If you have ever been in a relationship, where your partner was gaslighting you, you know just how frustrating and horrible it is to be made to feel like you are crazy and you are the problem all the time. But this is a common technique among abusers and manipulators and red flag individuals. They want you to admit that you are the only one with a problem and that it’s always your fault in someway. Gaslighter’s will never take accountability or responsibility for any fault or error. Join us this...
Oct 24, 2023•22 min•Season 5Ep. 11
This one is obvious, or is it? Is addiction a red flag you should run from or work through? Listen in to find out.
Oct 15, 2023•11 min•Season 5Ep. 10
Anger management is a real thing. In this episode, we talk about the emphasis on the management part of anger management. Everyone gets angry, but it’s how we manage and control and utilize that anger that makes it a red flag or not. Tune in to learn more.
Oct 01, 2023•18 min•Season 5Ep. 9
Dater beware: Narcissists are toxic, abusive, and do not care about others who do not benefit them. We want to help you avoid this flag at all costs. If you’d like to take the quiz featured in this episode, click the link below. https://openpsychometrics.org/tests/NPI/1.php
Sep 17, 2023•35 min•Season 5Ep. 8
Have you ever gone shopping for a car? Or any major purchase? Do you know how the salesman will always tell you that you have to act fast or you will lose out on the deal. That is what the blitz flag is all about. It’s all about getting you into a committed relationship as fast as possible so that leverage can be used against you. Join us in this weeks episode to learn more about how do identify and avoid this type of person.
Sep 13, 2023•16 min•Season 5Ep. 7
Before any sort of physical contact with romantic intentions starts with a dating interest begins, know your line, don’t allow that line to be crossed. And if your date bases the worth of your relationship on what you’ll give them physically, they are toxic and a Red Flag individual who you should avoid at all costs.
Aug 31, 2023•18 min•Season 5Ep. 6
A person who is always the victim and only sees the world as stacked against them and blames everyone else for their failures, is a toxic and dangerous person to be with. They are poison to the soul and will never be satisfied with their life and will not allow you to be satisfied with yours.
Aug 29, 2023•14 min•Season 5Ep. 5
Everyone is human, and everyone makes mistakes. One of the most important attributes we need to look for another’s, and demonstrate within ourselves as the ability to allow grace and forgiveness for others. When we are with someone that puts another person in a box of all they do is bad or all they do is wrong just because of one mistake is a huge red flag. Have any experiences like this? Reach out to us through email @recover u2@gmail.com or through our Instagram @ recoveringyou.podcast
Aug 24, 2023•13 min•Season 5Ep. 4
It’s important for you to understand what makes you laugh and feel free and happy, and what makes you feel embarrassed or vulnerable or exposed or humiliated. And the beginning stages of starting today is the best time to communicate these things as the situation’s arise. You never need to feel bad about being made to feel bad.
Aug 20, 2023•10 min•Season 5Ep. 3
We have been given emotions to help us navigate through life to help us discern where there might be danger, where we feel most connected, where we feel most safe, where we need to protect ourselves or others. For some reason, so many people think that they need to give their emotions over to the person. They are in a relationship with as a sign of trust, or Love. At no point should we ever allow someone else to be in charge of our emotions. This is a common tactic for control and abuse and need...
Aug 17, 2023•11 min•Season 4Ep. 11
Whenever we meet someone we are interested in, we put on our best face. We say, and do, and dress, and act, and smell, exactly how we think will attract that other person. Which is totally normal…Until it’s not.
Aug 13, 2023•16 min•Season 5Ep. 1
A healthy physically intimate life with your partner is a product of successfully implementing and practicing all the other intimacies in the pyramid. When we can communicate and share our ideas and dreams and align our future desires, and spiritually and psychologically connect with one another, the physical part of the relationship is enhanced that much more. And it’s about so much more than sex, though when you are so deeply connected through the other intimacies, the sex is pretty awesome! I...
