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Jun 26, 2023•1 min•Ep. 155
Recovering From Reality
Hosted by mental health advocate and former reality television star Alexis Haines, Recovering from Reality illuminates the messy and magical path of coming home to yourself. Whether you’re on the road to recovery, seeking self-care techniques for surviving the capitalist machine, or just need a moment to remember that you’re not alone in your loneliness, we’re serving up the ultimate truth: your trauma doesn’t define you - your decision to deal with it does.
Razor sharp, modern, and culturally resonant, Alexis delivers intimate conversations and expert insights to empower you on the road to authentic wellness. Are you ready to recover from reality?
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Ep. 153 Reflections + Gratitude for Recovering From Reality
In this week’s mini episode, I wanted to give you an update on the upcoming tell-all episodes with my Mom and sister, express my appreciation for each and everyone of you, reflect on the past 3 years of Recovering From Reality, and say one last goodbye! If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com Follow Alexis ( @itsalexishaines ), join our Facebook group , and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also ...
Aug 01, 2022•5 min•Ep. 154
Ep. 152 AMA with Serena F*cking Kerrigan on Dating App Prompts, Perfecting Banter, and Making Yourself Unavailable
Today’s episode is icon, influencer, and confidence queen Serena Fucking Kerrigan — otherwise known as SFK. After graduating from Duke University, Serena was hired as a producer at Refinery29. In February 2020, she quit her job to launch her own company that would empower women to live their lives unapologetically and authentically. Since then, she has hosted the first ever Instagram Live reality show, Let’s Fucking Date, launched a hugely successful line of card games, and amassed a huge follow...
Jul 18, 2022•50 min•Ep. 153
Ep. 151 Bekah Martinez on Becoming Pro-Choice, Politics + Parenting, and Performative Activism
In this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Bekah Martinez —cohost of Chatty Broads and founder of Good Alma ! We discuss performative activism in the influencer community, where we go now post-Roe society, how growing up in a Conservative Christina home has impacted Bekah’s political views today, politics and parenting, the adoption process, childhood resilience, how you’re helping to heal net suffering, setting boundaries on the internet, and so much more! If you or someone you know needs a...
Jul 11, 2022•57 min•Ep. 152
Ep. 150 My Last Solo Episode
This week’s episode is my last solo episode on the podcast. I’m choosing to listen to the signals my body is sending me and take a step back and slow down. In this episode, I dive into the Roe v. Wade reversal, the trauma of Covid, and answer your questions about what I wish I saw in the wellness community, my favorite workouts, getting in the mood when you’re not feeling it, my boyfriend, summer plans, if I regretted opening my marriage, letting go of relationships, and what’s to come in the ne...
Jul 04, 2022•40 min•Ep. 151
PRIDE HIGHLIGHT: Ep. 62 Becoming the Messenger That You’ve Been Waiting For with Ashlee Marie Preston
This week, I had a profound conversation with activist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is a proud black, transgender woman who is constantly advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and those who are struggling. She is now 8 years sober, and has the humility and kindness to share her story of recovery from childhood abuse, meth, prostitution and homelessness with us. Ashlee is now the messenger she has been waiting for her entire life, and I believe she is a messenger for all of us too. Ashlee grew up unsure of...
Jun 27, 2022•1 hr 35 min•Ep. 150
Ep. 149 Embracing Parenting and Postpartum as a Season of Change with Brandi Jordan
Today’s guest is Brandi Jordan! Brandi has been helping new families grow, adjust, and find balance for almost two decades. She is a Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Pediatric Sleep Specialist, Newborn Care Specialist and a Postpartum Doula. (bio via thecradlecompany.com ) She’s also the host of the Dear Doula podcast on the Dear Media network! In this episode, we discuss how Brandi became a Doula, the importance of the postpartum period, the cultural differences of parenting between France...
