Hello , my dear friend , welcome back to another episode of the curious Neuron podcast . My name is City Hevington and I am your host . This is the first episode of the year and first episode of season six . I can't believe that we are on a sixth season .
I say this every season , I know , and then it goes on , but I never thought it would continue this long , and it's because of you guys . So I want to just start off the year by saying thank you to all of you who listen to the curious Neuron podcast , to all of you that have taken the time to write to me to say hello .
It means the absolute world to me , and I tell you this in my email , and I mean this it's just so nice to know who's on the other side of this . As you can see if you're watching on YouTube , I am sitting in my basement and this is a playroom slash space with my office desk , and it just it's weird .
It was weird at the beginning and still is , now obviously a lot less , but it's weird to be speaking into this microphone by myself here , knowing that there are lots of people listening on the other side , when you just feel alone doing it right . So it's nice to know that you are listening . So when you write to me , it just it means everything to me .
So thank you . So happy New Year to all of you . Today we're going to talk about reflections , and you know this is something that I do . I started journaling at the beginning of this year . I had been journaling before , but the journaling was more about like talking about what was happening during my life and events .
I still do a bit of that , obviously because I want to make sure that I keep these memories about my kids and about parenting when they're young . But I also want to make sure that I use journaling strategically so that it helps me grow as a person , and the reflection piece is very important to me .
So if you want to gift yourself something this year , gift yourself a notebook , but it doesn't have to be these $30 journaling notebooks . You know this is my journal . It's special to me because it was . I went to Target for the first time last year in February or , yeah , february when I went to Miami for the Kids' Green Concert , kids' Green Summit .
Anyways , all this to say , this was the first time I was away from my kids and it was the first time I was in Miami and the first time in Target . So this book is just a book that I grabbed there , but honestly , it could be any notebook .
And what I'm going to do today is I'm going to give you the sort of reflection prompts that you can use to reflect on 2023 , to help you think about what you want more of or less of in 2024 . And I'm going to give you snippets of a new workbook that I am going to publish . It's going to be out on January 8 .
And this workbook is called the Reflective Parent and it's going to be everything we talk about today , but in lots of detail . So today is just kind of a taste of what that workbook has .
So I'm going to give you a taste of these daily reflections because , you know , I just think it helps to take a moment to think back about what happened today , but it's not just about . Here's the thing that I have some journals and I love them .
I still use them , but I just find , in general , most journals that have these reflection prompts are not thinking of the parent . They're not thinking of the parent that's trying to somehow balance work and life .
They're not thinking about the parent that has lots of stress on their shoulders and maybe experiencing burnout and is not feeling like themselves anymore with their child . They're not thinking of the parent that has maybe two minutes to journal or to write something . And what I want to share with you today are things that are going to be easy .
You don't have to do them all in one day , or if you have some time this week and you're off , do that . But these are questions that you could simply ask yourself and respond to them . While you're showering or while you're driving , you could think about it a little bit . Or if you're exercising and working out or taking a walk .
These are questions that you can ask yourself during any of these moments and if you don't feel like taking the time to write them down or re-listen to the episode to write the questions down , you can get all of these questions in the workbook . The link is in the show notes . It'll be available this week for $9.99 . It's over 40 pages .
I'm finishing off the end of it . It's probably going to be more than 50 pages , but it's $9.99 for this week as a pre-order , as a thank you for , you know , pre-ordering the workbook , and it'll be $19.99 by next week . So you can click the link in the show notes and get it All right . Let's get to the episode .
I want to take the time to thank the Tan and Baum Open Science Institute at the Neuro here in Montreal , as well as the McConnell Foundation for supporting the Curiosnon podcast , because without them , this podcast would not be possible . I apologize if I do a little bit of coughing . You know that my solos are unedited episodes .
I do have a cold , and so do my kids . That is the joy of the holidays , but that's what we're going to have to deal with . So if my voice is a little raspy and not clear , I apologize in advance . Now let's I have the affiliates that we have in the collaboration , so better help Poc , poc and Holsty and my app , wondergrade , in the show notes .