Jun 03, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Season 4Ep. 9
We step into Psychological and Spritual Intimacy. This is where we begin to join together in our thoughts, our dreams, and with God. It’s no longer just about us and what we think. It’s about making changes to ourselves to align with each other and to meet the expectations of God within the bonds of marriage.
May 24, 2023•43 min•Season 4Ep. 8
Intimacy is so much more than a honeymoon night, or heated moments of passion. It’s an aspect of relationships to be worked on, cared for, practiced and developed just like anything else we are passionate about. We discuss how it’s more like a pyramid, with the foundation being Verbal intimacy, then Cognitive Intimacy, and then Emotional Intimacy. The other three top parts of the pyramid will be discussed in future episodes. So if you’re looking for a way to have a healthy and beautifully intima...
May 16, 2023•59 min•Season 4Ep. 6
There is a lot of work that goes into being an effective spouse. It’s about adaptation, the ability to change, the recognition and willingness to show up for the other persons needs without being asked. It’s all about clear, communication and a productive responses. This episode is all about how to be effective in the way, you treat your spouse. Join us and unlock the secrets to a perfect marriage… Just kidding. But there is a ton of information in here that will be useful and valuable.
May 07, 2023•33 min•Season 4Ep. 6
There is a big difference between taking a step back and stepping away. As we begin to grow older and learn more and more what our values are, we will find ourselves drawn to certain principles, people, careers, relationships, and pathways of life. And we will find ourselves, pulling away from others. It is our responsibility to evaluate Each of those things and determine what our core values are and why it’s important that we stay true to those values. In order to do this, most effectively, we ...
Apr 30, 2023•38 min•Season 4Ep. 5
It might seem pretty obvious to think about the difference between supporting someone’s recovery from addiction, and being the one who is actually enabling and allowing them to continue in their addictions or poor behaviors. But there is one thing that blurs the lines between these two concepts. And that is love. When we care about people, we don’t want to hurt their feelings and we don’t want to make life more difficult for them so we cater to their needs and coddle them and ultimately we becom...
Apr 16, 2023•42 min•Season 4Ep. 4
In this episode, we take a look at how both Katie and I built our support teams around us. How to weed out the toxic, emotional and unhelpful individuals vs the knowledgeable, non-judge mental and supportive friends. We talk about what the difference is between having someone’s support, and depending on them to get us through. We also lay out the groundwork for how to become the best support for those who are struggling with their own demons and traumas. This is an awesome episode. Like it, shar...
Apr 09, 2023•45 min•Season 4Ep. 3
In this episode we talk about ways to be present and engaged with our spouses, our children, and ourselves. By doing so we allow connection and environments of trust and safety to flourish. Moral of the story…hugs can fix almost anything! Come listen to how that is, and then some. Email us: recoveryou2@gmail.com and share this with just one other person or on your social media and it might make a huge difference. You’ll never know till you do.
Apr 02, 2023•43 min•Season 4Ep. 2
My new cohost and wonderful wife, Katie Harrison shares some of her journey of how she dealt with her world being shattered by her husband, addicted to pornography and his infidelity. Then What it took in order to piece her world back together little by little and where her priorities needed to start. This incredible story lays out such a perfect and clear map of what the process might look like when working through addiction and betrayal, trauma in marriage. We also discuss and implement utiliz...
Mar 26, 2023•56 min•Season 4Ep. 1
My very special and very attractive co-host, AKA My wife Katie joins me to talk about the season. Yes, the season of joy and love, well, maybe not so much for some. The Holidays are hard for a lot of people. And that's ok. You don't need to feel guilty about that. and if that's something you are wanting to change, well we hope that this episode will help you figure out how to better deal with the Holiday depression, comparisons, anxieties, and family contentions that inevitably arise, so that yo...