Jun 20, 2022•31 min•Ep. 149
Ep. 148 Caroline Stanbury on Being a Single & Working Mother, Reality TV Misconceptions, and Navigating a Public Divorce
Today’s guest is Caroline Stanbury —host of Divorced Not Dead and cast member of the brand new Real Housewives of Dubai.We dive into our experiences on reality tv, common misconceptions about being a reality star, being a single and working mother, building the life of your dreams, and going through a public divorce. Our lovely sponsor this week is: Coterie Diapers and Wipes: Right now, Coterie is partnering with my podcast to offer you 20% off your first order plus free shipping at Coterie.com/...
Jun 13, 2022•39 min•Ep. 148
Ep. 147 Happy Fucking Pride with Jeff Epstein
Happy Pride Month! In this week’s episode I am sitting down with one of my closest friends—Jeff Epstein. We dive into my unhinged 30th birthday in Vegas, Grindr vs. lesbian Tinder, what pride means to us, Jeff’s coming out story, queer terminology, why you shouldn’t go to your family to vent about your partner, our thoughts on AA, first times, one-night stands, and so much more! Jeff’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsjeffepstein/ Our lovely sponsors this week are: Upstart is the fast and...
Jun 06, 2022•59 min•Ep. 147
Ep. 146 Navigating Divorce and Co-Parenting with Attorney Nicole Sodoma
In this week’s episode I am sitting down with Nicole Sodoma —a Marriage-loving Divorce Attorney and Author. We discuss our shared backgrounds of growing up in divorced households, the importance of dual devotion in a partnership, what you should know about prenups, why you shouldn’t say “I’m sorry” when someone tells you they’re divorced, explaining divorce to kids, and so much more. Shop Nicoles’ book: https://nicolesodoma.com/ Our lovely sponsors this week are: Your new favorite shoes are wait...
May 30, 2022•46 min•Ep. 146
Ep. 145 Planned Parenthood’s Dr. Meera Shah on the Rode v. Wade Reversal, Reproductive Rights, and Action Steps to Take
In this week’s episode I am sitting down with Planned Parenthood’s Dr. Meera Shah —a board certified family medicine physician specializing in sexual and reproductive healthcare for all genders. Dr. Shah is the chief medical officer of Planned Parenthood Hudson Peconic in New York and the medical director of Whole Women’s Health Alliance in South Bend, Indiana where she flies monthly to perform abortion care . In this necessary and timely discussion, we discuss the importance of non politicized ...
May 23, 2022•44 min•Ep. 145
Ep. 144 Parenting a Special Needs Child While in Recovery with Ashley Montano
In this week’s episode I am joined by my good friend Ashley Montano . Ashley has two special needs children and as you know, we’ve been on a journey of getting Dakota a diagnosis and professional support. We talk our experiences raising special needs children while sober, our opinions on ABA, navigating daily schedules, the pressure co-parenting can add, the support systems we utilize, financial stress of proper medical care, the importance of community, and the lessons our kids have taught us. ...
May 16, 2022•1 hr•Ep. 144
Ep. 143 Unpacking Aging, Femininity, and Movement with Dr. Amanda Hanson
In this week’s episode I am joined by Dr. Amanda Hanson —a clinical psychologist and coach working to reimagine Midlife & reclaim the glory of being women. We discuss the benefits of movement, the societal narrative surrounding aging, Amanda’s choice to age naturally, how our lifestyles are impacting the aging process, the intersection of gender norms and aging, and so much more! Oil mentioned: https://woodenspoonherbs.com/products/breast-oil Our lovely sponsors this week are: Get 35% off wi...
May 09, 2022•46 min•Ep. 143
Ep. 142 Q+A: Your May Reading, My New Relationship, and Working Through Abandonment
In this month’s solo episode we begin with an oracle card reading (answered prayers and divine guidance lie ahead), I address the new man in my life, this new season of monogamy, how to regulate your nervous system, the importance of breath work, and how I’ve been working through abandonment wounds. Our lovely sponsors this week are: Get 35% off with code REALITY when you shop Cozy Earth’s high-quality goods, sustainably sourced luxury bedding, and loungewear! Your new favorite shoes are waiting...
