Life is uncertain. Now, more than ever, we're collectively feeling the uncertainty brought on by the COVID-19 pandemic. Listen to today's how to get great tips for dealing with uncertainty both individually and in your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of understanding that things are always uncertain How to cultivate an acceptance of the uncertainty Understanding how we process stress and uncertainty, and why you should share this ...
May 15, 2020•40 min•Ep. 250
Most of us have a rough idea what traditional couples therapy looks like. However, sex therapy for couples seems to be less well known. Listen to today's show to learn more about sex therapy and how it can help your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understand the key differences between sex therapy and regular couples therapy The most common reasons couples go to sex therapy Why all sex is group sex Redefining sex in your relationship Expanding y...
May 07, 2020•48 min•Ep. 249
The new normal family dynamic is evolving and co-parenting plays a big role in many of these new situations. In today's episode, Dr. Lis tells us how to co-parent better and how to reduce the shame around sexuality for ourselves in our kids. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to co-parent more effectively Dating new people when you have kids How to talk about sexuality with your kids starting at a young age Cognitive re-framing exercises when thinking about ...
Apr 30, 2020•51 min•Ep. 248
Our relationships go through natural rhythms and cycles just as the rest of nature does. If you can understand that your relationship will go through different seasons, you can better navigate the changes. Listen to this episode to learn about the different seasons of your relationship and life. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Becoming aware of the patterns in nature and working with them in your relationship Understanding that whatever is happening in your l...
Apr 23, 2020•50 min•Ep. 247
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine This show's title sounds like a big project, huh? Well, we believe it's definitely one worth pursuing! Listen to today's show to get the tools and information to start creating more meaning, purpose and happiness in your relationship today! In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to create meaning and reach goals in your relationship Importance of not looking to your partner to make you happy ...
Apr 17, 2020•48 min•Ep. 246
Access our new Love Under Quarantine series here: Love Under Quarantine You're not alone if the current crisis is causing you to feel stressed and anxious. Anxiety can manifest itself in many ways that prove detrimental to our own personal health, as well as our relationships. The sense of uncertainty, worrying about the future and the general demands of life are all forms of anxiety. Don’t let anxiety bog you down and negatively affect the relationship with yourself and your partner. In this ep...
Apr 09, 2020•47 min•Ep. 245
Mark Manson is a NYT bestselling author who has written books about hope, living a good life and now an audible original about love and relationships. Listen to today's show to hear Mark's perspective on relationships through his own personal experiences and through putting together an audiobook about them. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The importance of recognizing the false 'Disney narrative' about love and relationships Learning to be skeptical of yourse...
Apr 01, 2020•36 min•Ep. 244
Our personality is created by a multitude of complex factors to create a way in which we view the world and relate with others. One theory on the dimensions of our personality comes from the 19th-century spiritual philosopher George Gurdjieff. Today's guest, John Cottone, Ph.D., walks us through Gurdjieff's personality theory and shows us how we can apply it to ourselves and our relationships. Gurdjieff believed that personality types can be divided into physical, emotional and intellectual cate...
Mar 25, 2020•47 min•Ep. 243
The Coronavirus pandemic is on everyone's minds, and is likely adding stress to your life and relationships. Listen to today's show with Dr. Melanie Joy as we discuss how to navigate your personal and relational life specifically during these difficult times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to help yourself and your partner feel secure during times of insecurity What to do if your partner does not care about the health situation as much as you do Why it's...
Mar 18, 2020•45 min•Ep. 242
Personal finances and insurance are not the most sexy topics when it comes to working on your relationship. However, these things can pull two people apart and even end relationships all together. Listen to today's show to learn how to get your financial and relational life in order with your partner. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn a recommended route to a more financially responsible partnership Where to start when talking about insurance and financia...
Mar 11, 2020•39 min•Ep. 241
Coercive control is a seriously negative strategy introduced in some relationships. Listen to today's show to understand if you are in a coercive control relationship, and how to navigate this territory. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Coercive control as a strategy for your partner to dominate others through manipulation, isolation and other toxic behaviors How to stand up to a coercive controlling partner How to determine if your partner exhibits coercive c...
Mar 05, 2020•36 min•Ep. 240
Our romantic lives with our partners will inevitably change over time. How can we navigate these changes in long term relationships? Listen to today's show to learn some tools and insights into this thing we call LOVE. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Experiences of early intense love contrasted with longer term profound love How can we make love and sexual desire last long term? The importance of focusing on the profound aspects of your partner Options for re...
Feb 28, 2020•50 min•Ep. 239
Much of a successful relationship involves properly apologizing to your partner and repairing the relationship. Relationships are not necessarily about preventing disagreements and arguments, but apologizing and moving forward positively. Listen to today's show to learn how to apologize the right way! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why simply saying you're sorry is usually not enough The five apology languages that you and your partner will likely fall into ...
Feb 19, 2020•40 min•Ep. 238
Relationship partners and friends can offer valuable support for managing stress and anxiety in our lives. However, sometimes relying on others to manage our emotions can create negative effects in our lives and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to balance this sometimes complicated dynamic. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding if you are automatically pulling in a third person to help manage your relationship anxiety The negative ef...
Feb 14, 2020•38 min•Ep. 237
When host Nikki Boyer’s best friend Molly is diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer, she decides to do something bold. She leaves an unhappy marriage and embarks on a series of sexual adventures to feel alive. Over this six-part miniseries, Molly shares the details of her hilarious escapades in a story about friendship, death, and what you do with the time you have left. From Wondery, the creators of Dirty John and The Moment comes Dying For Sex. Listen now at https://wondery.fm/DFS20. Learn more...