Dec 11, 2022•32 min•Season 3Ep. 15
Today I am joined by Seth Bowman who talks to us about why its so important to understand our stories. The good and the bad. It all has created who we are. We also talk about why its so important to communicate our thoughts and struggles in order to be heard and understood. If you have questions or would like to talk to myself or Seth you can reach out to us by email: recoveryou2@gmail.com.
Dec 04, 2022•59 min•Season 3Ep. 14
I almost quit, till I remembered everything I’m fighting for, and everything I’ve been through. Because I have planted such deep roots into my recovery, even when the storms blow and try to rip me out of my place of peace and control, I stand firm and immovable. I will not quit, and you won’t either. We are in this together. Let’s Go!!! Remember to hit that five star review, subscribe, and if you would like to reach out or leave a comment, or share your story on the podcast, hit me up at: recove...
Nov 27, 2022•48 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Author of "Just Don't Die" and Public Speaker, Sam Anthony Lucania Joins Me to talk about the events in his life that led him to a place beyond his worst fears and how even that wasn’t enough to keep him from his addictions, out of jail, or from nearly dying. Now he’s a professional speaker, an author, and most importantly, a dedicated husband, father, and advocate of Christ. You don’t wanna miss this one. Please reach out with any questions to my email: recoveryou2@gmail.com
Nov 13, 2022•1 hr 16 min•Season 3Ep. 12
Luke Gordon, founder of “Choose Recovery”, and LCS affiliate joins us to talk about his journey through multiple rock-bottom‘s and going to places of darkness he never thought possible. Then, taking us through the Evolutionaries changes that needed to take place in his life over multiple years, learning how to be honest, even knowing that the consequences could mean the end of everything he held dear. Luke story is one that truly shows that we cannot go beyond the reach of the atonement of our S...
Nov 06, 2022•45 min•Season 3Ep. 11
This week we are joined by Dr. Brock Johansen who dives into the dangers of conforming to the norms of societal pressures, lifetime medications, and religous/familial expectations. How do we discern truth amidst so much information? Who do we blame for our current situation? Where do we turn for lasting recovery and healing? And where does grace come in to play? We also take advantage of Brock’s in-depth knowledge of how to get off of medications by resolving the root issues through science and ...
Oct 30, 2022•1 hr 17 min•Season 3Ep. 10
To find love and lose it, to start a life together and have it torn away, to raise a child who suddenly loses their life, to get that phone call that changes everything, to think that you had more time, only to have it stripped away by illness, tragedy, or any other means, is one of the most difficult and profound trials a person can go through. Today I am blessed to be joined by Joy Harris, who, at young age found love, and while she always knew her boyfriend had a risk of a shorter life with t...
Oct 23, 2022•57 min•Season 3Ep. 9
You wouldn’t typically think that bringing a child into this world would be something that would cause you to lose a part of yourself. But it is one of the most common things for a woman to experience. Struggling through postpartum depression affects a huge percentage of women every single year. And the symptoms can be absolutely devastating and even dangerous. I was lucky enough to be joined this week by two amazing women (Kyra and Danica), who spoke about their struggles and fights that they w...
Oct 16, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Season 3Ep. 8
It’s every parents worst fear. To have your child come to you and tell you that someone who they thought was their friend, has been forcing them to do things for them, and to them, all in the name of loyalty and friendship. That kind of trauma leaves some serious scars, and if not dealt with pave the way for addiction and acting out. Anything to numb the pain of the past. Well, that’s exactly what happened with Nate. But he did not sit and stay in victim mode. He fought through his trauma, he sa...
Oct 09, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 3Ep. 7
What is generational toxicity? What have we carried down from our parents and them from their parents, that is toxic and harmful? How do we change all that? Im joined by fellow warrior Rich, as we discuss these questions and breach the difficult solution to these questions. A special thank you to all of those who responded on social media and helped in expanding the research into such an important topic. Member, if you would like to reach out to us or participate in anyway, please don’t hesitate...
Oct 02, 2022•56 min•Season 3Ep. 6