So again , if you want some discounts for that , you can click those links . But today I really want to take time to talk about you . It's so hard as a parent to navigate this world and , especially in the new year , everybody's going to be telling you what to do and how to do it and which 20 new habits that you should have .
It's not to say that you shouldn't have new habits and that you shouldn't reflect on what matters to you as a parent , but I also want you to be able to zone out or disconnect from the advice that you're going to be hearing the next week or two from people that maybe doesn't matter to you , including mine .
I'm okay with that , we're still friends , you can come back next week .
But the reflection piece for me is something that made a difference , which is why I want to take the time to share that with you , because I just feel that sometimes , as a parent , we're on autopilot most of the time and we're in so many different relationships , including the one with our child .
It's a relationship which means that it needs to be nurtured , and when we don't take the time to do that , then it makes it really difficult to kind of support that relationship . So the same thing in a marriage right , or a friendship or a family member , we have to kind of show up , and that's what I want to kind of highlight today .
So first I want to show you some of the books that I use , because maybe this will be something that you want to invest in and maybe not , but these are the ones that I have that I enjoy , so I want to take the time to share them . There's this one called Present , not Perfect .
This is a journal for slowing down , letting go and loving who you are , and you know some of these . So it says close your eyes and make a wish . Why do you need this wish to come true ? Why don't you need this wish to come true ? You know , they're very simple , they're fun . If you want something lighthearted , I love the colors of it .
But it's like I said before , it's not something I use every single day . I use my own reflections and you'll see in a second . The other one is create your own calm , a journal for quieting anxiety . So if you're somebody who really struggles with anxious thoughts or worry thoughts , then that's a great one for you . I have the book called Becoming .
So this is the journal , the Guided Journal by Michelle Obama . It's okay , there's some questions that I like in here that I come back to Talking like this one list , one failure , one struggle , one success . How do you ? What did you learn from each one ?
I like these types of questions , but then , obviously , there's things that I don't like , like what's the biggest news headline on the day you were born ? Is it something that is still relevant today ? Who cares ? But the rest is good . I want to highlight the pros and the cons of both .
And then this one if you are in a relationship and you're like , okay , 2024 is the year for us , we're going to put some work into us individually and into us as a couple . Tracy is somebody that I had interviewed on this podcast and I just have not spoken about this book enough . I love it so much it's called I Didn't Sign Up for this .
My husband , every time he sees it on the table , he laughs , he has a little giggle because this title is just so good and it really is . And this what I like about it is at the end of each chapter , tracy guides you to what questions do you need to ask yourself and how do you kind of work through this together as individuals and as partners ?
So lots of nice questions that you can ask yourself and work on on your own or ask your partner as well and have the discussion . And then I'm a really big fan of Amy Moran's work . 13 Things is what she calls her books . 13 Things , for example , this one is Mentally Strong . People Don't Do .
She has one about kids , she has one for couples coming out and I'm going to be interviewing her in season six , but this one is her workbook and I love it because , again , it just gives you something to think about . So lots of people say I want to start journaling , but I'm not sure how these books can be a guide , depending on what your goal is .
If it's about yourself , it's about anxiety . If it's about a couple , there's lots that you can do . So that's my start . However , let's deep dive a little bit into the questions that I asked myself , and you know I'm not just taking these random questions and asking you to answer them .
I answer them myself because I want to make sure that I do them first and that they made a difference for me , and that's what I want you to to receive from me . So let's start off with reflecting on 2023 . So there are four questions here that I asked myself at the end of this year .
So the first one was list five moments in 2023 that I felt , that you felt pure joy , and I like taking the time to think about like the positive things , like what makes you feel good , and for me I'm going to name three . Some are a bit more personal , but there was a moment with my kids this year that just really stood out to me .
We were listening to Encanto . This was near the beginning of the year and at the end of the movie it was a Saturday night , it was dark , it was late and it was time for bed . We were all in pajamas and my kids got up and started dancing .
