Unlocking Personal Potential Through Vibrational Alignment with Mary Beth Schrudder

Mary Beth Schroeder , I met you through another podcast and what I loved about you were on a guest and what I loved is you sort of described the law of attraction and manifestation and vibrations and frequency , which I think a lot of people can get confused about because it gets a little too esoteric and you really sort of just simplified everything and I thought

I think my listeners would love us to have a conversation about that , because I feel like a lot of people are in transition right now and seem lost and I am including myself , and I think we all need a refresher sometimes .

So , like something really dense , like this table , is vibrating really slowly , you know , and , um , higher frequency , things are vibrating fast . So that's the main thing , but we're all connected at this energetic level . We're all connected .

So what that tells you with quantum physics is that everything's consciousness , everything is , and what that tells you is we got to be creative with our consciousness , right , we need to be creative , conscious beings , which we are , and that is what my coaching is all about is helping people remember their power and remember all of the ways that we can actually

influence our day . We are not victims and we shouldn't be living this life by default .

I didn't have that option in my life because I've always had that , and when I was 18 , I had what I call a quantum experience , and now these days it's it's coined as a spiritually transformative experience and it happens to a lot of people . But I was only 18 and this was back in 1992 . Okay , and so there was no internet .

I did not know what was happening to me , all I was doing . I was completely sober , by the way I was reading Thank you for clarifying , because there was no plant medicine , there was nothing . I wasn't even meditating .

I was just reading a book on near-death experiences and what I believe happened now is my soul , my spirit , remembered like , oh yeah , I was kind of awakened from my amnesia . We all come into this incarnation forgetting who we truly are , forgetting we are all connected to God and how powerful we are . So I think it woke me up just reading that book .

Some people do years and decades of meditation and breath work and everything just try to or plant medicine , anything to try to get a glimpse . And I was there for two weeks and it was quantum . It was like I was getting all of these downloads and information about quantum physics , everything Anytime I had a question . It was just so I knew .

I knew like I just think something and I'm telepathically getting the answer . That's what I mean by downloads for your listeners who might not know what that means .

And everybody thought I was loco , completely a kook , because , and I get it I thought I was loco , completely a kook because , and I get it , it doesn't sound reasonable , but these days I found a lot of people because of the internet that have had very similar experiences . But mine lasted about two weeks and then I slowly , I was in this highest vibration .

You can imagine , basically , I've never had it since then , by the way , since I was 18 , not , not like that , not for two weeks straight .

And then I slowly started to vibrate out of that , just slowly , over time , and at the end of that two weeks I was completely like , honestly , it was sad because I got depressed , because I vibrated back down , and then the contrast was just unimaginable to how amazing you could feel . It was bliss .

It was bliss , it was love , like I felt just oneness , connected to God and everybody and everything that's . The thing is we're all made up of the same energy and I was able to see that I was in that quantum world where I was able to actually see we are all connected at this energetic level .

So from there on out , I think that was a long way of answering your question .

Um , we can actually be addicted to , and most people are overthinking and negative thinking about ourself , which , when we're talking about consciousness , think about , you're literally creating your reality . So if you're thinking negative thoughts about yourself , guess what ? You're creating that in your physical reality all day , every day .

And we need to really be mindful and be present and aware of our thoughts . And this is something that I work on every day , sabrina . It's not something that you just do and you're like okay , I've reached my goal , I got my degree and this ? No , you actually have to focus every day on being mindful , just being present .

It's great to say daily affirmations , but we also want to feel it . Law of attraction is so much more about feeling than our thoughts , because if we have those thoughts but we don't feel it too , then we're not actually going to manifest it . So it's getting that mind and heart coherence .

We have to have both , because our thoughts are electric and our hearts are magnetic and we are electromagnetic beings .

I think a lot of people listening feel like , well , I'm never going to experience that , I've never experienced that in my life and I have only experienced glimpses of that in deep meditation . For someone who really feels like they're in a rut . What do you tell clients ? What sort of tools do you give them ?

Or what sort of exercises would you give a client who feels a bit stuck in their life ?

And then , out of that 95% , that subconscious programming , about 80 to 85% is considered negative , negative thoughts , and we're doing the same stuff as the day before . And then we wonder why isn't my life changing ? Well , you've got to break out of that subconscious programming . So the way to do that is just by being really present and aware of your thoughts .

What are you saying ? What are you thinking ? You could do affirmations and at first the affirmations are going to feel , you know , like we're lying to ourselves .

