Hormones are those sneaky, hidden chemicals that can wreak havoc on our bodies . . . and on our relationships. Our guest, Becky Yawn, is helping us understand why it's important that women, especially, understand how certain hormones affect our mood and communication. What if the conflict you're facing in your marriage is more than meets the eye? What if the internal changes in your hormones are partly to blame? Join us for this fun and informative conversation with Bekah, a fertility coach and ...
May 14, 2024•32 min•Season 13Ep. 241
Carrying secrets in marriage can cause you to live in fear and disconnection. A listener asks if she should come clean about some shady behavior when she and her husband were on bad terms. The weight of carrying this secret is weighing her down. What should you do if you're keeping a secret in your marriage or relationship? Should everything be brought to the light or are some things better off hidden? We're discussing this question and asking what the Bible says (if anything) about secrets in r...
May 10, 2024•10 min•Season 13Ep. 240
All is not lost after an affair. You and your marriage can become more resilient and stronger from what could’ve destroyed you. Shame says, “You are damaged. You are bad.” But that is not true. You can truly rise above shame and have hope even after an affair. Shaun is back on the podcast today, and we’re discussing what we learned from our affairs. This conversation will help all who have been affected by the impact of infidelity in your relationship and will help you believe the journey toward...
May 07, 2024•33 min•Season 13Ep. 239
Today's marriage advice is for a listener struggling with the feeling of complacency and stagnation in a long-term marriage. Here's the question she asked: I really need good sound advice I've been with my husband for 25 yrs & I find myself thinking of a different life. Everything is the same ole same ole. Money is always tight. We work, come home, connected with our phones (more than each other). I am not sure if I can take another 25 yrs of this. He feels the marriage is fine, so clearly i...
May 03, 2024•11 min•Season 13Ep. 238
Let's talk about what it takes to heal and rebuild trust after the devastating impact of infidelity. In this episode, we break down the critical steps for both the cheating spouse and the wounded spouse. You may be familiar with the main themes in this episode like the importance of open and honest communication and a no-contact rule. Other factors that fly under the radar, however, like what good boundaries are and initiated accountability aren't always so obvious, though equally essential. The...
Apr 30, 2024•31 min•Season 13Ep. 237
If your spouse has had multiple affairs, it can be hard to believe they have truly repented. When is enough enough? This was the question from a listener named Greg: Dana, I am so thankful you are doing the series on affairs. As a man, it’s really hard to admit that my wife does not find me desirable. She has found love in the arms of another. The problem is she keeps saying that she’s sorry. I found out a few months ago that she is involved in yet another of these situations. I’m sure you can u...
Apr 26, 2024•9 min•Season 13Ep. 236
We're getting real about navigating through the mess of shame and blame in the aftermath of infidelity. It's a deep, emotional rollercoaster of an episode but so needed. So, buckle up, because it's about to get raw and honest. First off, it’s important to note that while either or both spouses may feel blame; shame is never productive. There is a stark difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says “I did something bad.” Shame says, “I am someone bad.” This episode is for any person who has ever...
Apr 23, 2024•28 min•Season 13Ep. 235
Today's question comes from one of my Instagram followers who wants some suggestions on how to get in the mood for sex. Low libido or lack of sexual desire is a very common issue. Here's the question: I have a question about intimacy. I have a hard time getting in the mood for sex. This has been a recurring issue for me. I just don’t think I’ve ever had a high sex drive. But I want him to be happy. I know it’s important to him. I’ve listened to some of your podcast episodes in the shameless sex ...
Apr 19, 2024•10 min•Season 13Ep. 234
As you deal with the shock of discovering your spouse’s infidelity, it can feel like a collision with a semi-truck, leaving you paralyzed, numb, and drowning in a sea of emotions. You have been traumatized. Your initial response to such devastating news can be paralyzing, leaving you grappling with disbelief, pain, and confusion. It’s a sensitive yet profoundly significant topic – navigating the aftermath of discovering a partner’s infidelity. Let’s unravel the emotional journey, practical steps...
Apr 16, 2024•26 min•Season 13Ep. 233
We're addressing a listener's question about having no feelings for her husband anymore. She still has some desire to rebuild her marriage despite feeling empty and detached. If you've ever felt similarly about your spouse, you, too, will benefit from what I share. I explain how to "reignite" the loving feelings for your spouse with three responses: feelings, forgiveness, and faith. The fact is that feelings are not final, and they are fickle. They are precious but not the priority. Instead of b...