May 02, 2022•44 min•Ep. 142
Ep. 141 Empowering ourselves with knowledge about our reproductive health with Dr.Ghadir
In this week's episode I am sitting down with Dr. Ghadir from the Fertile Life Podcast. As a founding partner of Southern California Reproductive Center, Dr. Ghadir is board-certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. He is currently an assistant clinical professor in the department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and at the Keck School of Medicine at USC. We are sitting down today to talk about reproduct...
Apr 25, 2022•49 min•Ep. 141
Ep. 140 Rachel Slawson on being the first openly LGBTQ Miss USA
In this week's episode I am joined by my friend Rachel Slawson. Rachel was the first openly queer Miss USA representing Utah. She joins me on the podcast today to talk about her mental health journey, what it was like growing up in the Mormon church and coming out as Bi while competing for Miss USA. Rachel is also in an open relationship so we dive into their specific dynamic and explore our differences in polyamorous relationships. Our lovely sponsors this week are: Click here https://bit.ly/ch...
Apr 18, 2022•43 min•Ep. 140
Ep. 139 Understanding our different parts using Internal Family Systems with my mom, Andrea Arlington
In this week's episode I am joined by my mom, Andrea! We are discussing a new healing modality that we have both been using to heal our inner children, called Internal Family Systems (IFS). Do you ever wonder why you can’t get the voices in your head to stop repeating the same things to you over and over? Us too! Using IFS we have been able to identify what those inner voices are trying to teach us and how to start speaking to our inner wounded being so we can finally heal them. This work is tru...
Apr 11, 2022•51 min•Ep. 139
Ep. 138 An Update on My Marriage
In the last episode I briefly opened up about the struggles that I was facing in my marriage. At the time I wasn't ready to disclose the details about what had transpired or how Evan and I would be moving forward. As always, I feel that it is necessary for me to live authentically and vulnerably, even if it comes with an immense amount of temporary discomfort. I ask that before you listen to this episode you go into it with an open heart and mind. As always, I am sending you all so much love and...
Apr 04, 2022•42 min•Ep. 138
Ep. 137 Turning our adversities into our advantages with Doug Bopst
In this week's episode I am joined by my friend, and fellow podcast host Doug Bopst. I celebrated my 11 years in recovery on March 8th and I thought that doing an episode on recovery was only fitting. This episode will leave you feeling inspired even if you don't deal with substance issues as Doug's story is about so much more than addiction. We talk about the importance of human connection, how childhood trauma effects out psychy's, and answer the age old question, "is weed really a "gateway" d...
Mar 21, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 137
Ep. 136 Using manifestation for the greater good with Gabby Bernstein
In this week's episode I am joined by NY Times best selling Author Gabrielle Bernstein. While yes, we are discussing manifestation, we are taking a deeper dive into the bigger systemic issues in the wellness and self help community. I asked her the tough questions like, "Is manifesting under capitalism sustainable?" and "Is there a correlation between the wellness community and conspiracy theorists?" We also discuss the connection between trauma and limiting belief systems and how they block our...
Mar 14, 2022•49 min•Ep. 136
Ep. 135 March Q&A
This week I am doing a solo Q&A on spirituality and manifestation. As we go into March I want to support you all on your path towards reclaiming your power and healing your limiting belief systems. We are talking about clearing out limiting belief systems, healing generational trauma to set us free from subconscious patterns, manifestation tools, and an update on my marriage. If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com Follow Alexis ( @itsalexishaine...
Mar 07, 2022•49 min•Ep. 135
Ep. 134 What's blocking you from love? with Liz Marz
This week I am sitting down with Liz Marz who is a relationship coach. I was introduced to Liz through our mutual friend Angel, who has joined me on the pod a few times. In this episode we are taking a deep dive into the topic of how to cultivate healthy love in your life and looking at the blocks that might be in place that are keeping you stuck. If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com Follow Alexis ( @itsalexishaines ), join our Facebook group , an...