My youngest one started dancing and then I got up and started dancing with him and then we all got up and we were all dancing and I kind of zoned into the giggling of my kids , the laughing , hearing my husband laugh .
I was giggling and laughing and I started to cry because I just felt this pure feeling of joy and it felt so good and I could just still close my eyes and see the moment happening and feel what I felt in that moment . And I don't want to forget that moment ever . I know it'll happen , but it was just a really nice moment of joy . So that was one .
The second one for me was there was a moment I was at the sink and I was washing dishes and my husband came and gave me a kiss and he just stayed in the kiss , like just hung out there for like two seconds . It was a lingering kiss , just literally two seconds , and I melted and so did he .
And then when we were talking about it that day , we're like it felt so , like I felt so happy in that moment and it reminded us that we're just so busy with life that it's always like a quick vibe and you know , out we are , out we go , and off we go On , we go with our day .
But like taking that extra time , letting that kiss linger , just brings happiness , and so do that , don't forget to do that tonight . And then the third moment for me was it was my 40th birthday this year and I didn't want to have a big party .
I'm really uncomfortable with big parties , as you know if you've been listening to this podcast for a while , and you know I but I do place a lot of value in connection and my close friendships , and so what I decided to do was have one dinner with each friend , sometimes one or two at a time , but just to say they were very small dinners with people that
really mattered to me family members and and friends and so that extended my birthday for like two months , because , you know , every week I'd meet somebody new and it led to a really nice memory .
But when , in particular , I went , my friend , christina , brought me to the spa and there was a moment where I was sitting in the hot tub and I just looked at her and I said I'm so happy . And it was true . It just the moment of not having to think of anything else , but just the moment . You know , they say , be in the moment , be present .
Sure , but that's really hard most of the time and not really possible most of the time , because your brain is always going to be thinking back in the past of that day , the future of that day , tomorrow , the next day , two weeks ago . It's really hard to stick to that moment , so that's why it's something that you need to practice .
However , that very moment in the hot tub , I was just so content and happy and joyful of how I felt and I , you know , as I reflected on 2023 , those three moments and some others stood out , and I want you to take that time to think about , like how you felt in those moments and how good it felt , because then you need to ask yourself , like how can I
recreate some of these moments ? Because if that brought you joy , how can you bring yourself some more joy in 2023 ? The next question I have is list three things that happened this year , or that list three things that happened this year that led to unpleasant emotions .
So it doesn't necessarily have to be sadness , but any sort of unpleasant thinking about whether you had certain arguments with somebody , whether there was an injury or , for example , with myself . I've spoken to you about my grandmother a couple episodes ago .
This has been a really difficult December for our family and obviously that's part of the unpleasant feelings that I've experienced . But I do want you to take the time to think about that , and are there any of these that you could not recreate next year ?
There are things that we don't have under control , as somebody going to the hospital , somebody passing away . It's not in our control , but are there things with some of like ? If there's an argument with somebody , are you and that partner or person making the effort to break that cycle of argument ? What kind of work are you putting into it ?
If there's somebody that's not being nice to you and that leads to really unpleasant emotions , are you setting those boundaries ? So how can you revisit these moments that had unpleasant emotions as an outcome , and thinking of 2024 , how can you minimize those as much as you possibly can , knowing that you don't have control over everything .
The third question is well , that relates , actually . So this comes back to the two questions I asked you , right ?
So what things do you want to continue so , thinking about those moments that bring you joy , or maybe some good habits that you began in 2023 , and then what are some things you need to stop , something that you might have been doing in 2023 that just absolutely needs to stop If it's not exercising or not taking care of your health or not taking care of your
mental health , or not addressing your own personal needs as a parent . It took me so long as a parent to realize that my needs matter and , looking back , I mean I think it just came from a place of a good place , of wanting to nurture my kids and just be there for them completely .
But I had this discussion with one of my sister-in-laws this holiday season and I was telling her that for me , it just came from a place of . You know , I wasn't nurtured the way that I wanted to . I guess , when I was younger and when I became a mom , I just gave it all . I gave it everything and you know , I had all three kids without an epidural .