Apr 12, 2024•13 min•Season 13Ep. 232
A staggering 40% of marriages will experience Infidelity at some point, Inevitably, infidelity leaves clues. Here are 10 warning signs plus 12 bonus digital red flags to be aware of that a spouse might be having an affair in person or online. It’s a hard topic to discuss, but I want you to be aware of these potential adultery indicators that may need to be addressed sooner than later. The purpose of this podcast is not to make you paranoid or suspicious of your spouse but to shed light on any de...
Apr 09, 2024•31 min•Season 13Ep. 231
Learning your spouse is having an affair is devastating. One of our listeners wants to know if she should confront the other woman her husband was unfaithful with. This is an honest and vulnerable question that many betrayed spouses have when they are trying to make sense of the infidelity. I am sharing my best relationship advice with this listener and hope that you, too, will find answers should you find yourself in this unfortunate situation. Have a marriage or relationship question you want ...
Apr 05, 2024•11 min•Season 13Ep. 230
We're starting a new series on how to rebuild your marriage after an affair. My hubby, Shaun, and I are telling our story of what caused us to be unfaithful in our marriage, what we learned, and what safety nets we've put in place to keep another affair from happening. Christian couples are not immune to adultery, unfortunately. Most marriages have little to no boundaries, so it's no wonder couples find themselves cheating on their spouses against their good intentions. This conversation is as r...
Apr 02, 2024•33 min•Season 13Ep. 229
As we grow older, our desires often change. One of our listeners has changed her mind about having kids and wants to know how to tell her husband. This conversation is coming up more and more, especially with younger couples. It's one thing to decide not to have kids before getting married, but often, something changes when you see someone else's cute baby or realize your biological clock is ticking quickly. Listen as I share my perspective on how to have a conversation with your spouse if your ...
Mar 29, 2024•9 min•Season 13Ep. 228
Welcome to the all-new "Rebuilding Us Marriage Podcast, formerly known as Real Relationship Talk. I'm your host, Dana Che, marriage coach, and your guide on this journey to rediscovering the beauty and strength of your marriage. In a world where relationships are easily broken and discarded, this podcast is your lighthouse. All is not lost. Join us as we explore the stories of couples who have overcome all kinds of adversity, reignited their love, and rebuilt their marriages from the ground up. ...
Mar 27, 2024•3 min
I am thrilled to share some incredibly exciting news with you. The podcast is undergoing a major rebranding to better serve our listeners and community. I am happy to introduce you to the all-new Rebuilding Us podcast! This decision came after lots of prayer, input, thoughts, more prayer, more thoughts . . . it was a process . There is significance in the naming of something. Real Relationship Talk served us well, and now, we're hitting full throttle with Rebuilding Us. As I reflect on the chall...
Mar 26, 2024•30 min•Season 12Ep. 227
We're bringing back one of your favorite conversations about conflict . . . specifically how to stop avoiding it and how to communicate confidently instead. In this encore episode, we're discussing why we avoid conflict and how our different upbringings play into this dilemma. Many people confuse peacemaking with avoiding conflict. I dispell this myth and so much more, helping you to finally step up, speak up and be heard in your relationships. Plus I'm sharing five affirmations you can say ever...
Mar 22, 2024•36 min•Season 12Ep. 226
My hubby, Shaun, is back! We're engaging in a candid conversation about the fundamental needs of both men and women in marriage, shedding light on respect, security, and leadership within relationships. Sharing some of our personal stories and insights that can help couples foster a deeper understanding of each other's needs and strengthen their bond is what we're after. Men can learn what women truly mean when they say they need security (it's not always what you think). Women can learn how to ...
Mar 19, 2024•28 min•Season 12Ep. 225
Today's episode is an oldie but goodie . . . one of your faves: relationship baggage. In this encore episode, I'm bringing us back to the conversation about relationship baggage and the toll its weight takes on our marriages and relationships. This episode previously aired in August 2023, but it's well worth a sweet repeat. We're talking about five types of relationship baggage, how emotional baggage shows up in our relationships, and how to release the baggage so our new and/or current relation...
Mar 15, 2024•32 min•Season 12Ep. 224
Are you ready to have an awesome marriage? Transform your marriage into a flourishing and connected union by practicing these four secrets to cultivating an awesomely attentive marriage. Today, we're exploring key takeaways and four actionable tips for infusing your relationship with attentiveness, support, and joy. Having an awesome marriage takes work, but it’s good work. Great marriages don’t happen by chance; they happen by choice. The four secrets to cultivating a strong, loving, connected ...