I completely understand and believe and know to be true that unless you actually believe what you're trying to manifest , that you're worthy of it , which comes down to self-esteem it won't come towards you . So how would an affirmation work if you don't necessarily believe it ?

And if you can't hire a coach , there's a lot of free information out there on the internet , on YouTube videos . You could do guided meditations and breath work anything that's going to raise your vibration . I created a deck of cards called Addiction Recovery with the Law of Attraction , because I had a problem .

I had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol which I didn't even realize and it just took me a long time to realize . When I actually added a niche of addiction recovery and I was reading about addiction , I was like holy moly , this is me . I recognized myself in this addiction and so what I did is actually my cards were a download , another download .

I was in the really high vibration , walking my dog in the Abraham Hicks cause , it being in the vortex . I was definitely there in nature , beautiful day and my mind was actually kind of blank , which is unusual , so I was in that's what's called receiving mode . I was in receiving mode and suddenly I just got this full download of that .

I needed to do this deck of cards to help people recover from addiction and to do it in a spiritual way , so that's kind of like . What I do the most is spiritual recovery . I'm a spiritual transformation um coach , so that's what I , that's what of like . What I do the most is spiritual recovery .

I'm a spiritual transformation coach , so that's what I , that's what I try to help people do . And I made this deck of cards . Of course , you take action on it , right ? A lot of people think the law of attraction is just all about um , thinking positive thoughts , sitting on a meditation cushion and just hoping things come to you .

But that's just a , you know , that's just a small piece of it . That's great , but we also need to take inspired action . So that's what I did with my cards , because when something , an idea , goes out there , when we're inspired that way , anyone on that frequency is also receiving that idea , and I think that's happened to a lot of people .

Probably a lot of your listeners could say , yeah , you know what ? I had this great idea . I didn't act on it and , like , within a year , I saw somebody else there . There there's my idea . Why didn't I do anything , you know , and so the people who actually act on it , they're the ones who have it manifested .

So part of manifesting is actually taking action too .

social media and the internet and our smartphones and iPads and everything , we are in a state of constant noise , and when we are in a state of constant noise and doing , it is very difficult to get inspiration or signals or some new idea , because we never allow that space . So I think that that really is important .

Especially , I've noticed in my own life the , the ideas , the creativity that comes out of my life comes in those moments rather than in the doing . Would you say that's true in yours as well ?

A lot of that's just our programming and there's , there's a way out of it .

So that's just a complete side note , Cause I could do an entire podcast about addiction to people .

You know I had that and get yourself in these bad situations and I think I might've acted impulsively . I have a very highly addictive personality , Like like I've been told by a psychic , the highest possible .

So that's another reason to have for your listeners to have hope , Because if I can break my food addiction , my sugar addiction , addiction to caffeine , addiction to alcohol , I sound like a lot of fun , right , I don't do any of those things anymore , but I feel so much better and I have so much energy and life is so much more fun , and I you could have not

convinced me of that , though , when I was in the middle of all that addiction . You could have not told me that life could be so much better . Everything is better . I have .

And I think that there are a lot of people that are dealing with an addiction whether it's alcohol or love or food or shopping that are really in a state of shame to be able to say it out loud , and so they find the healing in listening to podcasts in secret because they don't really want to share it with their family and friends .

And I think , especially after COVID , a lot of people are dealing with that . So for me , I think that there is a lack of self-esteem there of not feeling enough , worthy enough to live a beautiful life and self-medicating with shopping or food or people or alcohol or whatever cigarettes .

And then you know , it's the people listening Some people can moderate , some people , and that's great , that just . But if you're like me , you know you you're more like a dial than a switch , like I mean , actually it's the opposite , you're more like a switch than a dial Like a moderate , correct . I'm all or nothing type of person .

So , um , I had , I chose abstinence because I was never able to get to that perfect moderation and some people can but also I wanted to .

I wanted to say , like you said earlier and I wanted to circle back because it was so true about self-worth , most issues , most of the time , when people find , well , I can't manifest , this law of attraction is not working for me , it's because all of it is subconscious programming with some variation of I am not worthy , so you can't really manifest anything .

That's outside of your personal belief system . So that's why , like having a coach or really listening to podcasts , like you're saying , if you can't afford a coach , getting involved with following people like follow me , follow Sabrina . We talk about law of attraction and things like that on our Instagram .

Well , I don't know if you do , but I talk about law of attraction on Instagram . Follow people who actually know how the law of attraction really works . It's not just about positive thinking .

It's called the work for a reason you actually need to dig in and figure out the root cause of your unworthiness and you change those beliefs and then , therefore , you're able to change what you're able to manifest . Because , then ? Because we're always manifesting . What are you ? Are you manifesting negative things or positive things ?