I nursed through pregnancies . I nursed for six years straight through pregnancies , three kids , had three kids in under four years , was home with all three . They never went to daycare , never got them babysat either . Like it was really intense and it was just the way that I felt I needed to be a mom .
But in retrospect I wish I had somebody that would have taken my hand , looked at me in the eye and said you matter too , and so I need to do this for you .
If you are a new parent , or even if you're a well-seasoned parent in your child's 11 , 12 , 13 , 14 years old , whatever it is , please know that you matter and that we you know it is not selfish to do something for yourself . It is necessary and we need to remind ourselves that on a daily basis . Let's move on to thinking about 2024 .
So for me , one of the most important things you know the relationships will impact your emotion , on mental health , but boundaries as well . So thinking about the relationships but now you know that's an important part , but the boundaries to me is really important .
So what are some boundaries that you need to set in 2024 that will have a positive impact on you , on your mental health and your emotional health ? So this could be doing less or more of something , this could be speaking to somebody , less or more .
You know , if there's somebody that calls you and you just know that by the end of this conversation do you have nothing left . I like to picture a cup let's say a styrofoam cup and when you're , you know , giving yourself to other people , including your kids , it's like you're poking these little holes and so the water starts to leak out .
But the more of these things that you have to do , the more kids you have , the more family members you might have to nurture a partner that isn't mentally well , that you have to kind of support work that you have to do , and there's stress around that , anything , there's a lot , right , you keep poking holes at this and then the cup empties out much faster
than if there are less , fewer holes . So you , this year , what can you do to minimize the amount of holes that you have every single day ?
And then skipping that phone call with a family member that just drains you , that pokes three holes in that styrofoam cup , in that one conversation , then can you skip a day every week , can you skip two days every week in terms of your conversation with this person ? Right .
Then there are maybe visits or places , or maybe your child wants to go to the park every single day and you know that it's a lot for you . You can minimize that . It's not a selfish thing , it's not that you're not going anymore , but what can you do to make things simpler for yourself , and what sort of boundaries do you need to implement ?
Sometimes , boundaries are not easy . You might be listening to this or watching this on YouTube and feel that exactly which boundary that you need to place , and it might be with somebody that you care for a lot , and you might be thinking there's no way that I can set this boundary .
This would ruin everything or this would destroy a relationship that I have with somebody . But I want you to take the time to journal about this . I want you to take the time to think about what the future looks like if you would not set this boundary this year . What would the future look like for you first ?
And then maybe it's a partner who's being disrespectful to you . What would the future look like for you ? What would the future look like for your kids Still being in this environment ? And are you willing to accept this kind of future , or is there anything you can do ? Sometimes there's nothing we can do , and I want to be mindful of that .
I don't want to make you feel like you're not taking that step and you're deciding to not set that boundary , and I don't want guilt on you , but I do want you to think of . Is there maybe a certain level of a boundary ? Can you stand up for yourself for certain things ? Can you minimize exposure to somebody ?
Can you minimize somebody saying things to you , whatever it is ? Write it down and then try to brainstorm to see what can be possible , what is possible , what isn't possible , what do you have control over , what don't you have control over , and what would happen if you did nothing about it . So that's the most important part .
The second question is the second , third and fourth question . It's the same thing , but with different people . How will you show up for yourself every day in 2024 to create moments of connection with yourself ?
The next one is about showing up for your partner and creating moments of connection with them , and the third one is showing up for your kids and creating moments of connection with them . Now I don't want you to think wow , sydney , do you actually think I have like three hours a day to first connect with myself , then my partner , then my kids ?
Absolutely not . I don't think so and I don't want you to do that either . I was speaking to this researcher from Colorado and I'm gonna be interviewing her later on this year but she told me that her research showed that all we need is five minutes of connection time .
So putting the phones away , being super intentional with that , five minutes with our child in order to benefit a positive parent-child relationship . Five minutes , that's all . So no , I'm not asking you for an hour per person . And when it comes to yourself , I think we often think externally when we think of self-care , where can I go ? What can I do ?