Feb 12, 2020•9 min
What if we told you that a woman is capable of having an hour-long orgasm? Sounds too good to be true right!? Well, there are techniques that can make this happen. Listen to today's show to learn about the expanded orgasm practice and its benefits for both men and women. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: The practice of expanded orgasm and how to begin your journey to become an erotic master Spirituality and expanded orgasm as meditation Meaning making through ...
Feb 06, 2020•44 min•Ep. 236
Want to feel empowered? How about realizing that YOU have the power to create the relationship of your dreams and find your own happiness. Many of us look to our partners to make us happy in our relationships. Listen to today's show to understand why that's the wrong approach and how to switch that mindset. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Getting rid of the expectation that our partner will make us happy Self reflection practices to understand your contributi...
Jan 29, 2020•54 min•Ep. 235
The brain — Sometimes we take it for granted, and don't realize its importance as an organ in shaping our relationships. The better we understand and take care of our brain, the better chance we'll have for relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to optimize your brain for a better relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding our brains drive our behavior How to optimize brain health through nutrition, movement, sleep and brea...
Jan 23, 2020•46 min•Ep. 234
Do you feel like you're constantly on the receiving end of your partner's emotions? In relationships we want to be emotionally available for our partners and maintain healthy communication. However, sometimes emotional boundaries need to be set to help protect your personal mental health and to benefit your relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to set healthy emotional boundaries. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn why 'keeping the peace' by...
Jan 17, 2020•44 min•Ep. 233
The best estimates are that 1 in 5 people have participated in some kind of non-monogamous relationship. These kinds of relationship structures are gaining wider awareness and acceptance in today's society. Learning about non-monogamy can be valuable whether it's appealing to you or not. Listen to today's show to learn all about non-monogamy and open relationships! In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Understanding the different forms of non-monogamy Polyamory vs ...
Jan 10, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 232
Attention men and women! Do you know the menstrual cycle and how hormones ebb and flow throughout this 4 week time period? Maybe your answer is yes. But, if you're like us, the answer is no. Even if you do know the details of hormone changes and how that affects a woman's body and brain, do you know your own or your partners exact day on the cycle right now? Knowing all of this information can be incredibly helpful for relationships! Listen to today's episode to learn why and how to keep track o...
Jan 01, 2020•46 min•Ep. 231
Let's face it, being in a relationship is HARD WORK! Long term relationships are even harder. It's not a walk in the park to live with the same person for years and communicate, love, fornicate and just live a life. The more tools you have to continually do the work on your journey, the more successful and happy you'll be in your long term relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn how to avoid long term relationship fatigue. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that incl...
Dec 25, 2019•49 min•Ep. 230
Trying to conceive with your partner is a big deal. The process of baby making can be fun, but it can also be very stressful on the relationship. Listen to today's episode to learn the best ways to approach the process through both western and Chinese medicine perspectives. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to avoid conceiving as a job and take the pressure off both partners Taking care of your body in preparation for conceiving How to have deep and honest ...
Dec 19, 2019•42 min•Ep. 229
When was the last time you experienced ecstasy? This feeling is fundamental to being human, and yet we don't get it nearly enough — if at all in our lives. You don't have to use psychedelic medicine, although they can be a viable choice, to have an ecstatic experience. Listen to today's show to learn other ways to produce ecstatic experiences, and how they can produce profound impacts on your relationship. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Exploring the mind-bo...
Dec 12, 2019•56 min•Ep. 228
Mindfulness is having a much deserved moment in the world of podcasting and popular culture. Learning how to bring mindfulness into the bedroom is a skill that can improve your relationship and sex life — something most of us can benefit from. Learn how to get off without checking out in today's episode. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to get out of a state of fear and judgement around sex in your relationship How to bring attention to what feels go...
Dec 02, 2019•54 min•Ep. 227
Have you ever had a 'gut feeling' about something? This feeling can also be know as our intuition or inner self. Listening to our intuition can help us make better decisions and improve our relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into your intuition. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How the noise of modern life blocks out our intuition Learning from our mistakes and listening to our intuition How to get out of our minds and thinking about the...
Nov 27, 2019•49 min•Ep. 226
Today's cultural narratives have significant impacts on how we view ourselves, our relationships and gender roles. Listen to today's show to understand how culture may be influencing the male narrative and what that can mean for men and women alike. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Male dominance throughout history and how that has changed and impacted relationships The impact that narratives around male sexuality have on both men and women Setting the conditi...
Nov 20, 2019•48 min•Ep. 225
Anaheim investigator Julissa Trapp is not like other detectives. She’s the only woman on the homicide squad, and a skilled chameleon: undercover cop in vice stings, crime-scene commander, patient confidante of killers. A master interrogator, she invokes her personal experience – and deepest griefs -- as a tool to elicit confessions. When a young woman’s body is found at a trash-sorting plant, Trapp learns the murder may be linked to the disappearance of three other women in nearby Santa Ana. Tra...
Nov 19, 2019•11 min
There are many ways to approach improving your relationship and sex life. One approach would be trying new things and seeing what works. Lucky for us, Pam Costa has done a lot of exploration herself and has beautifully shared her journey through her writing and interviews. We're happy to have Pam on the show to explore the work she does as a sex therapist and to share her personal journey. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Learn how to explore your body sexuall...
Nov 13, 2019•43 min•Ep. 224
No one wants to be wrong. Two individuals often feel they can't both be 'right' when resolving conflict. Learning to hold the needs and feeling of both partners at the same time is a key element to relationship success. Listen to today's show to learn how to stop arguing and take your relationship from 'me' to 'we'. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to prevent moments of disconnect from accumulating and creating a toxic relationship Understanding that 'you ...
Nov 06, 2019•57 min•Ep. 223