Cause law of attraction works both ways . It works . People think it's only for the positive but it's not .

It something clicked inside of me that I felt um energized , as if somebody was just reminding me of something that I already knew . But what excited me the most of watching that is that I realized how much power I had of had to take control of my own life and my own success or things that I wanted to bring .

Because I think when I first watched the Secret , I felt like everything was up to everyone else in my life . The opportunities that were going to come to me weren't up to me , it was who was going to give me that opportunity . And for the first time I realized that I have the power to bring the opportunity to me .

And what I do know for a fact is the universe can be fast . The universe can be very fast , delivering whatever you want , if you take inspired action , really believe that you're worthy of it , and if it does require the participation of a lot of other people instead of just maybe something you want to fast manifest on your own .

That can take a little bit more time because things need to be brought into your orbit .

How would you , how would you give somebody um , I don't , I don't know how to say it , but like the baby steps of getting this started , because I think a lot of people , especially if you're black and white , they go well , I want to quit this habit , start like quitting it all together today . Just that's too much .

I think it's powerful even to take baby steps . Do you agree ?

And just really being mindful , trying to be in the present moment , because most of us aren't , we're thinking about something from our past that happened . We all have patterns .

And just really being mindful , trying to be in the present moment , cause most of us aren't , we're thinking about something that from our past that happened , or we're worried about the future . So all of our like Eckhart Tolle would say , all of our power is now , it's in this moment . So , as as often as possible .

Um , instead of if you can't meditate for a long period of time maybe you're like me and you have a bit of a monkey brain and you're all over the place there's something called meditation supplements , where you could just be present while you're drinking your tea or coffee , just being present . It doesn't have to be so .

That's a great baby step , because you don't have to do this long drawn out meditations .

, I don't have an hour to work out , so I'm not going to do it at all . I will do that . Those small , little mini wins in my day at the end of the day when I'm brushing my teeth and it sounds corny , so just bear with me .

But I just look at myself in the mirror while I'm brushing my teeth and after I brush my teeth I just say I'm so proud of you , I'm so proud of you , and it's one of the last things I look at myself and say and I do feel like that has been helping my self-esteem it's those little , tiny , micro changes that I've been making that have transformed my entire

life .

We used to believe or psychology used to believe that we're just stuck with the . You know , our brain is just the way it is and you can't learn any . You know , you can't teach an old dog new tricks . But that's not true . We actually can completely rewire our brain , and that's what I did . Like , I changed my identity .

I am no longer that person who used to go and order red wine , you know , every time she went out to eat dinner or lunch , sometimes , you know , a mimosa or whatever . Yeah , I'm no longer that person . Like , I took it out of . It's not an option . It's no longer an option .

I changed my identity , um , in order , like Joe Dispenza Dr Joe Dispenza , he's a fabulous person to follow Um , he says you know , in order to change your personal reality , you need to change your personality . So you just need to do that . Um , it's , it's . You can't just keep doing the same old stuff and expecting different results .

What's that's the definition of crazy , right or insanity ? You got to make these changes and something that I want to talk about with law of attraction , because I don't want to forget to say it , because it tripped me up for so long . It's like the one thing I couldn't connect the dots on and it's so important because I'm sitting there .

I'm a law of attraction expert , right ? I've been studying this since 2006 , just like you . That's when the light bulb I was like oh yeah , this is what I've been trying to tell people . When I think this way and feel this way , this happens . I always noticed that my whole life . But then that movie put the name on it the secret , the law of attraction .

So I kept attracting things that I didn't want , and I'm going to talk specifically about relationships . I kept attracting men who you could call a narcissist , like very manipulative , controlling , and I used to be like but we attract what we are and I'm not manipulative , I'm not controlling .

And it used to bother me and I couldn't reconcile this , like how is this happening ? And I'm doing everything right , I'm keeping a high vibe . Well , that's when I learned from Greg Braden Greg with two Gs , greg Braden , another wonderful person .

We don't only attract what we are , we also attract what we judge , and I had a huge judgment of people who lied , people who cheated and manipulated . I judged the crap out of them and so that's why it kept showing up in my life . I also focused on it and anything this is law of attraction 101 , anything we focus on gets bigger , it grows , see it more .

And what am I doing ? I'm focusing on my ex or something , you know who , who was this way , and then I keep seeing this show show up in my life in different forms , different men , and I'm like but I know I'm not this way . So we don't only attract what we are . And there's six other mirrors he talks about , but judgment was the one that I could .