What can I purchase ? Where can I ? You know , we see , I've seen this as well . You know people talking about these trips on their own and that it's self-care . I don't , I can't do that and I'm okay with that . For me , self-care is mostly about how you speak to yourself and how you view yourself .
So that relationship that you have with yourself , that is self-care .
Because you can go on a weekend trip every weekend and , you know , go to the spa every week and do whatever you want , meet a friend , but then come home and have this really negative self-talk , have doubts about yourself , have , you know , very mean internal language , and then that leads to you reacting to your children when they whine or they ignore you ,
because you're already feeling not seen and not heard and now that throws you off . So if we don't take the time to work on our positive , you know inner voice and we don't take the time to work on our self-compassion , everything else doesn't matter . It just does not matter . We have to take that time .
So taking a moment to connect with yourself could be setting an affirmation , you know , writing it down on a post-it and then putting that up on the mirror , so that that week that is the affirmation that you say to yourself . It's literally 10 seconds . You read that to yourself in your mind and then you remind yourself .
Maybe you put a little reminder on your phone . It doesn't have to be something big , but it has to be something that'll help you connect with yourself . And that's why I said showing up for yourself to connect with yourself . Right , that connection piece . How do you remember that you matter ? How do you remind yourself about that ?
It could be journaling , it could be exercise . Of course it could be other things , but all of that doesn't matter if you are being mean to yourself and not speaking to yourself in the way that you would speak to a friend , which is gentle and nurturing and kind . That's what we need to be doing with ourselves too . Same thing applies for your partner .
It doesn't have to be a dinner every night , however . You could write them a little note on a post-it , hopefully , if you have a good relationship where you can do that , just reminding yourselves that little moments of connection really do matter . They matter with everybody around us , and we just , I don't know .
We're in this sort of world right now where everything is just so fast , and even these reels on Instagram and all the information that we have to create in this content . Everything has to be bite-sized , but micro bite-sized , like seven seconds of a reel , is so difficult to create . And now what I'm seeing is hey , what's ?
These are the three books that changed my life . Read and caption these are the three rules I apply for the best life ever . Read the caption it's so short , it's less than seven seconds , and those are the ones that are doing . Well , can we come back to the time of taking a little bit ? Not come back to the time .
But come back to these moments where we actually take the time to connect with ourselves , with others . It's not just about seeing a reel , but if it matters to you , are we taking the time to write to that person to say hi , we're missing that , I think , and I think that makes a really has a really big impact on our mental and emotional health .
So the last one is your kids . Again , like I said before , it doesn't take an hour , five minutes . How can you strategically and intentionally find moments in your day to create five minutes of connection with your child ? That could be a conversation in the car , it could be conversation at bedtime or a book , depending on your child's age .
It could be coloring one page together . After dinner , it could be a game of Uno , it could be preparing dinner together .
If you have older kids , or even younger , it could be having a dinner sitting at the table , having a conversation , not drilling them about their day , but getting curious about what they like , what they don't like , who they are , what kind of person are they . So that's what I mean by moments of connection . All right , and then the last piece .
I'm going to give you a bit of a taste of it . But if you are interested in what we're talking about today and you're like , you know what I really need these types of questions . I need the time to reflect . So this notebook will have spaces for you to write in . If you don't , sorry , this workbook will have spaces for you to write in .
So if you don't have a notebook , that's okay , you can write directly in the workbook . Or if you have your own notebook , you can just take the questions and apply them to you know and use them in your journal .
So , first , in the morning , this is something that I often do , where it's about getting something that's on my mind out of my mind , and I find that this helps me a lot to regulate myself . So asking yourself what is a thought or a feeling or emotion right now that is occupying my brain space right now ?
So what is a thought or emotion that is occupying my brain space right now ?
