applications for DPIR (11:00) Action Step
Aug 13, 2019•13 min
Are you a caregiver who is on the verge of burnout? What is the difference between the central nervous system and the autonomic nervous system? What happens if I misread a person's face, especially my partner? Listen to this fascinating interview with Polyvagal theory's founder, Stephen Porges. Shownotes: (1:45) Episode 116: Polyvagal theory, safety in relationships. (4:26) Why knowing how to read other people matters. (9:50) How our physiology affects how we perceive others, and how others perc...
Aug 05, 2019•1 hr 11 min
In this episode we explore your confidence. Why is it more attractive than looks? Or is it? Listen in as we quickly explore this terrain and listen for the challenge at the end. Shownotes: (0:40) Open applications for DPIR Program (9 month training) (3:30) What is confidence (5:10) Why confidence is more attractive than looks (7:50) Action step https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-confidence-is-more-attractive-than-looks-relationship-school-podcast-episode-246/...
Jul 30, 2019•10 min
For the 3rd time, we bring on polymath and human behavior master Dr. John Demartini. In this episode you're going to be confronted and learn a TON! Dig in and let us know what you learned. Shownotes: (3:50) Introduction Dr John Demartini (5:30) The biggest human problem according to Dr John Demartini (7:40) Planning on money and relationships (12:05) Investing money in yourself instead of investing somewhere else (18:55) Saving 10% of your income (20:40) Why opposites attract (31:05) Physiologic...
Jul 24, 2019•1 hr 11 min
Do you ever wonder why your children trigger you? What if parenting was designed to get you to grow up and become more fully yourself. In this enlightening interview my guest Dr. Shafali sheds light on her own journey as a mother and how parents have a big choice how they raise their children. SHOWNOTES: (4:40) Introduction Dr Shefali. (10:00) Learning not to give. (12:33) About parenting and raising kids. (16:30) The process of breaking out of the feeling of unworthiness. (18:15) Parents dealin...
Jul 16, 2019•46 min
The Youth Initiative High School in Viroqua, WI had the opportunity to ask Jayson 7 powerful questions. Check them out and listen in to hear his response to these amazing student's questions. SHOWNOTES: (3:10) When or how do you know if you and your partner aren't working and it's not because you're not communicating? When do you know it's time to breakup? (5:55) How do you learn to communicate with your partner (or a casual thing) what you like in an intimate way? Without hurting them or feelin...
Jul 09, 2019•29 min
In this episode we explore in depth what our signature course DPIR is all about.... Shownotes: (5:25) Introduction (12:00) Takeaways of being part of DPIR (20:30) Memorable classes and subjects of DPIR (28:30) Why DPIR is worth the investment (30:20) Final thoughts
Jul 02, 2019•37 min
Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? These are questions you NEED to be asking yourself. Unless you’re perfect, your answers will expose the reasons why it’s a really good idea to enroll in the Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships (DPIR)® course. Think about it. Even science proves relationships are the most important link to happiness. Failed relationships with partners, family members and friends are some of the most damaging events in o...
Jun 27, 2019•41 min
What happens when people get together and train and practice relationship skills together for 9 months? This does. Listen in as these 3 people share intimately about their journey, their connection with each other, and how they became relationship coaches. Shownotes: (6:05) Introduction Coaches (9:00) Bryce Bauer (11:45) Leah Gartner (16:50) Steve Srotir (24:10) Experience on DPIR (27:30) Personal traits that helps to be a better coach (39:45) Using what they learned on DPIR to help people (48:3...
Jun 16, 2019•1 hr
Do you know the difference between bad coaching and good coaching? There are four elements of good coaching and you’ll want to know what they are. SHOWNOTES (3:05) About good coaching (4:00) A good coach is a work in progress (5:30) A good coach has people on their life that challenge and supports them (6:30) A good coach wants you to get results (7:30) The client needs to take responsibility and be coachable to get results (9:45) Hiring a good Relationship Coach...
Jun 11, 2019•14 min
In this 3 part series we explore relationship coaching. First, we start with "bad" relationship coaching and things you need to look out for when hiring a relationship coach. Then we'll dive into "good" relationship coaching. Be sure to pay special attention to what types of coaches not to hire in this one. Shownotes: (2:40) Recap on Series of episodes by men for men. (4:00) 3 Signs you’re dealing with bad relationship coaching. (5:25) Short Training. (7:15) Your coach is a mess in his/her own r...
Jun 05, 2019•14 min
How do men shut down? What is the process? Then, how exactly do they finally open up? What is it that has a man open up and share his feelings, his heart, his truth? In this episode, Paul shares his story of opening up. Eventually he found a career helping others open up. SHOWNOTES (4:35) Introduction Paul Bashea Williams (12:00) About his book dear future wife (14:35) Experiences that causes Paul to close himself (17:35) How asking for help works on different cultural/social groups (21:25) Bloc...
May 29, 2019•41 min
Want to hear the reason his first marriage didn't work out? He bought a house, had a successful job, and thought this is what she wanted. But, it didn't work. Hmmm... Michael was lost, confused, and going in the wrong direction. HIs story is similar to a lot of men. Listen in as Michael tells his story and how he turned it all around and finally found "success" in his 2nd marriage. We also cover the 5 myths, or illusions, of manhood. If you need a hit of positivity in the midst of challenge, lis...
May 22, 2019•42 min
In this episode I interview a new friend Brandon Alexander and spontaneously it turned into a pretty intimate conversation about boyhood, manhood, sports and dance, fears, family, love, and connection. I think you'll dig it. - (2:40) Introduction Brandon Alexander - (12:00) Indoctrination of mancode is the same in all races - (17:00) Men in the dancing scene - (21:00) Lessons learned from not dealing with your fears and frustrations - (29:10) About the fear of rejection - (32:50) Choosing betwee...
May 15, 2019•51 min
In this episode, you'll find out "The top 5 things men want from women in a relationship." And, the #1 answer, and clear leader by far, may surprise you. No... it's not sex. Listen in to hear what men—who are willing to share their vulnerability—are saying they really want in a relationship. Ellen and I dig into what these brave men are bringing to the relationship conversation and consider what their responses point to. I also mention in the Podcast, Ellen and I are looking into mentoring a cou...
May 07, 2019•32 min
This podcast comes from a blog post I wrote for Elephant Journal where I polled over 200 women on my social media channels wit this question: Hetero-women: What are you wanting from us men in the context of an intimate, monogamous partnership? Over 200 women responded. I got emotional reading them. So, guys, listen up and take notes. Soon, we’ll cover what men are saying they want in a partnership. SHOWNOTES ( 2:10 ) Top 6 things women want from men ( 3:56 ) Willingness ( 5:10 ) Emotionally avai...
May 03, 2019•17 min