I didn't know about that . I was recreating the same pattern over in my life and what it is is , it's anything .

really unhealthy and I started looking within the same way that you and then I started almost panicking like am I ? Am I a narcissist ? And then I , like I just went sort of down this spiral and it is true because I did have a lot of judgment on people who were dishonest . Mike Dooley , who's one of my favorite new thought teachers .

He's also been on this podcast . He always says thoughts become things . So you're just throwing it out in the universe whether you want to complain about the same coworker every single day or your mother-in-law every single day . You're perpetuating the situation and I believe that stopping for me gossiping and stop .

I of course I still complain because I'm a human being and it just feels good sometimes , but yeah , but stopping myself and my one of my best friends , trish and I , we talk about law of attraction , manifestation . We have to stop each other from complaining when we get on the phone and I'll be like , nope , no , we're not doing this .

So even catching yourself doing those small little things and the judgment that you just talked about , the judgment , which was a huge thing for me too , stopping the judgment . Gabby Bernstein has the book Judgment Detox great book , by the way but I think that is a big part too of the law of attraction .

And creating the life of your dream is to be able to be in the now , in your own space , and to understand that we are all connected . We're all trying to do our best . Wait , I want to tell one quick story .

I was in a work situation many years ago that was really horrible , and every time I would walk into work , it was just this I was sad , I was hurt , I felt , um , that I wasn't . I felt disrespected and I was working with a coach at the time and she had told me to reframe it .

And , mary Beth , I swear it seems like magic , but I instead in the morning thought , okay , they're doing their best . They want the , you know the same sort of best product , just like I do .

We're all in this together and which sounds crazy , because this person , these people , these two people in particular , were still , I thought , going to be jerks , but they weren't . And I walked into work that day and sort of everything shifted .

So you do have the power to put in better thoughts , to create a better atmosphere , no matter how bad you think it is .

just , this is it's true , like a lot of times it is true , like that person did victimize you and they , you know , it's not like you're saying anything , that's not true . But so here's how you heal with , with , um , the toxic relationship . This is what worked for me . Um , I start to think of them , of someone who treated me poorly .

They were with compassion , okay , they were once a baby , they were a clean slate , you know , and something happened to them . And isn't it sad that they feel as though they have to lie and manipulate to earn your love ? Isn't it sad ? You know ?

you start to just , not in an egotistical way , like where you're like looking down on them , but just think about it with compassion because , yeah , because we , if somebody who's confident , for instance , isn't going to do that , they're not going to go out of their way to manipulate people , they're just , they're just going to be themselves and they're not going to

try to um , lie and cheat and steal there's , there's definitely something that happened to these people that they're , they're , they're acting in that way . So I think it's just really important to get to that place of compassion . Compassion so then then you can get to nonjudgment .

It's , it's and it's a journey , and then you're going to find yourself judging again and you just don't be mad at yourself , just catch yourself and and analyze things and witness . You know , we had an earlier conversation we were talking about . Neither one of us are positive vibes only people . You need to feel your feelings .

That's another important thing to anyone listening . Feel your feelings . We're not saying only think positive thoughts all the time . Use your thoughts as indicators , use your thoughts as guidance . That's your emotional guidance system .

And Abraham Hicks has a little story that they tell of where you know , just like if you're driving your car and you're running low on gas , you see it's almost on E . You don't just put a happy face sticker over it . You want to know you're on E and that's what our emotions are doing for us .

They're letting us know hey , there's something that you need to shift here , there's something that you need to do , there's an action you need to take , and the baby steps would be okay . Well , I'm feeling very anxious or fearful about something , and you don't expect to jump straight up to joy . But there's always going to be a better feeling thought .

There's always going to be something that you could feel better than you do right now . And then there's things you could do , like go take a walk , like you said earlier , get out in nature If you have animals , go pet your cat , go pet your play with your dog .

It could be just listening to positive messaging , getting on YouTube and just finding all of this free information , people who are already where you want to be , let them be your role model . That's what I hope that I am to people a role model for someone .

Hey , if I can do it with my high addictive personality , highly addictive personality , literally anyone can do it . You know , being a role model , that is what I hope to be to people most .

Also , for anyone listening , like you and I , we both said we've been really studying this for so many years , healing is not linear and I still have

a roller coaster . I still need to be reminded . And just like working out , you don't work out once and build muscle and then you're done . It's like you constantly have to do that . So , podcast , meditation , youtube , it's daily work and it's fun . It doesn't have to inundate your entire life , um , but it's just about the baby steps . Thank you so much .

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