And the reason why I take the time to do that is because a brand new day doesn't necessarily mean that everything is okay , right , if we think about that cup that I mentioned before , and that every sort of emotional need is like a pinhole , and so that cup empties the more you have when you think of a brand new day waking up , doesn't necessarily mean that
that person that was causing you stress is not going to cause you stress today or that you don't have any lingering thoughts or emotions from that , from the previous day . It doesn't mean that , if you had an argument with a partner , that everything is okay when you wake up .
It doesn't mean that , if you were stressed about a I don't know a presentation that you have at work or a deadline , that all of a sudden it's gone because you woke up and it's a brand new day . It continues . So being mindful of that and taking the time to write about it and get it out to me helps me a lot .
But what you can do for yourself is , if you don't have time to write down I want to be mindful of that and where you can always just think about the answer to this question in the shower , while you're brushing your teeth , while you're washing your face , while you're waiting for the bus , while you're in the train , on the train , whatever it is you can take
this question and write it down on your phone or you can write it on a post-it , so it's on the mirror and as you're brushing your teeth , you're like what's on my mind today , like what do I need to get out of my mind ? Oh yeah , I'm really stressed or I'm really still mad at my partner and I I'm stuck . I'm really stuck in this emotion .
Just being aware of that and being mindful and kind of bringing that to the surface I find is really helpful , so you can get that a try .
Then that connection piece I try to think about that a little bit during the morning , where it's like how am I going to connect with myself today and how am I going to connect with my kids today , my partner it's a lot of thinking every day , so I just try to think about it .
But I have to be honest , I don't think about that every day , but I do think about it every week . Like , did I take a moment to connect with him and how can I do that ? So with my kids I do try to be strategic about that and with myself as well .
And connection , again , like I said , it could be a moment of like how do I change a negative thought into a positive one today ? Like , if I notice that my thoughts are turning negative , how do I flip that around ? And that will be my personal moment of connection . That leads me to the next one .
Sometimes it's nice to start the day and to say I know that this part of my day might be a challenge . Maybe it's your kids aren't up yet and once they get up you know it's going to be hard for them to get dressed and so on .
So how can you be mindful of that and how do you kind of proactively think about that moment so that you're ready for it and you can give yourself a mindset shift , right ?
So instead of thinking I don't know , my child , it's going to be so annoying when it's time to get dressed or to get in the car , because my child hates getting in the car you could say how can I help my child in this challenging moment that they're going to have ?
How can I approach bedtime instead of seeing it as the worst moment of the day because it does feel like that ? How do you approach that moment of your evening with a mindset shift of you know , if my child cries , it's because there's something that they need from me . How am I going to provide that for them ?
Or how am I going to support them when they're experiencing these emotions rather than seeing the external part and the behavior part , which is really what we often see as parents . It's not easy , but I want you to make sure that you just take a short moment to just address what's going to happen today and how can I change the way that I view that moment .
That might make things a little bit easier At the end of your day . I would love for you to take the time to think about disagreements or arguments that you had , or a moment with really , really huge emotions mostly unpleasant emotions , so anger or worry or frustration with anybody somebody in your life or your child and to think back at that moment .
We spoke about perspective taking a couple episodes ago , and how can you reflect on an argument that you had with somebody and think could I have listened a little bit more ? Was I listening ? Was I thinking about what I wanted to tell them while they were talking , or was I truly listening to their point ?
Was I taking their perspective , both cognitively meaning , like what they are , the point that they're trying to get across and was I taking their perspective from an emotional perspective ? So was I experiencing this argument from their emotional experience , and the same should be done for you .
By the way , I'm talking about it for you because you are here listening to this podcast and you are doing the work to grow and to change as a parent not just change , but to keep evolving as a parent and so I'm talking to you , but I hope that the people you are with are also doing the same , and if they're not , sometimes talking to them about what
you're working on , can show them like I'm doing the work , and I'd love for you to show up and do the work too , because I want to make this work together like . This relationship matters to me . So taking the time to reflect on that and the workbook that I created will give you a bit of a guideline on how to think through .