Mar 12, 2024•27 min•Season 12Ep. 223
In this farewell Faith Talks episode, we are discussing our goal to hear "well done" from God for stewarding well what He entrusted us with when we reach the end of our life’s journey. A well-known parable in scripture, found in Matthew chapter 25 emphasizes the significance of stewarding our time, talents, and resources well. The parable centers on a master who entrusts different amounts of responsibility to his servants before embarking on a journey. Upon his return, he evaluates their steward...
Mar 08, 2024•9 min•Season 12Ep. 222
In this episode, we're discussing what it means to be "aptly available" in a marriage. I outline five keys that can help take a marriage to the next level for couples already present and engaged in their relationships. I emphasize the importance of intentionality, curiosity, vocalizing appreciation, time-blocking, and praying together. Plus, I'm sharing some personal anecdotes and practical advice to help couples strengthen their connection and move from being just available to being "awesomely ...
Mar 05, 2024•28 min•Season 12Ep. 221
Have you ever wondered why it feels like God sometimes ignores our prayers? We just can’t wrap our heads around God's ways. I've been there, wondering why things don't seem to be going as planned. But there is one prayer that God always answers: the prayer for mercy. In this episode, we’re exploring the unwavering presence of mercy in the Bible and embracing the abundant mercy God offers us each day. Lamentations 3:222-23 puts it this way: Through the Lord's mercies, we are not consumed because ...
Mar 01, 2024•10 min•Season 12Ep. 220
There are times in marriage when the connection between spouses starts to fade, leaving one or both feeling distant or even absent. Understanding the reasons behind this disconnection is crucial to finding the path back to a fulfilling and loving relationship In this episode, we address four common reasons for a spouse's absence and provide practical solutions to reignite the flame of connection. I'll give you a teaser. The first reason a spouse goes absent is due to chronic disappointment. One ...
Feb 27, 2024•30 min•Season 12Ep. 219
DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE SPEAK LIFE AUDIO AFFIRMATIONS HERE. There is a beautiful Hebrew word Ezer Kenegdo that describes the concept of being a "Helpmeet" in the Bible. This characteristic reaches far beyond gender boundaries. Understanding its proper meaning helps us to discover the strength and purpose of women. Join me as I challenge common ideas and help you foster an understanding of the woman’s vital role, contributing to a balanced and biblical concept of man and woman. After listening to this...
Feb 23, 2024•11 min•Season 12Ep. 218
It’s common in marriage to face issues that lead to apathy and eventually detachment. In this episode, I share helpful insights and practical steps to help couples overcome connection crises and rediscover their connection when the love has grown cold. There are warning signs that exist when a person or couple is becoming apathetic. We'll discuss what apathy looks like in a relationship, its causes, and how to overcome it and get your love back. No matter where you are in your marriage or relati...
Feb 20, 2024•29 min•Season 12Ep. 217
The Christian life can be hard at times. Can I get an amen? This episode will help you to hold fast to your faith during times of uncertainty. We must walk by faith in this journey filled with unpredictable twists and turns that test the very essence of what we believe. It’s easy to become despondent and get off course. It's during these difficult times that the concept of walking in faith becomes not just a spiritual ideology, but a daily decision to maintain our trust in God in the face of adv...
Feb 16, 2024•9 min•Season 12Ep. 216
We're getting real about the struggles many couples face on Valentine's Day. I've been married for almost 25 years, so I know firsthand the challenges this holiday can bring, especially if your relationship is on shaky ground. I'm sharing five down-to-earth tips to help you navigate this tough time, from injecting some laughter into your day to confronting issues head-on and shaking things up a bit. So, join me as I dish out actionable advice & strategies to turn a tricky Valentine's Day int...
Feb 13, 2024•27 min•Season 12Ep. 215
What happens when suffering comes? Often, we feel that God is against us or that we’ve done something wrong. In this episode, we explore conventional perspectives on suffering from the principles in the Book of Job in the Bible and other relevant scriptures. Understanding the purpose behind suffering and how faith can be a guiding light in our darkest times will help us to endure the suffering seasons when they come. I offer a comforting prayer toward the end of the podcast for those facing suff...
Feb 09, 2024•8 min•Season 12Ep. 214
Working on your marriage where your husband appears disinterested in investing effort can be a frustrating and disheartening experience. In this episode, my hubby, Shaun, and I discuss practical strategies to address this common concern among wives and how both spouses can work together to alleviate their marriage problems by putting in the necessary energy and effort. Before delving into solutions, it's crucial to understand the heart of the matter. Shaun suggests wives take a moment to reflect...
Feb 06, 2024•29 min•Season 12Ep. 213