Feb 28, 2022•39 min•Ep. 134
Ep. 133 Your Worst Date Stories feat. Ali Kolbert
This week I am sitting down with Ali Kolbert (my lesbian wing-woman) for the second half of our swap—listen to me on Ali’s show here . We dive into Ali’s relationship advice, your disastrous dating stories, and discuss everything from titty pics to dating app lines. Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com . Head to pillclub.com/reality to get your first birth control care package and donate to help more women in n...
Feb 21, 2022•57 min•Ep. 133
Ep. 132 Sofia Franklyn on Public Scandals, Attachment Issues, Healing, and Manifestations
Today I am sitting down with Sofia Franklyn—one of my most requested guests of all time! Sofia and I discuss everything in this interview including childhood traumas, experiencing a public scandal, growing up with a single mom, abandonment issues, how she healed, current manifestations, and what’s next on her journey. Sofia with an F: https://sofiafranklyn.com/pages/sofia-with-an-f-podcast Sofia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sofiafranklyn Your body, your OUAI! Go to theouai.com and use ...
Feb 14, 2022•48 min•Ep. 132
Ep. 131 Manifesting Your Perfect Partner, Dating Conversation Starters, Navigating Ghosting
It’s February! This month we are talking all things love and relationships. In this solo, I discuss my recent miscarriage and the work that’s brought up, marriage and lifelong relationships, my thoughts on love languages and attachment styles, ghosting, the importance of dating yourself, and manifesting your perfect partner. Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout. Find your new skincare favorites at oseamal...
Feb 07, 2022•46 min•Ep. 131
Ep. 130 Deconstructing Polyamory, Jealousy, and Cheating with Morgan, Creator of Chillpolyamory
In today's episode, I am joined by Morgan —a Queer Polyamory Mentor and the creator of Chillpolyamory . She’s been consensually non-monogamous since 2012, and coaching others on their journeys since 2018. We discuss the western narrative surrounding monogamy, exploring polyamory, the negative connotations of jealousy, how Evan and I’s communication has improved since opening our relationship, cheating in polyamory relationships, hierarchal constructions of monogamous relationships, and more! Ghi...
Jan 31, 2022•55 min•Ep. 130
Ep. 129 Creating Authentic Friendships in Adulthood with Danielle Bayard Jackson
In today's episode, I am joined by Danielle Bayard Jackson a certified friendship coach, PR agency owner, licensed educator, and author. We discuss how lacking friendship education is, making friends in adulthood, losing friends as you grow, how friendships are a need not a want, and working to move past friendship break-ups in a healthy way. Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout. For up to 16 FREE meals a...
Jan 24, 2022•49 min•Ep. 129
Ep. 128 Supporting Addicts with Connection Not Control with Tarah Dowling
In today's episode, I am joined by Tarah Dowling a model, daughter of an addict, former foster child, and creator of the documentary To the Moon and Back . We discuss Tarah’s journey experience during her mom’s active addiction, her time in foster care, how their relationship evolved as showcased in the documentary, and using a compassionate approach to navigating addiction. If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com Follow Alexis ( @itsalexishaines ), ...
Jan 17, 2022•45 min•Ep. 128
Ep. 127 Johann Hari on Reclaiming Your Stolen Focus
Johann Hari —bestselling author Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections —joins me on RFR for the second time to discuss his new book, Stolen Focus . In this phenomenal episode, we discuss the environmental shifts that have caused focus to deteriorate, how to improve your attention, and inspiring collective change. Shop Stolen Focus : https://stolenfocusbook.com/buy-the-book/ Johann’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johann.hari/ Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a pe...
Jan 10, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 127
Ep. 126 Doja Cat, the Devine Feminine, and Radical Acceptance
In this month’s solo episode I answer your questions about babysitting Doja Cat, sex kinks, identity development, my wedding day, new tattoos, navigating tough days, and using routine to maintain your mood. Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Ep. 120 Pecan Pies, Panties, and Parenting with my Mom, Andrea Arlington - Ep. 121 Asexuality, Kinks, and Sensuality with Ev’Yan Whitney Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com . If you or someone...
Jan 03, 2022•43 min•Ep. 126
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