Like what should you be asking yourself when it comes to these arguments ? Then I'm going through them , because they're all infreting me , but I want to choose a couple and I'm mindful of your time . And then the gratefulness piece .
Let's bring that up because I think that the gratefulness what you're grateful for I know if you hear this and you're like oh , again , like , why do people always talk about like what they're grateful for ? And it's just like the same conversation . But it really matters .
Because if you think back to last January , I think it took like one or two weeks where I was really struggling with writing down something that I was grateful for . I mean , I'm grateful for my husband and my kids , my life , you know Kyrstynauron and Wundergrade and all of that kind of stuff , but it was all the big things .
I was waiting for something big to happen . So if I signed on and you client for Kyrstynauron , wow , that was something I was grateful for .
But if I didn't have any of these , any of these like big milestones I was struggling with , I was just repeating myself I'm grateful for my family and my husband and my kids , but I was looking for the big milestones and only by writing down every single day what I was grateful for Did it hit me a couple of days later , a week , a week and a half later ,
that there were moments I was grateful for , like sitting down with the kids and just disconnecting from everything that was around me and listening to Bluey , or a hug that a kid , one of my kids , just kind of randomly gave me as we were playing , or the I love you from one of my children at bedtime that was just so warm and loving and brought me joy .
So I think that it is important for us to write about what we're grateful for , because we start to notice the little things and when we notice these little things , then all of a sudden we feel more moments of joy .
We're not looking for the big things anymore , we're embracing the little moments , and I think that's why gratitude journaling is important , and it's not about writing a whole paragraph . For me , it was just one sentence . Do it in a way that fits in your schedule . All right , that was a lot .
I'm so grateful that you are here and I hope that you do take some time to reflect on the past year and things that you could change and think of a game plan . In business , when something is going wrong , we strategize right .
We say this is not going well , what are we doing that's leading to this not going well and what are we not doing and how can we change this ? How do we get out of this cycle or this problem ?
And we need to approach parenting in a very similar way , in the sense that if we're stuck in this cycle of dinner time being such a mess , or bedtime or child's behavior with certain people or certain times of the day , how do we get out of that cycle ? How do we see it as a problem we need to solve and what is our role in it ?
We can never same in business . We can never say I had nothing to do with that , it's not my problem , it's not , it's our kids and it's in our home . So how do we , with compassion , kind of take this moment and say , all right , here's what my child is struggling with or here's what I'm struggling with as a parent ?
Now , how do I assess everything that's going on in the environment ? How do I zoom out of this situation and kind of say what's my role , what's my partner's role , what are the grandparents role , what's my child's role , what's the daycare of the school's role ?
How do I figure out like all the pieces of this and where do I have to kind of change these sort of situations , to change the cycle Right , like how do you break that cycle ? We can get into that another time , but I just want to say thank you again . I hope you are subscribed to the podcast .
Make sure that you are , because if you are not , the metrics are impacted and I know that Apple had these really big changes that led to . If you listen to like a small part of the episode and not the full episode , it doesn't count as a download .
So it's been really challenging to see the numbers go down , because I know that my sponsorship is dependent on it .
So please take a moment to make sure that you are subscribed to the podcast anywhere that you are listening to it and you can watch it on YouTube as well , and you can follow us on Instagram at curious underscore neuron , or visit our website at curiousneuroncom . It's going to be an awesome season six .
I know we always say that when we start a season , but it truly is . I have two interviews lined up ready to go with Dr Mark Brackett I know I just said that Dr Mark Brackett , the author of permission to feel . I can't believe .
I had a conversation with him and it was amazing and it's coming up in a few weeks , so you better make sure you're subscribed to the podcast . And Dr Rumey is a world expert on narcissism and that is coming up this year as well , in a couple of weeks . I can't believe . Both of these people said yes to talking with me and it's just blowing me away .
The interviews this season are going to be awesome and wonderful and help us , as parents , grow and prioritize our emotional health , because that is what I'm here for . So we're going to continue this conversation and make sure that you remember that you matter . Thank you for listening to the podcast and I will see you next week . Bye .